“We live our lives by a set of beliefs, or paradigms, that are always with us. These are beliefs that we have developed over time to help us define the world and our place in it. The biggest mistake we often make is to underestimate the power of our ingrained beliefs and their ability to limit our ideas of what is possible in life. When we set resolutions or goals that challenge these paradigms, we are frequently doomed to failure – yet don’t understand why.” Bob Proctor, from his free email newsletter at BobProctor.com
We believe we will never lose 40 pounds because we have tried and failed in the past.
We believe we will never get out of debt because we can’t see any way to do it.
We believe our marriage will not improve because it hasn’t in the past.
We believe we won’t get that promotion at work, that new house, new car, good health.
Struggling against our beliefs wearies us
Our deepest beliefs are like an automatic pilot on a ship or airplane. It controls which way the boat or our life goes. When you are steering a boat with autopilot, and you don’t want to go the direction it is programed to go, you have to constantly fight against the steering wheel, trying to pull it in a direction it is not programed to go. It tires you out and makes it very difficult to change course.
If our deepest belief says we won’t get out of debt, lose weight or be happy, it is very difficult to fight against that belief. But if we change our deepest beliefs it makes it much easier to achieve our dreams and goals in life.
How do we succeed?
How do we change our deepest beliefs? One way is to use affirmations. I used this method to lose weight during the holiday season. I repeated “I weight x pounds” over and over again to myself. I began to really belief I would lose weight. I began to eat less and kept exercising and I lost weight during Halloween and Thanksgiving, two holidays that normally make me gain weight. Then I decided to splurge for Christmas and gained some back, but I am sure I can use the affirmations again to lose the weight.
When we repeat affirmations, it puts a thought deeply into our subconscious so that we begin to see ways to accomplish the goal. It begins to change our core beliefs so that our brain starts looking for solutions to problems while we sleep and during the day. We start to see opportunities that were there all along, but we just didn’t notice them. It is like driving the same route to work every day and suddenly noticing a house that you didn’t notice before.
I love my job.
I like myself (this works wonders)
I love my spouse and my spouse loves me.
I weigh xx pounds (even better: I will weight xx pounds by March 20, 2013)
I will get the promotion I am working for by January 2014