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1228Billionaire Steve Jobs was adopted into a working class family; grew up in apricot orchards that would later become Silicon Valley. Dropped out of Reed College because he couldn’t pay the tuition; co-founded Apple in his parents’ garage in 1976. Ousted from the iconic brand in 1985 after power struggle with chief John Scully. Returned to Apple in 1996, creating iPod sensation. In interim, started Pixar animation, creator of hits like Toy Story and Finding Nemo, that was later sold to Disney. Jobs was on Disney’s board and is its largest shareholder. –Forbes online

Phyllis Diller was an American actress and comedienne. She created a stage persona of a wild-haired and eccentrically dressed housewife who made self-deprecating jokes about her age and appearance, her terrible cooking, and a husband named “Fang”, while pretending to smoke from a long cigarette holder. ~ Wikipedia

Diller competed with many beautiful women for the top spot in humor and many say she took it. She took what she seemed to think was her liability and turned it into an asset—her appearance.

The movie Rocky, was written by Sylvester Stallone. Complications his mother suffered during labor forced her obstetricians to use two pairs of forceps during his birth; misuse of these accidentally severed a nerve and caused paralysis in parts of Stallone’s face. As a result, the lower left side of his face is paralyzed – including parts of his lip, tongue, and chin – an accident which has given Stallone his snarling look and slightly slurred speech. ~ Wikipedia

Many would feel that if he had a mouth that was crooked, acting was not for him, but Stallone didn’t let it deter him. Actually, many think his mouth adds character.

Billionaire Ralph Lauren was the son of Russian immigrants and was born and raised in the Bronx where he shared a bedroom with two of his brothers. By age 12, worked after school to help pay for his fancy taste in clothes. At one time worked in department stores. Eventually dropped out of City College to launch Polo Fashions with a $50,000 loan. ~Forbes online

Seeds of greatness

Brad Stanton —  March 15, 2013 — 1 Comment

163917_16 - CopyYou have seeds of greatness inside you that enable you to achieve the goals and dreams in your life. When you plant a seed, you probably water it often, weed it, and put fertilizer on it. The more you cultivate it, the better the harvest will be. In the same way, your seeds of greatness need cultivation to grow and cause you to be extraordinary.

Your goals may be a happier marriage, a promotion at work, to get out of debt, or better health. These are all possible goals and dreams.

Some ways to cultivate your seeds of greatness are to think positive thoughts instead of negative. Set goals and believe that you can achieve them. Be persistent, diligent and enjoy working for the dreams and goals in your life. The more you enjoy working toward the goals, the better you will work. You will end up working smarter instead of harder. Thomas Edison said he never worked a day in his life because he enjoyed it so much it was fun, not work.

Faith, belief, optimism are powerful forces that help you achieve the extraordinary. Most people don’t even think about becoming extraordinary. They don’t believe they can do it, so they don’t even try.

Affirmations are one way many people achieve success. The famous story of the Little Engine that Could is an example. The little engine was faced with a task that seemed impossible, but he repeated “I think I can, I think I can” over and over until he mustered the gumption to pull a heavy load. He accomplished the task and all the other engines cheered.

If you are a Christian, there are plenty of powerful affirmations you can use. One of them is “I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength.” Phil 4:10

The problem is, accomplishing big things takes lots of time, sometimes years. It is easy to get discouraged along the way and give up. But you have never failed until you quit. The old saying really is true: winners never quit and quitters never win.  http://bradstanton.com/2013/03/09/amazing-coincidences/


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Matthew 17:20

He replied, “Because you have so little faith. Truly I tell you, if you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can say to this mountain, ‘Move from here to there,’ and it will move. Nothing will be impossible for you.”
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It really is true, if you have faith, nothing is impossible for you, you can do anything! If you don’t believe this, then it is not for you. Only those who believe it have faith.
There are many things you can do to build stronger failth.
1. repeat affirmations (verses) on faith http://bradstanton.com/2012/08/15/faith-bible-verses
2. thank God for what you pray for, don’t beg for it, thank for it
3. imagine your prayer answered, this builds strong faith
4. hold on, it sometimes takes a long time
5. enjoy your life while you are waiting.
6. it took the apostles three years studyiing with Jesus full time, don’t expect powerful faith in just a month or two.

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A woman walked out to her front yard every day and said out loud “Thank you God for the new day.” Her next door neighbor didn’t believe in God and told her so often. He teased her for praying to an imaginary God.

One day she was very low on money so she went out and prayed “God, please send me food to eat.”

Her next door neighbor heard her say this, so he decided to play a trick on her. He went to the store and bought two bags of groceries and put them on her front porch before she came out to pray. When she came out she saw the groceries and shouted “Thank you God, for the food.”

Her neighbor said, “Ha, I was the one that put the groceries on your porch, God had nothing to do with it!”

She turned her face to the sky and shouted “Thanks for the food, God and thanks that you made the devil pay for it!”

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Well, that is a joke, but I have heard of people praying for food and getting it a number of times.

Once in Asia a woman was working on a new concept for water purification system. She perfected it for more than a year and patented it. She wanted to market it but she didn’t have the money.

She went to banks and asked for a loan. The economy was down, so the banks turned her down. She kept trying, and went to more banks. Finally she went to a bank and made her pitch to the banker. He really liked the idea but he was hesitant to loan her the money because of the bad economy. Finally, after she tried to persuade him, he said jokingly “OK, if the stock market goes up tomorrow I will give you the loan.”

The stock market had been down for over a year. But she went home and prayed that the stock market would go up.

The next day the stock market went up a lot. So the banker gave her the loan. She marketed the concept very well, and now she is one of the richest women in Asia. She gives large sums of money to help people and various ministries.

Was it a coincidence that the stock market went up the day after she prayed? I don’t know, but I do know that prayer makes amazing coincidences happen.

The problem is that most people don’t pray the way Jesus taught his disciples to pray, the way all the powerful prophets of the Old Testament. When the disciples saw a lame man they said “In Jesus name, get up and walk!” They did not say, “Oh God, if it is your will would you heal this man?”

Most people don’t get their prayers answered because they pray wimpy prayers. see more at a previous post http://wp.me/p2rHBL-WT


644049_505547829486539_1221714831_nThis idea I am writing totally changed my life for the better. I am much more optimistic and happier now that I understand faith. A couple of years ago I didn’t fully believe in prayer. I had prayed many prayers that didn’t get answered and I didn’t know why they didn’t, so I began to lose faith in prayer.

The Apostles spent 24 hours a day, 7 days a week with the best teacher ever, Jesus Christ. After three years they still didn’t understand prayer very well, and had several false starts trying to get answers to prayer. If it took them that long, don’t expect to have powerful prayer faith over night! It takes a lot of time to build your faith.

Then I wrote a book on prayer and spent several hours a day studying faith and prayer for a year and still study the idea of faith almost every day. It really changed my life for the better. Now i realize that most people don’t pray the way the Bible teaches us to pray. For example, In Exodus 14:15, Moses was trapped between the Egyptian army and the Red Sea, crying out to God for help. God told him to quit praying and take action:

15 Then the Lord said to Moses,“Why are you crying out to me? Tell the Israelites to move on. 16 Raise your staff and stretch out your hand over the sea to divide the water so that the Israelites can go through the sea on dry ground.” Exodus 14:15

God told him to stop praying and do something, because God had already given him the power he needed.

In Acts 3:6 we see that the apostles didn’t stand around praying for a lame man, they spoke to him, not to God, and said “In the name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth, walk.”

In Matthew 17:22 Jesus told his followers to actually speak to a mountain (mountain could mean problem), instead of praying. He said 20 “I tell you the truth, if you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can say to this mountain, ‘Move from here to there’ and it will move. Nothing will be impossible for you.” No need to waste time praying to God over and over again, I found I only needed to pray once, after that I needed to thank God for his answer to the prayer (Col 4:2; Phil 4:6), and speak to the problem. For example “In Jesus name, I am healthy!” That was to get healed. If you think about it, if you have faith, why would you keep asking for it? If I go to a restaurant and ask the waitress for water, I don’t ask her again for it unless I believe she is not going to bring it to me.

I found the reason many of my prayers did not get answered is because I was praying sissy prayers, I wasn’t speaking to the problem, I was talking to God about it and he had set a precedent way back in the time of Moses. No wonder all the great people of God used props the way Moses did when they performed miracles. Elisha used his jacket to strike water and it separated, he threw some flour in a pot of poison to make it safe.

In James 5 the Bible tells us that Elijah was a man just like us, he was not some superman that we can never be like, he was an ordinary human being that had faith, so that God used him. James 5 says that our prayers can be just as powerful as Elijah’s.

I find I have many more answers to prayers when I speak out to the problem like Jesus commanded us to do, and like the OT people did, and the NT people did also. The prayers taught to us in church are NOT Biblical prayers, they are taught to us by people who don’t know how to pray—no wonder we don’t get good results!

So I set about to increase my faith. I began to memorize Bible verses about faith. I said them every day. I read about modern day and Biblical Christians who had powerful prayers to find out how they had such faith and just to increase my faith. I used the FAITH steps http://bradstanton.com/2012/08/15/faith-bible-verses/  to have stronger faith. As time went on, I was amazed how many of my prayers were answered. I am not saying all my prayers are answered, I don’t have that kind of faith yet, but I am growing in faith every day.

Something that really amazed me was that many scientists proved scientifically that faith is powerful and truly changes things. A psychologist and pharmacist named Emil Coue used faith to cure his patients. He told them to believe they were getting better and they did get better! He told his patients to say “Every way and every day I’m getting better and better.”

Coue had results much better than other psychologists because he gave people hope and faith.

It is amazing to me how many scientists and business people understand faith and do amazing things because of it.

Matthew 7:7“Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. 8 For everyone who asks receives; the one who seeks finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened.

Matthew 8:13Then Jesus said to the centurion, “Go! Let it be done just as you believed it would.” And his servant was healed at that moment.

Matthew 9:22Jesus turned and saw her. “Take heart, daughter,” he said, “your faith has healed you.” And the woman was healed at that moment.

Matthew 9:29 Then he touched their eyes and said, “According to your faith let it be done to you”; 30 and their sight was restored.

Matthew 15:28 Then Jesus said to her, “Woman, you have great faith! Your request is granted.” And her daughter was healed at that moment.

Matthew 17:20 Truly I tell you, if you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can say to this mountain, ‘Move from here to there,’ and it will move. Nothing will be impossible for you.”


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People that consistently do more than the minimum at work, have a good attitude and keep gaining skills in their area and other areas are the kind of person companies want to promote.

Once a man was asked to do his work and also help another group. He resented this and complained to his boss, and finally talked his boss into letting him avoid the extra work. Later another employee did his own job and also helped the other group. It took extra time to learn how to do their job, but he did it. Then the time came for the boss to retire. The VP in charge was looking for someone who could do both jobs to promote to manager. Guess who he picked? You bet. He picked the man who was willing to go the extra mile.

Many years ago a very rich Jewish man was looking for a wife. He came from the wealthiest, most prominent family in the land. He was getting up in the years and still not married. But he wanted a very special wife. He wanted a woman who did more than the minimum, who went the extra mile.

A servant was sent in a caravan of camels to find a wife. The caravan traveled a long way and finally stopped at a well. A beautiful woman was there, getting water. The social customs of the day mandated that she offer the visitors something to drink. So she did. But she went far beyond the minimum. She looked at the camels, probably about ten of them, and asked if she could water them as well. She knew that a camel could easily drink 30 gallons of water after a long walk, and ten camels could drink 300 gallons. That is a lot of exhausting work, pulling a bucket out of a well over and over, possibly 300 times. But she did it.

The servant brought her back home to marry his master. The woman, Rebecca, married into one of the most famous and important families in the history of the world, her husband was Isaac, son of Abraham, the father of the Jewish race. If she had done the minimum, she would not have been chosen.

Zig Ziglar said that most people quit looking for work as soon as they find the job. I find it  true, most people don’t keep looking for work to do after they finish their tasks. But those that do learn important skills that make them more valuable. People who go the extra mile are rare, but like rare gems, they are extremely precious


Emile Coue was a French psychologist and pharmacist who is famous for introducing the idea of optimistic autosuggestion. In other words you can change your life for the better by believing and saying affirmations. Actually, the idea had been around for at least two thousand years, but Coue proved that faith, belief, confidence (whatever you want to call it) can do miraculous things for a person. He found amazing things happened if people repeat the affirmation “Every day, in every way, I’m getting better and better.” He was much more successful than other psychologists who didn’t use autosuggestion.

I have found that affirmations help a person lose weight. “Every day I’m getting slimmer and slimmer.” or “I weight (target weight). “I don’t enjoy overeating.”

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French pharmacist and psychologist Émile Coué (1857-1926) on a visit to the United States in January 1917. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Coue treated many patients in groups and free of charge.

Coue’s family had origins in French nobility, but was not wealthy. Coue was a brilliant student in school and graduated with a degree in pharmacology in 1876.

He wrote a book called Self Mastery Through Conscious Autosuggestion and it is available free here http://www.gutenberg.org/ebooks/27203

Coue says “Everyone has heard of sleepwalking; everyone knows that a sleepwalker gets up at night without waking, leaves his room after either dressing himself or not, goes downstairs, walks along corridors, and after having executed certain acts or accomplished certain work, returns to his room, goes to bed again, and shows next day the greatest astonishment at finding work finished which he had left unfinished the day before.”

He says that autosuggestion is “… an instrument that we possess at birth, and with which we play unconsciously all our life, as a baby plays with its rattle. It is however a dangerous instrument; it can wound or even kill you if you handle it imprudently and unconsciously. It can on the contrary save your life when you know how to employ it consciously.”

2000 years ago Jesus sometimes told people “Your faith has healed you.” Matthew 9:22, and other places in the Gospels. I used to wonder why he said it was faith that healed them, why didn’t he emphasize that God had healed them? It may sound strange, but I believe the reason Jesus said this is that it was their faith that healed them. Faith like that takes many months or years to develop, and repeating verses, affirmations every day can help develop strong faith. Picturing the answer to prayer in your mind helps a lot too.

Some who have amazing answers to prayer say you only need to pray once, then start thanking God for it. Thank God over and over for it, that builds faith. Begging God for it weakens your faith. Nancy Goodman overcame breast cancer by thanking God over and over many times a day and watching funny movies. The laughter helped her keep her faith and get rid of worry. Negative emotions poison the body, resisting the natural healing that can occur.

Medicine is good, but many take medicine and don’t get healed. Faith and medicine together are really powerful.


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More than three thousand years ago several million people were released from slavery and they traveled to a land that was promised to them. But because they had “grasshopper mentalities” (we are not tough enough or good enough,, we are like grasshoppers compared to them) they didn’t have the confidence to fight for the land and instead wandered aimlessly in the desert, living a very austere life. Abundance and wealth was just beyond their grasp, they could have had it if they had faith enough to fight for it, as was proved forty years later when they fought for and won the land.

Most people believe they are not extraordinary and they will never do anything special with their life. They don’t want to get their hopes up because they have been disappointed so many times in the past. They don’t aim for any goals in life because they are afraid of failure. It has often been said “If you don’t aim for anything, you will probably get it.”

It has been said that if you ask a person in any store why they are there, they will have a good answer, they came to buy something or just came to look around. But if you ask a person why they are here in life and what their goals and dreams are, they will probably not be able to answer the question. Some say 8 out of 10 people don’t really have an answer to that question.

A young man was told by his parents and teachers that he wasn’t very smart. He didn’t do well in school and after leaving high school he applied for a job at a large company near his home. The company always gave IQ tests to everyone who applied and they found that he had an extremely high IQ. They put him in a position that required a lot of thinking and planning. He did extremely well, in fact he invented a couple of new things and was awarded patents. What was the difference? He suddenly had hope and faith that he could do well at his job. He was treated with respect and it caused him to respect himself.

However, it is certainly true that many people who don’t have much talent do incredible things in life. Many of the most successful businessmen, world leaders, inventors, athletes, rock stars, etc. do not have high IQ’s. It is not necessary for success in life, by any definition of success. But it seems that hope is necessary and so is faith, or confidence, whatever you want to call it.

A grasshopper mentality is the death of dreams and goals, and usually prevents people from having big dreams and plans for the future. The way to overcome it is to read/listen to positive instead of negative, every day.

“You are more than conquerors through him who loved us.” Romans 8:37


If I had one hour to save the world, I would spend 55 minutes defining the problem and onlyIMG_0639
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Once a Toyota executive asked a large group of employees how to increase their productivity they only gave him blank stares. He decided to change the question and asked them to tell him ways to make their job easier and got so many responses he couldn’t keep up with the number of suggestions.

That is a great way to increase your profit in business, but does it work for changing your husband (or anyone else)? You bet!

First sit down and spend time defining the problem. What is it that you really want to change about your husband or other loved one? Don’t just say you want him to love you more, take out the trash more or be more romantic, all women want this for their husband. Think of a more precise definition to the problem. The better you define the problem, the easier it will be to solve it!

“He has a right to criticize, who has a heart to help.” Abraham Lincoln

Criticizing only makes the problem worse unless it is done gently and in love. But remember, don’t be pushed by your problems, be led by your dreams.

Quotes from Miss H Nishah about problems:

To every girl who gossiped about me in corners of parties, to those who were my slap in the face, to the close minded or misunderstanding, to those boys that broke my heart, and to those friends who turned out to be back stabbers. You all challenged me to become the person I wanted to be. I am stronger because of all the stupid things you put me through. No matter how much you have done to me, you have unknowingly done so much more for me. So, thanks.

In desperate love, we always invent the characters of our partners, demanding they be what we need of them, and then feeling devastated when they refuse to perform the role we created in the first place.


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Faithless people lost a good chance

Years ago a man named Joe Wright told me that he had a gasoline card that he prepaid and could go to the petrol gas station and fill up his car with gas. The card was going to expire at the end of the year and after he filled his tank there was still almost a hundred dollars left on the card. Since it was the last day of the year, he knew he couldn’t use the money so he walked over to a woman who just pulled into the gas station and asked her if she wanted to use the card. She looked startled and asked him what the catch was. Joe explained to her why he was giving her gas, but she refused. Apparently she didn’t believe she could get something for nothing.

Later a man drove in and Joe motioned for him to roll down his window. The man opened it a crack and Joe asked him if he wanted to use the card for free gasoline. The man said no.

Joe didn’t give up and asked one more man who gladly accepted the offer and thanked Joe profusely. There was still money left on the card, so Joe waited and asked other people. Most didn’t believe they would get something for nothing. A few who had faith got rewarded for their faith.

Do you have faith?

If a rich person came to you and said he would give you a million dollars to write a song, would you do it? I certainly would, but it probably wouldn’t be a very good song. Yet hundreds of people write songs and make millions of dollars off their music. They had to start with the belief that they could write a song that many people would like, they had to have faith. Most people don’t try to write music or books because they don’t think they can do it well.

My blog posts are all about how to be successful in anything. But it all starts with faith. Jesus said everything is possible for one who believes (Mark 9:23). Jesus spoke of the power of faith about 40 times in the Gospels.  Buddha said similar things, so do virtually all the success coaches and many psychologists. .

The problem is that it is very difficult to maintain faith in your ability to reach your goals and dreams. Here are some things that help:

Say affirmations every day.

An affirmation is simply a short phrase that says you have achieved your dreams. Jack Canfield, the writer, used this affirmation daily: “God is my infinite supply and large sums of money come to me quickly and easily under the grace of God for the highest good of all concerned. I am happily and easily earning, saving and investing $100,000 a year.”

Jack went from a very low salary to becoming a multimillionaire with this affirmation and a lot of hard work.

Change happens

Your life can change for the better at any time. Suddenly a goal you have been working on can come to fruition. Stay optimistic, you really can reach your goals and dreams in life!

More on affirmations. http://wp.me/p2rHBL-lb Or scroll down the right hand column to “Posts by category” and click affirmations.


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Are you facing a challenge in your relationships, career or in reaching your dreams in life? It is probably not as big a challenge as becoming the president of the USA. Cheer up, read on….

Where you finish in life isn’t determined so much by where you start as by whether you start. John Maxwell

75% of US presidents were in the lower half grades in school

65% of all US senators came from the bottom half of their school classes

More than 50% of millionaire entrepreneurs never finished college.

These statics are from the book Talent Is Never Enough by John Maxwell, writer and speaker. Maxwell has become a famous name in the area of leadership training and is a prolific writer. He has written over 60 books that have sold over 19 million copies.

You have probably read about people who started with nothing and accomplished great things in life. Brian Tracy (in photo) is an example of this; he was born into a poor family. He was not good in school and was not popular among his classmates. He failed a high school English class and didn’t show promise in any area.

He became a laborer, drifting from job to job. Eventually he got into commission sales, getting paid only if he made sales. He sometimes slept in barns, in his car or beside his car. Later he began renting a room and had to scramble to make enough sales to pay his food and rent.

He decided that he could become a better salesman if he learned about sales, so he began to read every book he could about it. Every month his sales increased until after a few years he became the top salesman in his company. He was promoted to sales manager and trained his salespeople the techniques that made him great at selling. After some time, the people working for him became better and better.

Now Brian Tracy is a multimillionaire, having started many companies.

“You are the architect of your own destiny; you are the master of your own fate; you are behind the steering wheel of your life. There are no limitations to what you can do, have, or be.” ~ Brian Tracy


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We all want to persuade people (our kids, boss, employees, spouse) to do certain things.

The Pygmalion effect (also called the Rosenthal effect) is a phenomenon that has been proven to work very well by scientists, including Dr. Robert Rosenthal of Harvard University and UC Riverside. It has been shown that when you have high expectations for your students, spouse, children, employees, etc. that they will perform better just because you have faith in them.

Also, it has been proven over and over that positive reinforcement (reward) works better to change people than negative reinforcement (punishment).

So when your child comes home with poor grades, it is best to say,

“Honey I know you can do better next time because you are smart” than to say “You are grounded for a week, dummy.”

Self-fulfilling prophecy is powerful. Listen to the way you talk to yourself in your mind. Do you call yourself stupid, lazy, ugly? If you do, you will start to become what you call yourself.

An MMA fighter named Tito Ortiz talked about this. He had grueling workouts to prepare for fights and tried to motivate himself by calling himself lazy if he quit a workout early. He called himself a loser and other names people should never call themselves or others. Ortiz was unpopular in the ring. He was often booed, and he could not understand why people didn’t like him.

Later Ortiz got a new coach who told him to be careful of his “self-talk.” Ortiz began to call himself a winner and a hard worker. To his surprise, the fans quit booing him and he dramatically improved his fighting ability. It became easier to finish his workouts.

Do you want to change someone? Wives I know you want to change your husband. The best way is to use positive statements. “Honey, I really admire you when you take out the trash” is better than getting angry and not talking. Silence only makes things worse, because us men are never smart enough to read your minds.

If you really believe in yourself and your people, great things will happen!

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“The number one problem that keeps people from winning is lack of belief in themselves.” Arthur Williams

Homeless to Harvard: The Liz Murray Story

Liz Murray is a bestselling writer and motivational speaker who started life with nothing. Through sheer determination, faith and hard work, she went from living on the streets to a very successful career. She often talks about the importance of faith, of believing that one can accomplish their goals and dreams in life.

“It amazing what people can do when they believe in themselves.” Sam Walton, founder of Walmart

“If you have faith, nothing is impossible for you.” Jesus Christ

Her book, Breaking Night: From Homeless to Harvard is the amazing account of her tenacity and faith. Breaking night means to stay up all night into the morning. Murray was born to a mother who had been a cokehead from the age of 13 and a father who was sometimes in jail for selling drugs. Both parents were sometimes so stoned they did anything for money, even inviting sexual molesters into  the house. Her mother was frequently institutionalized for drug-induced mental illness

Her mother died when she was 16. “(Death) jolts you and makes you reconsider what you are doing with your own life. I decided to live each day with a purpose.” Her father was in such bad shape that it was less miserable to move out and become homeless than stay at home. She was taunted for her dirty clothes and lice in her hair at school. She often slept in subways and did homework in the hallways to keep warm.

“Envision the future you desire. Create the life of your dreams. See it, feel it, believe it.”~ Jack Canfield

Liz had the help of a high school teacher who gave her confidence that she could succeed. While on the streets of New York she saw ladies carrying Gucci and Chanel bags in the same street corners as teenagers begging for change and it almost made her become bitter and angry, but she realized that was self destructive.

The death of her mother made her realize she had to make something of her life. She enrolled in an alternative high school and graduated in two years instead of the usual four. It was not easy studying in hallways, in the park or in the subways, so she used headphones to block out the distracting noises.

She won a scholarship for disadvantaged students to Harvard University and studied clinical psychology. She wrote a book and now travels around the country sharing her story at speaking engagements and hopes these appearances allow others to see the possibility of change in their own lives. “When suffering, I had to see that things could be different. I started to grasp the value of the lessons I learned living on the streets.”

Murray realized that holding a grudge against her parents was not healthy, so she forgave both of them. She now has a good relationship with her father who has been off drugs for six years.

Not only did she publish a bestselling book, but her story has also been made into a movie. She says she doesn’t want any story to minimize the faith and hard work it took to succeed.

“You are creating your future with every single thought.” Jack Canfield

“Everything is possible for one who believes.” Jesus Christ

“Release your faith. God is shifting things in your favor. He’s moving the wrong people out and the right people in.” Joel Osteen


Brainstorming for solving any problem

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A technique called brainstorming can be used to solve just about any problem, whether it is a relationship problem, a technical problem, a writing block, or anything else.
Brainstorming just means that a person or group of people sit down and write down as many solutions to a problem as they can think of. No one should take time to decide whether the solutions are good or not, just list as many possibilities as possible. Later go through the list and keep only the good ideas. It is amazing how many discoveries were made on things not related to the original problem were found by using this method, and how many good solutions to the original problem were uncovered.

 

 

Creativity is a must for brainstorming. Most people use creativity in their home life and jobs. Whether you are a writer, an engineer, QA, manager, business person or other, creativity is a must to be competitive in the world today.

 

 

So if creativity is so important, how do we strengthen our creative brain muscles? One way is to do brainstorming. Sit down and write out a list of all the possible, including silly, things a pencil can be used for. A team of three people came up with over 50 uses for the lowly pencil. Here are just some of the uses:

 

 

• To write with
• As a paperweight
• As a weapon (use it as a knife)
• Tent peg
• Fire kindling
• Chew toy
• Use pencils as Tinker Toys

 

 

For example, if you are dimensioning an engineering drawing and you can’t decide whether to use a Perpendicularity control or a Surface Profile, you can sit and write out all the possible outcomes you can think of for each.

 

 

If you are trying to solve the problem of ensuring that your teenage son comes home to dinner on time you can sit down and make a list of methods you can use. Of course it might help to talk to a person very knowledgeable about that sort of thing first.

In the book A Whack on the Side of the Head by Roger VonOech, the author gives a hypothetical situation: Suppose you get a call from a company that accidently bought $1,000,000 too many ball bearings. The company asks you to think of some way to monetize the situation. Here are some possible uses of the ball bearings:

 

 

• Use them as level testers.
• Sew them into a canvas vest and use them as “weight clothing” for athletes.
• Make jewelry out of them: earrings, bracelets, and necklaces.
• Use them as confetti at a punk rock concert.
• Put them on the bottom of uneven curtains and use them as curtain weights.
• Serve them as robot caviar (when your “home robot” is having friends over).

 

 

The last idea is rather silly, but it’s brainstorming, right?

 

 

How to keep winning

Brad Stanton —  January 21, 2013 — 17 Comments

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Robert Ringer, author of Million Dollar Habits, explains it well: “The world is saturated with intelligent, highly educated, extraordinarily skilled people who experience ongoing frustration because of their lack of success. Millions of others spend their lives working hard, long hours only to die broke.… Success is a matter of understanding and religiously practicing specific, simple habits that always lead to success.”

“The secret to your success can be found in your daily agenda.” ~John Maxwell, bestselling author and success leader. This article is a brief synopsis in my own words of an article Maxwell wrote on the Success magazine website (Success.com). Maxwell says that success is a habit that we cultivate every day.

1. Winners are passionate about their goals and dreams

People who have a winner mentality enjoy what they are doing, they enjoy the journey and enjoy the dream even before they reach the goal. What really motivates you in life? What would you really enjoy doing if you could do anything in life? When you find that, you will never work a day in your life, you will be playing instead of working.

2. Winners focus on their strong points, not their weak points.

Some people think that in order to be successful you must work on your weaknesses. But actually it is best to find out what your strengths are and work on those. If you think about it, it makes more sense to start with what you are good at and cultivate that.

3. Winners have the right attitude.

It really is true, your attitude determines your altitude in life, in other words it determines how high you will go in life. Dr. Charles Swindoll, the prolific writer and speaker said:

“The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life.

Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than failures, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company… a church… a home.

The remarkable thing is we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past… we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude… I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it.

And so it is with you… we are in charge of our attitudes.”

4. Winners don’t quit

If you quit, you are sure to lose, that is the only thing you can do to totally ensure failure. In many of my posts I write about people who failed many times but keep on trying, and then become fantastically successful. Even the best leaders get discouraged, but the difference between a winner and a loser is the winner finds a way to encourage himself. It might be reading stories of people who overcome great obstacles to gain victory, or it might be books about strategies to succeed in whatever they are doing.

“ We seem to love stories of overnight successes, but the truth is there aren’t any. If you want to be a consistent winner, you’ve got to work at it every day. Success comes from developing the habits of winning.” John Maxwell


 

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1. Believe you can have a great new year
It all starts with belief. No one works hard at any task unless they believe they can achieve it. Many don’t achieve really good things in life because they are pessimistic and just don’t believe great things will happen to them.

“Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve.” ~W Clement Stone

2. Start now
“The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The next best time is now.” ~Chinese Proverb
Yes, if you had started saving $100 dollars a month ten years ago, you would be much better off today (I realize some readers save more than that), but you can always start now. If your goal is better relationships, start now to work on it. If your goal is to get a raise and promotion at work, sit down and start writing a list of things you can do to accomplish it.

3. Be persistent
Many people start a project, work on it for a few weeks and then forget it. Abraham Lincoln said: “Always bear in mind that your resolution to succeed is more important than any one thing.”
His business failed in 1833. His sweetheart died in 1835, almost destroying him. In 1836 he had a nervous breakdown. Lincoln failed many times to get elected for various different political offices. He was defeated for senate more than once, but finally was elected president in 1860. Not many would stay persistent, but he did and that is one reason he was among the best US presidents in history.

4. Be yourself
You have been blessed with strengths and weaknesses. Focus on your strengths, don’t spend time worrying about your weaknesses. You have a combination of skills that will enable you to do great things. Don’t envy others, they might not be as lucky as you think they are, or as talented!

5. Become better from your failures
I have written a number of posts about using failure to become better. Don’t let failures get you down, they can actually build you up. Colonel Sanders used the failure of a restaurant to begin his Kentucky Fried Chicken restaurants that are now in many countries. When he was 65 years old, a new highway took business away from a restaurant he had spent years with. Because of that failure, he was motivated to start something new. Even though he had very little money, he worked hard and accomplished big things. More about this at: http://wp.me/p2rHBL-iP

6. Reward yourself
All work and no play wears you down. If you don’t plan fun things to do and spend time every day relaxing, you will soon run out of steam, or get very bad tempered. Some people plan their work but never plan fun things for their family, causing a lopsided life. You will actually work harder if you reward yourself regularly.

more to come later……..

Quotes for success

Brad Stanton —  January 9, 2013 — 8 Comments

There is one quality one must possess to win, definiteness of purpose. Napoleon Hilllincoln1
If you want to be happy set a high goal. Andrew Carnegie
Your true passion should feel like breathing; it’s that natural. Oprah Winfrey
Your life is what your thoughts make it. ~Many people
To let life happen to you is irresponsible. To create your day is your divine right.
You attract more of whatever it is you are feeling. ~Many people
Once you make a decision the universe conspires to make it happen. R W Emerson
Your mind and your thoughts are incredibly powerful.
Your actions have a ripple effect, moving outward to touch many people for good or bad.
Your subconscious mind is much more powerful than your conscious mind–and that is really powerful.
What you can conceive and believe, you can achieve. W Clement Stone
Call to me and I will answer you and tell you great and unsearchable things you do not know. Jer 33:3
The more u love life, the more you attract good into your life.
Desire, determination, love your work, work hard: these are the most important keys to success
You can deliberately create and get more of what you really want in life
We are responsible for the state of the world we live in.
Greater fulfillment in your life is always possible
To bring more love and joy into your life, give more love and joy.
Want more miracles? Become aware of the miracles already happening in your life.
You can choose the path of more joy, love and abundance.
It is not a coincidence that you aer reading this. Abundance ahead
A creative man is motivated by the desire to achieve, not by the desire to beat others.~ Ayn Rand


hugOur beliefs control us

“We live our lives by a set of beliefs, or paradigms, that are always with us. These are beliefs that we have developed over time to help us define the world and our place in it. The biggest mistake we often make is to underestimate the power of our ingrained beliefs and their ability to limit our ideas of what is possible in life. When we set resolutions or goals that challenge these paradigms, we are frequently doomed to failure – yet don’t understand why.” Bob Proctor, from his free email newsletter at BobProctor.com

We believe we will never lose 40 pounds because we have tried and failed in the past.

We believe we will never get out of debt because we can’t see any way to do it.

We believe our marriage will not improve because it hasn’t in the past.

We believe we won’t get that promotion at work, that new house, new car, good health.

Struggling against our beliefs wearies us

Our deepest beliefs are like an automatic pilot on a ship or airplane. It controls which way the boat or our life goes. When you are steering a boat with autopilot, and you don’t want to go the direction it is programed to go, you have to constantly fight against the steering wheel, trying to pull it in a direction it is not programed to go. It tires you out and makes it very difficult to change course.

If our deepest belief says we won’t get out of debt, lose weight or be happy, it is very difficult to fight against that belief. But if we change our deepest beliefs it makes it much easier to achieve our dreams and goals in life.

How do we succeed?

How do we change our deepest beliefs? One way is to use affirmations. I used this method to lose weight during the holiday season. I repeated “I weight x pounds” over and over again to myself. I began to really belief I would lose weight. I began to eat less and kept exercising and I lost weight during Halloween and Thanksgiving, two holidays that normally make me gain weight. Then I decided to splurge for Christmas and gained some back, but I am sure I can use the affirmations again to lose the weight.

When we repeat affirmations, it puts a thought deeply into our subconscious so that we begin to see ways to accomplish the goal. It begins to change our core beliefs so that our brain starts looking for solutions to problems while we sleep and during the day. We start to see opportunities that were there all along, but we just didn’t notice them. It is like driving the same route to work every day and suddenly noticing a house that you didn’t notice before.

Some affirmations

I love my job.

I like myself (this works wonders)

I love my spouse and my spouse loves me.

I weigh xx pounds (even better: I will weight xx pounds by March 20, 2013)

I will get the promotion I am working for by January 2014

Faith is powerful

Brad Stanton —  December 21, 2012 — 7 Comments

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English: Resurrection of Christ (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

About 4 dozen times, Jesus says faith is the key to answered prayer. Here are just a few of those:
Matthew 9:22 Jesus said “Your faith has healed you.”
Matt 9:29 according to your faith it will be done to you.
Matt 21:22 If you believe, you will receive whatever you ask for in prayer
Mark 9:23 everything is possible for him who believes
Mark 11:24 Whatever you ask for in prayer, believe you have received it and it will be yours
Luke 8:50 Don’t be afraid; just believe and she will be healed
Luke 18:1 Jesus told his disciples a parable to show them that they should always pray and not give up
Luke 18:42 Jesus said to him, “Receive your sight; your faith has healed you.”
John 14:14 You may ask me for anything in my name, and I will do it
John 15:7 If you remain in me and my words remain in you, ask whatever you wish and it will be given you
John 16:23 I tell you the truth, my Father will give you whatever you ask in my name.
Matthew 7:8 for everyone who asks receives.

What do you think about this? Leave a comment please…….


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 Andrew Carnegie 

This is a synopsis from the famous success coach Brian Tracy. He went from rags to riches and started many types of businesses, making millions of dollars in the process. He has written many books about achieving goals and becoming wealthy. These ideas are great for not only creating wealth, but also for improving relationships.

 

Step 1. Start with a dream, a burning desire to achieve your dreams and goals. The more you want it, the harder you will work for it and the easier it will be to achieve it.

 

Step 2. Set goals. Don’t be afraid to set high goals. Andrew Carnegie was the king of the steel industry in his day. He became incredibly wealthy and helped the USA become more competitive in the world market through his industrial efforts. Carnegie started his career in poverty. He said this:

“If you want to be happy, set a goal that commands your thoughts, liberates your energy, and inspires your hope.”

 

Step 3. Believe you can achieve your goals. People who don’t really believe they can achieve their goals usually give up quickly. If you have a strong belief that you will succeed, and believe in your abilities, you are much more likely to achieve success.

 

Step 4. Search for positions at work that you can do well at and start preparing yourself before you get the promotion. Or, for relationships, search for ways to make the relationship better.

 

Step 5. Read about and learn from mentors everything you can about the kind of position you are working for. The more you know about it, the more likely you are to get the job.

 

Step 6.” Implement your plans with courage and persistence. Have complete faith in your ability to succeed and never, never give up. Before you accomplish anything worthwhile, you will have to pass the persistence test. And the test will come far sooner than you imagine.” ~ Brian Tracy

 

Affirmation: I can do it! Say it over and over out loud and soon you will find a way to do whatever you set your mind to.

 

I’ll be happy when…

Brad Stanton —  December 8, 2012 — 33 Comments

It is easy to get into the habit of thinking “I’ll be happy when…

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I have kids
I get out of this marriage
my kids leave home
I get a promotion
I get well
my kids behave better

Why not be happy today? Psychologists and success coaches say that the thoughts you are thinking right now and today are creating your future. The feelings you are feeling now and today are creating your thoughts and actions that create your future. Emotion causes motion, in other words, when we feel strongly about something, we take action.

Nothing positive ever came from thinking negative.” ~Many people

Many good things come from thinking positive. Dr. Norman Vincent Peale wrote many books and traveled around the world giving speeches about the power of positive thinking. He saw many people changed for the better by the power. He himself was a very timid person until a college professor took him aside one day and told him to get rid of his timid nature. The professor told him that he was smart and hardworking, and would go far in life if he would get rid of his pessimism and timidity. At first, Peale was very upset about what the professor had said. But after he let the words sink in, he began to realize the professor was right. Peale began to slowly change, and never forgot how important it is to believe in yourself, to have faith in your abilities.

In the book Chicken Soup for the Soul: Think Positive, James Scott Bell writes about meeting Dr. Peale. He said it was a day that changed his life. Bell and his wife came to a point in their life when they began to wonder why everything was going wrong. Then Bell began thinking about positive thinking and shared the idea with his wife. They both began to think positive instead of negative and soon their life had turned around.

I realize that some people’s problems are so difficult that a little positive thinking won’t help. But maybe a lot of positive thinking will. Morris Goodman, who was seriously injured in an airplane crash, could not breathe without a machine, or swallow, walk, talk or do anything except blink his eyes. But he had extraordinary faith that he could walk out of that hospital by Christmas. No one believed that he could do it, especially not the doctors. But because of his amazing faith he learned how to talk, eat and swallow, walk and live a rather normal life.


Believe

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If you want a certain quality like intelligence, beauty, wisdom, good judgment, etc., you can bring it about by believing that you already have it. Seems hard to believe, doesn’t it? But many people have verified this countless times.

“When you realize that inventors, artists, scientists, architects, and builders of great companies all must employ their imagination, you get some idea of its magnitude. Shakespeare said, “Assume a virtue if you have it not.” Let’s follow some of the implications of this great advice. In assuming a virtue, you are assuming it via your imagination. To become the person you would like to be, you must create a mental picture of your newly conceived self, and if you continue to hold it, the day will come when you are that person in reality. So it is with the accomplishment of desires.” The Magic of Believing by Claude Bristol. Page 155

Shakespeare was a very wise man. He found that if a person lacked a virtue, they could pretend to have it, tell themselves they had it, and soon they would have it. I’m not saying that is always easy, but I know it is true. Many modern day psychologists and success coaches spend a lot of time teaching this concept.

It is amazing what the imagination can do. It is reported that some people, believing that an ordinary postage stamp placed on the skin of patients who believed that they were small mustard plasters had blisters develop under the stamps. A man died of hypothermia in a refrigerator truck after he was accidentally locked into it overnight. He believed the refrigerator was on, when in fact it was not, but by believing strongly that he would die of the cold, he did.

Belief is very powerful. If we believe something to be true about ourselves, we will begin to have that attribute.

I have mentioned a famous study by Rosenthal, a Harvard Psychologist who showed that if teachers are told their students are smart, the students make better grades just because the teacher believed they are smart. Tell a person he is smart and if he believes it he will begin to behave in a more intelligent manner.

Women who tell themselves they are beautiful every day tend to act more beautiful and begin to be perceived as beautiful.

The mind is far more powerful than most people realize and can do much more than anyone knows is possible.

Here is an affirmation to say every day: “I am happy, healthy, wealthy, wise and good looking.”

Better to be rich or poor?

Brad Stanton —  November 29, 2012 — 16 Comments

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English: President Reagan presents Mother Teresa with the Medal of Freedom at a White House Ceremony, 1985. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Russell Conwell was a writer, lawyer, orator, university founder, philanthropist, and Baptist preacher about 100 years ago. He delivered one speech over 6000 times, called “Acres of Diamonds.” This speech was about a man who traveled to the Middle East and heard his guide tell a story about a man who left home looking for wealth. The man didn’t find it and became so discouraged he killed himself. Later, someone else found acres of diamonds on his land, right under his feet. The dead man would have found them if he had bothered to look for wealth right where he was.

Many say this story means that true wealth and happiness are right where you are if you know how to find them. Tens of thousands of people heard this speech and many were so moved by it that they found motivation to seek wealth right where they were. One man, for example sat listening to the speech and saw a lady with a hairpin that looked rather difficult to insert in the hair. The man sat thinking of a way to improve the design.  He did and made a fortune selling the new hairpin.

Another man used the few pennies he had to buy needles and thread to sell on the street. He didn’t sell the products and realized he should find out what people want to buy before investing in the product. He observed that many were buying certain kinds of clothes and he invested in them. He began to sell his wares very quickly and after some years became the richest man in New York City at that time.

Conwell believed strongly that anyone could become rich if they had strong desire and worked toward that goal. He said

 “I say that you ought to get rich, and it is your duty to get rich…. The men who get rich may be the most honest men you find in the community. Let me say here clearly .. . ninety-eight out of one hundred of the rich men of America are honest. That is why they are rich. That is why they are trusted with money. That is why they carry on great enterprises and find plenty of people to work with them. It is because they are honest men. … … I sympathize with the poor, but the number of poor who are to be sympathized with is very small. To sympathize with a man whom God has punished for his sins … is to do wrong…. let us remember there is not a poor person in the United States who was not made poor by his own shortcomings. …”

I don’t fully agree with Conwell’s statement, because people are poor for many different reasons including poor health, living in an area of the world where everyone is poor, mental retardation, and some choose to be poor to spend time helping people, such as Mother Teresa.

Some feel it is a sin to be wealthy and some people even believe Jesus taught that. I believed that for awhile, but while reading the Old Testament I saw over and over again that God promised prosperity to everyone who followed his commands and did certain things. Joshua 1:8; Psalm 1; Deuteronomy 30:15; 1 Kings 2:3; Psalm 37:11; Psalm 25:12-14 Proverbs 8:17-19; Proverbs 19:8 Jeremiah 29:11 are a few examples of many promises in the Bible. But unfortunately, they have to be accepted by faith, which is extremely difficult. Also, it can take years, and lots of hard work for promises to come about.

I find that in general, rich people can do more good for the world by donating money and time than people who are not rich. It doesn’t have to be that way, but it usually is. Poor people who have lots of free time could become very powerful prayer warriors, but most do not. They could spend time helping people, some do, but I find most don’t. It is usually the wealthier people who do this. Strange, but that is just what I have observed.

I know many will disagree, feel free to leave a comment expressing another viewpoint.


“He who is happiest is he who is content…” ~Benjamin Franklin

Happiness

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A wise man said to his friend “Every time I see you, you are running around in a hurry. What are you running after?”

The man answered quickly “Success, money and the rewards of my hard work.”

The wise man said “That would make sense if you assumed all those things are ahead of you, but what if all those things were behind you, and the faster you run, the more difficult it is for those things to catch up to you?”

We all run after something. What are you running after?  Are you running after money, a beautiful house, a person, a position in your company, a degree, a relationship, a better relationship with loved ones? There is nothing wrong with these things, but they won’t fully satisfy you unless you learn to be content.

A writer found an old list of goals he had set for himself. He had written many books and spoke regularly to large groups of people. He was surprised that he had accomplished every one of his goals so quickly. But as he continued to think about it, he was also surprised that he was not more content with what he had. Many people expect outward circumstances to fulfill their inner happiness. Instead of constantly running, take some time to rest and enjoy what you have.

Many very successful people who train others for success say that one of the best things you can do to achieve more success is to enjoy what you already have and be thankful. You reap what you sow, if you think about happy things you will sow more happy things. Being grateful is one way of keeping happy thoughts in your mind. Happy thoughts can’t be in your mind at the same time as sad thoughts. The best way to push sad, angry or any other undesirable thoughts out of your mind is to think about happy thoughts.

Sometimes I count my blessings in my mind, sometimes I write out a list of things I am grateful for, but either way, I always feel happier after I do it.

Here in the USA, we have a holiday for being grateful. We call it “Thanksgiving.” People get together with family, eat turkey and other delicious food, and have fun.

Enjoy where you are instead of where you want to be.