“Most of us are excellent at being self-deprecating, and are not so good at the opposite. Tell us your favorite thing about yourself.” ~Michelle at WordPress
Self-deprecating self-talk is not healthy
I got this daily prompt in an email from Michelle at WordPress. I’m so glad she encourages people to say something good about themselves. Most people are too self-deprecating. It doesn’t make them a better person, in fact it does the opposite. Most people seem to be better at putting themselves down than building themselves up. Maybe we feel this is the humble thing to do, but it can be very self-destructive. I used to be that way, always putting myself down. Then I read that it makes a person weaker, not stronger when they do this, so I changed my self-talk, and my life is much better because of it.
They say that people who are self-deprecating are more likely to talk to others the same way they talk to themselves.
Toot my horn?
So I am supposed to toot my own horn. OK, here it goes. My favorite thing about myself is that I absolutely love helping people. It makes me happy. I get many comments on my blog saying that a post really made a person’s day better or helped someone solve a problem or feel better about life. I feel so good when I read comments like that.
So as you look through my blog posts, I sincerely hope you will find something that will motivate you or just make you feel happy and optimistic and make you stronger. That is my goal.
Affirmations
I find that self-talk is very important for people to accomplish their dreams and goals in life. Most people achieve far less in life than they are capable of because they don’t believe in themselves. Affirmations can give people the confidence they need to survive the discouragement that derails many dreams. Here is a simple affirmation that I use sometimes:
“I am happy, healthy, wealthy, wise and good looking.”
When I start to feel pessimistic I sometimes use an affirmation from one of the best loved poems in the world:
“Surely goodness and mercy will follow me all the days of my life…” Psalm 23:6
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I definitely agree. People can be too self-deprecating for their own good. I know someone who I was trying to help turn around their self “Back-Handed Compliments” and such too, because I could see she didn’t treat those she called friends around her with much love, appreciation, respect and kindness. Especially herself and I was most concerned about her well being. Sadly, people will only hear what they want to hear and truly listen when they want to. Such was the case in this instance for me.
That’s one of my favorite things about myself too. I also love to help people in any way I can. So when I saw this I knew I had to comment to let you know, you aren’t alone in that sentiment. I also love when people comment about the positive impacts my writing has had on them or their day. It always warms my heart and brings a smile to my face and in turn – means the world to me, more than my readers know. And the other positive is sometimes they teach me things too or grant me a new insight/perspective.
I also loved the affirmations you shared and I think it may have given me an idea for a blog post I could even do. Thank you so much for that! I hope I can flesh the idea out. 🙂
~Namaste~ _/\_
Hello sista from another mother. I agree. I have found that when I support others it lifts me up and when I need it I always seem to find the strength I need. I think my birth sister puts it best “you cannot out give god” If you give a hello you get a hello if you give a heart you get many in return. Oh and Namaste to you as well. I am a yoga girl..I think God gave me yoga to help me keep standing and fighting the haters.. So yay lets just keep passing the joy on shall we.
That’s what I intend to do. 😀
What a great reminder on self-talk! It is so easy to fall into pattern of thinking that is not productive and often not true. It is so important to track our thinking. Thanx for the post:)
Good Job!!!!!
Nice post! I agree, you DO like helping people.
I have a giving heart…I got an extra helping of empathy when I was born.
What a wonderful thing, that you love making people feel better about themselves. I can think of no better virtue in the world.