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Improve your relationships

Brad Stanton —  May 14, 2013 — 5 Comments

girl-with-a-fanMany times I have talked to a man or woman who is not happy with a relationship. Almost always, it is because the person I am talking to is not giving what the other person wants.

All people are selfish, some more than others, but it was written thousands of years ago that it is actually happier to give than to receive. Sounds hard to believe, but it really is true. When you give, good always comes back to you. Whether you call it karma or the law of sowing and reaping, it always works.

However, to change a relationship that has been a problem for many years won’t happen overnight. It takes time and persistence.Here are some questions to ask yourself that can really improve any relationship:

  • What things do you do to improve your loved one’s life?
  •  If you could write what you do to improve your loved one’s life, what do you do to help her/him
    a. achieve what she wants
    b.avoid what he doesn’t want
    c.preserve what they want to keep
  • How do your loved ones describe you? What words do they use?
  • What does your loved one value? What benefits does he/she seek or expect from you?
  • What are several things you do that your loved one values?
  • Why does your loved one love you?

After doing marriage counseling for many years Gary Chapman wrote a book called “The Five Love Languages.” He found that everyone wants one or more of these. The five categories are:

  1. Kind words
  2. Quality time
  3. Gifts
  4. Acts of service
  5. Physical touch

If you can find out what your loved one wants most, you can save yourself a lot of energy and wasted effort. You can quit sacrificing to give him/her what she doesn’t really want and give what she does want. It frees you up to spend energy where it is most efficient and you can quit doing a lot of things that you did in the past that got no results.

Kind words are things you say that show you love, value and respect someone.

Quality time means you are not too busy to spend plenty of time together.

Gifts: some people especially like to receive gifts or go shopping for their own gifts.

Acts of service means that you do something, like cook, take out the garbage, etc.

Physical touch means that you find out how the person likes to be touched and do it regularly.

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Self-discipline will get you anything you want

Brad Stanton —  May 1, 2013 — 2 Comments

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Most people want to lose some weight, have happy relationships, achieve financial independence or get a 20% raise and be very good at their job. Some people even want to win an Olympic gold medal.

Most people who have accomplished great things in life such as becoming an outstanding athlete, musician, teacher, businessman or leader, started from the bottom without a lot of help. Many who became millionaires started out poor. Many sports stars started out awkward and slow. Many musicians started out without any apparent talent.

Kop Kopmeyer wrote four bestselling books which each contained 250 principles for success, for a total of 1000 success principles. When asked which was the most important he replied, “Self-discipline.”

Longfellow aparently felt the same way:

 “Those heights by great men, won and kept,
Were not achieved by sudden flight.
But they, while their companions slept,
Were toiling upward in the night.”

A person who is willing to do what he needs to do, when he needs to do it whether he feels like it or not is going to do great things in life. Usually the only way to achieve this is to learn to enjoy your work.

Brian Tracy said:

The payoff for developing high levels of self-discipline is extraordinary! There is a direct relationship between self-discipline and self-esteem:

• The more you practice self-mastery and self-control, the more you like and value yourself;

• The more you discipline yourself, the greater is your sense of self-respect and personal pride;

• The more you practice self-discipline, the better is your self-image. You see yourself and think about yourself in a more positive way. You feel happier and more powerful as a person.

Kopmeyer said the second most important principle is “to learn from the experts.” None of us lives long enough to learn everything on our own. Reading a book about how to do whatever you want to accomplish will propel you much farther ahead than you can do on your own.

Motivating people to achieve self-discipline is what my blog and my book are all about. http://bradstanton.com/10-keys-to-success/ Buy one book, get four free ebooks!

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You reap what you sow

Brad Stanton —  April 23, 2013 — 7 Comments

000Beggar“Good morning” said a woman as she walked up to the man sitting on ground. The man slowly looked up.

This was a woman clearly accustomed to the finer things of life. Her coat was new. She looked like she had never missed a meal in her life.

His first thought was that she wanted to make fun of him, like so many others had done before. “Leave me alone,” he growled….

To his amazement, the woman continued standing. She was smiling — her even white teeth displayed in dazzling rows. “Are you hungry?” she asked. “I’ll buy your lunch at the cafeteria across the street.”

She sat down at the table across from her amazed dinner guest. She stared at him intently. “Jack, do you remember me?”

Old Jack searched her face with his old, rheumy eyes. “I think so — I mean you do look familiar.”

“I’m a little older perhaps,” she said. “Maybe I’ve even filled out more than in my younger days when you worked here, and I came through that very door, cold and hungry.”

“I was just out of college,” the woman began. “I had come to the city looking for a job, but I couldn’t find anything. Finally I was down to my last few cents and had been kicked out of my apartment. I walked the streets for days. It was February and I was cold and nearly starving. I saw this place and walked in on the off chance that I could get something to eat.”

Jack lit up with a smile. “Now I remember,” he said. “I was behind the serving counter. You came up and asked me if you could work for something to eat. I said that it was against company policy.”

“I know,” the woman continued. “Then you made me the biggest roast beef sandwich that I had ever seen, gave me a cup of coffee, and told me to go over to a corner table and enjoy it. I was afraid that you would get into trouble… Then, when I looked over and saw you put the price of my food in the cash register, I knew then that everything would be all right.”

“So you started your own business?” Old Jack said. “I got a job that very afternoon. I worked my way up. Eventually I started my own business that, with the help of God, prospered.” She opened her purse and pulled out a business card. “When you are finished here, I want you to pay a visit to a Mr. Lyons…He’s the personnel director of my company. I’ll go talk to him now and I’m certain he’ll find something for you to do around the office.” She smiled. “I think he might even find the funds to give you a little advance so that you can buy some clothes and get a place to live until you get on your feet… If you ever need anything, my door is always opened to you.”

There were tears in the old man’s eyes. “How can I ever thank you?” he said. “Don’t thank me,” the woman answered. “Thank God, He led me to you.”

God is going to shift things around for you today and make things work in your favor.
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Change your life–make it great!

Brad Stanton —  April 12, 2013 — 9 Comments

My daughter's lips have nothing to do with this story, but they are just so cute, I had to add them here.

My daughter’s lips have nothing to do with this story, but they are just so cute, I had to add them here.

Brian Tracy is a motivational speaker who has helped many people find ways to get motivated and live a better life. At one of his seminars a man told him that he was a plumber and had gone as high as he could go in his company. But he had bills, like everyone else, and I’m sure he had children that he wanted to send to college and a family that he wanted to take on vacations. He desired to have better finances.

The plumber said he wanted to become a salesman in the company but when he asked management about it they said he wasn’t a good fit for the job. Brian Tracy told him that his future was up to him, but he had to learn how to sell, how to do what the new position required.

The man tried convincing management again to let him try the sales position. Finally they told him that if he was willing to take classes on his own time and study the material, they would give him a try.

A year later Brian saw him again at a seminar. He had been a full-fledged salesman for five months and was earning twice as much as his highest income in the past. He was a happier person and seemed to respect himself more and was very enthusiastic about his job.

Brian Tracy then went on to say “This story is typical of countless stories that have been related to me over the years. In each case, the individual had discovered and developed his other strengths and, subsequently, improved the quality of his or her life. And you can do the same. In fact, this may be one of the most important things you ever do.”

I have read many stories like this. A person has goals and dreams and is willing to put in extra effort to achieve the goals. Some reach their goals quickly, others take a long time. But if a person really believes he/she can do it, works hard, enjoys his work and gets training, great things always happen.
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10 steps to success by Dr. Peale

Brad Stanton —  April 7, 2013 — 5 Comments

Dr. Norman Vincent Peale motivated millions of people to a better life. 313335_487472851307971_1932064598_n
Here are his ten steps to success:

1. Formulate and stamp indelibly on your mind a mental picture of yourself as succeeding. Hold this picture tenaciously. Never permit it to fade. Your mind will seek to develop this picture. Never think of yourself as failing; never doubt the reality of the mental image. That is most dangerous, for the mind always tries to complete what it pictures. So always picture “success” no matter how badly things seem to be going at the moment.

2. Whenever a negative thought concerning your personal powers comes to mind, deliberately voice a positive thought to cancel it out.

3. Do not built up obstacles in your imagination. Depreciate every so-called obstacle. Minimize them. Difficulties must be studied and efficiently dealt with to be eliminated, but they must be seen for only what they are. They must not be inflated by fear thoughts.

4. Do not be awestruck by other people and try to copy them. Nobody can be you as efficiently as YOU can. Remember also that most people, despite their confident appearance and demeanor, are often as scared as you are and as doubtful of themselves.

5. Ten times a day repeat these dynamic words, “If God be for us, who can be against us?” (Romans 8:31) (Stop reading and repeat them NOW slowly and confidently.)

6. Get a competent counselor to help you understand why you do what you do. Learn the origin of your inferiority and self-doubt feelings which often begin in childhood. Self-knowledge leads to a cure.

7. Ten times each day practice the following affirmation, repeating it out loud if possible. “I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.” (Philippians 4:13) Repeat those words NOW. That magic statement is the most powerful antidote on earth to inferiority thoughts.

8. Make a true estimate of your own ability, then raise it 10 percent. Do not become egotistical, but develop a wholesome self-respect. Believe in your own God-released powers.

9. Put yourself in God’s hands. To do that simply state, “I am in God’s hands.” Then believe you are NOW receiving all the power you need. “Feel” it flowing into you. Affirm that “the kingdom of God is within you” (Luke 17:21) in the form of adequate power to meet life’s demands.

10. Remind yourself that God is with you and nothing can defeat you. Believe that you now RECEIVE power from him.

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