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1228Billionaire Steve Jobs was adopted into a working class family; grew up in apricot orchards that would later become Silicon Valley. Dropped out of Reed College because he couldn’t pay the tuition; co-founded Apple in his parents’ garage in 1976. Ousted from the iconic brand in 1985 after power struggle with chief John Scully. Returned to Apple in 1996, creating iPod sensation. In interim, started Pixar animation, creator of hits like Toy Story and Finding Nemo, that was later sold to Disney. Jobs was on Disney’s board and is its largest shareholder. –Forbes online

Phyllis Diller was an American actress and comedienne. She created a stage persona of a wild-haired and eccentrically dressed housewife who made self-deprecating jokes about her age and appearance, her terrible cooking, and a husband named “Fang”, while pretending to smoke from a long cigarette holder. ~ Wikipedia

Diller competed with many beautiful women for the top spot in humor and many say she took it. She took what she seemed to think was her liability and turned it into an asset—her appearance.

The movie Rocky, was written by Sylvester Stallone. Complications his mother suffered during labor forced her obstetricians to use two pairs of forceps during his birth; misuse of these accidentally severed a nerve and caused paralysis in parts of Stallone’s face. As a result, the lower left side of his face is paralyzed – including parts of his lip, tongue, and chin – an accident which has given Stallone his snarling look and slightly slurred speech. ~ Wikipedia

Many would feel that if he had a mouth that was crooked, acting was not for him, but Stallone didn’t let it deter him. Actually, many think his mouth adds character.

Billionaire Ralph Lauren was the son of Russian immigrants and was born and raised in the Bronx where he shared a bedroom with two of his brothers. By age 12, worked after school to help pay for his fancy taste in clothes. At one time worked in department stores. Eventually dropped out of City College to launch Polo Fashions with a $50,000 loan. ~Forbes online

Seeds of greatness

Brad Stanton —  March 15, 2013 — 1 Comment

163917_16 - CopyYou have seeds of greatness inside you that enable you to achieve the goals and dreams in your life. When you plant a seed, you probably water it often, weed it, and put fertilizer on it. The more you cultivate it, the better the harvest will be. In the same way, your seeds of greatness need cultivation to grow and cause you to be extraordinary.

Your goals may be a happier marriage, a promotion at work, to get out of debt, or better health. These are all possible goals and dreams.

Some ways to cultivate your seeds of greatness are to think positive thoughts instead of negative. Set goals and believe that you can achieve them. Be persistent, diligent and enjoy working for the dreams and goals in your life. The more you enjoy working toward the goals, the better you will work. You will end up working smarter instead of harder. Thomas Edison said he never worked a day in his life because he enjoyed it so much it was fun, not work.

Faith, belief, optimism are powerful forces that help you achieve the extraordinary. Most people don’t even think about becoming extraordinary. They don’t believe they can do it, so they don’t even try.

Affirmations are one way many people achieve success. The famous story of the Little Engine that Could is an example. The little engine was faced with a task that seemed impossible, but he repeated “I think I can, I think I can” over and over until he mustered the gumption to pull a heavy load. He accomplished the task and all the other engines cheered.

If you are a Christian, there are plenty of powerful affirmations you can use. One of them is “I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength.” Phil 4:10

The problem is, accomplishing big things takes lots of time, sometimes years. It is easy to get discouraged along the way and give up. But you have never failed until you quit. The old saying really is true: winners never quit and quitters never win.  http://bradstanton.com/2013/03/09/amazing-coincidences/


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Matthew 17:20

He replied, “Because you have so little faith. Truly I tell you, if you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can say to this mountain, ‘Move from here to there,’ and it will move. Nothing will be impossible for you.”
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It really is true, if you have faith, nothing is impossible for you, you can do anything! If you don’t believe this, then it is not for you. Only those who believe it have faith.
There are many things you can do to build stronger failth.
1. repeat affirmations (verses) on faith http://bradstanton.com/2012/08/15/faith-bible-verses
2. thank God for what you pray for, don’t beg for it, thank for it
3. imagine your prayer answered, this builds strong faith
4. hold on, it sometimes takes a long time
5. enjoy your life while you are waiting.
6. it took the apostles three years studyiing with Jesus full time, don’t expect powerful faith in just a month or two.

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A woman walked out to her front yard every day and said out loud “Thank you God for the new day.” Her next door neighbor didn’t believe in God and told her so often. He teased her for praying to an imaginary God.

One day she was very low on money so she went out and prayed “God, please send me food to eat.”

Her next door neighbor heard her say this, so he decided to play a trick on her. He went to the store and bought two bags of groceries and put them on her front porch before she came out to pray. When she came out she saw the groceries and shouted “Thank you God, for the food.”

Her neighbor said, “Ha, I was the one that put the groceries on your porch, God had nothing to do with it!”

She turned her face to the sky and shouted “Thanks for the food, God and thanks that you made the devil pay for it!”

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Well, that is a joke, but I have heard of people praying for food and getting it a number of times.

Once in Asia a woman was working on a new concept for water purification system. She perfected it for more than a year and patented it. She wanted to market it but she didn’t have the money.

She went to banks and asked for a loan. The economy was down, so the banks turned her down. She kept trying, and went to more banks. Finally she went to a bank and made her pitch to the banker. He really liked the idea but he was hesitant to loan her the money because of the bad economy. Finally, after she tried to persuade him, he said jokingly “OK, if the stock market goes up tomorrow I will give you the loan.”

The stock market had been down for over a year. But she went home and prayed that the stock market would go up.

The next day the stock market went up a lot. So the banker gave her the loan. She marketed the concept very well, and now she is one of the richest women in Asia. She gives large sums of money to help people and various ministries.

Was it a coincidence that the stock market went up the day after she prayed? I don’t know, but I do know that prayer makes amazing coincidences happen.

The problem is that most people don’t pray the way Jesus taught his disciples to pray, the way all the powerful prophets of the Old Testament. When the disciples saw a lame man they said “In Jesus name, get up and walk!” They did not say, “Oh God, if it is your will would you heal this man?”

Most people don’t get their prayers answered because they pray wimpy prayers. see more at a previous post http://wp.me/p2rHBL-WT


644049_505547829486539_1221714831_nThis idea I am writing totally changed my life for the better. I am much more optimistic and happier now that I understand faith. A couple of years ago I didn’t fully believe in prayer. I had prayed many prayers that didn’t get answered and I didn’t know why they didn’t, so I began to lose faith in prayer.

The Apostles spent 24 hours a day, 7 days a week with the best teacher ever, Jesus Christ. After three years they still didn’t understand prayer very well, and had several false starts trying to get answers to prayer. If it took them that long, don’t expect to have powerful prayer faith over night! It takes a lot of time to build your faith.

Then I wrote a book on prayer and spent several hours a day studying faith and prayer for a year and still study the idea of faith almost every day. It really changed my life for the better. Now i realize that most people don’t pray the way the Bible teaches us to pray. For example, In Exodus 14:15, Moses was trapped between the Egyptian army and the Red Sea, crying out to God for help. God told him to quit praying and take action:

15 Then the Lord said to Moses,“Why are you crying out to me? Tell the Israelites to move on. 16 Raise your staff and stretch out your hand over the sea to divide the water so that the Israelites can go through the sea on dry ground.” Exodus 14:15

God told him to stop praying and do something, because God had already given him the power he needed.

In Acts 3:6 we see that the apostles didn’t stand around praying for a lame man, they spoke to him, not to God, and said “In the name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth, walk.”

In Matthew 17:22 Jesus told his followers to actually speak to a mountain (mountain could mean problem), instead of praying. He said 20 “I tell you the truth, if you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can say to this mountain, ‘Move from here to there’ and it will move. Nothing will be impossible for you.” No need to waste time praying to God over and over again, I found I only needed to pray once, after that I needed to thank God for his answer to the prayer (Col 4:2; Phil 4:6), and speak to the problem. For example “In Jesus name, I am healthy!” That was to get healed. If you think about it, if you have faith, why would you keep asking for it? If I go to a restaurant and ask the waitress for water, I don’t ask her again for it unless I believe she is not going to bring it to me.

I found the reason many of my prayers did not get answered is because I was praying sissy prayers, I wasn’t speaking to the problem, I was talking to God about it and he had set a precedent way back in the time of Moses. No wonder all the great people of God used props the way Moses did when they performed miracles. Elisha used his jacket to strike water and it separated, he threw some flour in a pot of poison to make it safe.

In James 5 the Bible tells us that Elijah was a man just like us, he was not some superman that we can never be like, he was an ordinary human being that had faith, so that God used him. James 5 says that our prayers can be just as powerful as Elijah’s.

I find I have many more answers to prayers when I speak out to the problem like Jesus commanded us to do, and like the OT people did, and the NT people did also. The prayers taught to us in church are NOT Biblical prayers, they are taught to us by people who don’t know how to pray—no wonder we don’t get good results!

So I set about to increase my faith. I began to memorize Bible verses about faith. I said them every day. I read about modern day and Biblical Christians who had powerful prayers to find out how they had such faith and just to increase my faith. I used the FAITH steps http://bradstanton.com/2012/08/15/faith-bible-verses/  to have stronger faith. As time went on, I was amazed how many of my prayers were answered. I am not saying all my prayers are answered, I don’t have that kind of faith yet, but I am growing in faith every day.

Something that really amazed me was that many scientists proved scientifically that faith is powerful and truly changes things. A psychologist and pharmacist named Emil Coue used faith to cure his patients. He told them to believe they were getting better and they did get better! He told his patients to say “Every way and every day I’m getting better and better.”

Coue had results much better than other psychologists because he gave people hope and faith.

It is amazing to me how many scientists and business people understand faith and do amazing things because of it.

Matthew 7:7“Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. 8 For everyone who asks receives; the one who seeks finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened.

Matthew 8:13Then Jesus said to the centurion, “Go! Let it be done just as you believed it would.” And his servant was healed at that moment.

Matthew 9:22Jesus turned and saw her. “Take heart, daughter,” he said, “your faith has healed you.” And the woman was healed at that moment.

Matthew 9:29 Then he touched their eyes and said, “According to your faith let it be done to you”; 30 and their sight was restored.

Matthew 15:28 Then Jesus said to her, “Woman, you have great faith! Your request is granted.” And her daughter was healed at that moment.

Matthew 17:20 Truly I tell you, if you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can say to this mountain, ‘Move from here to there,’ and it will move. Nothing will be impossible for you.”


734538_424972How do you see yourself? If you see yourself as a winner, as capable and able, you tend to accomplish much more in life, do better at your job and relationships. I heard a PhD give a speech in which he said that bad self-image was the cause of almost all divorces. At first I did not believe it, but the more I ponder it, the more I believe it may be true. Leave a comment, what do you think about this? Have you seen instances in which a bad self-image caused problems?

There were areas in my life in which I used to feel incompetent. After I picked myself off and dusted off my poor attitude in those areas, I did much better and was much happier.

This is a pic of me taken with a distortion app. It’s a bad self image. I laughed out loud the first time I saw it.

 

Here are some quotes that have helped me a lot, hope they help you too:

Within you right now is the power to do things you never dreamed possible. Dr. Maxwell Maltz

A man’s life is dyed by the color of his imagination.~ Marcus Aurelius

Always do your best. What you plant now, you will harvest later. ~ Kiyoshaki

Vision is the art of seeing the invisible. ~Johnathon Swift

Visualizing your goal for 7 minutes a day is a huge step forward in achieving it. ~many people

Abundance is the natural state of being. ~Jack Canfield

Abundance is not something we aquire. It is something we tune into. ~Wayne Dyer

 

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People that consistently do more than the minimum at work, have a good attitude and keep gaining skills in their area and other areas are the kind of person companies want to promote.

Once a man was asked to do his work and also help another group. He resented this and complained to his boss, and finally talked his boss into letting him avoid the extra work. Later another employee did his own job and also helped the other group. It took extra time to learn how to do their job, but he did it. Then the time came for the boss to retire. The VP in charge was looking for someone who could do both jobs to promote to manager. Guess who he picked? You bet. He picked the man who was willing to go the extra mile.

Many years ago a very rich Jewish man was looking for a wife. He came from the wealthiest, most prominent family in the land. He was getting up in the years and still not married. But he wanted a very special wife. He wanted a woman who did more than the minimum, who went the extra mile.

A servant was sent in a caravan of camels to find a wife. The caravan traveled a long way and finally stopped at a well. A beautiful woman was there, getting water. The social customs of the day mandated that she offer the visitors something to drink. So she did. But she went far beyond the minimum. She looked at the camels, probably about ten of them, and asked if she could water them as well. She knew that a camel could easily drink 30 gallons of water after a long walk, and ten camels could drink 300 gallons. That is a lot of exhausting work, pulling a bucket out of a well over and over, possibly 300 times. But she did it.

The servant brought her back home to marry his master. The woman, Rebecca, married into one of the most famous and important families in the history of the world, her husband was Isaac, son of Abraham, the father of the Jewish race. If she had done the minimum, she would not have been chosen.

Zig Ziglar said that most people quit looking for work as soon as they find the job. I find it  true, most people don’t keep looking for work to do after they finish their tasks. But those that do learn important skills that make them more valuable. People who go the extra mile are rare, but like rare gems, they are extremely precious


Emile Coue was a French psychologist and pharmacist who is famous for introducing the idea of optimistic autosuggestion. In other words you can change your life for the better by believing and saying affirmations. Actually, the idea had been around for at least two thousand years, but Coue proved that faith, belief, confidence (whatever you want to call it) can do miraculous things for a person. He found amazing things happened if people repeat the affirmation “Every day, in every way, I’m getting better and better.” He was much more successful than other psychologists who didn’t use autosuggestion.

I have found that affirmations help a person lose weight. “Every day I’m getting slimmer and slimmer.” or “I weight (target weight). “I don’t enjoy overeating.”

French pharmacist and psychologist Émile Coué ...

French pharmacist and psychologist Émile Coué (1857-1926) on a visit to the United States in January 1917. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Coue treated many patients in groups and free of charge.

Coue’s family had origins in French nobility, but was not wealthy. Coue was a brilliant student in school and graduated with a degree in pharmacology in 1876.

He wrote a book called Self Mastery Through Conscious Autosuggestion and it is available free here http://www.gutenberg.org/ebooks/27203

Coue says “Everyone has heard of sleepwalking; everyone knows that a sleepwalker gets up at night without waking, leaves his room after either dressing himself or not, goes downstairs, walks along corridors, and after having executed certain acts or accomplished certain work, returns to his room, goes to bed again, and shows next day the greatest astonishment at finding work finished which he had left unfinished the day before.”

He says that autosuggestion is “… an instrument that we possess at birth, and with which we play unconsciously all our life, as a baby plays with its rattle. It is however a dangerous instrument; it can wound or even kill you if you handle it imprudently and unconsciously. It can on the contrary save your life when you know how to employ it consciously.”

2000 years ago Jesus sometimes told people “Your faith has healed you.” Matthew 9:22, and other places in the Gospels. I used to wonder why he said it was faith that healed them, why didn’t he emphasize that God had healed them? It may sound strange, but I believe the reason Jesus said this is that it was their faith that healed them. Faith like that takes many months or years to develop, and repeating verses, affirmations every day can help develop strong faith. Picturing the answer to prayer in your mind helps a lot too.

Some who have amazing answers to prayer say you only need to pray once, then start thanking God for it. Thank God over and over for it, that builds faith. Begging God for it weakens your faith. Nancy Goodman overcame breast cancer by thanking God over and over many times a day and watching funny movies. The laughter helped her keep her faith and get rid of worry. Negative emotions poison the body, resisting the natural healing that can occur.

Medicine is good, but many take medicine and don’t get healed. Faith and medicine together are really powerful.


00000gty When I was a kid, my Mom liked to make breakfast food for dinner every now and then. I remember one night in particular when she had made breakfast after a long, hard day at work. On that evening so long ago, my Mom placed a plate of eggs, sausage and extremely burned biscuits in front of my dad. I remember waiting to see if anyone noticed!
All my dad did was reach for his biscuit, smile at my Mom and ask me how my day was at school. I don’t remember what I told him that night, but I do remember watching him smear butter and jelly on that ugly burned biscuit. He ate every bite of that thing…never made a face nor uttered a word about it!

When I got up from the table that evening, I remember hearing my Mom apologize to my dad for burning the biscuits. And I’ll never forget what he said, “Honey, I love burned biscuits every now and then.”

Later that night, I went to kiss Daddy good night and I asked him if he really liked his biscuits burned. He wrapped me in his arms and said, “Your Mom put in a hard day at work today and she’s real tired. And besides–a little burned biscuit never hurt anyone!”
As I’ve grown older, I’ve thought about that many times. Life is full of imperfect things and imperfect people.
I’m not the best at hardly anything, and I forget birthdays and anniversaries just like everyone else. But what I’ve learned over the years is that learning to accept each other’s faults and choosing to celebrate each other’s differences is one of the most important keys to creating a healthy, growing, and lasting relationship.

And that’s my prayer for you today…that you will learn to take the good, the bad, and the ugly parts of your life and lay them at the feet of God. Because in the end, He’s the only One who will be able to give you a relationship where a burnt biscuit isn’t a deal-breaker!

We could extend this to any relationship. In fact, understanding is the base of any relationship, be it a husband-wife or parent-child or friendship!

“Don’t put the key to your happiness in someone else’s pocket–keep it in your own.”
So, please pass me a biscuit, and yes, the burned one will do just fine.
And PLEASE pass this along to someone who has enriched your life–I just did!
Be kinder than necessary because everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle.
“Life without God is like an unsharpened pencil–it has no point”

From a Facebook friend S. Oswald


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More than three thousand years ago several million people were released from slavery and they traveled to a land that was promised to them. But because they had “grasshopper mentalities” (we are not tough enough or good enough,, we are like grasshoppers compared to them) they didn’t have the confidence to fight for the land and instead wandered aimlessly in the desert, living a very austere life. Abundance and wealth was just beyond their grasp, they could have had it if they had faith enough to fight for it, as was proved forty years later when they fought for and won the land.

Most people believe they are not extraordinary and they will never do anything special with their life. They don’t want to get their hopes up because they have been disappointed so many times in the past. They don’t aim for any goals in life because they are afraid of failure. It has often been said “If you don’t aim for anything, you will probably get it.”

It has been said that if you ask a person in any store why they are there, they will have a good answer, they came to buy something or just came to look around. But if you ask a person why they are here in life and what their goals and dreams are, they will probably not be able to answer the question. Some say 8 out of 10 people don’t really have an answer to that question.

A young man was told by his parents and teachers that he wasn’t very smart. He didn’t do well in school and after leaving high school he applied for a job at a large company near his home. The company always gave IQ tests to everyone who applied and they found that he had an extremely high IQ. They put him in a position that required a lot of thinking and planning. He did extremely well, in fact he invented a couple of new things and was awarded patents. What was the difference? He suddenly had hope and faith that he could do well at his job. He was treated with respect and it caused him to respect himself.

However, it is certainly true that many people who don’t have much talent do incredible things in life. Many of the most successful businessmen, world leaders, inventors, athletes, rock stars, etc. do not have high IQ’s. It is not necessary for success in life, by any definition of success. But it seems that hope is necessary and so is faith, or confidence, whatever you want to call it.

A grasshopper mentality is the death of dreams and goals, and usually prevents people from having big dreams and plans for the future. The way to overcome it is to read/listen to positive instead of negative, every day.

“You are more than conquerors through him who loved us.” Romans 8:37

Love is everything…

Brad Stanton —  February 21, 2013 — Leave a comment

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Sinatra is awarded the Presidential Medal of Freedom by President Ronald Reagan. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

After 53 years I finally figured it out. It’s all about love. Everything, I mean EVERYTHING. It’s all about love. The entire Bible can be summed up in one word—love. Every singer that was loved by many had one thing—love. They may have been stupid, low IQ. They may have been weak. They may have been ugly and addicted and bad. But if people loved them, it was because they loved. They loved.

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I used to judge Frank Sinatra. He was connected. Connected the wrong way—with the mafia. He must have been a very bad man, I thought. But he had one thing that many don’t have. He had love, and faith and hope.

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If a person has love, faith and hope in abundance, he/she will be loved by others. He will rise above the crowd. He will become popular, famous. It’s hard to believe, but it is true. Love is everything. Love is all there is.

. I once read that a person could tell by reading others writing whether or not he liked people. I wasn’t sure it was true at the time, but now I believe it. If a person loves, it will flow through his work, whether it is writing, song lyrics, poetry or music.

Sinatra song a song called Summer Wind, lyrics by John Herndon.

John Herndon “Johnny” Mercer (1909 –1976) was an American lyricist, songwriter and singer. Mercer was also a co-founder of Capitol Records.

He is best known as a lyricist, but he also composed music. He was also a popular singer who recorded his own songs as well as those written by others. From the mid-1930s through the mid-1950s, many of the songs Mercer wrote and performed were among the most popular hits of the time. He wrote the lyrics to more than fifteen hundred songs, including compositions for movies and Broadway shows. He received nineteen Academy Award nominations, and won four. ~Wikipedia


00000DaniJohnsonDani Johnson went from being homeless, living in her car, to millionaire in less than two years. She had flown to Hawaii and was working as a cocktail waitress, but she was $35,000 in debt and didn’t have enough money for a hotel. She had only a few dollars in change.

Dani got stoned on coke and woke up very confused the next morning. She had grown so despondent that she decided to end it all. She was on a beach and began walking out into the ocean and dove underneath a wave. Surprisingly enough, she didn’t die, in fact her life changed dramatically at that point. She said it was like a miracle.

“I heard a voice say, ‘Pick up your mat and walk.’’

She rolled up her beach mat, turned around and walked a mile to her car.

Dani had lived through terrible problems, she was sexually abused and said this about her life:

“I was stoned out of my mind for two months – sleeping with eight different guys. I got to eat only by dating all these people. I realized that I had become worse than the family I grew up in and that was devastating. My mom and dad were drug addicts and I had never seen my parents sober. My childhood was filled with threats and getting beaten daily; week in, week out. My whole life was filled with horror and terror and lies and I vowed that I would never be like my family. And there I was doing cocaine…”

“I drove 45 minutes to the beach where I was living. And the whole time I was driving, it was as if the left side of my mind was saying, ‘This is not what is intended for your life, you shouldn’t be drinking. There is more to life,’ and the right side was saying, ‘You’re a failure, you’re a loser, you’re filthy; worse than your parents. Drive this car into the ocean.’ This was like a war inside my mind with these voices and I was literally in a trance.” From Forbes Magazine online

She got in her car and suddenly realized she had a money making opportunity in the back seat. It was a weight loss product. She made a handmade flyer (this was before computers were popular) and put it up in the Post Office where everyone in town went.

She had bargained for a voice mail account and the next day she found 25 messages on it from the flyer. She ended the month with 40 checks from new customers for a total of $4000. She used a liquor store address as her own by talking the owner into it.

Dani made $250,000 the first year by selling the weight loss program. She was a millionaire by the second year and sold her business after starting 18 weight loss centers around the country. After selling her stores she was a multimillionaire. I will tell more about how she did it in my new book The Ten Keys to Success, which I will publish soon.


If I had one hour to save the world, I would spend 55 minutes defining the problem and onlyIMG_0639
five minutes finding the solution
. –Einstein, Albert

Once a Toyota executive asked a large group of employees how to increase their productivity they only gave him blank stares. He decided to change the question and asked them to tell him ways to make their job easier and got so many responses he couldn’t keep up with the number of suggestions.

That is a great way to increase your profit in business, but does it work for changing your husband (or anyone else)? You bet!

First sit down and spend time defining the problem. What is it that you really want to change about your husband or other loved one? Don’t just say you want him to love you more, take out the trash more or be more romantic, all women want this for their husband. Think of a more precise definition to the problem. The better you define the problem, the easier it will be to solve it!

“He has a right to criticize, who has a heart to help.” Abraham Lincoln

Criticizing only makes the problem worse unless it is done gently and in love. But remember, don’t be pushed by your problems, be led by your dreams.

Quotes from Miss H Nishah about problems:

To every girl who gossiped about me in corners of parties, to those who were my slap in the face, to the close minded or misunderstanding, to those boys that broke my heart, and to those friends who turned out to be back stabbers. You all challenged me to become the person I wanted to be. I am stronger because of all the stupid things you put me through. No matter how much you have done to me, you have unknowingly done so much more for me. So, thanks.

In desperate love, we always invent the characters of our partners, demanding they be what we need of them, and then feeling devastated when they refuse to perform the role we created in the first place.


Joe Spinell at BFSB

Faithless people lost a good chance

Years ago a man named Joe Wright told me that he had a gasoline card that he prepaid and could go to the petrol gas station and fill up his car with gas. The card was going to expire at the end of the year and after he filled his tank there was still almost a hundred dollars left on the card. Since it was the last day of the year, he knew he couldn’t use the money so he walked over to a woman who just pulled into the gas station and asked her if she wanted to use the card. She looked startled and asked him what the catch was. Joe explained to her why he was giving her gas, but she refused. Apparently she didn’t believe she could get something for nothing.

Later a man drove in and Joe motioned for him to roll down his window. The man opened it a crack and Joe asked him if he wanted to use the card for free gasoline. The man said no.

Joe didn’t give up and asked one more man who gladly accepted the offer and thanked Joe profusely. There was still money left on the card, so Joe waited and asked other people. Most didn’t believe they would get something for nothing. A few who had faith got rewarded for their faith.

Do you have faith?

If a rich person came to you and said he would give you a million dollars to write a song, would you do it? I certainly would, but it probably wouldn’t be a very good song. Yet hundreds of people write songs and make millions of dollars off their music. They had to start with the belief that they could write a song that many people would like, they had to have faith. Most people don’t try to write music or books because they don’t think they can do it well.

My blog posts are all about how to be successful in anything. But it all starts with faith. Jesus said everything is possible for one who believes (Mark 9:23). Jesus spoke of the power of faith about 40 times in the Gospels.  Buddha said similar things, so do virtually all the success coaches and many psychologists. .

The problem is that it is very difficult to maintain faith in your ability to reach your goals and dreams. Here are some things that help:

Say affirmations every day.

An affirmation is simply a short phrase that says you have achieved your dreams. Jack Canfield, the writer, used this affirmation daily: “God is my infinite supply and large sums of money come to me quickly and easily under the grace of God for the highest good of all concerned. I am happily and easily earning, saving and investing $100,000 a year.”

Jack went from a very low salary to becoming a multimillionaire with this affirmation and a lot of hard work.

Change happens

Your life can change for the better at any time. Suddenly a goal you have been working on can come to fruition. Stay optimistic, you really can reach your goals and dreams in life!

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THE VALUES OF TEAMWORK:

Brad Stanton —  February 6, 2013 — 1 Comment

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1.) Teamwork is at the heart of great achievement. The question isn’t whether teams have value. The question is whether we acknowledge that fact and become better team players. It says, “Behind an able man there are always other able man.” There are no problems we cannot solve together, and very few that we can solve by ourselves. ~ US President Lyndon Johnson
2.) Teams involve more people, thus affording more resources, ideas, and energy than would an individual.
3.) Teams maximize a leader’s potential and minimize his/her weaknesses. Strengths and weaknesses are more exposed in individuals.
4.) Teams provide multiple perspectives on how to meet a need or reach a goal, thus devising several alternatives for each situation. Individual insight is seldom as broad & deep as a group’s when it takes on a problem.
5.) Teams keep leaders accountable for the goal. Individuals connected to no one can change the goal without accountability.
6.) Teams can simply do more than an individual.
7.) Individuals play the game, but teams win championship.
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We all want to persuade people (our kids, boss, employees, spouse) to do certain things.

The Pygmalion effect (also called the Rosenthal effect) is a phenomenon that has been proven to work very well by scientists, including Dr. Robert Rosenthal of Harvard University and UC Riverside. It has been shown that when you have high expectations for your students, spouse, children, employees, etc. that they will perform better just because you have faith in them.

Also, it has been proven over and over that positive reinforcement (reward) works better to change people than negative reinforcement (punishment).

So when your child comes home with poor grades, it is best to say,

“Honey I know you can do better next time because you are smart” than to say “You are grounded for a week, dummy.”

Self-fulfilling prophecy is powerful. Listen to the way you talk to yourself in your mind. Do you call yourself stupid, lazy, ugly? If you do, you will start to become what you call yourself.

An MMA fighter named Tito Ortiz talked about this. He had grueling workouts to prepare for fights and tried to motivate himself by calling himself lazy if he quit a workout early. He called himself a loser and other names people should never call themselves or others. Ortiz was unpopular in the ring. He was often booed, and he could not understand why people didn’t like him.

Later Ortiz got a new coach who told him to be careful of his “self-talk.” Ortiz began to call himself a winner and a hard worker. To his surprise, the fans quit booing him and he dramatically improved his fighting ability. It became easier to finish his workouts.

Do you want to change someone? Wives I know you want to change your husband. The best way is to use positive statements. “Honey, I really admire you when you take out the trash” is better than getting angry and not talking. Silence only makes things worse, because us men are never smart enough to read your minds.

If you really believe in yourself and your people, great things will happen!

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“The number one problem that keeps people from winning is lack of belief in themselves.” Arthur Williams

Homeless to Harvard: The Liz Murray Story

Liz Murray is a bestselling writer and motivational speaker who started life with nothing. Through sheer determination, faith and hard work, she went from living on the streets to a very successful career. She often talks about the importance of faith, of believing that one can accomplish their goals and dreams in life.

“It amazing what people can do when they believe in themselves.” Sam Walton, founder of Walmart

“If you have faith, nothing is impossible for you.” Jesus Christ

Her book, Breaking Night: From Homeless to Harvard is the amazing account of her tenacity and faith. Breaking night means to stay up all night into the morning. Murray was born to a mother who had been a cokehead from the age of 13 and a father who was sometimes in jail for selling drugs. Both parents were sometimes so stoned they did anything for money, even inviting sexual molesters into  the house. Her mother was frequently institutionalized for drug-induced mental illness

Her mother died when she was 16. “(Death) jolts you and makes you reconsider what you are doing with your own life. I decided to live each day with a purpose.” Her father was in such bad shape that it was less miserable to move out and become homeless than stay at home. She was taunted for her dirty clothes and lice in her hair at school. She often slept in subways and did homework in the hallways to keep warm.

“Envision the future you desire. Create the life of your dreams. See it, feel it, believe it.”~ Jack Canfield

Liz had the help of a high school teacher who gave her confidence that she could succeed. While on the streets of New York she saw ladies carrying Gucci and Chanel bags in the same street corners as teenagers begging for change and it almost made her become bitter and angry, but she realized that was self destructive.

The death of her mother made her realize she had to make something of her life. She enrolled in an alternative high school and graduated in two years instead of the usual four. It was not easy studying in hallways, in the park or in the subways, so she used headphones to block out the distracting noises.

She won a scholarship for disadvantaged students to Harvard University and studied clinical psychology. She wrote a book and now travels around the country sharing her story at speaking engagements and hopes these appearances allow others to see the possibility of change in their own lives. “When suffering, I had to see that things could be different. I started to grasp the value of the lessons I learned living on the streets.”

Murray realized that holding a grudge against her parents was not healthy, so she forgave both of them. She now has a good relationship with her father who has been off drugs for six years.

Not only did she publish a bestselling book, but her story has also been made into a movie. She says she doesn’t want any story to minimize the faith and hard work it took to succeed.

“You are creating your future with every single thought.” Jack Canfield

“Everything is possible for one who believes.” Jesus Christ

“Release your faith. God is shifting things in your favor. He’s moving the wrong people out and the right people in.” Joel Osteen

How to keep winning

Brad Stanton —  January 21, 2013 — 17 Comments

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Robert Ringer, author of Million Dollar Habits, explains it well: “The world is saturated with intelligent, highly educated, extraordinarily skilled people who experience ongoing frustration because of their lack of success. Millions of others spend their lives working hard, long hours only to die broke.… Success is a matter of understanding and religiously practicing specific, simple habits that always lead to success.”

“The secret to your success can be found in your daily agenda.” ~John Maxwell, bestselling author and success leader. This article is a brief synopsis in my own words of an article Maxwell wrote on the Success magazine website (Success.com). Maxwell says that success is a habit that we cultivate every day.

1. Winners are passionate about their goals and dreams

People who have a winner mentality enjoy what they are doing, they enjoy the journey and enjoy the dream even before they reach the goal. What really motivates you in life? What would you really enjoy doing if you could do anything in life? When you find that, you will never work a day in your life, you will be playing instead of working.

2. Winners focus on their strong points, not their weak points.

Some people think that in order to be successful you must work on your weaknesses. But actually it is best to find out what your strengths are and work on those. If you think about it, it makes more sense to start with what you are good at and cultivate that.

3. Winners have the right attitude.

It really is true, your attitude determines your altitude in life, in other words it determines how high you will go in life. Dr. Charles Swindoll, the prolific writer and speaker said:

“The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life.

Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than failures, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company… a church… a home.

The remarkable thing is we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past… we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude… I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it.

And so it is with you… we are in charge of our attitudes.”

4. Winners don’t quit

If you quit, you are sure to lose, that is the only thing you can do to totally ensure failure. In many of my posts I write about people who failed many times but keep on trying, and then become fantastically successful. Even the best leaders get discouraged, but the difference between a winner and a loser is the winner finds a way to encourage himself. It might be reading stories of people who overcome great obstacles to gain victory, or it might be books about strategies to succeed in whatever they are doing.

“ We seem to love stories of overnight successes, but the truth is there aren’t any. If you want to be a consistent winner, you’ve got to work at it every day. Success comes from developing the habits of winning.” John Maxwell


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“Most of us are excellent at being self-deprecating, and are not so good at the opposite. Tell us your favorite thing about yourself.” ~Michelle at WordPress

Self-deprecating self-talk is not healthy

I got this daily prompt in an email from Michelle at WordPress. I’m so glad she encourages people to say something good about themselves. Most people are too self-deprecating.  It doesn’t make them a better person, in fact it does the opposite. Most people seem to be better at putting themselves down than building themselves up. Maybe we feel this is the humble thing to do, but it can be very self-destructive. I used to be that way, always putting myself down. Then I read that it makes a person weaker, not stronger when they do this, so I changed my self-talk, and my life is much better because of it.

They say that people who are self-deprecating are more likely to talk to others the same way they talk to themselves.

Toot my horn?

So I am supposed to toot my own horn. OK, here it goes. My favorite thing about myself is that I absolutely love helping people. It makes me happy. I get many comments on my blog saying that a post really made a person’s day better or helped someone solve a problem or feel better about life. I feel so good when I read comments like that.

So as you look through my blog posts, I sincerely hope you will find something that will motivate you or just make you feel happy and optimistic and make you stronger. That is my goal.

Affirmations

I find that self-talk is very important for people to accomplish their dreams and goals in life. Most people achieve far less in life than they are capable of because they don’t believe in themselves. Affirmations can give people the confidence they need to survive the discouragement that derails many dreams. Here is a simple affirmation that I use sometimes:

“I am happy, healthy, wealthy, wise and good looking.”

When I start to feel pessimistic I sometimes use an affirmation from one of the best loved poems in the world:

“Surely goodness and mercy will follow me all the days of my life…” Psalm 23:6

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1. Believe you can have a great new year
It all starts with belief. No one works hard at any task unless they believe they can achieve it. Many don’t achieve really good things in life because they are pessimistic and just don’t believe great things will happen to them.

“Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve.” ~W Clement Stone

2. Start now
“The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The next best time is now.” ~Chinese Proverb
Yes, if you had started saving $100 dollars a month ten years ago, you would be much better off today (I realize some readers save more than that), but you can always start now. If your goal is better relationships, start now to work on it. If your goal is to get a raise and promotion at work, sit down and start writing a list of things you can do to accomplish it.

3. Be persistent
Many people start a project, work on it for a few weeks and then forget it. Abraham Lincoln said: “Always bear in mind that your resolution to succeed is more important than any one thing.”
His business failed in 1833. His sweetheart died in 1835, almost destroying him. In 1836 he had a nervous breakdown. Lincoln failed many times to get elected for various different political offices. He was defeated for senate more than once, but finally was elected president in 1860. Not many would stay persistent, but he did and that is one reason he was among the best US presidents in history.

4. Be yourself
You have been blessed with strengths and weaknesses. Focus on your strengths, don’t spend time worrying about your weaknesses. You have a combination of skills that will enable you to do great things. Don’t envy others, they might not be as lucky as you think they are, or as talented!

5. Become better from your failures
I have written a number of posts about using failure to become better. Don’t let failures get you down, they can actually build you up. Colonel Sanders used the failure of a restaurant to begin his Kentucky Fried Chicken restaurants that are now in many countries. When he was 65 years old, a new highway took business away from a restaurant he had spent years with. Because of that failure, he was motivated to start something new. Even though he had very little money, he worked hard and accomplished big things. More about this at: http://wp.me/p2rHBL-iP

6. Reward yourself
All work and no play wears you down. If you don’t plan fun things to do and spend time every day relaxing, you will soon run out of steam, or get very bad tempered. Some people plan their work but never plan fun things for their family, causing a lopsided life. You will actually work harder if you reward yourself regularly.

more to come later……..


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“We live our lives by a set of beliefs, or paradigms, that are always with us. These are beliefs that we have developed over time to help us define the world and our place in it. The biggest mistake we often make is to underestimate the power of our ingrained beliefs and their ability to limit our ideas of what is possible in life. When we set resolutions or goals that challenge these paradigms, we are frequently doomed to failure – yet don’t understand why.” Bob Proctor, from his free email newsletter at BobProctor.com

We believe we will never lose 40 pounds because we have tried and failed in the past.

We believe we will never get out of debt because we can’t see any way to do it.

We believe our marriage will not improve because it hasn’t in the past.

We believe we won’t get that promotion at work, that new house, new car, good health.

Struggling against our beliefs wearies us

Our deepest beliefs are like an automatic pilot on a ship or airplane. It controls which way the boat or our life goes. When you are steering a boat with autopilot, and you don’t want to go the direction it is programed to go, you have to constantly fight against the steering wheel, trying to pull it in a direction it is not programed to go. It tires you out and makes it very difficult to change course.

If our deepest belief says we won’t get out of debt, lose weight or be happy, it is very difficult to fight against that belief. But if we change our deepest beliefs it makes it much easier to achieve our dreams and goals in life.

How do we succeed?

How do we change our deepest beliefs? One way is to use affirmations. I used this method to lose weight during the holiday season. I repeated “I weight x pounds” over and over again to myself. I began to really belief I would lose weight. I began to eat less and kept exercising and I lost weight during Halloween and Thanksgiving, two holidays that normally make me gain weight. Then I decided to splurge for Christmas and gained some back, but I am sure I can use the affirmations again to lose the weight.

When we repeat affirmations, it puts a thought deeply into our subconscious so that we begin to see ways to accomplish the goal. It begins to change our core beliefs so that our brain starts looking for solutions to problems while we sleep and during the day. We start to see opportunities that were there all along, but we just didn’t notice them. It is like driving the same route to work every day and suddenly noticing a house that you didn’t notice before.

Some affirmations

I love my job.

I like myself (this works wonders)

I love my spouse and my spouse loves me.

I weigh xx pounds (even better: I will weight xx pounds by March 20, 2013)

I will get the promotion I am working for by January 2014


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Patrick Taylor in Louisiana became rich from the oil business. He decided he wanted to give back to the community, and to teach some of the things he had learned about building wealth.

He found an inner city middle school which fed a high school where the dropout rate was 86%. That meant that almost all the students did not graduate from that high school. Patrick told the students that if they would keep a B average and 98% attendance record he would pay for their college education. But he knew the students would forget about this, or maybe would not believe they could do it.

The Plan

He and the teachers knew they had to do more than just talk about it. So they took the students to a college campus and each middle school student shadowed a college student for the day. They went to class, student union, library and other places with a college student.

Patrick asked the teacher to do something else. Every morning they would ask the student to close their eyes and visualize being on the college campus as if they were students there. The class of students that were in involved with the daily visualization finished their last year of high school with a 16% drop out rate. It went from 86% dropout to 16%, an amazing turnaround.

Visualization is used in sports

Before the collapse of the Soviet Union, East Germany had more gold medal winners in the Olympics per capita than any other country. One of their secrets was visualization. In fact, they had perfected the art of visualization so well, it was kept classified as state secrets.

American Olympic athletes practice visualization. Every day they see themselves performing flawlessly at their sport. Then they see themselves standing on the winners stand receiving a gold medal for their achievement. It has been found that this creates the faith they need to work hard and maintain the persistence to become champion athletes.

Your dreams are important

What are your dreams and goals in life? If you want to own a Rolls Royce, go to the dealership and hang out. Visualize yourself in one every day. Hang pictures of Rolls cars where you will see them often.

If your goal is great relationships, visualize it every day. Use pictures and vision boards to put the goal deeply in your mind. I found that faith, optimism is extremely important in relationships. Pessimism tends to tear relationships down. When I feel pessimistic about how a loved one feels about me and I dwell on negative feelings, pretty soon I begin to act out the negativity.

Visualize yourself winning

Brian Tracy, success coach and self-made millionaire said this:

“Visualize yourself as highly efficient. Your subconscious mind is most immediately influenced by mental pictures. In self-image psychology, the person you see is the person you will be. Begin to see yourself as one of the most highly effective people you know. Recall and recreate memories and pictures of yourself when you were performing at your best. Think of a time when you were working efficiently and effectively and getting through an enormous amount of work. Play this picture of yourself over and over again on the screen of your mind.

In athletic training, this is called ‘‘mental rehearsal.’’ This requires practicing and rehearsing actions in your mind before you actually engage in the physical activity. The more relaxed you are when you visualize yourself performing at your best, the more rapidly this command is accepted by your subconscious mind and becomes a part of your thinking and behavior later on.”

There are hundreds of true stories about visualization. Dr. Norman Vincent Peale, who helped many people achieve success wrote an entire book about the importance of visualizing. Visualize yourself to success. Believe it, work hard and do it!

Affirmation: “I am happy, healthy, wealthy, wise and good looking.”

Faith is powerful

Brad Stanton —  December 21, 2012 — 7 Comments

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About 4 dozen times, Jesus says faith is the key to answered prayer. Here are just a few of those:
Matthew 9:22 Jesus said “Your faith has healed you.”
Matt 9:29 according to your faith it will be done to you.
Matt 21:22 If you believe, you will receive whatever you ask for in prayer
Mark 9:23 everything is possible for him who believes
Mark 11:24 Whatever you ask for in prayer, believe you have received it and it will be yours
Luke 8:50 Don’t be afraid; just believe and she will be healed
Luke 18:1 Jesus told his disciples a parable to show them that they should always pray and not give up
Luke 18:42 Jesus said to him, “Receive your sight; your faith has healed you.”
John 14:14 You may ask me for anything in my name, and I will do it
John 15:7 If you remain in me and my words remain in you, ask whatever you wish and it will be given you
John 16:23 I tell you the truth, my Father will give you whatever you ask in my name.
Matthew 7:8 for everyone who asks receives.

What do you think about this? Leave a comment please…….


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 Andrew Carnegie 

This is a synopsis from the famous success coach Brian Tracy. He went from rags to riches and started many types of businesses, making millions of dollars in the process. He has written many books about achieving goals and becoming wealthy. These ideas are great for not only creating wealth, but also for improving relationships.

 

Step 1. Start with a dream, a burning desire to achieve your dreams and goals. The more you want it, the harder you will work for it and the easier it will be to achieve it.

 

Step 2. Set goals. Don’t be afraid to set high goals. Andrew Carnegie was the king of the steel industry in his day. He became incredibly wealthy and helped the USA become more competitive in the world market through his industrial efforts. Carnegie started his career in poverty. He said this:

“If you want to be happy, set a goal that commands your thoughts, liberates your energy, and inspires your hope.”

 

Step 3. Believe you can achieve your goals. People who don’t really believe they can achieve their goals usually give up quickly. If you have a strong belief that you will succeed, and believe in your abilities, you are much more likely to achieve success.

 

Step 4. Search for positions at work that you can do well at and start preparing yourself before you get the promotion. Or, for relationships, search for ways to make the relationship better.

 

Step 5. Read about and learn from mentors everything you can about the kind of position you are working for. The more you know about it, the more likely you are to get the job.

 

Step 6.” Implement your plans with courage and persistence. Have complete faith in your ability to succeed and never, never give up. Before you accomplish anything worthwhile, you will have to pass the persistence test. And the test will come far sooner than you imagine.” ~ Brian Tracy

 

Affirmation: I can do it! Say it over and over out loud and soon you will find a way to do whatever you set your mind to.