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Change can cause stress in your life

Many changes in life can be traumatic and threatening for everyone involved and they can seriously disrupt work and life processes and even the future success of a company or home.

Moving to another home, divorce, marriage, death in the family, bullying, starting a new job, losing a job and many other things cause stress.

Communicating during times of change is not only needed, it can be key to navigating the transition from where you were to where you’re going.

This brief tip sheet will give you an overview of communicating in times of change, about your role as a manager (father, mother, teacher, etc.), and about the behaviors you and your employees/family members are likely to experience.

Change affects behaviors

Normal change can be exciting. It keeps us on our toes, challenges our skills, opens new horizons. But big changes that muddy the future trigger alarms in most people and raise concern for their jobs and the welfare of their families.

Emotions will surface in behaviors that affect performance. For example:

Anxiety –Many people have mixed feelings of relief and gratitude that they have a job, combined with fears about whether they will make it through transition at all. As a result, they can become narrow-minded, self-absorbed, and afraid to take risks. They may spend more time talking about their concerns.

Reduced loyalty –It’s normal to feel betrayed, angry, and depressed. Tensions and hostility can flare up easily, and some people will refuse to do more than the minimum to meet work requirements.

Questions of fairness and equity –Change usually involves decisions about who stays and who goes, or who gets what work assignment. Fear of losing one’s job leads to insecurity, and there will be accusations of favoritism. One way to rationalize insecurity is to generate skepticism of how decisions are being made.

People experiencing stress may demonstrate frustration, futility, and apathy, They may feel (and exhibit) physical and mental tiredness, a common reaction to stress caused by change.

Most people reach acceptance in four stages. Each stage has its own set of behaviors and emotions. Recognizing what state a family member or employee is in will help you manage him or her through the transition.

1. Denial



2. Resistance

Can’t sleep at night



“Gave my all and now look what I got” Don’t feel this way, it will get better.

Withdrawal-being alone for awhile is ok, but too much can cause problems.

3. Exploration

Over-preparation-some people want to plan so much they never take action

Frustration-feel angry about change

Too many ideas-it may help to seek wise advice

Too much to do-find people to help

Can’t focus

4. Commitment

Teamwork-going the same direction as a family/company and working together


Clear focus and plan
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  1. Hi, Brad!

    This is perfect. It does make me curious, though. Have done motivational talks for companies, etc? I think you’d be great there!

    (Not that I’m endorsing ‘motivational speaking’ per se., because a motivational talk to me is as good as it’s staying power.) 😀

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