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Brad Stanton —  October 25, 2014 — 2 Comments

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All my life I have enjoyed reading books about people that accomplished great things in life. When I was young, it was Davy Crockett, the great hunter and frontiersman of US history. I enjoyed reading about John Paul Jones, the navy captain that helped us get freedom from England. Then I went on to many dozens of books by people who had built large charities, businesses and ministries. I was always excited to learn how they did it.

Success in relationships is one area that almost everyone has interest in, because we all have relationships. Dr. Hew Lin, a psychiatrist who healed a ward of mentally ill criminals is one of my favorites because he explains how certain keys to success are good for relationships and everything else in life.

Love is a key to success

Dr. Lin summed up most of the advice I had read from many different authors in just a few sentences.

He said the most important thing is to restore ourselves back to love. I liked that because I know that love is the most powerful force in the universe and it does amazing things. He said one way to do it is to forgive all who have wronged us. He has a system of four short sentences that help us achieve this. Say four things:
I love you
I’m sorry
Please forgive me
Thank you

You don’t even have to say these sentences to the people you are thinking about. Just think them or say them out loud when no one is around. He says he healed many people this way as a psychiatrist. If your husband is mean and unfair, just repeat these four sentences over and over again for a couple of weeks and you will see a big difference.

How does it work?

I know it seems a little hard to believe that saying the four sentences will help. But if you have read many of my other posts, it explains why this works. Psychologists tell us that 80% of communication is nonverbal. That means that tone of voice, expressions and other things convey how we feel toward other people. They pick up on these cues in their subconscious mind.

It is more than just this, though. Jesus said love flows out of us if we believe in him. If we could open our spiritual eyes and see what is happening in the real world, we would see how powerful love is. When you send love to other people, it has a healing effect.

We are responsible for our lives

Dr. Lin also said we must acknowledge 100% responsibility for our lives. We can’t blame anything on anyone else. If our parents were brutal and psycho and it left us scared emotionally, we can’t blame them for our problems today. Every person in the world has experienced unfair situations. Some come out of it stronger, some allow it to destroy their happiness.

I have heard many successful people say that it is critically important to acknowledge 100% responsibility for everything in life. Most people don’t believe that is true and that is why they can’t build the life they want. This post is not for the unbelievers, only for those who believe they can have a better life. If you don’t believe it, you are right, it won’t help. Henry Ford said “Whether you think you can, or think you can’t, either way you are right.” He means if we believe we can do something, we can. If we believe we can’t do something, we are right, because the lack of faith will cause failure. Who tries to do something they don’t believe they can do?

Our thoughts are key

Dr. Lin said that we must see our own thoughts create our life, not the people, places and circumstances but how we react to them that control our lives. This idea is very common among people who have overcome incredible difficulties to achieve success.

Dr. Lin holds workshops to teach people ideas for success. It is amazing to hear the testimonies of people who attended and found ways to restore relationships, solve problems and achieve success in any area of life.

To be successful, study successful people

I read books by Brian Tracy. He flunked out of school and took low paying laboring jobs for years until he found a sales job. He didn’t sell very well until he decided to ask the top salesman how he achieved success. Once he learned the keys to success he became incredibly successful in selling and went on to write many books that sell well. He starts businesses and is a multi-millionaire. The key was that he went to the successful people to learn how to do it. So many people listen to failures and end up with negative attitudes in life. They learn from failures and become failures.


Og-Mandino-Quotes-1Og Mandino wrote The Greatest Salesman In the World in 1968. It was incredibly successful and continued to sell about a million copies a year for 30 years. It is still selling well today. The reason it is such a powerful book is that Og knows how to be successful and teach you how to be successful in anything you do. But more importantly, he teaches how to have a happier life and good attitudes that bring about success.

In the book there are ten “scrolls” or short lessons about how to be successful. All ten are listed here. (click to read them) I have already written about Scroll One in my own words. Here is scroll 2 from Og’s book:

The Scroll Marked 2

I will greet this day with love in my heart

For this is the greatest secret of success in all ventures. Muscle can split a shield and
even destroy life but only the unseen power of love can open the hearts of men and
until I master this art I will remain no more than a peddler in the market place. I will
make love my greatest weapon and none on whom I call can defend against its force.

My reasoning they may counter; my speech they may distrust; my apparel they may
disapprove; my face they may reject; and even my bargains may cause them
suspicion; yet my love will melt all hearts liken to the sun whose rays soften the
coldest clay.

I will greet this day with love in my heart.

And how will I do this? Henceforth will I look on all things with love and I will be
born again. I will love the sun for it warms my bones; yet I will love the rain for it
cleanses my spirit. I will love the light for it shows me the way; yet I will love the
darkness for it shows me the stars. I will welcome happiness for it enlarges my heart;
yet I will endure sadness for it opens my soul. I will acknowledge rewards for they
are my due; yet I will welcome obstacles for they are my challenge.

I will greet this day with love in my heart.

And how will I speak? I will laud mine enemies and they will become friends; I will
encourage my friends and they will become brothers. Always will I dig for reasons to
applaud; never will I scratch for excuses to gossip. When I am tempted to criticize I
will bite my tongue; when I am moved to praise I will shout from the roofs.

Is it not so that birds, the wind, the sea and all nature speaks with the music of praise
for their creator? Cannot I speak with the same music to his children? Henceforth
will I remember this secret and it will change my life.

I will greet this day with love in my heart.

And how will I act? I will love all manners of men for each has qualities to be
admired even though they be hidden. With love I will tear down the wall of suspicion
and hate which they have built round their hearts and in its place will I build bridges
so that my love may enter their souls.

I will love the ambitious for they can inspire me; I will love the failures for they can
teach me. I will love the kings for they are but human; I will love the meek for they
are divine. I will love the rich for they are yet lonely; I will love the poor for they are
so many. I will love the young for the faith they hold; I will love the old for the
wisdom they share. I will love the beautiful for their eyes of sadness; I will love the
ugly for their souls of peace.

I will greet this day with love in my heart.

But how will I react to the actions of others? With love. For just as love is my
weapon to open the hearts of men, love is also my shield to repulse the arrows of hate
and the spears of anger. Adversity and discouragement will beat against my new
shield and become as the softest of rains. My shield will protect me in the market
place and sustain me when I am alone. It will uplift me in moments of despair yet it
will calm me in time of exultation. It will become stronger and more protective with
use until one day I will cast aside and walk unencumbered among all manners of men
and, when I do, my name will be raised high on the pyramid of life.

I will greet this day with love in my heart.

And how will I confront each whom I meet? In only one way. In silence and to
myself I will address him and say I Love You. Though spoken in silence these words
will shine in my eyes, unwrinkle my brow, bring a smile to my lips, and echo in my
voice; and his heart will be opened. And who is there who will say nay to my goods
when his hearts feels my love?

I will greet this day with love in my heart.

And most of all I will love myself. For when I do I will zealously inspect all things
which enter my body, my mind, my soul, and my heart. Never will I overindulge the
requests of my flesh; rather I will cherish my body with cleanliness and moderation.
Never will I allow my mind to be attracted to evil and despair, rather I will uplift it
with the knowledge and wisdom of the ages. Never will I allow my soul to become
complacent and satisfied, rather I will feed it with meditation and prayer.

Never will I allow my heart to become small and bitter, rather I will share it and it will grow and
warm the earth.

I will greet this day with love in my heart. Henceforth will I love all mankind. From
this moment all hate is let from my veins for I have not time to hate, only time to
love. From this moment I take the first step required to become a man among men.
With love I will increase my sales a hundred-fold and become a great salesman. If I
have no other qualities I can succeed with love alone. Without it I will fail though I
possess all the knowledge and skills of the world.

I will greet this day with love, and I will succeed.


35224_european_bistroWhen I was about five years old I had my first encounter with the Holy Spirit, the spirit of God. I felt the incredible love of God as I walked through a forest with my Sunday school class. The teacher had talked to us about how much God loves us, and how we can see him in the things that he made, the trees and brooks, the wind and the leaves.

Today I was thinking about the incredible beauty of the love of God. Anyone who has felt it will always want it. Then I heard a sermon about it.

The sermon I heard tonight went something like this:

You might be in a low point in your life. You might be in the pit of despair. You might be feeling very depressed right now, or maybe you are doing fine, maybe you are going through a happy time in your life. But no matter what, God’s love is washing over you, taking care of you much more than you know.

Thousands of years ago, in fact even before anything existed, God already thought of you and decided to choose you and love you. God has been waiting your entire life for this moment, where he could get you to sit still for one minute and say this to you:

“You have no idea how much I love you. I have always loved you. There was never a moment of your existence when I didn’t love you. I planned that fertilization of the two cells that came together to make you. I planned your conception. I allowed that conception. I wanted you alive so I could love you because you are special to me. There is no one else like you, you are completely new and unique to me. I heard your first cry, there was no moment of your life that I didn’t love you. Through all your celebrations and difficulties, your sadness and happiness I loved and adored you even more than you loved yourself. I wanted good things for you even more than you did. Whether you realize it or not I have been gazing upon you in love because I made you to love you.”

How would your life change if you knew how much God loved you? Think about how it would feel if you got up in the morning and the first thing you felt was that you are deeply and unconditionally loved by God. What if you felt the love of God as you got out of bed to brush your teeth? And in the car on way to work or school you felt the love of God. What would it be like if you felt God’s love unconditionally, knowing that no matter what you do or don’t do, you know that God loves you? No matter what you do or don’t do, God will still love you the same amount.

Your first and most important calling in life is to let God love you. What happens if you accept this call?

You feel accepted rather than ashamed or condemned. You feel totally accepted, and that will change your life. Many avoid God because they feel ashamed or guilty. Maybe you feel guilty, criticized. God is perfect and I’m not. Why would I hang out with a perfect God to remind me of all the ways I’ve failed?

But God did not come to condemn the world but to save it. If you feel God is down on you, guess what? You are totally wrong. God is not down on you at all, he is totally for you, totally cheering you on, bragging to the angels and even the devil about you. He certainly did that about Job in the Old Testament.

You have spent your entire life in order to get peoples approval and love of other people. You dress the way you do to get approval. You wear your hair the way you do to get approval. You talk and act the way you do to get love and approval. You have been trying to get approval from some unpleasable people your entire life and you are not going to get it. Realize you don’t need the approval of other people. Most of your life you have been worried about what other people think because you don’t feel unconditionally loved by God. When you realize how much God loves you, criticism doesn’t bother you. You will no longer need other people’s approval to be happy. This idea will set you free.

The man who spoke these words is Rick Warren, the author of The Purpose Driven Life.

Your daddy’s rich

Brad Stanton —  March 17, 2014 — Leave a comment

w clement stoneIf you are a Christian, you have a father in heaven who is rich beyond your ability to imagine. If you believe he is a good God, he will be good to you, but if you believe he is a harsh God, or you don’t believe in him at all, he will be very harsh to you. I’ll explain this more at the end of this post.

So you have a father who is rich and powerful. If you believe he will help you in every aspect of your life, he will. He is not a stingy God. He loves you much more than you love yourself and wants good for you even more than you do.

Those who believe that Jesus loves them and believe in paradise as a reward for believing in Jesus will receive paradise. Those who don’t believe will not receive paradise. It is as if our thoughts bring about our own reality. If it is true in our mind, we get it, if it is not true (we don’t believe it) we don’t get the reward.

Henry Ford said “Whether you think you can or think you can’t, either way you are right.” This means if you have faith and really believe you can do something, you can do it. If you don’t have faith that you can do it, you probably won’t even try, or if you do try you’ll give it half-hearted attempts.

You have probably played video games in which you have a certain level of strength but every time you get hit or shot you lose a little strength. Well, in a way, your mind is that way. Every time you complain, you lose a little strength. Every time you think about things you don’t like, you lose a little more strength.

Love is the most powerful force in the universes. Love and well-being flow to you from God and drench you every minute of every day and night. You can open your heart to accept in that love or you can keep your heart closed and let the love and well-being flow over it, not soaking up any of it.

If you can believe that God is love, as the Bible says, and if you believe that love is good, then it is fairly easy to believe that thinking about things you love or like will make you stronger. Thinking about things you don’t like causes negative emotions and drains your physical and emotional strength.

You don’t have to worry about anything. Your father in heaven is tougher than your toughest enemies and stronger than the hardest obstacles you will ever face in life. God is doting on you, watching over you and he loves to take care of you. It takes faith to accept all this good from God.

In the parable of the talents in Matthew 25, the servant who thought the master was harsh didn’t earn any money on the seed money he was given and the master was harsh with him. The servants who believed the master was good doubled their money.

Do bad things happen to you? They might seem bad, but actually they are good because they are making you stronger and bringing about other changes that will help you. Romans 8:28 says everything works together for good to those who love God.


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神 爱 你,并 且 为 你 的 生 命 有 一 奇 妙 的 计 划。

Do you believe that you reap what you sow? In other words do you actually get the results that you caused to come about by your actions? I include a fun mental exercise at the end of this post. This post will be hard for many people to understand.

Negative thoughts bring about some sort of negative consequence. Negative thoughts are those dealing with the fearsome foursome:

1. Fear  2. Anger  3. Depression  4. Guilt

It is said that all negative thoughts fall into one or more of these four categories. For example, worry is a kind of fear. Shame is a form of guilt. Sadness is a form of depression. Frustration and lack of forgiveness is anger.

These negative thoughts cause the body to make toxic chemicals flow into the bloodstream. They also tend to bring about more negative thoughts, more intense negative thoughts. If a person keeps thinking negative thoughts it almost always causes him to do negative things or say negative words that can cause serious problems. A business speaker said that negative thoughts can put enough toxins in the blood stream of a man or woman that if you drew a sample of blood and injected it into a rat, it would kill the rat.

If we sow positive thoughts we get stronger and more loveable. To think about things that we like, love or are attracted to is sowing positive thoughts. We are able to deal with pressure at work better, handle relationships better and just about every aspect of life. Love is the most powerful force in the universe. Love makes a person stronger and happier. This is true for every person and it is true all the time.

Isaac Newton said that for every action there is an equal and opposite reaction. This is a law of nature that has been proven for hundreds of years in physics. But the amazing thing is that this is just another way of saying you reap what you sow. Some call it the Law of Attraction or Karma.

People who are successful in life (by just about any definition of success) are the ones who think positive thoughts and therefore use the power of love. Some achieve great success through hard work and talent, some have little talent but apply lots of hard work and the power of love.

An Olympic athlete competes because he loves the sport or he loves the idea of becoming a champion or he loves being in front of a crowd of people. He/she has to somehow be attracted to a sport. That person has to have faith, or you could call it confidence, that he can do well at the sport, otherwise he won’t be willing to do the work required to be successful.

If you want the life of your dreams, visualize it every day, love the idea and have faith. Be willing to love your work so that you work hard. The more you visualize it and love the idea, the stronger you will become. Think about things your like, food you like, places you like, things you like, TV shows, music, movies, sports, food that you like.

Many believe that everything that happens to you is a result of what you sowed, or planted in life with your thoughts, words or actions. Some don’t want to believe it because it puts too much pressure on them. Others want to believe it because it means that they can control everything that happens in their life. What do you think? Leave a reply and let us know.

Exercise:

Imagine for five minutes that you really can control everything that happens to you by reaping what you sow. What would you sow? How would you live your life? What would you do and think about? Many of the most respected life coaches say that you really do control your life. If you believe in God, and that he has the power to control everything and that he loves you, it becomes easy to believe that you reap what you sow, and reap only what you sow. Why did the Apostle Paul emphasize this point so much? Galatians 6:7 “Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows.”

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Love diverts disaster

Brad Stanton —  February 11, 2014 — 1 Comment

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Mrs. Thompson had seen Teddy in the halls for several years before he became a fifth grader. She was not looking forward to having him in her class. She had a rather large class and dozens of papers to grade every day. The last thing she needed was another under achiever who needed extra help and rewarded her diligence with bad behavior. He didn’t try very hard and often showed up to class looking messy, hair uncombed and clothes not clean

But the school year began and she tried to make the best of it and give Teddy a fair chance before judging him too harshly.

Then came Christmas. All the students got Mrs. Thompson gifts wrapped in colorful wrapping paper with beautiful bows and ribbons. But when it came time for Teddy to give Mrs. Thompson her gift he carried forward a small package wrapped in paper from a brown paper grocery bag. She opened it and inside were a bracelet with some of the rhinestones missing and a bottle of cheap perfume than was more than half empty. Some of the children began to snicker and laugh. But she was smart enough to act delighted and put on some of the perfume.

Later Teddy came up and stood near her and said very quietly, Mrs. Thompson, you look just as beautiful as my mother when you wear that bracelet. And you smell just like her when you wear that perfume. He looked at her with admiration in his eyes.

She began thinking about Teddy after class that day. She realized that he had always been kind to her, even when some of the other students had not. She decided to look at his files and see what his previous teachers had written about him.

1st grade: Teddy shows promise but has very poor home situation

2nd grade: Teddy could do better but mother is seriously ill.

3rd grade: Teddy is a good boy but distracted, his mother died this year.

4th grade: Teddy shows no interest in school work and is not doing well. He has become very quiet and withdrawn, his father seems to show no interest in him.

Mrs. Thompson wiped away tears from her eyes. The next morning the students had a new teacher. She took off her eyes of judgment and put on eyes of love. She understood why Teddy was so distracted and apathetic.

Mrs. Thompson decided to make Teddy her special project. She gave him extra time and tutoring and found he was grateful for it, whereas when she had done this with other students they resented the extra work they were asked to do.

He finished elementary school and she didn’t see him again for a long time. But she got a letter from him telling her that he had graduated from high school second in his class. Later she got another letter saying that he had graduated from college first in his class. Then some years later she got another letter from Teddy saying he had graduated from medical school and was now a doctor. Not only that, he was getting married and wondered if she would be willing to sit where his mother would have sat in the wedding.

As she finished reading the letter she realized that the extra love and attention she had showed Teddy steered him away from a life of failure. She had quit judging him and realized that he had potential, but no one else was willing to help him.
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It’s all about love. There is nothing else in the universe that matters. There is either love or lack of love.

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God created Adam and Eve. They were perfectly happy until they ate the forbidden fruit. Then they didn’t see each other with perfect love and they realized they had faults. Almost certainly they noticed faults in the other before themselves. Because they noticed faults, they felt naked, and made clothes from the skins of animals to cover their own faults.

When they had perfect love, everything was great. They were like babies or children who are totally satisfied with the love they feel in their family from their mother and father, sisters and brothers.

After they began to lack love, they began to notice things that weren’t right about the other person and themselves. That is what brought pain and suffering into their lives. Before there was only happiness, now there was thoughts of lack and problems.

Psalm 23 says that if God is your shepherd, you won’t lack anything good. Sounds hard to believe, but it is so true. If we could open our spiritual eyes and look with perfect love, we would see what is important and what is not. We would see that love is the only thing that matters, and since God loves us, he will give us all we need.

The problem is, the part of us that lacks love sees illusions that look real and desirable and we begin to want them so much that we feel unhappy if we don’t have them. We see something someone else has that we want. If we could just have perfect love, like a little child, we would be satisfied.

Think about things you like or love. Don’t think about things you don’t like. Worry, fear, depression, guilt, anger — we don’t like these, so don’t think thoughts that bring them about. Think only happy thoughts. The happy thoughts and feelings are love, and bring you closer to God and to success. God is love. When you are thinking about people, places and things you like/love it makes you stronger and more loveable to other people.

Think about music you love, streets you love, books, food, people, memories that you love. Learn to love your job, your family members, your friends and enemies. Anyone can love the loveable. It takes strength to love the people who are selfish. But if you can do that, you have achieved something important.

Love is everything…

Brad Stanton —  February 21, 2013 — Leave a comment

Sinatra is awarded the Presidential Medal of F...

Sinatra is awarded the Presidential Medal of Freedom by President Ronald Reagan. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

After 53 years I finally figured it out. It’s all about love. Everything, I mean EVERYTHING. It’s all about love. The entire Bible can be summed up in one word—love. Every singer that was loved by many had one thing—love. They may have been stupid, low IQ. They may have been weak. They may have been ugly and addicted and bad. But if people loved them, it was because they loved. They loved.

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I used to judge Frank Sinatra. He was connected. Connected the wrong way—with the mafia. He must have been a very bad man, I thought. But he had one thing that many don’t have. He had love, and faith and hope.

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If a person has love, faith and hope in abundance, he/she will be loved by others. He will rise above the crowd. He will become popular, famous. It’s hard to believe, but it is true. Love is everything. Love is all there is.

. I once read that a person could tell by reading others writing whether or not he liked people. I wasn’t sure it was true at the time, but now I believe it. If a person loves, it will flow through his work, whether it is writing, song lyrics, poetry or music.

Sinatra song a song called Summer Wind, lyrics by John Herndon.

John Herndon “Johnny” Mercer (1909 –1976) was an American lyricist, songwriter and singer. Mercer was also a co-founder of Capitol Records.

He is best known as a lyricist, but he also composed music. He was also a popular singer who recorded his own songs as well as those written by others. From the mid-1930s through the mid-1950s, many of the songs Mercer wrote and performed were among the most popular hits of the time. He wrote the lyrics to more than fifteen hundred songs, including compositions for movies and Broadway shows. He received nineteen Academy Award nominations, and won four. ~Wikipedia


English: Phyllis Diller portrait

Phyllis Diller (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Most people don’t realize they have seeds of greatness on the inside of them that are just waiting to be cultivated so that they can grow.

Not everyone is successful early in life. Not everyone makes good grades in school, but that doesn’t mean they won’t do great things in life. There have been some people who contributed great things to the world who did not do well in school. They might have let it get them down and decided they would live a normal, mediocre life. But they didn’t. Some of these people are Henry Ford, Thomas Edison, Albert Einstein, numerous rock stars, actors, sports stars and many, many others.

Some people have very little formal training in their field, but they still stand out due to the fact that they allow their seeds of greatness to grow. Joel Osteen has one year of Bible College in which he studied TV broadcasting, not preaching or pastoring, but he preaches at the largest church in the USA, which he took from his father and grew it to what it is today.

Phyllis Diller was an American actress and comedienne. She created a stage persona of a wild-haired and eccentrically dressed housewife who made self-deprecating jokes about her age and appearance, her terrible cooking, and a husband named “Fang”, while pretending to smoke from a long cigarette holder. ~ Wikipedia

Diller competed with many beautiful women for the top spot in humor and many say she took it. She took what she seemed to think was her liability and turned it into an asset—her appearance.

The movie Rocky, was written by Sylvester Stallone. Complications his mother suffered during labor forced her obstetricians to use two pairs of forceps during his birth; misuse of these accidentally severed a nerve and caused paralysis in parts of Stallone’s face. As a result, the lower left side of his face is paralyzed – including parts of his lip, tongue, and chin – an accident which has given Stallone his snarling look and slightly slurred speech. ~ Wikipedia

Many would feel that if he had a mouth that was crooked, acting was not for him, but Stallone didn’t let it deter him. See photo below. Actually, many think his mouth adds character.

In the movie Rocky said to Adrianne, his girlfriend “My mom always told me that since I didn’t have much of a mind, I had better develop my body.”

Adrianne replied “My mom always told me that since I didn’t have much of a body, I had better develop my mind.”

Many people who seemed to fail at many different things in life often ended up training their mind to do something amazing. I have written blog posts about many of them.

The mind is a terrible thing to waste. (And the waist is a terrible thing to mind.) Don’t forget to say your affirmations, whatever they may be. Example: I am happy, healthy, wealthy, wise and good looking.

Better to be rich or poor?

Brad Stanton —  November 29, 2012 — 16 Comments

English: President Reagan presents Mother Tere...

English: President Reagan presents Mother Teresa with the Medal of Freedom at a White House Ceremony, 1985. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Russell Conwell was a writer, lawyer, orator, university founder, philanthropist, and Baptist preacher about 100 years ago. He delivered one speech over 6000 times, called “Acres of Diamonds.” This speech was about a man who traveled to the Middle East and heard his guide tell a story about a man who left home looking for wealth. The man didn’t find it and became so discouraged he killed himself. Later, someone else found acres of diamonds on his land, right under his feet. The dead man would have found them if he had bothered to look for wealth right where he was.

Many say this story means that true wealth and happiness are right where you are if you know how to find them. Tens of thousands of people heard this speech and many were so moved by it that they found motivation to seek wealth right where they were. One man, for example sat listening to the speech and saw a lady with a hairpin that looked rather difficult to insert in the hair. The man sat thinking of a way to improve the design.  He did and made a fortune selling the new hairpin.

Another man used the few pennies he had to buy needles and thread to sell on the street. He didn’t sell the products and realized he should find out what people want to buy before investing in the product. He observed that many were buying certain kinds of clothes and he invested in them. He began to sell his wares very quickly and after some years became the richest man in New York City at that time.

Conwell believed strongly that anyone could become rich if they had strong desire and worked toward that goal. He said

 “I say that you ought to get rich, and it is your duty to get rich…. The men who get rich may be the most honest men you find in the community. Let me say here clearly .. . ninety-eight out of one hundred of the rich men of America are honest. That is why they are rich. That is why they are trusted with money. That is why they carry on great enterprises and find plenty of people to work with them. It is because they are honest men. … … I sympathize with the poor, but the number of poor who are to be sympathized with is very small. To sympathize with a man whom God has punished for his sins … is to do wrong…. let us remember there is not a poor person in the United States who was not made poor by his own shortcomings. …”

I don’t fully agree with Conwell’s statement, because people are poor for many different reasons including poor health, living in an area of the world where everyone is poor, mental retardation, and some choose to be poor to spend time helping people, such as Mother Teresa.

Some feel it is a sin to be wealthy and some people even believe Jesus taught that. I believed that for awhile, but while reading the Old Testament I saw over and over again that God promised prosperity to everyone who followed his commands and did certain things. Joshua 1:8; Psalm 1; Deuteronomy 30:15; 1 Kings 2:3; Psalm 37:11; Psalm 25:12-14 Proverbs 8:17-19; Proverbs 19:8 Jeremiah 29:11 are a few examples of many promises in the Bible. But unfortunately, they have to be accepted by faith, which is extremely difficult. Also, it can take years, and lots of hard work for promises to come about.

I find that in general, rich people can do more good for the world by donating money and time than people who are not rich. It doesn’t have to be that way, but it usually is. Poor people who have lots of free time could become very powerful prayer warriors, but most do not. They could spend time helping people, some do, but I find most don’t. It is usually the wealthier people who do this. Strange, but that is just what I have observed.

I know many will disagree, feel free to leave a comment expressing another viewpoint.


“He who is happiest is he who is content…” ~Benjamin Franklin

Happiness

Happiness (Photo credit: baejaar)

A wise man said to his friend “Every time I see you, you are running around in a hurry. What are you running after?”

The man answered quickly “Success, money and the rewards of my hard work.”

The wise man said “That would make sense if you assumed all those things are ahead of you, but what if all those things were behind you, and the faster you run, the more difficult it is for those things to catch up to you?”

We all run after something. What are you running after?  Are you running after money, a beautiful house, a person, a position in your company, a degree, a relationship, a better relationship with loved ones? There is nothing wrong with these things, but they won’t fully satisfy you unless you learn to be content.

A writer found an old list of goals he had set for himself. He had written many books and spoke regularly to large groups of people. He was surprised that he had accomplished every one of his goals so quickly. But as he continued to think about it, he was also surprised that he was not more content with what he had. Many people expect outward circumstances to fulfill their inner happiness. Instead of constantly running, take some time to rest and enjoy what you have.

Many very successful people who train others for success say that one of the best things you can do to achieve more success is to enjoy what you already have and be thankful. You reap what you sow, if you think about happy things you will sow more happy things. Being grateful is one way of keeping happy thoughts in your mind. Happy thoughts can’t be in your mind at the same time as sad thoughts. The best way to push sad, angry or any other undesirable thoughts out of your mind is to think about happy thoughts.

Sometimes I count my blessings in my mind, sometimes I write out a list of things I am grateful for, but either way, I always feel happier after I do it.

Here in the USA, we have a holiday for being grateful. We call it “Thanksgiving.” People get together with family, eat turkey and other delicious food, and have fun.

Enjoy where you are instead of where you want to be.

Big Dreams

Brad Stanton —  October 5, 2012 — 13 Comments

“He who was seated on the throne said, ‘I am making everything new!’…”
(Revelation 21:5, NIV)

TODAY’S WORD from Joel and Victoria

Can you remember the time when you first discovered a big dream in your heart? Maybe you were determined to excel in your career, or as a parent, or maybe you were focused on deepening your walk with the Lord. You probably started out with enthusiasm, but maybe things got a little difficult or didn’t happen as quickly as you would have liked. Oftentimes, when things don’t go as planned, people decide, “I’m just going to settle here. It’s not exactly what I wanted, but at least it’s good enough.”

Friend, in this new season, recognize that you were made for more than “good enough.” You were made to increase, to excel, to grow and stretch. Why don’t you take a step of faith this year and embrace the new life He came to give you. Not only does Christ offer new life in eternity, but He offers new life here on earth. Why don’t you pick up those dreams and be determined to see them through. It’s a new day, and He is making everything new in your life!

A PRAYER FOR TODAY

Father in heaven, thank You for this new day. Thank You for the opportunity to begin again. I choose to press forward and keep believing for the dreams and desires You’ve placed in my heart. I trust You today with everything that I am in Jesus’ name. Amen.

— Joel & Victoria Osteen

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Better relationships

Brad Stanton —  September 27, 2012 — 2 Comments

Surveys show there are at least seven important things that people want in relationships.

The Merchant's Wife by Boris Kustodiev, showca...

  • to be heard
  • to be physically safe
  • to be affirmed
  • to be praised
  • to be touched (depends on which kind of relationship)
  • to be passionately desired
  • to be included in your life

1. Your friend/child/spouse/employee wants to be heard. In some of the lessons which were used to train supervisors in a fortune 50 company they explained the importance of listening. One of their key ideas was to listen to people. Chances are, what they are saying is important. Remember to listen to your significant other and make sure she/he knows she is being heard. Not a good idea stare at the TV or computer while she is talking. She may be telling you things that are the most important things to her in her entire life. Most men don’t understand how important the ideas are that a wife expresses. If she says she is feeling overwhelmed, don’t just say OK and then go on with your work. Understand that there is trouble and it may be really big trouble. Also, your wife probably looks to you as the leader in the family in some ways, whether or not she admits it. Think about how you feel if your boss at work does not listen to you. Furthermore, how do you feel when your boss is harsh to you? Your wife probably feels the same way when you don’t listen to her or you are harsh to her. Listen to her, remember what she says, and realize it is important. Act on what she says. Women, your husband needs you to do the same.

Your wife or husband may have grown up in a family in which her/his emotions and feelings were not valued. There may have been a lot of loneliness in her life even though she was surrounded by sisters, brothers, mother and father. She needs to talk about how she feels. Never say that her feelings are not important. Don’t react to her in such a way that she feels you consider her feelings unimportant. This can cause enormous emotional distress, even mental illness in people if their emotions are not validated. Husbands, learn to talk about how you feel, your wife needs to hear it.

This is good for me??

Brad Stanton —  September 26, 2012 — 7 Comments

A Marine of the United States Marine Corps run...

If you ever had a strict Physical Education coach in high school, or you played high school or college sports you probably remember sometimes the coach seemed like he was torturing you. Maybe it was wind sprints, long distance running, swimming or whatever, but there was a time when you felt like if you kept going much longer you would die.

It was at those times that you felt the coach was a sadist, a person who gets pleasure inflicting pain on others. But in reality the coach was  preparing you for the stress of game day so that you would be a bit stronger than the other team.

Sometimes when things go wrong it is easy to get pessimistic and fail to see how difficulties strengthen us. I have gone through many difficult times in my life, probably more than most people, but it is amazing to look back at my life and see how each of those difficult seasons strengthened me.

It is difficult to see how much stronger we are made by hardships. When we lift weights or do other physical exercise, the best growth comes from the most painful burn. When lifting weights, I find the first few repetitions don’t burn, they don’t hurt. But as I keep lifting, the burn gets worse and worse, until I can barely lift the weight. That is when the muscles are made the strongest. It is the same with difficulties in life, if we don’t get bitter, we get better.

Some difficulties in my life made me pessimistic in the past. I find that is one of the most self-destructive attitudes a person can have. Pessimism always brought about worse problems.

Positive thinking always brings about good—good emotions and good situations in life. Sometimes it takes time for the good situations to come about, but the good, happy emotions can start immediately.


Albert Einstein during a lecture in Vienna in 1921

Albert Einstein during a lecture in Vienna in 1921 (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Every invention was hatched in the imagination. Every scientific discovery, every marriage, every book, every act of kindness or meanness was first conceived in the mind.

Today scientists tell us that they can hook up sophisticated electronic equipment to a person’s head and as he talks the equipment can sense where in the brain the electrical firing takes place. A noun fires in a different place in the brain than a verb. One language fires in a different place than another language, if a person is bilingual.

Every thought creates electrical impulses which send electromagnetic waves out from the brain. Some scientists believe that these waves can travel a long distance. All of us think constantly and send these waves out to mix with the waves of other people.

Carl Jung, a famous psychologist, said there is a Collective Unconscious and that all of us can tap into it. I learned that in college and I thought it sounded ridiculous. Later as I read chapter 17 of the book of John I notices Jesus said the same thing. He said that all Christians are united as one and that the fabric of the Holy Spirit is woven together with the fabric of our souls like two different colors of thread being woven together. Well, he used different words, but that is my take on it.

Isaac Newton, who many consider to be the greatest scientist that ever lived, and Albert Einstein both talked about the power of intuition.

“The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant.” - Albert Einstein

“All human knowledge thus begins with intuitions, proceeds thence to concepts, and ends with ideas.” - Immanuel Kant-Philosopher

“It is through science that we prove, but through intuition that we discover.” - Henri Poincare (A great mathematician, physicist and engineer)

“Trust your hunches. They’re usually based on facts filed away
just below the conscious level.” - Dr. Joyce Brothers

“Follow your instincts. That’s where true wisdom manifests itself.” - Oprah Winfrey

Many people say that daydreaming about their wedding day was actually more fun and exciting than actually living it. Some say the invisible world of love, hate, angels and demons is more real than the world that we can see and touch.

Two thousand years ago Jesus said that if you think about committing adultery with a person it is committing adultery. He didn’t say it was almost like, or similar to committing adultery. That was a radical new concept, because in the Jewish religion people believed that God looked at the actions, not the heart/mind.

Have you ever had dreams that seem more intense and real than the world you see every day? I sure have. Some say our spirit never sleeps and is active when our body is asleep. 2 Kings 5:26 says that Elisha could send his spirit out of his body to go snooping around other places. Wow!

Whatever you believe, I’m sure you would agree that our thoughts are incredibly powerful. What do you think? Leave a comment.


English: Robert Plutchik's Wheel of Emotions

English: Robert Plutchik’s Wheel of Emotions (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Think about and do what you love as long as it is not destructive to you or other people. All happiness comes from love and all unhappiness comes from a lack of love. The problem is many people spend a lot of time thinking about things they don’t love and that kind of thinking causes a lot of pain. For example, some people think about how badly another person hurt them. Others think about how distasteful their job is-how much they lack love for their job. Others think about their problems—things they don’t love instead of thinking about the things they love.

If you use the word “love” in the most general form you see that love holds everything in the universe together. Attraction is another word for love. Protons in the nucleus of an atom are held together by a strong attractive force, even though they are positively charged and therefore repel each other. Love or attraction holds families together. Love holds companies together—people come to work because they like getting a paycheck.

When we think about and talk about the things we love, it brings more of those things into our lives. When we think about things we don’t like, it brings more bad into our lives. A couple of years ago I heard this for the first time and wasn’t sure it was true so I thought about it often and tested it out. I found that it is 100% true.

Why do our lives work this way? Some call it psychology and explain what is happening in our subconscious mind. See my article posted 9/12/12 for more information. Others call it the Law of Attraction. Some say it is just common sense.

Have you ever worked with a complainer? There have been times when I was in a good mood, but someone started complaining. I joined in and soon I was feeling gloomy. The opposite is true also, if someone talks about how good the company they work for is, others begin to see good things and feel a little happier.

The more you think and talk about only things you like or love, the happier and more successful you will be. Others will be attracted to you and like you much more than if you were negative.

To get rid of unhappiness or boredom, add love to your life. If you want to get rid of the air in a glass, you don’t hook up a vacuum pump to it because it will never pull all the air out of it. All you have to do is pour water into the glass. John chapter 7 says that love flows down from God like water to us and through us. When we allow ourselves to be filled with love and let it flow to others, we are happier. The Dead Sea is dead because nothing flows out of it, it is the same with people, we aren’t fully alive unless we love people, places, things, pets, etc.

Add love by thinking about things you like or love. Maybe you love sunrises, think about them. If you love a certain TV show, watch it. If you love your family, spend time with them. Love your cat, your dog, your sofa, your bed, or sitting under a tree and relaxing.

When I get unhappy about my job (or anything else) I say “I love my job” a number of times until I begin to feel love/like for my job. Try it, you’ll like it.

What do you think about this? Leave a comment.



Since we reap what we sow we can sow thoughts of abundance to reap abundance. What is true wealth? Some people have millions of dollars but don’t have much happiness. If we want more good things like peaceful, loving relationships, health, wealth, success in career and parenting, we can reap good thoughts.

 

Have you ever sat under a shade tree on a day in late summer when the leaves are still on the trees, the breeze is cool, the cicadas are chirping and you look out over the grass and trees and feel very content? Just relax and soak in the goodness of being alive. Think about the abundance of good things that you enjoy, that you already have and more will come to you. I love to sit outdoors with a cup of strong tea on Saturday morning and enjoy the invigorating feeling it gives me. Then I love to count my blessings and feel good about each one. This is wealth. These feelings can fill you to overflowing with gladness and peace.

 

Gratitude is a powerful thing. Many people say that it attracts good things into your life. I know that when I am grateful I tend to be more abundant in my relationships. Would you rather spend time with a person who was grateful for all the little things you do for them or a complainer who is never satisfied and always wants more?

 

If you were a boss at work and you had several people working for you would you promote the grateful one who was energetic and enthusiastic, always ready to help and take on another task, or would you promote the complainer, the one who is always trying to avoid work?

 

Gratitude brings good things into your life.  Joy brings abundance. It really is true, you reap what you sow. Sow victorious and grateful thoughts and attitudes and you will bring good things into your life.

 


“If the most important part of your life is ahead of you, then even during the worst times,Purpose

one can be assured that there is more laughter ahead, more success to look forward to, more children to teach and help, more friends to touch and influence. There is proof of hope . . . for more.”  The Noticer by Andy Andrews (chapter 6, p. 85).

God adores you and has a wonderful plan for your life. You may be going through difficult times or great times. You may be struggling to reach your goals and dreams in life. If you are like most people, good relationships are one of your top goals in life, but you are not completely satisfied in that area and haven’t achieved all your dreams yet. But no matter what happens, you can be sure that everything will turn out good. That is a promise in Romans 8:28 “For all things work together for good to those who love God…”

Life is a bit like making a cake. You put in flour, butter, salt, eggs and other ingredients. These by themselves don’t taste good at all. I would hate to eat raw eggs and plain flour. Some of the bad things in life are like raw eggs and flour. But after you mix them together and they pass through the heat of the oven (like we feel our life is passing through a crucible) it turns out tasting really good and it is delightful.

One evening I sat playing cards with a group of people I had never met before. To my left was an elderly woman who was very hard of hearing and that isolated her from other people. During the evening I found out her husband had died about 20 years prior. I asked her if that was difficult, she said, “It is hell.” Then she added, but it has gotten easier.”

I realized that life must be rather lonely for her because she lived alone and was so hard of hearing that communication was very difficult. I wondered why God allowed her to stay alive, when it seemed she would rather be with her husband in heaven. (Don’t worry, I now there is no marriage in heaven, if there were heaven would be called hell………..just joking.) I told her that with all that spare time she could be a very powerful prayer warrior.

Why are you here? What is your purpose in life? In a book called “The Noticer” by Andy Andrews, he makes some points (see chapter 6 pp. 83-85). He says that God has a purpose for every person alive on this earth and that you won’t die until you finish that purpose. So if you are still alive and kickin’, it means God still has a plan for you and it is a wonderful plan. If you haven’t finished your purpose, then the most exciting part of your life is ahead of you, not behind you.

You are destined to do great things in life! Click the photo of the little girl praying above and to the right for more of these ideas. What do you think? Is this true? Is your best still ahead of you? amazing power

Get the power….

Brad Stanton —  July 26, 2012 — 21 Comments

Everyone who has learned the power of confidence will tell you that if you really change the way you think and obtain a completely optimistic outlook, it will give you power you never knew was possible. Does that seem hard to believe? Read about people who accomplished great things like Henry Ford, Albert Einstein, Thomas Edison, Sam Walton (the founder of Walmart), W. Clement Stone (became fabulously wealthy by selling insurance) and many others, and you will see that they accomplished great things because they had something about them that seemed like powerful magic. They had confidence.

Portrait of Henry Ford (ca. 1919)

Portrait of Henry Ford (ca. 1919) (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

W. Clement Stone went from extreme poverty as a child, to incredible wealth. He is famous for saying “Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve.” He began selling insurance at a very young age and because of his incredible confidence, he quickly became rich. He decided he could make even more money by hiring people to help him sell insurance. As time went by, he found he could size a person up after talking to them for only a few minutes and determine if they would be successful at selling. He knew confidence was key.

Henry Ford accomplished things that most people said were impossible. Before the United States entered World War 2, the US government knew they must start preparing for war. They gave Henry Ford the task of designing a plant to build airplanes– heavy bombers. Many people looked around the world and said that at most we could build one bomber a day because each bomber was made of about one and a quarter million parts. Henry Ford designed a plant that could build one bomber every 55 minutes! Hitler didn’t think it was possible. This prodigious output of airplanes helped the allies win the war.

Sam Walton said “It is amazing what people can accomplish if they believe in themselves.”
William James, the Father of American Psychology said “The most important thing that determines success is whether or not you believe you can do it.”

Confidence, belief, power of positive thinking…. Jesus called it faith. He said if you have a little faith you can tell a mountain to move and it will.–Nothing will be impossible for you. Matthew 17:20 “Mountain” may have meant “problem,” just like we use it today in the phrase “don’t make a mountain out of a molehill.” amazing power

Love Diverts Disaster

Brad Stanton —  June 24, 2012 — 15 Comments

Mrs. Thompson had seen Teddy in the halls for several years before he became a fifth grader. She was not looking forward to having him in her class. She had a rather large class and dozens of papers to grade every day. The last thing she needed was another under achiever who needed extra help and rewarded her diligence with bad behavior. He didn’t try very hard and often showed up to class looking messy, hair uncombed and clothes not clean

But the school year began and she tried to make the best of it and give Teddy a fair chance before judging him too harshly.

Then came Christmas. All the students got Mrs. Thompson gifts wrapped in colorful wrapping paper with beautiful bows and ribbons. But when it came time for Teddy to give Mrs. Thompson her gift he carried forward a small package wrapped in paper from a brown paper grocery bag. She opened it and inside were a bracelet with some of the rhinestones missing and a bottle of cheap perfume than was more than half empty. Some of the children began to snicker and laugh. But she was smart enough to act delighted and put on some of the perfume.

Later Teddy came up and stood near her and said very quietly, Mrs. Thompson, you look just as beautiful as my mother when you wear that bracelet. And you smell just like her when you wear that perfume. He looked at her with admiration in his eyes.

She began thinking about Teddy after class that day. She realized that he had always been kind to her, even when some of the other students had not. She decided to look at his files and see what his previous teachers had written about him.

1st grade: Teddy shows promise but has very poor home situation

2nd grade: Teddy could do better but mother is seriously ill.

3rd grade: Teddy is a good boy but distracted, his mother died this year.

4th grade: Teddy shows no interest in school work and is not doing well. He has become very quiet and withdrawn, his father seems to show no interest in him.

Mrs. Thompson wiped away tears from her eyes. The next morning the students had a new teacher. She took off her eyes of judgment and put on eyes of love. She understood why Teddy was so distracted and apathetic.

Mrs. Thompson decided to make Teddy her special project. She gave him extra time and tutoring and found he was grateful for it, whereas when she had done this with other students they resented the extra work they were asked to do.

He finished elementary school and she didn’t see him again for a long time. But she got a letter from him telling her that he had graduated from high school second in his class. Later she got another letter saying that he had graduated from college first in his class. Then some years later she got another letter from Teddy saying he had graduated from medical school and was now a doctor. Not only that, he was getting married and wondered if she would be willing to sit where his mother would have sat in the wedding.

As she finished reading the letter she realized that the extra love and attention she had showed Teddy steered him away from a life of failure. She had quit judging him and realized that he had potential, but no one else was willing to help him.
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