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Brad Stanton —  February 19, 2014 — 2 Comments


“You will never amount to anything if you keep drawing all the time!” Walt Disney’s father told him this as a child. Guess he was wrong-his movies have been seen by most people in the world and are famous in most countries. He started his movie company as an artist.

Ideas for quitting any bad habit, including over-eating.

Step 3: Step out of denial. (Continued from 2/17/2014)
One of the most important ways to change our behavior (in this case our thinking) is to realize that we need to make changes in our life. Most people deny they have problems that need to be changed and in doing this they bring problems upon themselves. That is why I write a lot about this portion of the five steps.

Denial disables our feelings. When we deny we have a problem we can’t think clearly because we can’t see the mountain that is in front of us. Denial tends to cause anxiety. We often regret the past and worry about the future. Live today. Don’t worry about the future, God will take care of that. Don’t regret the past, there is nothing we can do about it anyway. Make a clean start. Don’t let the heavy loads of anxiety hold you down.

Matthew 11:28-30 NIV
28“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. 29Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”

Philippians 4:4-7 NLT
4Always be full of joy in the Lord. I say it again–rejoice! 5Let everyone see that you are considerate in all you do. Remember, the Lord is coming soon. 6Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. 7If you do this, you will experience God’s peace, which is far more wonderful than the human mind can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.

To step out of denial we need to ask those who know us best what our problems are. This is a very difficult thing to do. Ask them to tell you in love and be gentle, not blaming or criticizing. After they tell you what your problem is, be ready to work on it and really change with the help of the Holy Spirit.

Step 4: Realize that we, by ourselves, are powerless to overcome the problem. Turn the problem over to God.
Have you heard the old saying “Let go and let God?” It really does work, but it takes time and effort to really turn a problem over to God. The Bible says that willpower is actually the Holy Spirit’s power.

In the 12 steps of Alcoholics Anonymous, the first step is to admit that we are powerless to overcome the problem. This is not just for alcoholics. In fact, this is for everyone who has any kind of bad habit, and lets face it, we all do. Everyone has habits that they would like to change. Everyone has done things they regret and feel embarrassed about. We all have skeletons in the closet. But when we admit that we can’t fix the problem in our own power and that we need help from God, that is when the Holy Spirit can come into our life and really change things.

Matthew 5:3 NIV
3“Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. 4Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.

To be poor in spirit is the opposite of being arrogant. To be poor in spirit means that we understand that we are not all powerful, only God is. He is willing to help us if we ask him. We understand that we just can’t do it by ourselves. There is plenty of evidence of that, years of failure, right?

Romans 7:18-20 NIV
18I know that nothing good lives in me, that is, in my sinful nature. For I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out. 19For what I do is not the good I want to do; no, the evil I do not want to do–this I keep on doing. 20Now if I do what I do not want to do, it is no longer I who do it, but it is sin living in me that does it.

Notice this says that nothing good lives in us. Well, of course we all have a good part and a bad part in our selves. The good often battles the bad. It is like two dogs fighting. It turns out that the side of us that we feed more will grow stronger and win the battle. How do we feed the good side? By prayer, Bible reading, doing good deeds, helping people. How do we feed the bad? By doing bad things. Once we become a Christian the bad side of us is killed. We are no longer a slave to the evil in us. Read Romans chapter six, seven and eight carefully. Memorize parts of it and it will change your life. Read those three chapters every day for 30 days and you will have a new attitude about your life. You will be transformed. I memorized all of chapter six and most of chapter seven some years ago. It was worth the time and effort.

“Champions aren’t made in gyms. Champions are made from something they have deep inside them-a desire, a dream, a vision. They have to have the skill, and the will. But the will must be stronger than the skill.” ~Muhammad Ali-world champion boxer.

Doing the research for this book really changed my life for the better. My book “Keys To Powerful Prayer” is now in paperback. CreateSpace is an Amazon company.


I decided to do something lighthearted and silly during the last full moon. After reading the thought provoking book “Full Moon” by Seymore Butz who decides to grin and bare it, (that was after I read “Yellow River” by I.P. Freely) I decided to let my creative juices flow. This train wreck of a post is the unfortunate result.

The picture is Lady Gaga when she was nine. Isn’t she cute? More about her later in this post.

I suppose the inspiring, philosophical quote by Mic Jagger explains it pretty well: “You can’t always get what you want, but if you try sometime, you just might find you get what you need. Ahhhhh yea.” If we really take these words to heart it can make us a little more whatever. It’s just so….whatever. A quote from a rock guitarist in his usual drug induced stupor that I especially love: “Let him paltry when I don’t remember why I let’s go see and then it was over.” I’m sure he understood what he was talking about…or maybe not.

But it is true we don’t always get what we want. I attended a speech by a man who went to Canada to help people in a certain impoverished area with their spiritual, emotional and physical needs. I thought that was pretty cool. I wanted to go and do the same as I listened to his fascinating stories of making a difference in people’s lives. I knew that if I did that kind of work I would get that nice warm feeling every day. At my present job I only get that nice warm feeling from wetting my pants. But anyway, he told about how his wife found that many women in the rural area felt disconnected. So she started an outreach called Girlfriends Unlimited. He told some of the touching stories of how lonely women found a friend. I was so moved that during the question and answer session I told him I wanted to move to Canada and be a part of Girlfriends Unlimited. That door shut firmly in my face, I think it was sexual discrimination, but I didn’t let it get me down. I can’t always get what I want.

By now, if you are still reading this you probably think I suffer from insanity. No, that is not the case at all. I enjoy being insane.

I certainly didn’t get want I wanted at work the other day. My coworker was talking about his nephew who is making it fairly big in Hollywood and how he had dreamed of that since he was a child. Then he went on to tell about another relative who had dreamed of driving a truck since he was five. I told him I’ve always dreamed of being a Chippendale’s dancer. He ignored the comment. (I don’t really want to do be a Chippendale’s dancer, just wanted to shock him, I’d have to lose weight.) When people cling to a dream long enough, it almost always seems to be fulfilled. The picture of Lady Gaga – notice the flair for fashion, black outfit, wide eyes. She must have been perfecting her routine since childhood.

He asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up and what kind of woman I was looking for. He always thinks he needs to get me fixed up. I told him again that I want a woman the way I like my tea– strong, hot and sweet. He ignored that too. I don’t know why he doesn’t take me seriously. Once he even suggested I was demon possessed, but I’m sure the only reason he felt that way is that I forgot to pay my exorcist that month and got repossessed.

He sometimes told me wild, incredible, unbelievable stories, like the time at Christmas he was with all the family and in-laws sitting around the fireplace chatting. He said his father got up a laid a log on the fire. That was really hard for me to believe. For one, his dad is not the kind of person to lay a log in front of everyone, secondly, I’m sure he would burn his butt before he could finish laying the log. I just can’t picture his dad deciding to grin and bare it.

Then he had the gall to suggest maybe I have a drinking problem. I told him I don’t have a drinking problem at all, I can quit drinking any time I want. I quit drinking three times yesterday.

I really got carried away that day…….. by the men in white.