If only

Brad Stanton —  September 14, 2012 — 22 Comments

“The mind can make a heaven out of hell or a hell out of heaven”-John Milton.

Without money

Without money (Photo credit: Toban Black)

Many people say they could be happy if only their family members were more loving to them. Others say they could be happy if only they had more money, if only they had a better job, if only they weren’t overweight.

The amazing thing is, if a person is not happy with what they have today, they probably won’t be happy after they get what they want. I often read about rich people who are bored and dissatisfied with life. Often people who appear to have great relationships are very unhappy with their loved ones. Most people find something they don’t like in life and allow that to be dominant in their thoughts, while forgetting about the multitudes of blessings they have.

If a person doesn’t have enough money today, they probably won’t have enough money after they win the lottery. Sounds impossible, doesn’t it? I have heard from more than one source that 85% of the people who win the lottery go bankrupt within 5 years of winning the money. They get rich, start getting friends who are even richer than them and feel they have to keep up with them. Now they have more and are not happy with what they have. Soon they squander the money away and end up broke.

I remember riding a bus in a faraway country. It was a very rough ride, apparently the bus had no shock absorbers and every time we hit a pot hole in the road (and there were many of them) I got jolted so hard that it began to feel like the bones in my bottom were going to punch through my skin. I sat there feeling sorry for myself because of the painful bus ride. Presently I looked at another passenger across the aisle. She was dressed in the poorest of clothes, probably from a very poor village in that country. She had a smile on her face. I was surprised because she looked like she was enjoying the bus ride. I began thinking about what her life of poverty must have been like. I suppose for her it was a privilege to ride a bus, she probably had to walk most places. The bus ride that was hell to me was heaven to her.

One thing many people taught me over the years is to count my blessings. It really is true that if you sit down and make a list of the good things in your life, they will be far greater in number than the bad. But I, like most people, sometimes allow the bad things to dominate my mind.

Want to be happier? Sit down every day a make a list of your blessings and spend time being grateful for each one. This will not only make you feel better, it will also bring more good into your life. I explained this concept more in several of my previous posts.

What do you think? Do you have any examples of this in your life? Leave a comment.

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22 responses to If only

  1. 

    Wise word! :)Helen Keller is so inspirational–thanks for rennmdiig me of that quote. And thanks, too, for joining us at the High Calling blog network. We hope you’ll find a warm, encouraging community with the HC bloggers. And let us as editors know if we can serve you in any way, okay?

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    Reblogged this on Fundamental Enthusiast and commented:
    A great post about life!

  3. 

    Wisdom and understanding…you are a rich man! Many thanks. Shelley

  4. 

    Definitely agree with what you stated. Your explanation was certainly the easiest to understand about “If only”.

  5. 

    Diagnosed with RA at age 17, I now have some difficulty walking and some tasks are tough to accomplish. Sitting at the table with a music teacher at my school, I saw her rubbing and massaging her fingers. I asked if she was OK. She said her arthritis was acting up. I am good at counting my blessings (or I wouldn’t have made it this far), but this really struck me. Even with all my physical issues, I was able to sit comfortably, pain-free. This teacher couldn’t even get relief when she wasn’t playing piano. So, yeah. There’s pain and there’s constant PAIN. Always blessings to count.

  6. 

    good Post! Yes the Bible says that “the eyes of man are never satisfied” and that is so true. It is so easy to look at all the unpleasant things in our lives and forget all the blessings that God has showered us with. Great advice to sit down and write and list of the good things we have in our life. I’m sure in most cases they outweigh the bad. I find that when I am particularliy grouchy if I stop and readjust my focus on God and begin thanking Him for His blessing it is a real mood adjuster.:)

  7. 

    I fully agree with you on most of the above, especially the money thing… I just wish I could have better health! Despite all the effort I’ve put in over the years, everything’s still going wrong 😦 Now it’s stopping me getting to my beloved hills, I’m afraid I’m becoming quite grumpy instead of my previously happy self.

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      I’m very sorry to hear that. You might try Mayo Clinic–they solve problems others hospitals don’t, or try some different doctors. Also, you might look around at Pentecostal churches, they often have people blessed with the gift of healing. I find that the kind of praying that most people do is not very effective. All the people of God in the OT and all of Jesus’ followers in the New Testament prayed with boldness–“In the name of Jesus get up and walk!” not “God if you want this person to walk, would you do it if it is your will?” Acts 3:6. I think one reason many prayers go unanswered is because people don’t pray the way Jesus taught his followers to pray.

  8. 

    This is a daily battle. Choose the blessings over the “if only” and move forward with joy.

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