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Love is everything…

Brad Stanton —  February 21, 2013 — Leave a comment

Sinatra is awarded the Presidential Medal of F...

Sinatra is awarded the Presidential Medal of Freedom by President Ronald Reagan. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

After 53 years I finally figured it out. It’s all about love. Everything, I mean EVERYTHING. It’s all about love. The entire Bible can be summed up in one word—love. Every singer that was loved by many had one thing—love. They may have been stupid, low IQ. They may have been weak. They may have been ugly and addicted and bad. But if people loved them, it was because they loved. They loved.

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I used to judge Frank Sinatra. He was connected. Connected the wrong way—with the mafia. He must have been a very bad man, I thought. But he had one thing that many don’t have. He had love, and faith and hope.

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If a person has love, faith and hope in abundance, he/she will be loved by others. He will rise above the crowd. He will become popular, famous. It’s hard to believe, but it is true. Love is everything. Love is all there is.

. I once read that a person could tell by reading others writing whether or not he liked people. I wasn’t sure it was true at the time, but now I believe it. If a person loves, it will flow through his work, whether it is writing, song lyrics, poetry or music.

Sinatra song a song called Summer Wind, lyrics by John Herndon.

John Herndon “Johnny” Mercer (1909 –1976) was an American lyricist, songwriter and singer. Mercer was also a co-founder of Capitol Records.

He is best known as a lyricist, but he also composed music. He was also a popular singer who recorded his own songs as well as those written by others. From the mid-1930s through the mid-1950s, many of the songs Mercer wrote and performed were among the most popular hits of the time. He wrote the lyrics to more than fifteen hundred songs, including compositions for movies and Broadway shows. He received nineteen Academy Award nominations, and won four. ~Wikipedia


English: Phyllis Diller portrait

Phyllis Diller (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Most people don’t realize they have seeds of greatness on the inside of them that are just waiting to be cultivated so that they can grow.

Not everyone is successful early in life. Not everyone makes good grades in school, but that doesn’t mean they won’t do great things in life. There have been some people who contributed great things to the world who did not do well in school. They might have let it get them down and decided they would live a normal, mediocre life. But they didn’t. Some of these people are Henry Ford, Thomas Edison, Albert Einstein, numerous rock stars, actors, sports stars and many, many others.

Some people have very little formal training in their field, but they still stand out due to the fact that they allow their seeds of greatness to grow. Joel Osteen has one year of Bible College in which he studied TV broadcasting, not preaching or pastoring, but he preaches at the largest church in the USA, which he took from his father and grew it to what it is today.

Phyllis Diller was an American actress and comedienne. She created a stage persona of a wild-haired and eccentrically dressed housewife who made self-deprecating jokes about her age and appearance, her terrible cooking, and a husband named “Fang”, while pretending to smoke from a long cigarette holder. ~ Wikipedia

Diller competed with many beautiful women for the top spot in humor and many say she took it. She took what she seemed to think was her liability and turned it into an asset—her appearance.

The movie Rocky, was written by Sylvester Stallone. Complications his mother suffered during labor forced her obstetricians to use two pairs of forceps during his birth; misuse of these accidentally severed a nerve and caused paralysis in parts of Stallone’s face. As a result, the lower left side of his face is paralyzed – including parts of his lip, tongue, and chin – an accident which has given Stallone his snarling look and slightly slurred speech. ~ Wikipedia

Many would feel that if he had a mouth that was crooked, acting was not for him, but Stallone didn’t let it deter him. See photo below. Actually, many think his mouth adds character.

In the movie Rocky said to Adrianne, his girlfriend “My mom always told me that since I didn’t have much of a mind, I had better develop my body.”

Adrianne replied “My mom always told me that since I didn’t have much of a body, I had better develop my mind.”

Many people who seemed to fail at many different things in life often ended up training their mind to do something amazing. I have written blog posts about many of them.

The mind is a terrible thing to waste. (And the waist is a terrible thing to mind.) Don’t forget to say your affirmations, whatever they may be. Example: I am happy, healthy, wealthy, wise and good looking.

Better to be rich or poor?

Brad Stanton —  November 29, 2012 — 16 Comments

English: President Reagan presents Mother Tere...

English: President Reagan presents Mother Teresa with the Medal of Freedom at a White House Ceremony, 1985. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Russell Conwell was a writer, lawyer, orator, university founder, philanthropist, and Baptist preacher about 100 years ago. He delivered one speech over 6000 times, called “Acres of Diamonds.” This speech was about a man who traveled to the Middle East and heard his guide tell a story about a man who left home looking for wealth. The man didn’t find it and became so discouraged he killed himself. Later, someone else found acres of diamonds on his land, right under his feet. The dead man would have found them if he had bothered to look for wealth right where he was.

Many say this story means that true wealth and happiness are right where you are if you know how to find them. Tens of thousands of people heard this speech and many were so moved by it that they found motivation to seek wealth right where they were. One man, for example sat listening to the speech and saw a lady with a hairpin that looked rather difficult to insert in the hair. The man sat thinking of a way to improve the design.  He did and made a fortune selling the new hairpin.

Another man used the few pennies he had to buy needles and thread to sell on the street. He didn’t sell the products and realized he should find out what people want to buy before investing in the product. He observed that many were buying certain kinds of clothes and he invested in them. He began to sell his wares very quickly and after some years became the richest man in New York City at that time.

Conwell believed strongly that anyone could become rich if they had strong desire and worked toward that goal. He said

 “I say that you ought to get rich, and it is your duty to get rich…. The men who get rich may be the most honest men you find in the community. Let me say here clearly .. . ninety-eight out of one hundred of the rich men of America are honest. That is why they are rich. That is why they are trusted with money. That is why they carry on great enterprises and find plenty of people to work with them. It is because they are honest men. … … I sympathize with the poor, but the number of poor who are to be sympathized with is very small. To sympathize with a man whom God has punished for his sins … is to do wrong…. let us remember there is not a poor person in the United States who was not made poor by his own shortcomings. …”

I don’t fully agree with Conwell’s statement, because people are poor for many different reasons including poor health, living in an area of the world where everyone is poor, mental retardation, and some choose to be poor to spend time helping people, such as Mother Teresa.

Some feel it is a sin to be wealthy and some people even believe Jesus taught that. I believed that for awhile, but while reading the Old Testament I saw over and over again that God promised prosperity to everyone who followed his commands and did certain things. Joshua 1:8; Psalm 1; Deuteronomy 30:15; 1 Kings 2:3; Psalm 37:11; Psalm 25:12-14 Proverbs 8:17-19; Proverbs 19:8 Jeremiah 29:11 are a few examples of many promises in the Bible. But unfortunately, they have to be accepted by faith, which is extremely difficult. Also, it can take years, and lots of hard work for promises to come about.

I find that in general, rich people can do more good for the world by donating money and time than people who are not rich. It doesn’t have to be that way, but it usually is. Poor people who have lots of free time could become very powerful prayer warriors, but most do not. They could spend time helping people, some do, but I find most don’t. It is usually the wealthier people who do this. Strange, but that is just what I have observed.

I know many will disagree, feel free to leave a comment expressing another viewpoint.


“He who is happiest is he who is content…” ~Benjamin Franklin

Happiness

Happiness (Photo credit: baejaar)

A wise man said to his friend “Every time I see you, you are running around in a hurry. What are you running after?”

The man answered quickly “Success, money and the rewards of my hard work.”

The wise man said “That would make sense if you assumed all those things are ahead of you, but what if all those things were behind you, and the faster you run, the more difficult it is for those things to catch up to you?”

We all run after something. What are you running after?  Are you running after money, a beautiful house, a person, a position in your company, a degree, a relationship, a better relationship with loved ones? There is nothing wrong with these things, but they won’t fully satisfy you unless you learn to be content.

A writer found an old list of goals he had set for himself. He had written many books and spoke regularly to large groups of people. He was surprised that he had accomplished every one of his goals so quickly. But as he continued to think about it, he was also surprised that he was not more content with what he had. Many people expect outward circumstances to fulfill their inner happiness. Instead of constantly running, take some time to rest and enjoy what you have.

Many very successful people who train others for success say that one of the best things you can do to achieve more success is to enjoy what you already have and be thankful. You reap what you sow, if you think about happy things you will sow more happy things. Being grateful is one way of keeping happy thoughts in your mind. Happy thoughts can’t be in your mind at the same time as sad thoughts. The best way to push sad, angry or any other undesirable thoughts out of your mind is to think about happy thoughts.

Sometimes I count my blessings in my mind, sometimes I write out a list of things I am grateful for, but either way, I always feel happier after I do it.

Here in the USA, we have a holiday for being grateful. We call it “Thanksgiving.” People get together with family, eat turkey and other delicious food, and have fun.

Enjoy where you are instead of where you want to be.

Big Dreams

Brad Stanton —  October 5, 2012 — 13 Comments

“He who was seated on the throne said, ‘I am making everything new!’…”
(Revelation 21:5, NIV)

TODAY’S WORD from Joel and Victoria

Can you remember the time when you first discovered a big dream in your heart? Maybe you were determined to excel in your career, or as a parent, or maybe you were focused on deepening your walk with the Lord. You probably started out with enthusiasm, but maybe things got a little difficult or didn’t happen as quickly as you would have liked. Oftentimes, when things don’t go as planned, people decide, “I’m just going to settle here. It’s not exactly what I wanted, but at least it’s good enough.”

Friend, in this new season, recognize that you were made for more than “good enough.” You were made to increase, to excel, to grow and stretch. Why don’t you take a step of faith this year and embrace the new life He came to give you. Not only does Christ offer new life in eternity, but He offers new life here on earth. Why don’t you pick up those dreams and be determined to see them through. It’s a new day, and He is making everything new in your life!

A PRAYER FOR TODAY

Father in heaven, thank You for this new day. Thank You for the opportunity to begin again. I choose to press forward and keep believing for the dreams and desires You’ve placed in my heart. I trust You today with everything that I am in Jesus’ name. Amen.

— Joel & Victoria Osteen

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Better relationships

Brad Stanton —  September 27, 2012 — 2 Comments

Surveys show there are at least seven important things that people want in relationships.

The Merchant's Wife by Boris Kustodiev, showca...

  • to be heard
  • to be physically safe
  • to be affirmed
  • to be praised
  • to be touched (depends on which kind of relationship)
  • to be passionately desired
  • to be included in your life

1. Your friend/child/spouse/employee wants to be heard. In some of the lessons which were used to train supervisors in a fortune 50 company they explained the importance of listening. One of their key ideas was to listen to people. Chances are, what they are saying is important. Remember to listen to your significant other and make sure she/he knows she is being heard. Not a good idea stare at the TV or computer while she is talking. She may be telling you things that are the most important things to her in her entire life. Most men don’t understand how important the ideas are that a wife expresses. If she says she is feeling overwhelmed, don’t just say OK and then go on with your work. Understand that there is trouble and it may be really big trouble. Also, your wife probably looks to you as the leader in the family in some ways, whether or not she admits it. Think about how you feel if your boss at work does not listen to you. Furthermore, how do you feel when your boss is harsh to you? Your wife probably feels the same way when you don’t listen to her or you are harsh to her. Listen to her, remember what she says, and realize it is important. Act on what she says. Women, your husband needs you to do the same.

Your wife or husband may have grown up in a family in which her/his emotions and feelings were not valued. There may have been a lot of loneliness in her life even though she was surrounded by sisters, brothers, mother and father. She needs to talk about how she feels. Never say that her feelings are not important. Don’t react to her in such a way that she feels you consider her feelings unimportant. This can cause enormous emotional distress, even mental illness in people if their emotions are not validated. Husbands, learn to talk about how you feel, your wife needs to hear it.

This is good for me??

Brad Stanton —  September 26, 2012 — 7 Comments

A Marine of the United States Marine Corps run...

If you ever had a strict Physical Education coach in high school, or you played high school or college sports you probably remember sometimes the coach seemed like he was torturing you. Maybe it was wind sprints, long distance running, swimming or whatever, but there was a time when you felt like if you kept going much longer you would die.

It was at those times that you felt the coach was a sadist, a person who gets pleasure inflicting pain on others. But in reality the coach was  preparing you for the stress of game day so that you would be a bit stronger than the other team.

Sometimes when things go wrong it is easy to get pessimistic and fail to see how difficulties strengthen us. I have gone through many difficult times in my life, probably more than most people, but it is amazing to look back at my life and see how each of those difficult seasons strengthened me.

It is difficult to see how much stronger we are made by hardships. When we lift weights or do other physical exercise, the best growth comes from the most painful burn. When lifting weights, I find the first few repetitions don’t burn, they don’t hurt. But as I keep lifting, the burn gets worse and worse, until I can barely lift the weight. That is when the muscles are made the strongest. It is the same with difficulties in life, if we don’t get bitter, we get better.

Some difficulties in my life made me pessimistic in the past. I find that is one of the most self-destructive attitudes a person can have. Pessimism always brought about worse problems.

Positive thinking always brings about good—good emotions and good situations in life. Sometimes it takes time for the good situations to come about, but the good, happy emotions can start immediately.


Albert Einstein during a lecture in Vienna in 1921

Albert Einstein during a lecture in Vienna in 1921 (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Every invention was hatched in the imagination. Every scientific discovery, every marriage, every book, every act of kindness or meanness was first conceived in the mind.

Today scientists tell us that they can hook up sophisticated electronic equipment to a person’s head and as he talks the equipment can sense where in the brain the electrical firing takes place. A noun fires in a different place in the brain than a verb. One language fires in a different place than another language, if a person is bilingual.

Every thought creates electrical impulses which send electromagnetic waves out from the brain. Some scientists believe that these waves can travel a long distance. All of us think constantly and send these waves out to mix with the waves of other people.

Carl Jung, a famous psychologist, said there is a Collective Unconscious and that all of us can tap into it. I learned that in college and I thought it sounded ridiculous. Later as I read chapter 17 of the book of John I notices Jesus said the same thing. He said that all Christians are united as one and that the fabric of the Holy Spirit is woven together with the fabric of our souls like two different colors of thread being woven together. Well, he used different words, but that is my take on it.

Isaac Newton, who many consider to be the greatest scientist that ever lived, and Albert Einstein both talked about the power of intuition.

“The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant.” - Albert Einstein

“All human knowledge thus begins with intuitions, proceeds thence to concepts, and ends with ideas.” - Immanuel Kant-Philosopher

“It is through science that we prove, but through intuition that we discover.” - Henri Poincare (A great mathematician, physicist and engineer)

“Trust your hunches. They’re usually based on facts filed away
just below the conscious level.” - Dr. Joyce Brothers

“Follow your instincts. That’s where true wisdom manifests itself.” - Oprah Winfrey

Many people say that daydreaming about their wedding day was actually more fun and exciting than actually living it. Some say the invisible world of love, hate, angels and demons is more real than the world that we can see and touch.

Two thousand years ago Jesus said that if you think about committing adultery with a person it is committing adultery. He didn’t say it was almost like, or similar to committing adultery. That was a radical new concept, because in the Jewish religion people believed that God looked at the actions, not the heart/mind.

Have you ever had dreams that seem more intense and real than the world you see every day? I sure have. Some say our spirit never sleeps and is active when our body is asleep. 2 Kings 5:26 says that Elisha could send his spirit out of his body to go snooping around other places. Wow!

Whatever you believe, I’m sure you would agree that our thoughts are incredibly powerful. What do you think? Leave a comment.


English: Robert Plutchik's Wheel of Emotions

English: Robert Plutchik’s Wheel of Emotions (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Think about and do what you love as long as it is not destructive to you or other people. All happiness comes from love and all unhappiness comes from a lack of love. The problem is many people spend a lot of time thinking about things they don’t love and that kind of thinking causes a lot of pain. For example, some people think about how badly another person hurt them. Others think about how distasteful their job is-how much they lack love for their job. Others think about their problems—things they don’t love instead of thinking about the things they love.

If you use the word “love” in the most general form you see that love holds everything in the universe together. Attraction is another word for love. Protons in the nucleus of an atom are held together by a strong attractive force, even though they are positively charged and therefore repel each other. Love or attraction holds families together. Love holds companies together—people come to work because they like getting a paycheck.

When we think about and talk about the things we love, it brings more of those things into our lives. When we think about things we don’t like, it brings more bad into our lives. A couple of years ago I heard this for the first time and wasn’t sure it was true so I thought about it often and tested it out. I found that it is 100% true.

Why do our lives work this way? Some call it psychology and explain what is happening in our subconscious mind. See my article posted 9/12/12 for more information. Others call it the Law of Attraction. Some say it is just common sense.

Have you ever worked with a complainer? There have been times when I was in a good mood, but someone started complaining. I joined in and soon I was feeling gloomy. The opposite is true also, if someone talks about how good the company they work for is, others begin to see good things and feel a little happier.

The more you think and talk about only things you like or love, the happier and more successful you will be. Others will be attracted to you and like you much more than if you were negative.

To get rid of unhappiness or boredom, add love to your life. If you want to get rid of the air in a glass, you don’t hook up a vacuum pump to it because it will never pull all the air out of it. All you have to do is pour water into the glass. John chapter 7 says that love flows down from God like water to us and through us. When we allow ourselves to be filled with love and let it flow to others, we are happier. The Dead Sea is dead because nothing flows out of it, it is the same with people, we aren’t fully alive unless we love people, places, things, pets, etc.

Add love by thinking about things you like or love. Maybe you love sunrises, think about them. If you love a certain TV show, watch it. If you love your family, spend time with them. Love your cat, your dog, your sofa, your bed, or sitting under a tree and relaxing.

When I get unhappy about my job (or anything else) I say “I love my job” a number of times until I begin to feel love/like for my job. Try it, you’ll like it.

What do you think about this? Leave a comment.



Since we reap what we sow we can sow thoughts of abundance to reap abundance. What is true wealth? Some people have millions of dollars but don’t have much happiness. If we want more good things like peaceful, loving relationships, health, wealth, success in career and parenting, we can reap good thoughts.

 

Have you ever sat under a shade tree on a day in late summer when the leaves are still on the trees, the breeze is cool, the cicadas are chirping and you look out over the grass and trees and feel very content? Just relax and soak in the goodness of being alive. Think about the abundance of good things that you enjoy, that you already have and more will come to you. I love to sit outdoors with a cup of strong tea on Saturday morning and enjoy the invigorating feeling it gives me. Then I love to count my blessings and feel good about each one. This is wealth. These feelings can fill you to overflowing with gladness and peace.

 

Gratitude is a powerful thing. Many people say that it attracts good things into your life. I know that when I am grateful I tend to be more abundant in my relationships. Would you rather spend time with a person who was grateful for all the little things you do for them or a complainer who is never satisfied and always wants more?

 

If you were a boss at work and you had several people working for you would you promote the grateful one who was energetic and enthusiastic, always ready to help and take on another task, or would you promote the complainer, the one who is always trying to avoid work?

 

Gratitude brings good things into your life.  Joy brings abundance. It really is true, you reap what you sow. Sow victorious and grateful thoughts and attitudes and you will bring good things into your life.

 


“If the most important part of your life is ahead of you, then even during the worst times,Purpose

one can be assured that there is more laughter ahead, more success to look forward to, more children to teach and help, more friends to touch and influence. There is proof of hope . . . for more.”  The Noticer by Andy Andrews (chapter 6, p. 85).

God adores you and has a wonderful plan for your life. You may be going through difficult times or great times. You may be struggling to reach your goals and dreams in life. If you are like most people, good relationships are one of your top goals in life, but you are not completely satisfied in that area and haven’t achieved all your dreams yet. But no matter what happens, you can be sure that everything will turn out good. That is a promise in Romans 8:28 “For all things work together for good to those who love God…”

Life is a bit like making a cake. You put in flour, butter, salt, eggs and other ingredients. These by themselves don’t taste good at all. I would hate to eat raw eggs and plain flour. Some of the bad things in life are like raw eggs and flour. But after you mix them together and they pass through the heat of the oven (like we feel our life is passing through a crucible) it turns out tasting really good and it is delightful.

One evening I sat playing cards with a group of people I had never met before. To my left was an elderly woman who was very hard of hearing and that isolated her from other people. During the evening I found out her husband had died about 20 years prior. I asked her if that was difficult, she said, “It is hell.” Then she added, but it has gotten easier.”

I realized that life must be rather lonely for her because she lived alone and was so hard of hearing that communication was very difficult. I wondered why God allowed her to stay alive, when it seemed she would rather be with her husband in heaven. (Don’t worry, I now there is no marriage in heaven, if there were heaven would be called hell………..just joking.) I told her that with all that spare time she could be a very powerful prayer warrior.

Why are you here? What is your purpose in life? In a book called “The Noticer” by Andy Andrews, he makes some points (see chapter 6 pp. 83-85). He says that God has a purpose for every person alive on this earth and that you won’t die until you finish that purpose. So if you are still alive and kickin’, it means God still has a plan for you and it is a wonderful plan. If you haven’t finished your purpose, then the most exciting part of your life is ahead of you, not behind you.

You are destined to do great things in life! Click the photo of the little girl praying above and to the right for more of these ideas. What do you think? Is this true? Is your best still ahead of you? amazing power

Get the power….

Brad Stanton —  July 26, 2012 — 21 Comments

Everyone who has learned the power of confidence will tell you that if you really change the way you think and obtain a completely optimistic outlook, it will give you power you never knew was possible. Does that seem hard to believe? Read about people who accomplished great things like Henry Ford, Albert Einstein, Thomas Edison, Sam Walton (the founder of Walmart), W. Clement Stone (became fabulously wealthy by selling insurance) and many others, and you will see that they accomplished great things because they had something about them that seemed like powerful magic. They had confidence.

Portrait of Henry Ford (ca. 1919)

Portrait of Henry Ford (ca. 1919) (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

W. Clement Stone went from extreme poverty as a child, to incredible wealth. He is famous for saying “Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve.” He began selling insurance at a very young age and because of his incredible confidence, he quickly became rich. He decided he could make even more money by hiring people to help him sell insurance. As time went by, he found he could size a person up after talking to them for only a few minutes and determine if they would be successful at selling. He knew confidence was key.

Henry Ford accomplished things that most people said were impossible. Before the United States entered World War 2, the US government knew they must start preparing for war. They gave Henry Ford the task of designing a plant to build airplanes– heavy bombers. Many people looked around the world and said that at most we could build one bomber a day because each bomber was made of about one and a quarter million parts. Henry Ford designed a plant that could build one bomber every 55 minutes! Hitler didn’t think it was possible. This prodigious output of airplanes helped the allies win the war.

Sam Walton said “It is amazing what people can accomplish if they believe in themselves.”
William James, the Father of American Psychology said “The most important thing that determines success is whether or not you believe you can do it.”

Confidence, belief, power of positive thinking…. Jesus called it faith. He said if you have a little faith you can tell a mountain to move and it will.–Nothing will be impossible for you. Matthew 17:20 “Mountain” may have meant “problem,” just like we use it today in the phrase “don’t make a mountain out of a molehill.” amazing power