Harsh words hurt

544248_407678335995789_1569938268_n“You will never amount to anything!”

“You are a pig!”  “Why can’t you do better in school like your sister does?”

Have you ever heard things like this from your parents, brothers and sisters or peers? It leaves painful memories that are just as difficult to live with, if not more, than physical pain.

I’ll list five steps to get rid of the pain caused by these kinds of self destructive thoughts, two steps today and the rest in the coming days.

Step 1: Learn to see yourself as God sees you. 

God loves you no matter what you look like or what bad habits you have. Seeing yourself as God sees you is not easy. But you can do it. After doing ministry for 25 years and counseling with people with all kinds of hurts during that time, I have learned that the very steps that helped me overcome these problems are the same ones that help everyone turn sorrow into happiness.

Jeremiah 31:3
The LORD appeared to us in the past, Our LORD has appeared to us from afar saying: “I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with loving-kindness.”

God loves us with an everlasting love. He loves us no matter what we do. After we become a Christian we become His child. Normal people love their children no matter what, even though we don’t always feel like we love them. God loves us no matter what. In fact, the Bible says we become one with Him. How could he not love Himself?

Step 2: Learn how to transform your mind by changing the way you think. 

Why has the Bible been the worlds number one best seller for so many years? It is a beautiful love letter from God to people, but maybe another reason is because it has power to change lives. I’ve had my life changed and listened to countless people talk about how their lives were changed through the power of God’s word. I explain how to do it in my books-see them in the right hand column. This has made a huge difference in my life. It is something I enjoy the benefits of every day, especially when facing difficulties.

Romans 12:2 (NIV)
Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is–his good, pleasing and perfect will.

Romans 12:2 (NLT)
Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you thinkThen you will know what God wants you to do, and you will know how good and pleasing and perfect his will really is.

Have you ever thought about changing the way you think? It takes time and effort, but it is worth it. Get rid of the stinking thinking (as Zig Ziglar likes to say) and replace it with optimistic thinking. Quit complaining and talking about what you don’t like, what you don’t have and talk and think about the good things you do have. Put a smile on your face, it will make you look better and it will make you feel better. If someone asks how you are doing, say “I’m doing fantastic!” Try it. You will feel better. They might ask you why you are so happy. That will give you a chance to talk about some of the good things you have learned from the Bible.

I have found a key that makes life better. Instead of always asking God for more things or better circumstances, ask Him to help you enjoy what you already have. He will! I can’t promise he will give you better circumstances, but the Bible says that we can be content in any circumstance. The Apostle Paul was content even while he was in prison! More in two days.

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  1. Interesting:) Thank you for liking this silly post of mine. I was a mess I had worked on a flattop before that and cleaning flattops can be wild. Take care.

  2. Painful childhood memories of bullying by parents can leave their mark, and it is up to us as adults to choose our own path without choosing to blame or make excuses for learnt behaviour. Thanks for following my blog

  3. Excellent, very inspirational but sometimes when God gave you some defect which everyone makes fun of then its hard to be content. But, yes being grateful for other things which you have, helps.

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