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The power of faith

Brad Stanton —  April 17, 2014 — 1 Comment

408730_577751578906157_1311257080_nSome of the greatest people in the history of the world achieved their greatness because they were told as a child that they would do great things in life.

Alexander the Great is an example. In Alexander’s day, an oracle proclaimed that whoever unloosened the Gordian knot would become ruler of all Asia. Alexander cut the knot with one stroke of his sword – and rose to tremendous heights and power. Napoleon was given a star sapphire when a child, with the prophecy that it would bring him luck and some day make him Emperor.

J. Edgar Hoover took over the FBI before it was the Federal Bureau of Investigation, when the agents didn’t even have the authority to carry guns.  He had a strong sense that he was destined to build a mighty empire. He believed that he would and should build the FBI and he did. He often wrenched power from congressmen by illegally spying on them and blackmailing them, so he wasn’t the nicest guy in the world by any means. But he had great faith in his goals and because of this he brought about the massively powerful organization that is called the FBI today.

Many bad men have used the power of faith to bring about bad things, so one has to be careful how one uses the power of faith. For example, Hitler was a genius at building confidence, or faith, in the German race. He had amazing talent that enabled him to convince his people that they were the master race. Because they believed that, they achieved some very amazing things. The size of the war machine that small country produced was way beyond their proportions.

Jesus said everything is possible for one who believes. He also said that if a person has faith, they can move mountains. Nothing will be impossible for them.

One powerful way to strengthen faith is to visualize getting the results you want. The more you visualize, the stronger your faith grows. Also, thank God for giving you what you ask for. Obviously we should not ask for things that are not God’s will. But the more you thank God for answering your prayer, even before it gets answered, the stronger your faith becomes.

The magic of believing

Brad Stanton —  April 15, 2014 — 7 Comments

w clement stoneClaude Bristol wrote a book called The Magic of Believing. In it he expands upon the idea of Positive Mental Attitude, Power of Positive Thinking, or as Jesus called it, faith. Bristol noted that to achieve goals and dreams, it takes more than just hard work. Many people have worked very hard and never achieved their goals. Other people seem to magically achieve their goals.

Arnold Schwarzenegger talks about the power of faith, of visualizing a goal and working for it to achieve it. Tomas Edison talked about the amazing powers of the mind. The outstanding scientists Steinmetz, Tesla (invented AC motors and over a hundred other of today’s most useful inventions) and Marconi (invented the radio) all agreed that there was something very powerful in the mind, call it faith or something else, that could bring about amazing results.

Bristol studied the science of faith and taught it to some of his workers when he was a vice president. “All of the employees sat around in a half circle and as I began my remarks, I asked each man to provide himself with paper and pencil.” He told them to write down whatever it was that they most wanted in life. He told them that he would explain to them how to get it.

Some of the men laughed but Bristol told them to do it or lose their jobs. “If this stuff doesn’t work, we’ll all be out on the street.”

One of the men who laughed apologized later, but said that the idea of writing down a goal and learning how to make it happen in such a way seemed unreasonable.

But the amazing thing is that in the years that followed, Bristol asked all of the men if they obtained what they had written down. “Without exception, every man had. One had wanted a wife of a certain nationality. He got her, and there are two fine boys in the family. Another man put down the figures of a very sizable fortune. He got it. Another man wanted a beach cottage, and other a better home and so on. Steadily through the years every one of these men has constantly made money, many of them averaging monthly more than they had ever made before in their lives, much to the astonishment of many others in the same line of business.” Page 167 The Magic of Believing by Claude Bristol

What was it that Bristol taught these men? It was the power of faith, of believing. It is the same stuff that I constantly blog about in this website. Jesus said “Everything is possible for one who believes.”

 


0000000000000000;lkjhgf“Whatever you do, or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius and power and magic in it.”

~ Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

“You can have anything you want if you want it badly enough. You can be anything you want to be, do anything you set out to accomplish if you hold to that desire with singleness of purpose.”
~Abraham Lincoln

Marie Calendar

Marie Calendar is famous for desserts. She started out as a waitress at a restaurant. One day her boss told her that he wanted her to bake pies. At first she resented this because she already worked hard and this would mean even longer hours. But instead of resisting and complaining she decided to give it her best effort. She cooked the very best pies she could. Soon customers were commenting on the delicious pies at that restaurant. The manager noticed that business was up and many people came just for the pies.

Maria decided to go into business for herself. It was a bit scary for her, there was equipment to buy, a kitchen to rent and other costs. But she had faith that she could do it. The faith she had in herself and in her abilities gave her the courage she needed to take the risk. The rest is history, now she is famous across the USA for delicious pies that are available in most grocery stores.


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coverprayeramazoncopyright (1)Maybe you get every one of your prayers answered and you don’t need to learn any Biblical principles to improve your prayer power. If that is true for you, quit reading now.  If you would like to learn how to have more prayer power, keep reading.

Of course we know that the main reason to pray is to get close to God. But the Bible tells us to ask God for things. See 1 Timothy 2:1.

There are several keys to powerful prayer in Matthew. Jesus’ followers asked him why they couldn’t accomplish a task. Matthew 17:20.  He replied, “Because you have so little faith. Truly I tell you, if you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can say to this mountain, ‘Move from here to there,’ and it will move. Nothing will be impossible for you.”

Notice Jesus said “nothing will be impossible for you.” Do you believe it? Henry Ford and many others said basically the same thing. Ford said “Whether you think you can or you think you can’t, either way you are right.”

A mountain might mean a stronghold. In the Old Testament it sometimes meant a difficulty, as we use the word today “Don’t make a mountain out of a molehill.”

What strongholds do you deal with in your life? Maybe you want to have better relationships, lose weight, get out of debt, excel at your career, quit an addiction or any number of things. Any of these strongholds can be overcome through prayer, relying on God and determination.

Dozens of times Jesus said that the key to answered prayer is faith. But it seems that very few people know how to increase their faith. This will tell you how to increase your faith so that you will have powerful prayers. If you do this, the Bible promises you that you will see amazing answers to prayers.

The disciples were with Jesus 24/7 for almost 3 years, so they saw hundreds of miracles. In fact one gospel writer said that Jesus performed so many miracles John 21:25 “If every one of them were written down, I suppose that even the whole world would not have room for the books that would be written.” That is not to be taken literally, of course. But it does mean that Jesus’ followers probably saw many miracles every day. That in itself would strengthen their faith tremendously.

To increase your faith do this: FAITH

F = Find a Bible verse, a promise to stand on.

A = Ask in faith.

I = Imagine that God has already given you what you asked for. See it in your mind.

T = Thank God for it. This is very important. Gratitude builds your faith.

H = Hold on, be Happy. You may not get the answer right away. You may have to hold on for awhile, but be happy while you wait. It makes your prayers stronger and it is God’s will for you. 1 Thessalonians 5:18 “…give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.”

In my book Keys To Powerful Prayer ( the ebook version is called The Amazing Power of Prayer) I show many ways to have stronger faith and other Biblical methods to get your prayers answered.  http://TLC33.com

The joy of friendship

Brad Stanton —  March 21, 2014 — 3 Comments

48119_161367167348863_1879130993_nMany people love the book My Utmost For His Highest by Oswald Chambers. It is a classic and still sells well today even though it was written decades ago. Here is a short excerpt from it taken from the devotion for March 20.

The Delights of His Friendship.

Genesis 18 brings out the delight of true friendship with God, as compared with simply feeling His presence occasionally in prayer. This friendship means being so intimately in touch with God that you never even need to ask Him to show you His will. It is evidence of a level of intimacy which confirms that you are nearing the final stage of your discipline in the life of faith.

When you have a right-standing relationship with God, you have a life of freedom, liberty, and delight; you are God’s will. And all of your commonsense decisions are actually His will for you, unless you sense a feeling of restraint brought on by a check in your spirit. You are free to make decisions in the light of a perfect and delightful friendship with God, knowing that if your decisions are wrong He will lovingly produce that sense of restraint. Once he does, you must stop immediately.

The Difficulties of His Friendship.

Why did Abraham stop praying when he did? He stopped because he still was lacking the level of intimacy in his relationship with God, which would enable him boldly to continue on with the Lord in prayer until his desire was granted. Whenever we stop short of our true desire in prayer and say, “Well, I don’t know, maybe this is not God’s will,” then we still have another level to go. It shows that we are not as intimately acquainted with God as Jesus was, and as Jesus would have us to be— “I have given them the glory that you gave me, that they may be one just as We are one – I in them and you in me—so that they may be brought to complete unity.” John 17:22,23

Think of the last thing you prayed about-were you devoted to your desire or to God? Was your determination to get some gift of the Spirit for yourself or to get to God? “For your Father knows the things you have need of before you ask Him” (Matthew 6:8). The reason for asking is so you may get to know God better. “Delight yourself also in the Lord, and He shall give you the desires of your heart” (Psalm 37:4). We should keep praying to get a perfect understanding of God Himself.


robert collierYou have probably heard that sugar pills (placebos) can heal people if the person taking the pill thinks it is real medicine. A study showed that people who thought they received knee surgery did just as well as people who really did get knee surgery. Incisions were made in the knees of both groups, although some patients did not receive anything more than two small cuts on their knees. The other group had full surgery to correct joint problems. Two years later both groups reported the same improvements in their knees.

Chris Berdik, who is a science journalist wrote a book called Mind Over Mind: The Surprising Power of Expectations. In it he discusses how powerful the mind is to bring about positive change in a person’s life.

One amazing study he writes about was done by Harvard psychologist Ellen Langer. Hotel maids were studied. Some were told that the daily work they did such as vacuuming, changing beds and general cleaning is good exercise. A control group of maids was not told this. After four weeks, the groups who had been told about the exercise lost more weight, had lower blood pressure, reduced waist to hip measurement and improved body mass compared to those who had not been told.

Another study involved people throwing balls at a target. After throwing the balls they answered two questionnaires. After completing the questions, one group was told that their answers indicated that they would perform well under pressure. All of the participants were videotaped and offered prizes for improving their throwing accuracy. It was found that 90% of the people who were told that they would do well reached their accuracy goal. Of the people who were not told they would do well, only 27% improved their throwing skills.

So what does this mean? Can we lose weight by thinking about the benefit of the physical exercise we get every day? Apparently some people can. And many studies have shown that when people are told they are doing a good job, it helps them perform even better.

The moral of the true stories is that you can strengthen people with praise. The more you strengthen them, the more they will strengthen you. But the opposite is almost always true, the more you say hurtful words to others, the more they will weaken you in return.


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神 爱 你,并 且 为 你 的 生 命 有 一 奇 妙 的 计 划。

“He is no fool who gives up what he cannot keep to gain what he cannot lose.” ~Jim Elliot

“No matter where you are, no matter how difficult things might appear to be, you are always being moved toward magnificence. Always.” Rhonda Byrne

God adores you and is guiding you and communicating with you every hour of every day. In fact, his Spirit, the Holy Spirit is helping you every second of every day. Of course he speaks to you through the Bible, but he also guides you with your conscience. It is through something that we feel, or that we know is true or right that he guides us.

Contrary to what some people think, God is not judging you. We know from the Bible that God is bragging on us in heaven. That’s what he did for Job in the Old Testament. Sure, God does discipline us sometimes, but just because it is for our good. He is a heavenly father who loves us more then we love ourselves.

Love, joy and peace are some of the fruits of the spirit. When you don’t feel joyful it means you are thinking about things you don’t love. When you think of things you don’t love it ruins your peace and causes negative emotions.

Tune in to communication with God as much as you can. The more you do it, the easier it gets and the more often you can do it. God is always there, loving you and guiding you, but you have to listen.

It has been said that God cares more about your character than your comfort. But he cares more about your happiness than you do. Just as an earthly father makes a child get up a go to school even when it is cold outside, God disciplines us to do what is best for us.

Does this sound selfish? Well, if all we care about is ourselves, then yes, it is. The only way to truly be happy in life is to love God because that is the purpose for which we were created. A man usually doesn’t like wearing women’s clothes in public because he was not created that way. A greyhound doesn’t like being in the house all day, he likes to be outside where he can run. Fish don’t like being out of water because they were created to be in water. If you don’t love God, you are not doing what you were created to do and it leaves an empty hole in the soul. It leaves discomfort or loneliness, dissatisfaction of some kind.

Loving God puts you on a higher plane. It not only pleases God, but it also makes your spirit stronger. Your spirit lasts forever, your body only lasts for a short time. Jesus told us to store up treasure in heaven because it lasts forever and we don’t have to worry about losing it.

When I was a kid I would spend all my money on fireworks on the 4th of July. All the money I saved would be blown up in a matter of days. It was fun, and it seemed worth it, but now I want to save treasure that will last forever. It would be foolish to work only for money or fame or anything that lasts this lifetime only. This life is over as quickly as the blink of an eye in the grand scheme of things.

Every penny I make from my book “Keys To Powerful Prayer” goes to spread faith, hope and love to people around the world through this blog and charity. https://www.createspace.com/4540174 Doing the research for this book really changed my life for the better. CreateSpace is an Amazon company. Or read sample pages of the same book as an ebook on Amazon entitled “Amazing Power of Prayer.” http://www.amazon.com/dp/B008EOCODK


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神 爱 你,并 且 为 你 的 生 命 有 一 奇 妙 的 计 划。

Do you believe that you reap what you sow? In other words do you actually get the results that you caused to come about by your actions? I include a fun mental exercise at the end of this post. This post will be hard for many people to understand.

Negative thoughts bring about some sort of negative consequence. Negative thoughts are those dealing with the fearsome foursome:

1. Fear  2. Anger  3. Depression  4. Guilt

It is said that all negative thoughts fall into one or more of these four categories. For example, worry is a kind of fear. Shame is a form of guilt. Sadness is a form of depression. Frustration and lack of forgiveness is anger.

These negative thoughts cause the body to make toxic chemicals flow into the bloodstream. They also tend to bring about more negative thoughts, more intense negative thoughts. If a person keeps thinking negative thoughts it almost always causes him to do negative things or say negative words that can cause serious problems. A business speaker said that negative thoughts can put enough toxins in the blood stream of a man or woman that if you drew a sample of blood and injected it into a rat, it would kill the rat.

If we sow positive thoughts we get stronger and more loveable. To think about things that we like, love or are attracted to is sowing positive thoughts. We are able to deal with pressure at work better, handle relationships better and just about every aspect of life. Love is the most powerful force in the universe. Love makes a person stronger and happier. This is true for every person and it is true all the time.

Isaac Newton said that for every action there is an equal and opposite reaction. This is a law of nature that has been proven for hundreds of years in physics. But the amazing thing is that this is just another way of saying you reap what you sow. Some call it the Law of Attraction or Karma.

People who are successful in life (by just about any definition of success) are the ones who think positive thoughts and therefore use the power of love. Some achieve great success through hard work and talent, some have little talent but apply lots of hard work and the power of love.

An Olympic athlete competes because he loves the sport or he loves the idea of becoming a champion or he loves being in front of a crowd of people. He/she has to somehow be attracted to a sport. That person has to have faith, or you could call it confidence, that he can do well at the sport, otherwise he won’t be willing to do the work required to be successful.

If you want the life of your dreams, visualize it every day, love the idea and have faith. Be willing to love your work so that you work hard. The more you visualize it and love the idea, the stronger you will become. Think about things your like, food you like, places you like, things you like, TV shows, music, movies, sports, food that you like.

Many believe that everything that happens to you is a result of what you sowed, or planted in life with your thoughts, words or actions. Some don’t want to believe it because it puts too much pressure on them. Others want to believe it because it means that they can control everything that happens in their life. What do you think? Leave a reply and let us know.

Exercise:

Imagine for five minutes that you really can control everything that happens to you by reaping what you sow. What would you sow? How would you live your life? What would you do and think about? Many of the most respected life coaches say that you really do control your life. If you believe in God, and that he has the power to control everything and that he loves you, it becomes easy to believe that you reap what you sow, and reap only what you sow. Why did the Apostle Paul emphasize this point so much? Galatians 6:7 “Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows.”

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Hope and attitude

Brad Stanton —  February 21, 2014 — 3 Comments

200 (5)Step 5: Hope and attitude. These two are very important. Most big US companies realize that attitude is one of the most important qualities in a person. People with hope and a good attitude are the ones that do a great job.

Hebrews 3:6 NIV But Christ is faithful as a son over God’s house. And we are his house, if we hold on to our courage and the hope of which we boast.

Hebrews 11:6 NIV And without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to him must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who earnestly seek him.

Attitude
Chuck Swindoll
The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life.
Attitude to me is more important than facts.
It’s more important than the past, than education, than money,
than circumstances, than failures, than successes,
than what other people think or do.
It’s more important than appearance, giftedness, or skill.
It will make or break a company, a church, a home.
The remarkable thing is we have a choice every day
regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day.
We cannot change the inevitable.
The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have,
and that is our attitude.
I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me,
and 90% how I react to it.
And so it is with you.

Persistence
Author Unknown
Nothing in the world can take the place of persistence.
Talent will not…nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent.
Genius will not…unrewarded genius is almost a proverb.
Education will not…the world is full of educated derelicts.
The slogan “Press On” has solved and always will solve the problems of the human race.

The Serenity Prayer
Reinhold Neibuhr-1926 (maybe)
God grant me
the Serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
the Courage to change the things I can,
and the Wisdom to know the difference;
Living one day at a time;
Accepting hardship as a pathway to peace;
Taking, as Jesus did, this sinful world as it is,
not as I would have it:
Trusting that you will make all things right
if I surrender to your will;
that I may be reasonably happy in this life
and supremely happy with you forever in the next.

Goals. I write about this because after studying goals I found that people who have clear, definite, written goals are the ones who are successful. A study showed that the 5% of people who graduated from Harvard with clear, definite goals were more successful than the 95% who graduated without goals.

First, pray about your goals.

Second, write them down. A goal is not a goal unless you write it down and put it somewhere you will see it often. More in two days.

My book “Keys To Powerful Prayer” is now in paperback. https://www.createspace.com/4540174 Doing the research for this book really changed my life for the better. CreateSpace is an Amazon company.

Have a happier life

Brad Stanton —  February 19, 2014 — 2 Comments

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“You will never amount to anything if you keep drawing all the time!” Walt Disney’s father told him this as a child. Guess he was wrong-his movies have been seen by most people in the world and are famous in most countries. He started his movie company as an artist.

Step 3: Step out of denial. (Continued from 2/17/2014)
One of the most important ways to change our behavior (in this case our thinking) is to realize that we need to make changes in our life. Most people deny they have problems that need to be changed and in doing this they bring problems upon themselves. That is why I write a lot about this portion of the five steps.

Denial disables our feelings. When we deny we have a problem we can’t think clearly because we can’t see the mountain that is in front of us. Denial tends to cause anxiety. We often regret the past and worry about the future. Live today. Don’t worry about the future, God will take care of that. Don’t regret the past, there is nothing we can do about it anyway. Make a clean start. Don’t let the heavy loads of anxiety hold you down.

Matthew 11:28-30 NIV
28“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. 29Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”

Philippians 4:4-7 NLT
4Always be full of joy in the Lord. I say it again–rejoice! 5Let everyone see that you are considerate in all you do. Remember, the Lord is coming soon. 6Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. 7If you do this, you will experience God’s peace, which is far more wonderful than the human mind can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.

To step out of denial we need to ask those who know us best what our problems are. This is a very difficult thing to do. Ask them to tell you in love and be gentle, not blaming or criticizing. After they tell you what your problem is, be ready to work on it and really change with the help of the Holy Spirit.

Step 4: Realize that we, by ourselves, are powerless to overcome the problem. Turn the problem over to God.
Have you heard the old saying “Let go and let God?” It really does work, but it takes time and effort to really turn a problem over to God. The Bible says that willpower is actually the Holy Spirit’s power.

In the 12 steps of Alcoholics Anonymous, the first step is to admit that we are powerless to overcome the problem. This is not just for alcoholics. In fact, this is for everyone who has any kind of bad habit, and lets face it, we all do. Everyone has habits that they would like to change. Everyone has done things they regret and feel embarrassed about. We all have skeletons in the closet. But when we admit that we can’t fix the problem in our own power and that we need help from God, that is when the Holy Spirit can come into our life and really change things.

Matthew 5:3 NIV
3“Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. 4Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.

To be poor in spirit is the opposite of being arrogant. To be poor in spirit means that we understand that we are not all powerful, only God is. He is willing to help us if we ask him. We understand that we just can’t do it by ourselves. There is plenty of evidence of that, years of failure, right?

Romans 7:18-20 NIV
18I know that nothing good lives in me, that is, in my sinful nature. For I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out. 19For what I do is not the good I want to do; no, the evil I do not want to do–this I keep on doing. 20Now if I do what I do not want to do, it is no longer I who do it, but it is sin living in me that does it.

Notice this says that nothing good lives in us. Well, of course we all have a good part and a bad part in our selves. The good often battles the bad. It is like two dogs fighting. It turns out that the side of us that we feed more will grow stronger and win the battle. How do we feed the good side? By prayer, Bible reading, doing good deeds, helping people. How do we feed the bad? By doing bad things. Once we become a Christian the bad side of us is killed. We are no longer a slave to the evil in us. Read Romans chapter six, seven and eight carefully. Memorize parts of it and it will change your life. Read those three chapters every day for 30 days and you will have a new attitude about your life. You will be transformed. I memorized all of chapter six and most of chapter seven some years ago. It was worth the time and effort.

“Champions aren’t made in gyms. Champions are made from something they have deep inside them-a desire, a dream, a vision. They have to have the skill, and the will. But the will must be stronger than the skill.” ~Muhammad Ali-world champion boxer.

Doing the research for this book really changed my life for the better. My book “Keys To Powerful Prayer” is now in paperback. https://www.createspace.com/4540174 CreateSpace is an Amazon company.

Harsh words hurt

Brad Stanton —  February 17, 2014 — 11 Comments

544248_407678335995789_1569938268_n“You will never amount to anything!”

“You are a pig!”  “Why can’t you do better in school like your sister does?”

Have you ever heard things like this from your parents, brothers and sisters or peers? It leaves painful memories that are just as difficult to live with, if not more, than physical pain.

I’ll list five steps to get rid of the pain caused by these kinds of self destructive thoughts, two steps today and the rest in the coming days.

Step 1: Learn to see yourself as God sees you. 

God loves you no matter what you look like or what bad habits you have. Seeing yourself as God sees you is not easy. But you can do it. After doing ministry for 25 years and counseling with people with all kinds of hurts during that time, I have learned that the very steps that helped me overcome these problems are the same ones that help everyone turn sorrow into happiness.

Jeremiah 31:3
The LORD appeared to us in the past, Our LORD has appeared to us from afar saying: “I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with loving-kindness.”

God loves us with an everlasting love. He loves us no matter what we do. After we become a Christian we become His child. Normal people love their children no matter what, even though we don’t always feel like we love them. God loves us no matter what. In fact, the Bible says we become one with Him. How could he not love Himself?

Step 2: Learn how to transform your mind by changing the way you think. 

Why has the Bible been the worlds number one best seller for so many years? It is a beautiful love letter from God to people, but maybe another reason is because it has power to change lives. I’ve had my life changed and listened to countless people talk about how their lives were changed through the power of God’s word. I explain how to do it in my books-see them in the right hand column. This has made a huge difference in my life. It is something I enjoy the benefits of every day, especially when facing difficulties.

Romans 12:2 (NIV)
Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is–his good, pleasing and perfect will.

Romans 12:2 (NLT)
Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you thinkThen you will know what God wants you to do, and you will know how good and pleasing and perfect his will really is.

Have you ever thought about changing the way you think? It takes time and effort, but it is worth it. Get rid of the stinking thinking (as Zig Ziglar likes to say) and replace it with optimistic thinking. Quit complaining and talking about what you don’t like, what you don’t have and talk and think about the good things you do have. Put a smile on your face, it will make you look better and it will make you feel better. If someone asks how you are doing, say “I’m doing fantastic!” Try it. You will feel better. They might ask you why you are so happy. That will give you a chance to talk about some of the good things you have learned from the Bible.

I have found a key that makes life better. Instead of always asking God for more things or better circumstances, ask Him to help you enjoy what you already have. He will! I can’t promise he will give you better circumstances, but the Bible says that we can be content in any circumstance. The Apostle Paul was content even while he was in prison! More in two days.

My book “Keys To Powerful Prayer” is now in paperback. https://www.createspace.com/4540174 CreateSpace is an Amazon company.


00Brian_TracyI enjoy listening to Brian Tracy (shown at left) because he became successful through brute determination and willingness to learn. He flunked out of high school, didn’t have good people skills, wasn’t good at anything until he decided to turn his life around by learning. He did laboring jobs until he couldn’t find another job after losing the other jobs. He began selling and didn’t start well at it. But he was willing to learn. He found one salesman sold ten times more than the others even though he sold the same product to the same people under all the same circumstances. He asked that salesman how he did it, then Brian became a millionaire. But he didn’t make it because he was born with talent. He did it like you and I will have to do it, through learning how to do it and hard work.

I took these notes from a lecture Brian gave about the secrets of self-made millionaires.

What are all the things I could do to double my income in one year. Write 20 answers to this question. For example, work harder, work smarter, go to seminars, etc. more people have become millionaires through this method of mind storming than anything else.

To accomplish a big goal in life, like to start a business, write a book that sells well, become financially independent, start a charity or any number of things, you have to be willing to become a different person. The qualities you need to succeed are those that make u better in charity, decision making, determination, strength, etc.

Skills are learnable. If you can drive a car, you can learn the skills you need to succeed. If you do these things you WILL succeed.

You are one skill away from doubling your income. You just need to find that skill.

  1. Dream big dreams. Develop a vision of yourself as happy healthy wealth y thin. Lots of time friends experience. If you could be have or do anything in life, what would it be? They have found that this is the starting point of success. Make a dream list.
  2. Do what you love to do. Find a way to make a living doing it. What did you want to do as a child?
  3. Commit to excellence. Brian Tracy was not good at anything, he failed in school, did not have good people skills, got fired often, he went from job to job. It takes 5 to 7 years to become the top in your field.
  4. Develop your unique talents and abilities. Everyone is born to do something well. In this blog I have written about people who seemed to have no abilities, but found something they were good at and succeeded.
  5. See yourself as self-employed. The top 5% of successful people see themselves as self-employed. All exceptional people are highly responsible people. You work for yourself. The most valuable people in the company are those who feel that they are working for themselves, as if they are self-employed. They are like cream they rise to the top.
  6. Develop a clear sense of direction, become intensely goal oriented. You can’t hit a target you can’t see. One of the richest self-made millionaires said there are two things you need to do to become rich. H L Hunt made $3 million a day. He was asked what the secret to success is. He said the first is to decide what you want in life, to set goals. The second is to determine the price you will have to pay to get it and be willing to do whatever it takes to reach those goals. Take a piece of paper and write ten goals. If you could accomplish only one goal, but had to accomplish it in 24 hours, what would it be? That goal is probably the one you want most. Circle that goal. Turn the paper over and write a list of things you can do to reach that goal. Do something every day to accomplish that goal. It is the secret to success in life. People become great when they do this. A man told Brian Tracy that he was broke, divorced, alcoholic, but he did this goal exercise and ten years later had earned $40 million. He said this exercise changed his life.
  7. Refuse to consider the possibility of failure. Most people quit before they start because they are afraid they can’t accomplish the goal. Everyone fails, probably 9 out of 10 things that we try, fail. It is the fear of failure that holds you back. If you learn from your mistakes you will succeed. Henry Ford said failures just teach us how to win. Winners find the lesson in the failure, they learn from their mistakes. Your biggest problem today can bring your best learning and be your biggest help.
  8. Dedicate yourself to lifelong learning. Knowledge and skill are the keys. Learning new skills are important because things change so quickly, the old things you learned.
    1. Read 30 to 60 minutes a day in your field. Read bestselling books written by successful people.
    2. Take every course that you possibly can. Take the ones taught by professionals. You will learn enough in one or two days as you would learn in years on your own. Some have learned enough from one seminar is they became millionaire.
    3. Listen to audio programs in your car. It is like taking a class at a university, or even better because you can study exactly what you want to learn.
  9. Be a workaholic. You really have to work hard. My note, learn to love your work, really enjoy it. Every hour you work over 40 hours brings you closer to your goal. The average self-made millionaire works 59 hours a week, also the average top executive also works 59 hours a week. When you work, really work, don’t waste time. The average person might only work fifty percent of the time at work because they come in a little late, leave early, take long lunch, talk to others, etc.
  10. Get around the right people. As much as 99% of your success in life is who you spend time with. Do you spend time with successful people? We absorb the opinions of the people we associate with. Bad relationships drag you down. One negative coworker can drag down the whole office.
  11. Be prepared to climb from peak to peak. You won’t be up all the time, you will be down part of the time. Life is two steps forward and one step back. Realize you won’t win all the time
  12. Develop resilience and bounce back. You will be knocked down many times, be ready to bounce back.
  13. Become an unshakable optimist. Think and talk about what you want most of the time. Look for the good in every situation. 3 qualities: a. they learn more things, b. try more things, c. they persist – they never give up.
  14. Develop the qualities of courage and persistence. Two types are needed to succeed. First the courage to begin. Secondly the courage to persist. No matter what happens you will never give up.
  15. Quality of self-discipline. Be able to make yourself do what you should do when you should do it.

You can watch the 46 minute speech by Brian Tracy at http://youtu.be/la6S-2bvme0

Love diverts disaster

Brad Stanton —  February 11, 2014 — 1 Comment

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Mrs. Thompson had seen Teddy in the halls for several years before he became a fifth grader. She was not looking forward to having him in her class. She had a rather large class and dozens of papers to grade every day. The last thing she needed was another under achiever who needed extra help and rewarded her diligence with bad behavior. He didn’t try very hard and often showed up to class looking messy, hair uncombed and clothes not clean

But the school year began and she tried to make the best of it and give Teddy a fair chance before judging him too harshly.

Then came Christmas. All the students got Mrs. Thompson gifts wrapped in colorful wrapping paper with beautiful bows and ribbons. But when it came time for Teddy to give Mrs. Thompson her gift he carried forward a small package wrapped in paper from a brown paper grocery bag. She opened it and inside were a bracelet with some of the rhinestones missing and a bottle of cheap perfume than was more than half empty. Some of the children began to snicker and laugh. But she was smart enough to act delighted and put on some of the perfume.

Later Teddy came up and stood near her and said very quietly, Mrs. Thompson, you look just as beautiful as my mother when you wear that bracelet. And you smell just like her when you wear that perfume. He looked at her with admiration in his eyes.

She began thinking about Teddy after class that day. She realized that he had always been kind to her, even when some of the other students had not. She decided to look at his files and see what his previous teachers had written about him.

1st grade: Teddy shows promise but has very poor home situation

2nd grade: Teddy could do better but mother is seriously ill.

3rd grade: Teddy is a good boy but distracted, his mother died this year.

4th grade: Teddy shows no interest in school work and is not doing well. He has become very quiet and withdrawn, his father seems to show no interest in him.

Mrs. Thompson wiped away tears from her eyes. The next morning the students had a new teacher. She took off her eyes of judgment and put on eyes of love. She understood why Teddy was so distracted and apathetic.

Mrs. Thompson decided to make Teddy her special project. She gave him extra time and tutoring and found he was grateful for it, whereas when she had done this with other students they resented the extra work they were asked to do.

He finished elementary school and she didn’t see him again for a long time. But she got a letter from him telling her that he had graduated from high school second in his class. Later she got another letter saying that he had graduated from college first in his class. Then some years later she got another letter from Teddy saying he had graduated from medical school and was now a doctor. Not only that, he was getting married and wondered if she would be willing to sit where his mother would have sat in the wedding.

As she finished reading the letter she realized that the extra love and attention she had showed Teddy steered him away from a life of failure. She had quit judging him and realized that he had potential, but no one else was willing to help him.
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They achieved their dreams

Brad Stanton —  February 7, 2014 — 9 Comments

fdasdfasdfFred Couples, pictured at left, and Jim Mans both studied at the University of Houston. Every Saturday for three years they would get together to play act out their dreams and goals in life. Fred Couples pretended he had won the Masters Golf Tournament and Jim Mans pretended he was a famous reporter, interviewing him.

Seven years later Fred Couples won the Masters Tournament. After finishing the course, he walked into Butler cabin and saw Jim Mans sitting there, waiting to interview him. By this time Mans was a famous reporter. Their eyes met, and they both began to weep. They were overwhelmed by the joy of achieving their dreams together.

Couples and Mann both understood the importance visualizing success. This technique was used by East Germany to achieve the distinction of having more gold medal Olympic athletes per capita than any other country. Each athlete would visualize himself going through his routine perfectly. Afterward, he would visualize himself standing on the gold medal platform.

It is best to visualize first thing in the morning after waking and last thing at night before sleeping because the brain is in the alpha state and more receptive to the power of visualization.

Jack Canfield made a fake $1 million dollar bill and attached it to his ceiling so that it was the first thing he saw every morning. When he awoke, he would look at the bill and visualize the lifestyle it would bring him and feel the emotions of achieving his goal. That was one thing that helped him maintain faith that he could achieve his goals. Later he ending up selling over 150 million books and achieved his goal of making lots of money.

What would you do if you had one million dollars? You could help lots of people, pay off your house, send your kids to college, feed the hungry and much more. Is it wrong to want to be financially secure? Leave a reply.


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Tom Smith floated in the Caribbean water and let his mind wander to the incredible journey his life had brought him through. Seven years ago he was broke, depressed, divorced and wishing he could die. He had lost his job and his wife. He felt he had nothing to live for. But now he was having the time of his life, and it all came about from one chance meeting with an old friend.

He met Oscar Lancaster in a bar as he was trying to drink away his problems. “Hey Oscar, what up?” Tom had said as he saw Oscar sit down at the bar.

Oscar’s face lit up as he shook Tom’s hand. They began talking about old times. Soon Tom was pouring out his heart to Oscar about how bad his life was.

“Come with me to a positive thinking seminar tomorrow night, Tom,” Oscar said. “I know you will love it, it’s just what you need.”

It sounded boring, but Tom had plenty of time and very little money, and since the seminar was free, he agreed to go with Oscar. What he heard that night rocked his world. He had never thought about some of the ideas the speaker presented, and they made sense.

The presenter asked the question “What would you do if you knew you could not fail?” He mentioned taking inventory of your life and deciding what you do well. He said it is important to set goals and to believe you can reach your goals. He gave a motivational speech about learning how to enjoy your work so that you can work faster, harder and with less effort. Most importantly he said, “never, never, never give up,” a quote from Winston Churchill.

Tom felt the warm water gently rocking him as he floated along, and he thought about how he had learned to go with the flow of the stream of love and wellbeing that flowed through the universe. He had gone against the flow so often in his past, without knowing that he was doing it. It made life so much more difficult.

At the seminar he learned about Dani Johnson, who went from being homeless and living in her car, to millionaire in less than two years. She had flown to Hawaii and was working as a cocktail waitress, but she was $35,000 in debt and didn’t have enough money for a hotel. She had only a few dollars in change but begin selling weight loss products.

Also there was the story of Paul Orfalea who was born with very few advantages. He had learning problems in school and ADD. Not a great way to start life. He was labeled a failure at an early age. But like many other people who have achieved great things in life, he found confidence and was able to work his way out of a life of mediocrity. Now he gives millions of dollars to charities and schools and helps many people.

Stephen J. Cannell failed the first grade, he also failed the fourth and tenth grades. He realized that he was not a good student when he spent five hours with his mother studying for a test and then failed it. It didn’t help at all that his friend got an A on the test without studying. But he had a good imagination and found he could write stories well. He eventually wrote over 350 scripts for 38 different TV shows and had 2000 people working for him.

After that fateful seminar, Tom asked Oscar for a book to read that might help him make money because he was unable to pay his bills. Oscar emailed him a copy of “The Laws of Success” by Napoleon Hill. He had found it free on the internet.

At first Tom was very disappointed in the book, because there was no definite advice about any certain stock to buy or company to start. But the more he read, the more he realized that every idea in the book was a powerful concept that he could use to be successful in not only making money, but in relationships, career, losing weight, sports and just about anything else.

Tom read a blog that discussed topics similar to “The Laws of Success.” They were a little more modern-day than the book, but he realized the basic concepts were the same.

Tom decided to start a small company tutoring students. He bought a book on networking to learn how to get the word out about his company cheaply. He found a few friends who were willing to invest a few hundred dollars each on advertising for the new company. Soon he had more students than he had time to tutor, so he hired teachers to help him part time.

Tom used the Mastermind principle from “The Laws of Success” to put together a group of people who wanted to make money. They came up with some great ideas, and as they worked together, they made a pretty comfortable living. Tom wasn’t a millionaire, but he was happier than he had ever been. The positive thinking ideas turned him from a pessimist to an optimist. He was able to find the good in everything instead of getting discouraged about the bad things he constantly read and heard about in the news. He learned to really enjoy life, to enjoy the little things.

Tom floated for a few more minutes and then went back to the shore where his girlfriend was waiting for him with her winsome smile. Yes, life was good, really good.

I don’t often take the 1000 word challenge, but this time I thought I would and it has been fun. For those of you that don’t know about it, click the link below. The WordPress people explain what the challenge is. You don’t have to write exactly 1000 words, but just for fun I decided to write EXACTLY 1000 words, so I have got to stop here.

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Do you have what it takes?

Brad Stanton —  January 29, 2014 — 1 Comment

Paul Orfalea

Paul Orfalea

You think you lack talent? Take a look at a lot of the super high achievers who have much less talent than you. God has put in you everything you need to achieve all he has in store for you.

It is not a coincidence that you are reading this blog post. Many people have prayed that the right people will be drawn to this information and I pray often that it will help you enormously.

Paul Orfalea was born in Los Angles of parents who were Syrian Orthodox Christian. He had learning problems in school and ADD. Not a great way to start life. He was labeled a failure at an early age. But like many other people who have achieved great things in life, he found confidence and was able to work his way out of a life of mediocrity. Now he gives millions of dollars to charities and schools and helps many people.

Here are some excerpts from Wikipedia about him:

According to Orfalea, he was a woodshop major in high school, and his typical report card was “two C’s, three D’s, and an F.” Due to his dyslexia and attention deficit hyperactivity disorder, Orfalea reportedly flunked two grades and was expelled from several schools. He later attended the University of Southern California. Despite being fired from a number of jobs, his family supported him in his determination to launch his own business. In later life he remarked on the subject of his handicaps, “I get bored easily, and that is a great motivator, I think everybody should have dyslexia and ADD.”

Orfalea decided to start up his own business while he was attending USC. With a $5,000 bank loan co-signed by his parents, Orfalea founded Kinko’s in 1970. His first store was a 100 square foot space adjacent to a hamburger stand in the Isla Vista neighborhood of Santa Barbara, California, rented for $100 a month. Orfalea began selling notebooks, pens, pencils, and the services of a copying machine at 4 cents per copy. Within ten years, Kinko’s grew to a network of over 80 stores across the country.

Kinko’s spread across the United States and internationally, and ultimately to more than 1,200 locations and 23,000 employees in 10 different countries. Orfalea put a high value on employee satisfaction, and Fortune Magazine named Kinko’s one of the best places in America to work for three years in a row. Kinko’s was acquired by Federal Express in 2004, with Orfalea no longer involved in the company’s business management. The company presently does business under the name FedEx Office.


w clement stoneNot many people can bench press 500 lbs. Today there is a man that can bench press slightly over 1000 pounds. One hundred years ago the best bench press in the world was about 360 lbs. If you told a person in the year 1900 that somebody would be able to bench press a thousand pounds a hundred years later they probably would not believe you. It’s the same way with prayer. Not many people believe that God really does answer prayer in miraculous ways, but on the other hand, over 90% of Americans believe in the power of prayer. Some people have seen miraculous answers to prayer. I’ve heard of many miraculous answers to prayer. A friend of mine told me that not once but twice his back was immediately healed through prayer.

A missionary lady that I worked with told me that one time she was sitting in church and the pastor suddenly felt God was telling him to pray for people. He asked anyone who needed prayer to come forward. She went forward and he prayed for her and her health problem was healed.

For a long time most people did not believe that anyone could run the mile in less than four minutes. But somebody believed that he could do it. His belief was so strong that he was willing to run almost every day to prepare to break the four minute mile. He did not just get up one day after not running for years and say “Hey I think I’ll try to break the four minute mile.” It was faith, belief that he could do it that gave him the strength to run every day. He probably saw small results week by week but he knew that after enough weeks the small results would add up to something big. He believed he could do it and so he took action and finally he was able to do it. Now many people can run a mile in less than four minutes. They know they have to run often and work hard in order to do it, but because they have seen examples of other people run a mile in less than four minutes, they know it’s possible and they do it.

Many things are like this. For many years no one thought it was possible to climb to the top of Mount Everest. Then someone did it and now many people do it every year because they have faith that it can be done. They have faith they can do it because they have seen other people do it. Without that faith, they wouldn’t even try it.

Dr. Karl Menninger said, “Attitudes are more important than facts.” That is worth repeating until its truth grips you.


waltonIf you want to get from where you are to where you want to be, of course you’re going to have to take  risk. So make the decision to stop complaining, to stop spending time with complainers, and get on with creating the life of your dreams.” Jack Canfield, author and success coach

All blame is a waste of time. No matter how much fault you find with another and regardless of how much you blame him, it will not change you.” Wayne Dyer Coauther of “How to Get What You Really Really really Really Want.”

You can be successful at losing weight, relationships, career, etc. Here is a tip for it:

Take 100% responsibility for your life.

W. Clement Stone was from a very poor family but he had a knack for selling insurance and became incredibly rich. He wrote books and magazines and is considered one of the best life coaches in the last two hundred years. One thing that he felt was very important for achieving success was the attitude of taking responsibility–100% responsibility for your life.

He trained many people who became fabulously successful in many different endeavors. Jack Canfield, who sold over 150 million books, was trained by Stone. From the very beginning of the training, Stone emphasized taking responsibility for your life.

If you believe in God and you are a Christian you know that God is a loving, heavenly father. If you don’t believe in God you may believe that the universe is somewhat the same. But stop and think about it, if God is a loving father and he is in control of everything, and I do mean everything, he can control everything that happens to you.

Many people who believe in the Law of Attraction (which means you attract into your life what you think about, or put it another way, you reap what you sow) believe that anything that comes into your life does so because you attracted it. The paycheck, the kids, the spouse, the car wreck, the divorce, everything. Many people don’t want to believe that they attracted a car wreck, especially if the other person was at fault.

The upside of this is that since you attracted everything into your life, you can get rid of anything you don’t want. It may take years to develop that kind of faith. But I have talked to, and read about countless people who have been healed of all sorts of illnesses that doctors could not cure and overcome difficulties that amazed me.

I have a friend whose brother was a firefighter. He was arrogant and was heading the wrong direction in life. He was a bodybuilder who enjoyed picking on people so that he could start fights and beat people up. Then one day as he fought a fire a lady drove through thick smoke and pinned him to a fire truck with her car, crushing his legs. He lost his legs and said that it was the worst day of his life and also the best day of his life because he turned his life around, became a Christian and quit his self-destructive ways.

So did he somehow bring that accident into his life? Some believe that he did. He certainly had a reckless, cavalier attitude about life before it happened. Maybe if he had been more careful he could have avoided it.

The point is, if you want to be successful at anything, relationships, career, weight loss, making money, etc. you have to take responsibility and quit blaming circumstances or other people. W. Clement Stone felt this was one of the most important attitudes to overcome obstacles and reach success.

Stone asked Canfield if he took 100% responsibility for his life. Canfield said he thought he did.

This is a yes or no question, young man. You either do or you don’t.” Stone said.

“Well, I guess I’m not sure.”

“Have you ever blamed anyone for any circumstance in your life? Have you every complained about anything?”

“Uh…yeah…I guess I have.”

“Don’t guess. Think.”

“Yes, I have.” said Canfield.

‘OK, then. That means you don’t take one hundred percent responsibility for your life. Taking one hundred percent responsibility means you acknowledge that you create everything that happens to you. It means you understand that you are the cause of all of your experience. If you want to be really successful, and I know you do, then you will have to give up blaming and complaining and take total responsibility for your life—that means all your results, both your successes and our failures. That is the prerequisite for creating a life of success. It is only by acknowledging that you have created everything up until now that you can take charge of creating the future you want.” From The Success Principles, by Jack Canfield, chapter one.

You are a victor not a victim. You are a winner, not a loser. You are a conqueror and can conquer any difficulty in life. That is a promise if you are a Christian.  Romans 8:37 “In all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us.”

To be more successful, act in ways that bring success. It really is that simple, but difficult to do sometimes.

Confess it (say it out loud).

Imagine it at least 7 minutes a day (this gets easier the more you do it, and becomes very enjoyable).

Believe it.

Do it.

Confidence is key

Brad Stanton —  January 6, 2014 — 4 Comments

7232b51d1e780b1845a7bba362702254_mOnce there was a middle school boy who desperately wanted to become a professional basketball player. He was tall, and his huge feet indicated he would grow even taller. However, he was so big that it was difficult for him to get up and down the basketball court. His huge, heavy feet were often a disadvantage because they were just too big. But he was a good basketball player.

His coach had seen many students throughout the years who wanted to play pro ball. He knew that only a tiny fraction of them would ever make it to the pros. He knew that students that age needed a plan B, not just a plan A of playing pro ball, so he tried his best to instill other dreams in the kids.

The coach realized he needed to talk to the big boy who was so intent on becoming a pro basketball player, even though he was built more for football. He didn’t want to discourage the boy, but he knew how difficult it had been for other students who put all their eggs in one basket and didn’t have a plan B.

Finally after watching the boy slow down during the game because he was too heavy to continue to run up and down the court, the coach took him aside and put his arm around the boy and said “Shaq, maybe you need a plan B.” The boy’s name was Shaquille O’Neal, but he went by Shaq.

In high school Shaq sometimes became discouraged about his goal to play pro ball. Then he met a college coach who understood that he needed encouragement. The coach realized he needed something to overcome his difficulty getting up and down the court. On a piece of paper he wrote out some exercises that would give Shaq more stamina. He gave him a pep talk, telling him that he really did have potential and that if he worked hard enough he might make it to the pros.

Coach Brown of LSU (shown above) was a gifted motivator and encourager. His words had a profound influence on Shaq, who later became a pretty good basketball player.

Who can you encourage? There are many people out there who rarely hear an encouraging word. One of my goals in life is to help street kids. Some of them have been abandoned by their parents, and that is definately not good for the self image. They not only need food, shelter and clothing, they also need encouragement and an education. More about street kids here http://wp.me/p2rHBL-1SB

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Motivational quotes

Brad Stanton —  December 2, 2013 — 7 Comments

Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out. Robert Collier

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For every failure, there’s an alternative course of action. You just have to find it. When you come to a roadblock, take a detour. Mary Kay Ash, founder Mary Kay Cosmetics
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Difficulties are opportunities to better thinking; they are stepping-stone to greater experience. When one door closes, another always opens; as a natural law it has to, to balance. Brian Adams

It’s always too soon to quit! Norman Vincent Peale

Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent. Calvin Coolidge

the slogan “press on” has solved and always will solve the problems of the human race. Calvin Coolidge

Never give up on your hopes and dreams. Many People

Fall down seven times, get up eight times. Japanese Proverb

Don’t give up too soon. Your dreams are your real job. Joyce Spizer, author

Most people give up just when they’re about to achieve success. Ross Perot, self made billionaire

History has demonstrated that the most notable winners usually met heartbreaking obstacles before they triumphed. Forbes, founder Forbes magazine

They won because they refused to become discouraged by their defeats. Forbes

He who stops being better stops being good. Oliver Cromwell

Humans were given a left foot & right foot to make a mistake first to the left, then right, left again, repeat. Buckminster Fuller

Feedback is the breakfast of champions. One Minute Manager

It is impossible to sell animal stories in the USA. from rejection slip for Orwell’s Animal Farm.

I take rejection as someone blowing a bugle in my ear to wake me up and get going, rather than retreat. Sylvester Stallone

Never give up on your dream. Perseverance is all important. Tawni O’dell, Author

If you don’t have the desire and the belief in yourself to keep trying after you’ve been told you should quit, you’ll never make it. Tawni O’Dell author

You’ve got to ask. Asking is the world’s most powerful  and neglected secret to success and happiness. Percy Ross self made millionaire


The Jewish, Muslim and Christian religion all speak of Moses, who led people out of slavery in Egypt.

“Believe and act as if it were impossible to fail.” Charles Kettering, inventor with over 140 patents

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More than three thousand years ago several million people were released from slavery and they traveled to a land that was promised to them. But because they had “grasshopper mentalities” (we are not tough enough or good enough,, we are like grasshoppers compared to them) they didn’t have the confidence to fight for the land God promisied them and instead wandered aimlessly in the desert, living a very austere life. Abundance and wealth was just beyond their grasp. They could have had it if they had faith enough to fight for it, as was proved forty years later when they fought for and won the land.

Most people believe they are not extraordinary and they will never do anything special with their life. They don’t want to get their hopes up because they have been disappointed so many times in the past. They don’t aim for any goals in life because they are afraid of failure. It has often been said “If you don’t aim for anything, you will probably get it.”

It has been said that if you ask a person in any store why they are there, they will have a good answer, they came to buy something or just came to look around. But if you ask a person why they are here in life and what their goals and dreams are, they will probably not be able to answer the question. In fact some say 8 out of 10 people don’t really have an answer to that question.

A young man was told by his parents and teachers that he wasn’t very smart. He didn’t do well in school and after leaving high school he applied for a job at a large company near his home. The company always gave IQ tests to everyone who applied and they found that he had an extremely high IQ. They put him in a position that required a lot of thinking and planning. He did extremely well, in fact he invented a couple of new things and was awarded patents. What was the difference? He suddenly had hope and faith that he could do well at his job. He was treated with respect and it caused him to respect himself.

However, it is certainly true that many people who don’t have much talent do incredible things in life. Many of the most successful businessmen, world leaders, inventors, athletes, rock stars, etc. do not have high IQ’s. It is not necessary for success in life, by any definition of success. But it seems that hope is necessary and so is faith, or confidence, whatever you want to call it.

A grasshopper mentality is the death of dreams and goals, and usually prevents people from having big dreams and plans for the future. The way to overcome it is to read/listen to positive instead of negative, every day.

“You are more than conquerors (winners) through him who loved us.” Romans 8:37


Stephen J. Cannell

Stephen J. Cannell

So maybe you feel that you aren’t very smart. Can you still achieve great things in life? Absolutely, yes!

The number one problem that keeps people from winning in the United States today is lack of belief in themselves.” ~Arthur L. Williams, founder of a $90 million insurance company.

Stephen J. Cannell failed the first grade, he also failed the fourth and tenth grades. He realized that he was not a good student when he spent five hours with his mother studying for a test and then failed it. It didn’t help at all that his friend got an A on the test without studying.

He was crushed, but he decided to put that out of his mind. “I simply refused to think about it. Instead I focused my energies on what I was good at, and that was football. If it hadn’t been for football, which I excelled at, I don’t know what would have happened to me. I got my self-esteem from playing sports.”

“He had a good imagination, so he began writing. Eventually he formed his own production studio, where he created, produced, and wrote over 350 scripts for 38 different shows, including The A-Team, The Rockford Files, Baretta, 21 Jump Street, The Commmish, Renegade and Silk Stalkings. At the height of his studio career, he had over 2,000 people on his payroll.” From The Success Principals by Jack Canfield, chapter 5.

Many of the most creative people were not good students in school. Many of the best musicians, athletes and writers were not top students. In fact, Ian Flemming, who wrote the hugely successful James Bond novels that were later made into movies, was not a good student, and drifted through many jobs due to lack of success in them before he began to write.

All you have to do is find what you are good at. It takes a positive attitude and persistence. That is what this blog is all about.


English: Downtown Long Beach, California at ni...

Long Beach, Ca

Some people “play hard to get” when another person is romantically interested in them. I have seen this ruin more relationships than anything else in the world. Men and women both do this. Nowadays it is considered completely inappropriate as I will discuss later in this post.  Please leave a comment on this controversial issue.

When I lived in Long Beach, California a young man and his girlfriend met in a cozy little café by the ocean. They had been dating for some time, but the girl decided it was time to play hard to get. She insisted that she was breaking up with him, when actually she wanted to marry him. After a long, heated discussion, he went out to his car, took a gun out of the glove box and shot himself dead. She was interviewed while she was crying hysterically on the sidewalk near the car. All she could say was “I loved him so much.”

I was rather close to a family who had a teenage son. His girlfriend broke up with him, apparently playing hard to get, and invited another guy to a party she knew her ex-boyfriend was going to. She flirted all evening with the new boy toy, making sure the boy she loved saw it, just to peak his interest in her and to make her more attractive to him. He went home and killed himself. Of course his family was devastated, apparently the girlfriend was too.

Most people don’t kill themselves when the person they like or love plays hard to get. But most feel terribly sad about it. The more a man/woman respects and admires another person, the more likely he/she is to quit dating when other plays hard to get. This is because if he thinks she is totally wonderful, he feels he doesn’t really have a chance for her anyway.

If a person does stick with a partner through this torture, it means he/she is very confident or knows all about mind games, or she doesn’t really think the partner is all that special anyway and keeps trying because it is not all that painful to do so.

Honesty is a very important aspect of good relationships. People who enjoy inflicting pain on their partner for their own gain will probably also be the type to punish their spouse severely for anything he/she considers less than proper treatment.

Many large companies tell their employees every year that they can only ask a coworker out twice, any more than that is considered completely inappropriate and can be considered sexual harassment.  After this training, many people don’t ask a person out more than twice, even if he doesn’t work at the same company, so if one is playing hard to get, the relationship ends dead in its tracks.

Most men I know respect a woman for asking him out before he asks her out. Ladies, you have been set free, you can choose the man you want, in the old days it wasn’t this way. When a woman chooses to take the subservient role and plays hard to get it is very confusing to men and I notice most men bail out these days because they expect equality.

Leave a comment, feel free to disagree with this post!