Once a Toyota executive asked a large group of employees how to increase their productivity they only gave him blank stares. He decided to change the question and asked them to tell him ways to make their job easier and got so many responses he couldn’t keep up with the number of suggestions.
That is a great way to increase your profit in business, but does it work for changing your husband (or anyone else)? You bet!
First sit down and spend time defining the problem. What is it that you really want to change about your husband or other loved one? Don’t just say you want him to love you more, take out the trash more or be more romantic, all women want this for their husband. Think of a more precise definition to the problem. The better you define the problem, the easier it will be to solve it!
“He has a right to criticize, who has a heart to help.” Abraham Lincoln
Criticizing only makes the problem worse unless it is done gently and in love. But remember, don’t be pushed by your problems, be led by your dreams.
Quotes from Miss H Nishah about problems:
To every girl who gossiped about me in corners of parties, to those who were my slap in the face, to the close minded or misunderstanding, to those boys that broke my heart, and to those friends who turned out to be back stabbers. You all challenged me to become the person I wanted to be. I am stronger because of all the stupid things you put me through. No matter how much you have done to me, you have unknowingly done so much more for me. So, thanks.
In desperate love, we always invent the characters of our partners, demanding they be what we need of them, and then feeling devastated when they refuse to perform the role we created in the first place.