“If you want to get from where you are to where you want to be, of course you’re going to have to take risk. So make the decision to stop complaining, to stop spending time with complainers, and get on with creating the life of your dreams.” Jack Canfield, author and success coach
“All blame is a waste of time. No matter how much fault you find with another and regardless of how much you blame him, it will not change you.” Wayne Dyer Coauther of “How to Get What You Really Really really Really Want.”
You can be successful at losing weight, relationships, career, etc. Here is a tip for it:
Take 100% responsibility for your life.
W. Clement Stone was from a very poor family but he had a knack for selling insurance and became incredibly rich. He wrote books and magazines and is considered one of the best life coaches in the last two hundred years. One thing that he felt was very important for achieving success was the attitude of taking responsibility–100% responsibility for your life.
He trained many people who became fabulously successful in many different endeavors. Jack Canfield, who sold over 150 million books, was trained by Stone. From the very beginning of the training, Stone emphasized taking responsibility for your life.
If you believe in God and you are a Christian you know that God is a loving, heavenly father. If you don’t believe in God you may believe that the universe is somewhat the same. But stop and think about it, if God is a loving father and he is in control of everything, and I do mean everything, he can control everything that happens to you.
Many people who believe in the Law of Attraction (which means you attract into your life what you think about, or put it another way, you reap what you sow) believe that anything that comes into your life does so because you attracted it. The paycheck, the kids, the spouse, the car wreck, the divorce, everything. Many people don’t want to believe that they attracted a car wreck, especially if the other person was at fault.
The upside of this is that since you attracted everything into your life, you can get rid of anything you don’t want. It may take years to develop that kind of faith. But I have talked to, and read about countless people who have been healed of all sorts of illnesses that doctors could not cure and overcome difficulties that amazed me.
I have a friend whose brother was a firefighter. He was arrogant and was heading the wrong direction in life. He was a bodybuilder who enjoyed picking on people so that he could start fights and beat people up. Then one day as he fought a fire a lady drove through thick smoke and pinned him to a fire truck with her car, crushing his legs. He lost his legs and said that it was the worst day of his life and also the best day of his life because he turned his life around, became a Christian and quit his self-destructive ways.
So did he somehow bring that accident into his life? Some believe that he did. He certainly had a reckless, cavalier attitude about life before it happened. Maybe if he had been more careful he could have avoided it.
The point is, if you want to be successful at anything, relationships, career, weight loss, making money, etc. you have to take responsibility and quit blaming circumstances or other people. W. Clement Stone felt this was one of the most important attitudes to overcome obstacles and reach success.
Stone asked Canfield if he took 100% responsibility for his life. Canfield said he thought he did.
“This is a yes or no question, young man. You either do or you don’t.” Stone said.
“Well, I guess I’m not sure.”
“Have you ever blamed anyone for any circumstance in your life? Have you every complained about anything?”
“Uh…yeah…I guess I have.”
“Don’t guess. Think.”
“Yes, I have.” said Canfield.
‘OK, then. That means you don’t take one hundred percent responsibility for your life. Taking one hundred percent responsibility means you acknowledge that you create everything that happens to you. It means you understand that you are the cause of all of your experience. If you want to be really successful, and I know you do, then you will have to give up blaming and complaining and take total responsibility for your life—that means all your results, both your successes and our failures. That is the prerequisite for creating a life of success. It is only by acknowledging that you have created everything up until now that you can take charge of creating the future you want.” From The Success Principles, by Jack Canfield, chapter one.
You are a victor not a victim. You are a winner, not a loser. You are a conqueror and can conquer any difficulty in life. That is a promise if you are a Christian. Romans 8:37 “In all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us.”
To be more successful, act in ways that bring success. It really is that simple, but difficult to do sometimes.
Confess it (say it out loud).
Imagine it at least 7 minutes a day (this gets easier the more you do it, and becomes very enjoyable).