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What if your manager came to you and said that if you work hard for six months you will be promoted to a much higher position with much better pay.

But you would have to do the following:

  • work hard (could say work smarter, not harder)
  • work a few extra hours when needed,
  • find ways to solve problems without being asked to do so
  • try to make the company more efficient
  • have a great attitude

Your attitude would have to be that the company you work for is a very good one and that you have a great future there.

Your attitude would be that you make a big difference in the company and that you are responsible for turning around some of the problems and making things better whenever you can.

Actually, most managers would promote anyone who would do all these things, even if they didn’t sit down with the employee and tell them so. That is the kind of employee that gets ahead and the kind of employee that companies are looking to promote.

Not many people achieve great success in life (by whatever definition of success) but then, not many even try. So the number of people that achieve great success compared to the number of people that really try for great success is not that that small. In other words, not many people become famous actors, but then, not many people try to become famous actors.

Jenean Turner had up to 4 auditions per day for acting positions from the age of 15 until she was 27 years old. She was turned down over 1000 times before she got the big role in the TV show Northern Exposure. That is not to say she didn’t get any job offers, she did, but not the big stuff she was looking for.

Most people quit if they hear too many no’s. But what if you could predict the future and saw that you only had 20 no’s before you got a yes. You would just keep working, keep hearing the no’s because you knew without a doubt that you would finally get a yes. But the Law of Attraction, the law of faith says that whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve. Jesus said everything is possible for one who believes.

90% of first time businesses fail. 90% of second time business succeed, but 80% don’t try after they fail once. Isn’t that amazing, so many people don’t try a second time?

One of the bestselling writers of the past two decades was turned down 144 times by publishers until he was told yes. The Chicken Soup for the Soul books have sold over 100 million copies in 47 different languages because Jack Canfield and Victor Hanssen would not stop trying, no matter what.

How many people gave up trying to stop an addition, trying to start a business, save a marriage, keep kids on track, get a promotion–just before they would have succeeded?

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You WILL succeed!

Brad Stanton —  May 21, 2014 — 4 Comments

MINOLTA DIGITAL CAMERAMany people have accepted less than they can achieve in life because it is too much work to achieve their dreams. Many don’t really get what they want and dream about in life because it is just too much trouble to get it. But if God has put a desire in your heart, you can achieve it. When you submit your will to God and his desires are aligned with yours, you know that you are in harmony with him and he will give you everything it takes to achieve your goals.

Many people pray and don’t get what they pray for, so they think, well maybe it wasn’t God’s will. Maybe I shouldn’t ask for what I want. But if your desires are in harmony with God, he wants you to ask for things. What parent doesn’t like giving good gifts to his children?

Many people get discouraged because they have tried and failed, so they quit trying and decide to live in the land of “just good enough.”

When God promised the people the land of Canaan, Moses led them to a land filled with wealth and good things—houses they didn’t build, incredible crops they didn’t plant. It was prosperity and goodness. But they decided that the risk of taking the land outweighed the benefits. They didn’t have faith that God would really give them what he promised. They felt God was a harsh God, who didn’t care about their everyday lives.

In Matthew 25, the story of the talents shows us that if we consider God harsh, he will be harsh to us. The account of Moses and the people show the same thing. All through the Bible, we see that when people did not have faith that God was a good God who loved them and cared about their daily needs, they missed out on blessings.

Many times in the Bible, we are promised that we will prosper if we do certain things. Joshua 1:8, Psalm 1, Deuteronomy 5:33; 6:24: 29:9; 30:1; Proverbs 11:25; 13:21; 1 Kings 2:3.

1 Kings 2:3…and observe what the LORD your God requires: Walk in his ways, and keep his decrees and commands… so that you may prosper in all you do and wherever you go…

What did the word “prosper” mean in ancient Hebrew, the language of the Old Testament? It means much more than just to prosper financially. It means to be successful, to avail, to thrive, to rise. (From Strong’s Exhaustive Concordance)

Don’t give up. Never, never, never give up on the goals and dreams that God has placed in your heart. He will give you everything you need to succeed.

 

The following is only for people who enjoy the study of languages.

Well, we can be sure of one thing the word “prosper” had a much broader meaning than our English word today because the Hebrew vocabulary was much smaller than English. The entire Old Testament used a vocabulary of less than 10,000 words. The entire New Testament was written with only 6000 different Greek words and many of them were names of people and places.

English is a combination of at least four different languages, it started out as German. Then 2000 years ago the Roman armies brought Latin and Greek. Later, after England was overrun by France, many French words came into the English language. Because of that, we have many words with very specific meanings. It is hard to understand the difference between English and ancient languages if you have never lived in a country that uses an old language. Speak an ancient language for 10 or 20 years and you will have a very keen understanding of the way Hebrew and Greek used words.

 

The Cracked Pot

Brad Stanton —  April 27, 2014 — 12 Comments

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I found this story some time ago and wanted to share it because it is sooo good.

A water bearer in India had two large pots, each hung on each end of a pole which he carried across his neck.  One of the pots had a crack in it, and while the other pot was perfect and always delivered a full portion of water at the end of the long walk from the stream to the master’s house, the cracked pot arrived only half full. 

For a full two years this went on daily, with the bearer delivering only one and a half pots full of water in his master’s house.  Of course, the perfect pot was proud of its accomplishments.  But the poor cracked pot was ashamed of its own imperfections, and miserable that it was able to accomplish only half of what it had been made to do.

After two years of what it perceived to be a bitter failure, it spoke to the water bearer one day by the stream.  “I am ashamed of myself, and I want to apologize to you.”  “Why?” asked the bearer.  “What are you ashamed of?”  I have been able, for these past two years, to deliver only half my load because this crack in my side causes water to leak out all the way back to your master’s house.  Because of my flaws, you have to do all of this work and you don’t get full value for your efforts,” the pot said.

The water bearer felt sorry for the old cracked pot and in his compassion he said, “As we return to the master’s house I want you to notice the beautiful flowers along the path.”

Indeed, as they went up the hill, the old cracked pot took notice of the sun warming the beautiful wild flowers on the side of the path, and this cheered it some.  But at the end of the trail, it still felt bad because it had leaked out half its load, and so again it apologized to the bearer for its failure.

The bearer said to the pot, “Did you notice that there were flowers only on your side of the path but not on the other pot’s side?  That’s because I have always known about your flaw, and I took advantage of it.  I planted flower seeds on your side of the path, and every day while we walk back from the stream, you’ve watered them.  For two years I have been able to pick these beautiful flowers to decorate my master’s table.  Without you being just the way you are, he would not have this beauty to grace his house.”

Each of us has our own unique flaws.  We’re all cracked pots.  But if we will allow it, the Lord will use our flaws to grace His Father’s table.  In God’s great economy, nothing goes to waste.

So as we seek ways to minister together and as God calls you to the tasks He has appointed for you, don’t be afraid of your flaws.  Acknowledge them and allow Him to take advantage of them, and you, too, can be the cause of beauty in His pathway.

Go out boldly, knowing that in our weakness we find His strength and that “In Him every one of God’s promises is a Yes”.

My note: I can’t remember where I found this story, but I wanted to pass it along.

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The magic of believing

Brad Stanton —  April 15, 2014 — 7 Comments

w clement stoneClaude Bristol wrote a book called The Magic of Believing. In it he expands upon the idea of Positive Mental Attitude, Power of Positive Thinking, or as Jesus called it, faith. Bristol noted that to achieve goals and dreams, it takes more than just hard work. Many people have worked very hard and never achieved their goals. Other people seem to magically achieve their goals.

Arnold Schwarzenegger talks about the power of faith, of visualizing a goal and working for it to achieve it. Tomas Edison talked about the amazing powers of the mind. The outstanding scientists Steinmetz, Tesla (invented AC motors and over a hundred other of today’s most useful inventions) and Marconi (invented the radio) all agreed that there was something very powerful in the mind, call it faith or something else, that could bring about amazing results.

Bristol studied the science of faith and taught it to some of his workers when he was a vice president. “All of the employees sat around in a half circle and as I began my remarks, I asked each man to provide himself with paper and pencil.” He told them to write down whatever it was that they most wanted in life. He told them that he would explain to them how to get it.

Some of the men laughed but Bristol told them to do it or lose their jobs. “If this stuff doesn’t work, we’ll all be out on the street.”

One of the men who laughed apologized later, but said that the idea of writing down a goal and learning how to make it happen in such a way seemed unreasonable.

But the amazing thing is that in the years that followed, Bristol asked all of the men if they obtained what they had written down. “Without exception, every man had. One had wanted a wife of a certain nationality. He got her, and there are two fine boys in the family. Another man put down the figures of a very sizable fortune. He got it. Another man wanted a beach cottage, and other a better home and so on. Steadily through the years every one of these men has constantly made money, many of them averaging monthly more than they had ever made before in their lives, much to the astonishment of many others in the same line of business.” Page 167 The Magic of Believing by Claude Bristol

What was it that Bristol taught these men? It was the power of faith, of believing. It is the same stuff that I constantly blog about in this website. Jesus said “Everything is possible for one who believes.”

 


Og-Mandino-Quotes-1A wildly successful book

Og Mandino wrote The Greatest Salesman In the World in 1968. It was incredibly successful and continued to sell about a million copies a year for 30 years. It is still selling well today. The reason it is such a powerful book is that Og learned how to sell and teaches others how to sell in this book. But more importantly, he teaches how to have a happier life and good attitudes that bring about success in any endeavor.

After reading his book, I decided to take the principles I have learned from reading many dozens of books about achieving success and structure the ideas similar to the way Og Mandino did it in his book, because it has proven so successful. Not everyone that reads his book becomes a great salesperson, it takes a strong desire and persistence. It also takes a lot of faith – a strong belief that you really can achieve success. The following are these powerful ideas:

Today I begin a new life.

Today I leave failures and bad habits behind. I leave mediocrity behind me. I will be transformed by the renewing of my mind, by changing the way I think and act.

Today I will learn wisdom from some of the wisest people who have lived on this earth, because this wisdom has been tested and proven to bring good results. Today I will be successful because I put this wisdom into practice.

Life is full of good opportunities

There are many good opportunities all around, however, many people encounter failure and despair. I will not fail because I know that a person only truly fails if he gives up and quits.

Failure will no longer be mine. Success and happiness are fruits that I can and will achieve over time, although it may take time. I will never give up because I know that I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength.

The olive tree is the king of all trees, it takes one hundred years to mature. The mighty oak tree also takes many years to develop. I will be successful today and achieve some goals today, but I realize that full success takes time. I will remember Thomas Edison, who failed thousands of times to build a light bulb when he said “I have not failed a thousand times, I have succeeded in finding thousands of ideas that didn’t work.”

I have failed in the past and sometimes have fallen into the destructive habit of self-pity. I will succeed and become a truly successful person because I am learning the principles of success that have been proven to be useful for thousands of years.

What is success?

Success is reaching my goals and dreams in life. I will be successful in my relationships, in my work life and in my family life. I will be truly happy and remember to count my blessings every day and as I think of my blessings, I will enjoy them and feel happy.

Good habits are the keys to all success. Bad habits bring failure.

1st principle: I will form good habits.

My bad habits must be destroyed. The best way to quit a bad habit is to replace it with a good habit. The first new habit I will form is to read this lesson as soon as I wake up in the morning. Then I will read it after my mid-day meal. Then, most importantly, I will read it aloud before I sleep at night. I will read only this one lesson, not the other lessons that follow this, three times a day for one month. Then I will move on to the next lesson and read it three times a day for a month, and so on.

Each of these lessons destroys a bad habit and brings me closer to success.

Say this affirmation: I am happy, healthy, wealthy, wise and good looking. Remember the affirmation in Joel 3:10 Let the weak say “I am strong.” So even if all the qualities in the affirmation are not true yet, go ahead and say it. It will make all of those qualities much more likely to come about in your life.

People are praying for you as you go through this series of steps and I know that God is good and will help you and give you all the strength you need to live a victorious life because he promised that we are more than conquerors. This means I can conquer bad habits, self-pity and sadness.

Why is it so important to form this habit of reading this lesson three times a day?

Because when I read this three times a day, it causes this information to seep into my subconscious mind. The subconscious is much more powerful than the conscious mind. It can change my actions without me even realizing it is happening. For example, have you ever bought a new car, maybe a white van, and after buying it realized there are many white vans on the roads that you never noticed before? Buying the white van made you think about white vans. Maybe in the past you never even noticed them. Now you will notice opportunities for success that you have never noticed in the past because your subconscious mind will bring them to your attention.

When powerful ideas are planted in your subconscious mind, beneficial results happen. This idea has been used by many people to achieve success. But not everyone who does this achieves success because they may not persist and do the other things talked about in the other lessons.

As these ideas are cultivated in my subconscious mind, I will begin to awake with a new vitality I have never known before. I will be able to get rid of negative thoughts as soon as they begin, and in fact, before they begin in my mind. My enthusiasm will rise and my fears will fade away and disappear. I will be happier than I believed possible.

Soon, I will react to any difficulty with strategies for success that I learn from these lessons.

Today I begin a new life.

I make a solemn oath to myself that nothing will slow my growth. I will not lose a day from reading these principles. For that day cannot be retrieved. I must not, I will not break the habit of reading these lessons. Truthfully, this is a small price to pay for a new and better life, a life filled with happiness and success.

I will not underestimate the simplicity of these principles because they have been proven successful for thousands of years. Today I begin a new life and I will be successful! Truly, I will be successful.

I will post more principles later. You don’t need them for another month, right? :)

Actually, this is very similar to my book, The Ten Keys To Success. Take a look at it and read some sample pages on Amazon.com click here

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Mandino wrote the best seller The Greatest Salesman in the World. It is a fictional book which teaches the fundamentals of success in not only selling, but just about any challenge that a person might face in life. The book is about ten scrolls of wisdom that will bring success to anyone who studies them and puts the wisdom into action. 30 years after the book was written, it still sold over a million copies per year.

One of the characters in the book says that anyone who masters the principles in the ten scrolls will be able to amass as much wealth as he desires. Apparently a lot of sales managers believed this was true because many recommended the book to their sales staff.

Augustine “Og” Mandino, started life well as a bombardier in a B-24 bomber in WWII. After the war he married and sold insurance, but it seemed no matter how hard he worked, he couldn’t get out of debt. He became an alcoholic and his wife left him. He became so despondent that he almost killed himself by buying a gun from a pawn shop. He decided not to, and went to the library where he found W. Clement Stone’s classic, Success Through a Positive Mental Attitude, a book that changed Mandino’s life dramatically.

He became an outstanding salesman and remarried. He was promoted to manager and he trained salesmen, establishing a first rate sales team. Later he became good friends with the super successful salesman W Clement Stone who put Mandino in charge of strategic positions in his company.

 “The ten scrolls are time-tested wisdom of the ancients distilled into ten simple scrolls” which, if followed for the prescribed ten months, will as Og says, “seep into my other mind, that mysterious source which never sleeps, which creates my dreams, and often makes me act in ways I do not comprehend. As the words of these scrolls are consumed by my mysterious mind I will begin to awake, each morning, with a vitality I have never known before. My vigor will increase, my enthusiasm will rise, my desire to meet the world will overcome every fear I once knew at sunrise, and I will be happier than I ever believed it possible to be in this world of strife and sorrow.” (Scroll I) The Greatest Salesman in the World by Og Mandino

These are a few of the powerful ideas in the book. Selling is not an easy job. Rewards are great because most succumb to despair and quit.

If you have ambition and desire and are willing to work and learn, selling is a good profession.

Prove to me that you can endure the life of a salesman. Obstructions and obstacles are necessary for success. Victory comes only after struggles and countless defeats. Each obstacle is a friend forcing you to become better. Each rebuff is an invitation to become better.

“Failure will never overtake you if your determination to succeed is strong enough.” This phrase is repeated throughout the book.

In the book, a camel boy named Hafid is sold a cloak by a master salesman. He goes to Bethlehem, a poor town, to try to sell the cloak but instead gives it to a baby lying in a manger. A star follows Hafid back to his master, who takes it as a sign to give the scrolls with their knowledge to Hafid.

While listening to this book I asked myself: How did Hafid know that baby Jesus was worth the cloak? How do we know that Jesus is worth following? We just know, our spiritual intelligence tells us.

I have wondered why W. Clement Stone chose Mandino to be a close friend and business partner. Maybe it is because he demonstrated he was trustworthy by his devotion to Jesus. He also had certain skills, such as a burning desire to succeed and strong faith (some call it positive mental attitude), that Stone must have realized were necessary to succeed.

Mandino says that in some places each bull is tested on its courage to see how well it will do in a bullfight. The bull is allowed to charge the picador in the ring. It will be rated by how many times it is willing to charge even though it feels the pain of the blade. Mandino says we are like the bull and life is like the picador. Each day I am tested by life in the same way. If I continue to try, to charge forward, I will succeed. I am a lion. I refuse to walk, talk and sleep with the weak. I will persist. The prizes of life are near the end of the journey. I may encounter failure at even the thousandth step, but I will keep walking. One step at a time is not too difficult. I will consider each day as a blow of the lance of the picador.

Even a child can chop down a mighty oak tree if he persists on chopping one day at a time. I will remove from my vocabulary words like can’t, quit, impossible, retreat, give up. Where dry desert ends, green grass grows. I will persist because each failure brings me closer to success. I must fail often to succeed only once. Must have the night to understand how good the day is. I will persist until I succeed.

Every day I will say “This is the best day of my life.” I will persist, I will win. “Failure will never overtake you if your determination to succeed is strong enough.”

You can listen to the audio book free on Youtube. There are a few sentences of Chinese at the beginning for some reason. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dy3JnxaimUs


hygdfsThere have been several movies about faith that have been shown to thousands of people around the world. One of them is The Jesus Film. Another is a movie called The Secret. This is a quote from the book The Secret:

“As the film swept the world, stories of miracles began to flood in: people wrote about healing from chronic pain, depression, and disease; walking for the first time after an accident; even recovering from a deathbed. We have received thousands of accounts of the Secret being used to bring about large sums of money and unexpected checks in the mail. People have used The Secret to manifest their perfect homes, life partners, cars, jobs and promotions, with many accounts of businesses being transformed within days of applying The Secret. There have been heart-warming stories of stressed relationships involving children being restored to harmony.”

So my question to you, dear reader is, do you believe in miracles? I certainly do because I have seen so many in my lifetime. When I was a missionary to China I began to spend a lot of time praying and I saw many amazing answers to prayer. Actually many of the miracles I saw and heard about happened in the USA.

Another question, do you believe that a movie or book like The Secret, which expands on Jesus’ teaching of faith, can really inspire miracles? This movie is free to watch on youtube.com. Please leave a comment. Let’s get a discussion going here.

Many people pray and don’t get answers, so they feel Jesus was not accurate when he taught about prayer, or that they are misunderstanding what Jesus said about prayer. But what if the problem is that they have not been trained to have strong faith? Over two dozen times Jesus said the key to answered prayer is faith.

John 14:14 You may ask me for anything in my name, and I will do it.

John 15:7 If you remain in me and my words remain in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be done for you.

John 16:23 Very truly I tell you, my Father will give you whatever you ask in my name.

Remember, it took three years of full time study with Jesus for the apostles to learn faith well enough to perform miracles. Don’t expect to suddenly have mountain moving faith. It takes time. But never give up. Keep building your faith. http://bradstanton.com/2013/06/03/faith-takes-years-to-develop-but-it-is-worth-it/

I wrote a book about prayer. In it I include a number of things you can do to strengthen your faith, including memorizing Bible verses about faith. Another is an acrostic FAITH
F  Find a Bible verse that addresses what you are praying for. This is easier to do than it seems. For example, you can do a word search in Biblegateway.com to find a verse.
A  Ask God in faith
I   Imagine you already have the thing you asked for. This is amazing, it really strengthens faith
T  Thank God for it as if you already have it. Don’t beg, that shows a lack of faith. Once you place your order in a restaurant you don’t keep asking for it do you?
H  Hold on and be happy while you wait for the answer to your prayer.

Every penny I make from my book “Keys To Powerful Prayer” goes to spread faith, hope and love to people around the world through this blog and charity. https://www.createspace.com/4540174 Doing the research for this book really changed my life for the better. CreateSpace is an Amazon company. You can read sample pages of the same book as an ebook on Amazon entitled “Amazing Power of Prayer.” The ebook is the same, it just has a different title. http://www.amazon.com/dp/B008EOCODK


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This idea can be used to lose weight, I’ll tell you why later in this post.

You have probably heard that sugar pills (placebos) can heal people if the person taking the pill thinks it is real medicine. A study showed that people who thought they received knee surgery did just as well as people who really did get knee surgery. Incisions were made in the knees of both groups, although some patients did not receive anything more than two small cuts on their knees. The other group had full surgery to correct joint problems. Two years later both groups reported the same improvements in their knees.

Chris Berdik, who is a science journalist wrote a book called Mind Over Mind: The Surprising Power of Expectations. In it he discusses how powerful the mind is to bring about positive change in a person’s life.

One amazing study he writes about was done by Harvard psychologist Ellen Langer. Hotel maids were studied. Some were told that the daily work they did such as vacuuming, changing beds and general cleaning is good exercise. A control group of maids was not told this. After four weeks, the groups who had been told about the exercise lost more weight, had lower blood pressure, reduced waist to hip measurement and improved body mass compared to those who had not been told.

Another study involved people throwing balls at a target. After throwing the balls they answered two questionnaires. After completing the questions, one group was told that their answers indicated that they would perform well under pressure. All of the participants were videotaped and offered prizes for improving their throwing accuracy. It was found that 90% of the people who were told that they would do well reached their accuracy goal. Of the people who were not told they would do well, only 27% improved their throwing skills.

So what does this mean? Can we lose weight by thinking about the benefit of the physical exercise we get every day? Apparently some people can. And many studies have shown that when people are told they are doing a good job, it helps them perform even better.

The moral of the true stories is that you can strengthen people with praise. The more you strengthen them, the more they will strengthen you. But the opposite is almost always true, the more you say hurtful words to others, the more they will weaken you in return.


2497_582185215124808_544483830_nYoung people, listen to me as you would to your father. Listen, and grow wise, for I speak the truth—don’t turn away.  For I, too, was once a son, tenderly loved by my mother as an only child, and the companion of my father. He told me never to forget his words. “If you follow them,” he said, “you will have a long and happy life. Learn to be wise,” he said, “and develop good judgment and common sense! I cannot overemphasize this point.” Cling to wisdom—she will protect you. Love her—she will guard you.
Getting wisdom is the most important thing you can do! And with your wisdom, develop common sense and good judgment. If you exalt wisdom, she will exalt you. Hold her fast, and she will lead you to great honor; she will place a beautiful crown upon your head.* ~King Solomon. Many consider him the wisest man that ever lived.

Be careful what you think, because your thoughts run your life.** ~King Solomon

Be careful to check your feelings, because your feelings indicate what you are thinking. If you are thinking loving thoughts, your feelings will be happy. If you are thinking negative thoughts, your emotions will be sad, angry, ashamed or worried (fearful).

Negative thoughts make you weak minded and can destroy you. Positive, love filled thoughts make you strong minded and successful. Negative thoughts cause toxins to flow into your bloodstream, positive thoughts bring health to your mind and body. Therefore, think about things you like or love. Think about people, places and things you like. Think about music you like, books and movies you like, people and cafes you like. Think about pets, children and neighbors you like. But don’t think about things that make you sad or angry. That will make you weak and may eventually destroy you.

Two people I know were destroyed by negative thoughts. One was a father of two. He always complained and got angry. People didn’t like talking to him because he was so negative. He eventually had a nervous breakdown and became so depressed he couldn’t go to work. The other is a young lady who was injured in a motorcycle accident. Her foot was injured and a sore on it would not heal. The sore made her angry at her husband who was driving the motorcycle. The angrier she got, the worse the sore got, and the worse the sore got, the more angry she got. Finally the doctors had to amputate her leg just below the knee.

Every action starts with thoughts. All success starts with the mind. Transform your life by changing the way you think. It will give you success in career, relationships, losing weight, sports and just about all aspects of life.

Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it. Proverbs 4:23 NIV Bible

* Proverbs 4:1-9 Living Bible

** Proverbs 4:23 Living Bible


284415_143931332353584_7713814_nIn a survey of over 1400 people around the USA it was found that there were five things that people wanted most from marriage. They are

  • Unconditional love
  • emotional intimacy
  • spiritual intimacy
  • encouragement
  • better friendships
  1. Unconditional love means that the person is loved no matter what mistakes he or she makes. If your husband loses his job, he will probably feel very bad about it. He needs to know that you love and respect him even though he lost the job. Respect is very important to a man.
  2. The second thing that people want is emotional intimacy. Men spell this s-e-x. Women spell in t-a-l-k and often s-e-x. Women want to be talked to and communicated with. They want their man to look them in the eyes, understand what they are saying and validate their feelings. Validating means saying “Yes, I know it hurts.” or “Yes, I know you have had a tough day with the kids.”
  3. Spiritual intimacy is a need for God. Some people seem to crave a relationship more than others do. The Bible is a book about relationships and love. If you had to sum up the Bible in two words it would probably be Love and Forgiveness. We are promised in the Bible that if we ask for forgiveness for any sin, God will forgive us. What a joy it would be if our spouse was as kind. We must remember to forgive our spouse because for every complaint we have against him, he probably has a complaint against us.
  4. Encouragement is very important. We need to praise and encourage our spouse. Remember to praise your spouse every day. “Every day?” you may ask. Yes, try it every day. You probably won’t remember to do it that often, but it will inspire you to do it more that you did in the past. It is hard to stay angry at someone who praises and encourages us.
  5. Better friendships. Are you your wife’s best friend? Is she yours? If not, work on it. Friends have fun together, laugh and cry together, celebrate, play and plan together. Remember how much fun dating was? Your marriage can be even more fun than that. Don’t get into the rut of going out to eat and not even looking at each other. Try going to a restaurant and look at the people. You will be able to know who the married couples are and who the dating couples are by the way they talk to each other. If they look excited and seem to be having fun, are making frequent eye contact, they are probably dating. Isn’t it sad that it is that way? You can change it in your marriage!

OK, now you know some very important information. Don’t just read it and forget it. If you do, you are just wasting your time at this web site. Find a way to remember these ideas and make a plan as to how you will apply them to your life. Sit down and write down your plan. Keep it in a safe place. What I do is to find a way to remember these life changing ideas from the survey. I make an acronym from the main ideas. Let’s give it a try. The five ideas are listed above. The first one is unconditional love. We can use the word “Love” to summarize the idea. Use the letter L for love. The next idea is emotional intimacy. E for that. Number three is S. Four is E and five is F. We have LESEF. Rearrange the letters into a word you can remember. FEELS is a good one because you want to focus on how your spouse feels. LEEFS (sounds like “leaf’s”) is another. Use whatever word is best for you. Tape it to your mirror so you will see it first thing in the morning to remind you of your plan to have a happier marriage. Once you write out your plan of how you will show more love to your spouse, show emotional and spiritual intimacy, encouragement and friendship you are well on your way to a happier marriage. Don’t expect everything to change overnight. It probably took years to get into the situation you are in, it may take months to get out.

I once heard a person say that he often did marriage counseling and that the people seldom did the things he asked them to do. This is a very common problem. People spend a lot of money on a professional counselor or spend a lot of time seeing their local pastor for counseling, and then don’t apply what they learned in their relationship. This is a sure way to stay stuck in a marital rut.


00Brian_TracyI enjoy listening to Brian Tracy (shown at left) because he became successful through brute determination and willingness to learn. He flunked out of high school, didn’t have good people skills, wasn’t good at anything until he decided to turn his life around by learning. He did laboring jobs until he couldn’t find another job after losing the other jobs. He began selling and didn’t start well at it. But he was willing to learn. He found one salesman sold ten times more than the others even though he sold the same product to the same people under all the same circumstances. He asked that salesman how he did it, then Brian became a millionaire. But he didn’t make it because he was born with talent. He did it like you and I will have to do it, through learning how to do it and hard work.

I took these notes from a lecture Brian gave about the secrets of self-made millionaires.

What are all the things I could do to double my income in one year. Write 20 answers to this question. For example, work harder, work smarter, go to seminars, etc. more people have become millionaires through this method of mind storming than anything else.

To accomplish a big goal in life, like to start a business, write a book that sells well, become financially independent, start a charity or any number of things, you have to be willing to become a different person. The qualities you need to succeed are those that make u better in charity, decision making, determination, strength, etc.

Skills are learnable. If you can drive a car, you can learn the skills you need to succeed. If you do these things you WILL succeed.

You are one skill away from doubling your income. You just need to find that skill.

  1. Dream big dreams. Develop a vision of yourself as happy healthy wealth y thin. Lots of time friends experience. If you could be have or do anything in life, what would it be? They have found that this is the starting point of success. Make a dream list.
  2. Do what you love to do. Find a way to make a living doing it. What did you want to do as a child?
  3. Commit to excellence. Brian Tracy was not good at anything, he failed in school, did not have good people skills, got fired often, he went from job to job. It takes 5 to 7 years to become the top in your field.
  4. Develop your unique talents and abilities. Everyone is born to do something well. In this blog I have written about people who seemed to have no abilities, but found something they were good at and succeeded.
  5. See yourself as self-employed. The top 5% of successful people see themselves as self-employed. All exceptional people are highly responsible people. You work for yourself. The most valuable people in the company are those who feel that they are working for themselves, as if they are self-employed. They are like cream they rise to the top.
  6. Develop a clear sense of direction, become intensely goal oriented. You can’t hit a target you can’t see. One of the richest self-made millionaires said there are two things you need to do to become rich. H L Hunt made $3 million a day. He was asked what the secret to success is. He said the first is to decide what you want in life, to set goals. The second is to determine the price you will have to pay to get it and be willing to do whatever it takes to reach those goals. Take a piece of paper and write ten goals. If you could accomplish only one goal, but had to accomplish it in 24 hours, what would it be? That goal is probably the one you want most. Circle that goal. Turn the paper over and write a list of things you can do to reach that goal. Do something every day to accomplish that goal. It is the secret to success in life. People become great when they do this. A man told Brian Tracy that he was broke, divorced, alcoholic, but he did this goal exercise and ten years later had earned $40 million. He said this exercise changed his life.
  7. Refuse to consider the possibility of failure. Most people quit before they start because they are afraid they can’t accomplish the goal. Everyone fails, probably 9 out of 10 things that we try, fail. It is the fear of failure that holds you back. If you learn from your mistakes you will succeed. Henry Ford said failures just teach us how to win. Winners find the lesson in the failure, they learn from their mistakes. Your biggest problem today can bring your best learning and be your biggest help.
  8. Dedicate yourself to lifelong learning. Knowledge and skill are the keys. Learning new skills are important because things change so quickly, the old things you learned.
    1. Read 30 to 60 minutes a day in your field. Read bestselling books written by successful people.
    2. Take every course that you possibly can. Take the ones taught by professionals. You will learn enough in one or two days as you would learn in years on your own. Some have learned enough from one seminar is they became millionaire.
    3. Listen to audio programs in your car. It is like taking a class at a university, or even better because you can study exactly what you want to learn.
  9. Be a workaholic. You really have to work hard. My note, learn to love your work, really enjoy it. Every hour you work over 40 hours brings you closer to your goal. The average self-made millionaire works 59 hours a week, also the average top executive also works 59 hours a week. When you work, really work, don’t waste time. The average person might only work fifty percent of the time at work because they come in a little late, leave early, take long lunch, talk to others, etc.
  10. Get around the right people. As much as 99% of your success in life is who you spend time with. Do you spend time with successful people? We absorb the opinions of the people we associate with. Bad relationships drag you down. One negative coworker can drag down the whole office.
  11. Be prepared to climb from peak to peak. You won’t be up all the time, you will be down part of the time. Life is two steps forward and one step back. Realize you won’t win all the time
  12. Develop resilience and bounce back. You will be knocked down many times, be ready to bounce back.
  13. Become an unshakable optimist. Think and talk about what you want most of the time. Look for the good in every situation. 3 qualities: a. they learn more things, b. try more things, c. they persist – they never give up.
  14. Develop the qualities of courage and persistence. Two types are needed to succeed. First the courage to begin. Secondly the courage to persist. No matter what happens you will never give up.
  15. Quality of self-discipline. Be able to make yourself do what you should do when you should do it.

You can watch the 46 minute speech by Brian Tracy at http://youtu.be/la6S-2bvme0


10962_569881986357496_9143060_nJack Canfield, the coauthor of the Chicken Soup for the Soul series, writes about a party he went to that built confidence in all of the people that went to it. Everyone was instructed to pretend that it was five years later and they had achieved their goals and dreams in life. They were to spend the whole evening talking about what they accomplished and how it made them feel.

Jack went as a writer of bestselling books. One man went as a movie producer that was the first to work with the Russians on a big movie deal. Another man went as a man who had retired and was able to work as a sculptor. He dressed the part. A lady went as an author of bestselling books, she brought mock up books with her. Another lady brought a magazine she had put the image of her face on which told about her accomplishments. One man went as a rich stockbroker and hired someone to call him every 15 minutes so that he could shout “sell ten thousand shares” or some other similar thing.

20 people had been hired to act as adoring fans and paparazzi. They took photos and shouted to the group as if they were real fans meeting famous people.

The people laughed and talked for several hours, never stepping out of the characters they were playing. It had an incredible effect on them. It built and strengthened their faith in themselves. It made them actually believe they could accomplish their dreams.

As you know, Jack Canfield went on to write/edit books that have sold many millions of copies. All of the people at the party went on to achieve their goals, and to actually achieve more than they had dreamed of that night.

Why not do this for your friends or children? Make a commitment to do it. You don’t have to hire the paparazzi, if you get together with enough friends you can find people to play that part.

Many people who have achieved great things in life say that it is very important to dream about and imagine your goals as if you already achieved them. There is a very powerful psychological message sent throughout your mind when you do this. In fact, Dr. Norman Vincent Peale wrote an entire book about the power of imagining because he found it was so important to achieve goals and dreams.

From The Success Principles by Jack Canfield  chapter 12

Do you have what it takes?

Brad Stanton —  January 29, 2014 — 1 Comment

Paul Orfalea

Paul Orfalea

You think you lack talent? Take a look at a lot of the super high achievers who have much less talent than you. God has put in you everything you need to achieve all he has in store for you.

It is not a coincidence that you are reading this blog post. Many people have prayed that the right people will be drawn to this information and I pray often that it will help you enormously.

Paul Orfalea was born in Los Angles of parents who were Syrian Orthodox Christian. He had learning problems in school and ADD. Not a great way to start life. He was labeled a failure at an early age. But like many other people who have achieved great things in life, he found confidence and was able to work his way out of a life of mediocrity. Now he gives millions of dollars to charities and schools and helps many people.

Here are some excerpts from Wikipedia about him:

According to Orfalea, he was a woodshop major in high school, and his typical report card was “two C’s, three D’s, and an F.” Due to his dyslexia and attention deficit hyperactivity disorder, Orfalea reportedly flunked two grades and was expelled from several schools. He later attended the University of Southern California. Despite being fired from a number of jobs, his family supported him in his determination to launch his own business. In later life he remarked on the subject of his handicaps, “I get bored easily, and that is a great motivator, I think everybody should have dyslexia and ADD.”

Orfalea decided to start up his own business while he was attending USC. With a $5,000 bank loan co-signed by his parents, Orfalea founded Kinko’s in 1970. His first store was a 100 square foot space adjacent to a hamburger stand in the Isla Vista neighborhood of Santa Barbara, California, rented for $100 a month. Orfalea began selling notebooks, pens, pencils, and the services of a copying machine at 4 cents per copy. Within ten years, Kinko’s grew to a network of over 80 stores across the country.

Kinko’s spread across the United States and internationally, and ultimately to more than 1,200 locations and 23,000 employees in 10 different countries. Orfalea put a high value on employee satisfaction, and Fortune Magazine named Kinko’s one of the best places in America to work for three years in a row. Kinko’s was acquired by Federal Express in 2004, with Orfalea no longer involved in the company’s business management. The company presently does business under the name FedEx Office.

6 steps to success

Brad Stanton —  January 27, 2014 — 3 Comments

Jentezen Franklin

Jentezen Franklin

Have you had difficulty achieving your dreams in life? Dreams of great relationships, getting out of debt, career advancement, achievement in sports, etc. Maybe you have an addiction to food, cigarettes, drugs, alcohol, laziness, sexual problems or anything else. Here are five steps to get out of the pit. The six steps are from Believe That You Can by Jentezen Franklin, but I have written it in my own words.

Thought

It all starts as a thought in your mind. You see the need to quit doing something or to start doing something else. You realize your life could be better than it is now.

Caught

Not only do we see something we want, we have to take hold of the idea that we really can get it. Many people would love to get out of debt, but they don’t believe it will ever happen, so they don’t even try to find a way to become more financially secure. Some would love to be a high level manager in their company, but they just don’t think it will ever happen, so they plug away at their boring job week after week, not doing the level of work they are capable of.

Bought

You have to pay the price for your dream. Decide to take a risk, try your best to do something you didn’t think you could do in the past. Maybe your old life is too boring. Step out on your idea. You have to believe that with God all things are possible. Matthew 19:26 “With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.” Phil 4:13 “I can do everything through Christ who gives me strength.”

Sought

After you buy into dream you really get committed. You focus on it no matter what others say. You get in the habit of seeking it with all your heart. Ask yourself: “How bad do I want it?” That is a key. If you really want it, you will be willing to do what it takes to make it happen.

“How does one become a butterfly” she asked pensively
“You must want to fly so much you are willing to give up being a caterpillar.”
“You mean die?”
“Yes and no,” he answered. “What looks like you will die, but what’s really you will still  live”
—–From Hope For The Flowers by Trina Paulus

Got

Now you are there, you got the prize, or are starting to get the prize. Now you don’t have to suffer regret for not trying to accomplish your goals and dreams. Maybe you have gone a week without overeating. Even if you pig out one day, don’t worry about it. Don’t let it get you down, because sadness and regret will make it all the more difficult. Tell yourself that you are a winner and will not fail next time. The more you say it to yourself, the more it will become true. If you are a Christian, the Bible promises you that you are a winner, a conqueror (which means you can conquer problems). Romans 8:37 “In all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us.”

Taught

No success without a successor. Whom are you mentoring? When you teach something, it helps you really get it firmly in mind, to get it deep into your subconscious. This is a very important part of any goal, to teach others how to do it. Alcoholics Anonymous stresses that to overcome an addition it is very important to mentor others to overcome. When you teach it, you learn it much better and are much more likely to continue your success over the addiction or difficulty.

Seeds of greatness

Brad Stanton —  January 23, 2014 — 5 Comments

cocoa tree

cocoa tree

Many years ago a young man in Ghana West Africa saw poverty in his village so he wanted very badly to bring about change and help his people. So at 16 years of age he decided to leave home determined to find some way to help his people. Seven years later he returned. His people saw him a long time before he reached the village as he walked down the road. They were very excited because they knew that since he had been gone a long time he must have something wonderful to share with them that would help them overcome their poverty and difficulties.

They ran out to meet him and shouted, “What did you bring?”

He silently put his hand in his pocket and pulled out three small seeds. Everyone was surprised, because they expected so much more.

“What are they?” they asked.

“They are cocoa seeds” he replied.

He planted the seeds and soon the three trees had multiplied to many. He had learned how to cultivate and take care of cocoa plants.

Now in Ghana cocoa is a major source of income for many people. Because one man planted seeds and knew how to take care of them, he changed his country forever and helped many people.

It sometimes takes a well-trained person to see seeds of greatness in other people. Maybe someone you know is not a good student and suffers because he just can’t make good grades. But maybe he can become a great writer, athlete, musician, model, actor or politician. Stephen J. Cannell failed the first grade, he also failed the fourth and tenth grades but he wrote many TV scripts for famous TV shows and eventually had over 2000 people working for him.

Charles Dickens failed many times to get his books published, but he kept trying and later changed the world by showing tens of thousands of people how difficult the lives orphans can be.

It usually takes a long time to achieve great things in life. Just like the cocoa plants took a long time to multiply to thousands of trees it may take a long time for the seeds of greatness to grow in you.

Don’t give up. Keep cultivating the seeds within you. If you don’t quit, someday you will accomplish the goals and dreams that God has placed in your heart. Remember Philippians 4:13 “I can do everything through Christ who gives me strength.”  Say that out loud five times a day and it will do wonders for you.


waltonIf you want to get from where you are to where you want to be, of course you’re going to have to take  risk. So make the decision to stop complaining, to stop spending time with complainers, and get on with creating the life of your dreams.” Jack Canfield, author and success coach

All blame is a waste of time. No matter how much fault you find with another and regardless of how much you blame him, it will not change you.” Wayne Dyer Coauther of “How to Get What You Really Really really Really Want.”

You can be successful at losing weight, relationships, career, etc. Here is a tip for it:

Take 100% responsibility for your life.

W. Clement Stone was from a very poor family but he had a knack for selling insurance and became incredibly rich. He wrote books and magazines and is considered one of the best life coaches in the last two hundred years. One thing that he felt was very important for achieving success was the attitude of taking responsibility–100% responsibility for your life.

He trained many people who became fabulously successful in many different endeavors. Jack Canfield, who sold over 150 million books, was trained by Stone. From the very beginning of the training, Stone emphasized taking responsibility for your life.

If you believe in God and you are a Christian you know that God is a loving, heavenly father. If you don’t believe in God you may believe that the universe is somewhat the same. But stop and think about it, if God is a loving father and he is in control of everything, and I do mean everything, he can control everything that happens to you.

Many people who believe in the Law of Attraction (which means you attract into your life what you think about, or put it another way, you reap what you sow) believe that anything that comes into your life does so because you attracted it. The paycheck, the kids, the spouse, the car wreck, the divorce, everything. Many people don’t want to believe that they attracted a car wreck, especially if the other person was at fault.

The upside of this is that since you attracted everything into your life, you can get rid of anything you don’t want. It may take years to develop that kind of faith. But I have talked to, and read about countless people who have been healed of all sorts of illnesses that doctors could not cure and overcome difficulties that amazed me.

I have a friend whose brother was a firefighter. He was arrogant and was heading the wrong direction in life. He was a bodybuilder who enjoyed picking on people so that he could start fights and beat people up. Then one day as he fought a fire a lady drove through thick smoke and pinned him to a fire truck with her car, crushing his legs. He lost his legs and said that it was the worst day of his life and also the best day of his life because he turned his life around, became a Christian and quit his self-destructive ways.

So did he somehow bring that accident into his life? Some believe that he did. He certainly had a reckless, cavalier attitude about life before it happened. Maybe if he had been more careful he could have avoided it.

The point is, if you want to be successful at anything, relationships, career, weight loss, making money, etc. you have to take responsibility and quit blaming circumstances or other people. W. Clement Stone felt this was one of the most important attitudes to overcome obstacles and reach success.

Stone asked Canfield if he took 100% responsibility for his life. Canfield said he thought he did.

This is a yes or no question, young man. You either do or you don’t.” Stone said.

“Well, I guess I’m not sure.”

“Have you ever blamed anyone for any circumstance in your life? Have you every complained about anything?”

“Uh…yeah…I guess I have.”

“Don’t guess. Think.”

“Yes, I have.” said Canfield.

‘OK, then. That means you don’t take one hundred percent responsibility for your life. Taking one hundred percent responsibility means you acknowledge that you create everything that happens to you. It means you understand that you are the cause of all of your experience. If you want to be really successful, and I know you do, then you will have to give up blaming and complaining and take total responsibility for your life—that means all your results, both your successes and our failures. That is the prerequisite for creating a life of success. It is only by acknowledging that you have created everything up until now that you can take charge of creating the future you want.” From The Success Principles, by Jack Canfield, chapter one.

You are a victor not a victim. You are a winner, not a loser. You are a conqueror and can conquer any difficulty in life. That is a promise if you are a Christian.  Romans 8:37 “In all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us.”

To be more successful, act in ways that bring success. It really is that simple, but difficult to do sometimes.

Confess it (say it out loud).

Imagine it at least 7 minutes a day (this gets easier the more you do it, and becomes very enjoyable).

Believe it.

Do it.

Confidence is key

Brad Stanton —  January 6, 2014 — 4 Comments

7232b51d1e780b1845a7bba362702254_mOnce there was a middle school boy who desperately wanted to become a professional basketball player. He was tall, and his huge feet indicated he would grow even taller. However, he was so big that it was difficult for him to get up and down the basketball court. His huge, heavy feet were often a disadvantage because they were just too big. But he was a good basketball player.

His coach had seen many students throughout the years who wanted to play pro ball. He knew that only a tiny fraction of them would ever make it to the pros. He knew that students that age needed a plan B, not just a plan A of playing pro ball, so he tried his best to instill other dreams in the kids.

The coach realized he needed to talk to the big boy who was so intent on becoming a pro basketball player, even though he was built more for football. He didn’t want to discourage the boy, but he knew how difficult it had been for other students who put all their eggs in one basket and didn’t have a plan B.

Finally after watching the boy slow down during the game because he was too heavy to continue to run up and down the court, the coach took him aside and put his arm around the boy and said “Shaq, maybe you need a plan B.” The boy’s name was Shaquille O’Neal, but he went by Shaq.

In high school Shaq sometimes became discouraged about his goal to play pro ball. Then he met a college coach who understood that he needed encouragement. The coach realized he needed something to overcome his difficulty getting up and down the court. On a piece of paper he wrote out some exercises that would give Shaq more stamina. He gave him a pep talk, telling him that he really did have potential and that if he worked hard enough he might make it to the pros.

Coach Brown of LSU (shown above) was a gifted motivator and encourager. His words had a profound influence on Shaq, who later became a pretty good basketball player.

Who can you encourage? There are many people out there who rarely hear an encouraging word. One of my goals in life is to help street kids. Some of them have been abandoned by their parents, and that is definately not good for the self image. They not only need food, shelter and clothing, they also need encouragement and an education. More about street kids here http://wp.me/p2rHBL-1SB

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Rick Little was only 19 years old when he decided to start an organization to help school kids with self-esteem, setting life goals, handling conflict and other important life skills. He began writing proposals and sent them to over 155 foundations. He got rejected over and over again, but he kept trying. He slept in his car and ate mostly peanut butter and crackers for almost a year.

But he never gave up on his dream. Finally, the Kellogg Foundation gave Rick $130,000. That was just a start. Rick had big goals so he kept working. Rick began forming a team of people and together they raised $100 million to start an organization called the Quest program. Three million kids in over 30,000 schools around the world work together with Quest to help kids have a better life.

Rick Little and his team worked hard and because they helped so many people he received a grant for $65,000,000. This is the second largest grant ever given in US history. He used it to start the International Youth foundation.

Rick got so many rejections, but what would have happened to him and all those kids if he had given up after he got one hundred rejections?

I first read about Rick Little in a book called The Success Principles by Jack Canfield, the bestselling author of the Chicken Soup for the Soul books which have sold over 150 million copies around the world. Jack was rejected by 144 different publishers before he was finally accepted for his book.

Novelist Steven King threw away the manuscript for Carrie because he was rejected over and over again, but his wife retrieved it from the garbage and the book went on to sell over 4 million copies and was made into a blockbuster movie.

Never give up on your dreams and goals in life.

Motivational quotes

Brad Stanton —  December 2, 2013 — 7 Comments

Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out. Robert Collier

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For every failure, there’s an alternative course of action. You just have to find it. When you come to a roadblock, take a detour. Mary Kay Ash, founder Mary Kay Cosmetics
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Difficulties are opportunities to better thinking; they are stepping-stone to greater experience. When one door closes, another always opens; as a natural law it has to, to balance. Brian Adams

It’s always too soon to quit! Norman Vincent Peale

Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent. Calvin Coolidge

the slogan “press on” has solved and always will solve the problems of the human race. Calvin Coolidge

Never give up on your hopes and dreams. Many People

Fall down seven times, get up eight times. Japanese Proverb

Don’t give up too soon. Your dreams are your real job. Joyce Spizer, author

Most people give up just when they’re about to achieve success. Ross Perot, self made billionaire

History has demonstrated that the most notable winners usually met heartbreaking obstacles before they triumphed. Forbes, founder Forbes magazine

They won because they refused to become discouraged by their defeats. Forbes

He who stops being better stops being good. Oliver Cromwell

Humans were given a left foot & right foot to make a mistake first to the left, then right, left again, repeat. Buckminster Fuller

Feedback is the breakfast of champions. One Minute Manager

It is impossible to sell animal stories in the USA. from rejection slip for Orwell’s Animal Farm.

I take rejection as someone blowing a bugle in my ear to wake me up and get going, rather than retreat. Sylvester Stallone

Never give up on your dream. Perseverance is all important. Tawni O’dell, Author

If you don’t have the desire and the belief in yourself to keep trying after you’ve been told you should quit, you’ll never make it. Tawni O’Dell author

You’ve got to ask. Asking is the world’s most powerful  and neglected secret to success and happiness. Percy Ross self made millionaire


Stephen J. Cannell

Stephen J. Cannell

So maybe you feel that you aren’t very smart. Can you still achieve great things in life? Absolutely, yes!

The number one problem that keeps people from winning in the United States today is lack of belief in themselves.” ~Arthur L. Williams, founder of a $90 million insurance company.

Stephen J. Cannell failed the first grade, he also failed the fourth and tenth grades. He realized that he was not a good student when he spent five hours with his mother studying for a test and then failed it. It didn’t help at all that his friend got an A on the test without studying.

He was crushed, but he decided to put that out of his mind. “I simply refused to think about it. Instead I focused my energies on what I was good at, and that was football. If it hadn’t been for football, which I excelled at, I don’t know what would have happened to me. I got my self-esteem from playing sports.”

“He had a good imagination, so he began writing. Eventually he formed his own production studio, where he created, produced, and wrote over 350 scripts for 38 different shows, including The A-Team, The Rockford Files, Baretta, 21 Jump Street, The Commmish, Renegade and Silk Stalkings. At the height of his studio career, he had over 2,000 people on his payroll.” From The Success Principals by Jack Canfield, chapter 5.

Many of the most creative people were not good students in school. Many of the best musicians, athletes and writers were not top students. In fact, Ian Flemming, who wrote the hugely successful James Bond novels that were later made into movies, was not a good student, and drifted through many jobs due to lack of success in them before he began to write.

All you have to do is find what you are good at. It takes a positive attitude and persistence. That is what this blog is all about.


This story has a powerful moral that will make your life better if you think about it and put it into practice every day.

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“Many of life’s failures were people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.” ~Thomas Edison

Many years ago a man from Europe took a ship to the United States. He had planned this trip for years and saved every penny he could for the boat ticket. His relatives were proud of him because he had worked so hard to make a better life for himself.

Day after day on the ship, while the other passengers were going into the cafeteria he would sit and eat cheese and crackers because that was what he had the money to buy for the trip and they were items that didn’t spoil. But as the weeks wore on, he became rather despondent. He felt sad that he had to eat this same food every day, while the other passengers at the declivous food in the cafeteria. He could smell the wonderful smell of the different foods each day and it made him long for even just a taste of it.

Finally one day a man from the same country he was from came up to him and spoke in his native language. “Why are you sitting out here eating that tasteless food when you could be in here enjoying the food with us?”

The man hung his head and said “I don’t have the money for this food. It took all my savings to buy the ticket.”

His compatriot replied “The cost of the meals is included in the price of the ticket! You can eat this food with us every day.”

The man was shocked. He had been eating the plain, flavorless food when he could have been enjoying the better food with his friends. He quickly went into the cafeteria, sat down with his compatriot and they enjoyed a meal together.

You and I are the same as that man. We trudge through life without enjoying many of the things we could be enjoying because we think we don’t have the right stuff to have the blessings we want.

Many intelligent people drop out of college because they fail one or two tests and conclude that they are not smart enough to make it

Many young men quit courting the woman of their dreams because she told them she wasn’t interested and they gave up on her.

Many people get mad at the company they work for and change jobs just when they were near success.

Many give up on relationships too early.

Many of the most successful people have said that faith (confidence, positive mental attitude, positive thinking, whatever you want to call it) is important to achieving your goals and dreams in life.

The man who started Walmart (he would be the richest man in the world if he was still alive) Sam Walton said “It is amazing what a person can accomplish if they believe in themselves.”

Jesus said basically the same thing. More than a dozen times he talked about the importance of faith.

“If you have faith the size of a mustard seed you can tell a mountain to move, and it will. NOTHING will be impossible for you.” Matthew 17:20

Also, many people don’t get what they want because they don’t ask. Just think what would have happened if the man in the story asked about the food. He would have found out it was already paid for! Don’t be afraid to ask. Just think about the possiblities!

Comfort vs. self-denial

Brad Stanton —  November 10, 2013 — 6 Comments

Everyone likes to be comfortable. Whether that means great food, a comfortable couch, staying home from work, or whatever, we like to be comfortable.

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But some people are lazy, or addicted to food, drugs, or other things to the extent that they are harming themselves.

Other people go to the opposite extreme and are so self-denying that they don’t have enough fun and cause problems for themselves and their loved ones.

Balance is the goal.

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.” Marianne Williamson

I have seen this quote in many different places and used to agree with it and at the same time disagree. But then I read a quote from my friend’s psychology book. It said that change creates loss. Even if the change is positive, we have to let go of something. We fear failure and we fear success. Some people fear success because they will lose something from it. They might fear that if they are wildly successful they will lose the lifestyle they have now that they are comfortable with.
Many people fear change because they don’t know what lies ahead for them after the change.

Here is the rest of the powerful quotation by Marianne Williamson:
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

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Long Beach, Ca

Some people “play hard to get” when another person is romantically interested in them. I have seen this ruin more relationships than anything else in the world. Men and women both do this. Nowadays it is considered completely inappropriate as I will discuss later in this post.  Please leave a comment on this controversial issue.

When I lived in Long Beach, California a young man and his girlfriend met in a cozy little café by the ocean. They had been dating for some time, but the girl decided it was time to play hard to get. She insisted that she was breaking up with him, when actually she wanted to marry him. After a long, heated discussion, he went out to his car, took a gun out of the glove box and shot himself dead. She was interviewed while she was crying hysterically on the sidewalk near the car. All she could say was “I loved him so much.”

I was rather close to a family who had a teenage son. His girlfriend broke up with him, apparently playing hard to get, and invited another guy to a party she knew her ex-boyfriend was going to. She flirted all evening with the new boy toy, making sure the boy she loved saw it, just to peak his interest in her and to make her more attractive to him. He went home and killed himself. Of course his family was devastated, apparently the girlfriend was too.

Most people don’t kill themselves when the person they like or love plays hard to get. But most feel terribly sad about it. The more a man/woman respects and admires another person, the more likely he/she is to quit dating when other plays hard to get. This is because if he thinks she is totally wonderful, he feels he doesn’t really have a chance for her anyway.

If a person does stick with a partner through this torture, it means he/she is very confident or knows all about mind games, or she doesn’t really think the partner is all that special anyway and keeps trying because it is not all that painful to do so.

Honesty is a very important aspect of good relationships. People who enjoy inflicting pain on their partner for their own gain will probably also be the type to punish their spouse severely for anything he/she considers less than proper treatment.

Many large companies tell their employees every year that they can only ask a coworker out twice, any more than that is considered completely inappropriate and can be considered sexual harassment.  After this training, many people don’t ask a person out more than twice, even if he doesn’t work at the same company, so if one is playing hard to get, the relationship ends dead in its tracks.

Most men I know respect a woman for asking him out before he asks her out. Ladies, you have been set free, you can choose the man you want, in the old days it wasn’t this way. When a woman chooses to take the subservient role and plays hard to get it is very confusing to men and I notice most men bail out these days because they expect equality.

Leave a comment, feel free to disagree with this post!

It seemed like a miracle

Brad Stanton —  October 28, 2013 — 1 Comment

So here is another short piece that I hope will motivate you to achieve great things in life. I’ll tell you the moral of the story at the end.

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I played defensive tackle in high school football and wondered what it would be like to line up against a pro football player.  One of our coaches had played several years of pro football and one day he decided to show me a few things.

There I was, in full football gear, helmet, shoulder pads, and all the rest. He didn’t have any of that stuff, so I felt a little uncomfortable squaring off against him. I said “Coach, you’re not wearing a helmet or pads….”

He said “I won’t need them.” I thought that seemed a little presumptuous of him. But I certainly respected his football ability.

Quickness off the line is everything in football. Speed is important, but for linemen who sometimes don’t run more than a few yards on each play, quickness is essential. Strength is important too, of course. I wasn’t the best player on the team by any means, but I was very quick. At least, I thought I was.

But what happened next seemed surreal. It just didn’t seem possible. When the ball was snapped, the coach disappeared into thin air! Well, not literally, but it seemed like it. I had never seen anything like it in all my life. He was so quick that it seemed like he disappeared and after I turned around, he reappeared behind me.

Do you ever hear of someone getting a promotion at work and people say something like “Who did he pay off for that promotion?” They seem to think it is not possible that the person worked much harder than other people to get ahead.

The moral of the story: Just like what that coach did seemed impossible, sometimes it seems unbelievable that people work twice as hard as others to get a promotion. The speed of my coach was unbelievable, but I’m sure he worked hour after hour, month after month, year after year to achieve that.

Keep working hard and enjoying your work. People who enjoy their work can get more work done much more easily than those who don’t like their work. If you really give it your best day after day, month after month, year after year, good things will happen.