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I’ll be happy when…

Brad Stanton —  January 6, 2016 — 2 Comments

valentines-day_1100011053-1013intIt is easy to get into the habit of thinking “I’ll be happy when…

I get married
I have kids
I get out of this marriage
my kids leave home
I get a promotion
I get well
my kids behave better

Why not be happy today? Psychologists and success coaches say that the thoughts you are thinking right now and today are creating your future. The feelings you are feeling now and today are creating your thoughts and actions that create your future. Emotion causes motion, in other words, when we feel strongly about something, we take action.

Nothing positive ever came from thinking negative.” ~Many people

Many good things come from thinking positive. Dr. Norman Vincent Peale wrote many books and traveled around the world giving speeches about the power of positive thinking. He saw many people changed for the better by the power. He himself was a very timid person until a college professor took him aside one day and told him to get rid of his timid nature. The professor told him that he was smart and hardworking, and would go far in life if he would get rid of his pessimism and timidity. At first, Peale was very upset about what the professor had said. But after he let the words sink in, he began to realize the professor was right. Peale began to slowly change, and never forgot how important it is to believe in yourself, to have faith in your abilities.

In the book Chicken Soup for the Soul: Think Positive, James Scott Bell writes about meeting Dr. Peale. He said it was a day that changed his life. Bell and his wife came to a point in their life when they began to wonder why everything was going wrong. Then Bell began thinking about positive thinking and shared the idea with his wife. They both began to think positive instead of negative and soon their life had turned around.

I realize that some people’s problems are so difficult that a little positive thinking won’t help. But maybe a lot of positive thinking will. Morris Goodman, who was seriously injured in an airplane crash, could not breathe without a machine, or swallow, walk, talk or do anything except blink his eyes. But he had extraordinary faith that he could walk out of that hospital by Christmas. No one believed that he could do it, especially not the doctors. But because of his amazing faith he learned how to talk, eat and swallow, walk and live a rather normal life.

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sundown-at-the-bayI often blog about the importance of being optimistic, or to put it another way, to have faith. Some call it a Positive Mental Attitude. But no matter what you call it, everyone seems to agree that your life will be better in many ways if you are optimistic. The following is from a free ebook I recieved from Mayo Clinic (one of the best hospitals in the world). The name of the ebook is “Live Longer, Live Better”

As you make your way through life and the various transitions it brings, you’ll find that an optimistic attitude can make your days more enjoyable and less stressful. But did you know that your attitude also plays a role not only in how well you’ll live but also in how long you may live? Your mind and your body are closely intertwined.

Optimists live longer

Increasing evidence suggests that being an optimist or a pessimist has an effect on your health. One particular Dutch study found that older adults with an optimistic disposition — people who generally expected good things rather than bad things to happen — lived longer than did those who tended to expect doom and gloom.

At the beginning of the study, more than 900 participants filled out surveys that assessed their well-being, including their sense of optimism. The survey asked participants to respond to statements such as “I often feel that life is full of promises” and “I do not make any future plans.” After accounting for factors such as age, sex, smoking, alcohol consumption, physical activity, socio-economic status and marital status, those who scored high on the optimism scale had a 29 percent lower risk of early death than did participants who scored low.

In this study, a positive outlook appeared to be particularly protective against death from cardiovascular problems. Highly optimistic participants were 77 percent less likely to die of a heart attack, stroke or other cardiovascular event than were highly pessimistic participants. These results held true regardless of whether the participants had a history of cardiovascular disease or high blood pressure.

A study conducted at Mayo Clinic reported similar results. Researchers examined the relationship between explanatory styles — how individuals explained the causes of life’s events — of more than 800 participants and the group’s mortality rate during a 30-year period. The researchers found that individuals who had a more pessimistic explanatory style died younger than did those who were more optimistic.

Participants who were classified as optimists tended to believe that the causes of bad events were temporary, not their own fault and limited to the present circumstances. Pessimists, on the other hand, tended to blame things on themselves, felt that the current situation was going to last forever and felt that the bad event would undermine everything.

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“He who is happiest is he who is content…” ~Benjamin Franklin

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A wise man said to his friend “Every time I see you, you are running around in a hurry. What are you running after?”

The man answered quickly “Success, money and the rewards of my hard work.”

The wise man said “That would make sense if you assumed all those things are ahead of you, but what if all those things were behind you, and the faster you run, the more difficult it is for those things to catch up to you?”

We all run after something. What are you running after?  Are you running after money, a beautiful house, a person, a position in your company, a degree, a relationship, a better relationship with loved ones? There is nothing wrong with these things, but they won’t fully satisfy you unless you learn to be content.

A writer found an old list of goals he had set for himself. He had written many books and spoke regularly to large groups of people. He was surprised that he had accomplished every one of his goals so quickly. But as he continued to think about it, he was also surprised that he was not more content with what he had. Many people expect outward circumstances to fulfill their inner happiness. Instead of constantly running, take some time to rest and enjoy what you have.

Many very successful people who train others for success say that one of the best things you can do to achieve more success is to enjoy what you already have and be thankful. You reap what you sow, if you think about happy things you will sow more happy things. Being grateful is one way of keeping happy thoughts in your mind. Happy thoughts can’t be in your mind at the same time as sad thoughts. The best way to push sad, angry or any other undesirable thoughts out of your mind is to think about happy thoughts.

Sometimes I count my blessings in my mind, sometimes I write out a list of things I am grateful for, but either way, I always feel happier after I do it.

Enjoy where you are instead of where you want to be.


GodMake BeautifulGod loves you.

Yes, God does care about your happiness. God wants you to be happy.

Philippians 2:18  So you too should be glad and rejoice with me.

Philippians 4:4 Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice!

There are many other verses in the Bible that show that God wants Christians to be happy. I find a lot of people believe it is somehow pious to trudge through life without any joy. This is not godly at all. It is not what God planned for you.

If you have ever had a child that you loved dearly, you want the child to be happy. God loves you even more than you love your child. He loves you more than you love yourself. He wants abundance and good things for you even more than you do. But when bad things happen some people blame it on God. Actually, many times we bring about bad things to ourselves. Let’s not blame it all on God. Romans 8:28 says that if you are a Christian, bad things are blessings in disguise. You have the power to be happy. That is God’s will for you. The Holy Spirit living in you is more powerful than you can ever imagine and will give you that power.

God wants the best for you

I have met many Christians who have bad self images. They don’t serve God because they feel they are not good enough. That is exactly what Satan wants. He wants you to be discouraged, to feel insignificant so that you won’t be a powerful force for the kingdom of God. Nehemiah 8:10 says that the joy of the Lord is your strength.

Romans 12:12  Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer.

Romans 14:7 For the kingdom of God is not a matter of eating and drinking, but of righteousness, peace and joy in the Holy Spirit,

Roman s 15:13 May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.

Galatians 5:22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness,

Marriage

At a marriage conference recently, I heard one of the attendees say that God did not make marriage to make us happy but to learn difficulties. I don’t agree. If a person truly loves his/her spouse, he will find happiness in that.

Suffering

I’m not saying that you will never suffer. The Apostle Paul suffered because he wanted to suffer. Phil 3:10. Jesus suffered, that was his reason for coming to earth. However, what one person considers suffering might be the best thing ever for someone else. For example, if i had nothing to eat but a little bread or rice with vegetables and some fruit three times a day, I would consider that suffering. But over one fourth of the people in the world would think that is the best thing ever because they normally don’t get three meals a day.

The mind can make a heaven out of hell or a hell out of heaven. ~ John Milton (Paradise Lost)

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Want a better life?

Brad Stanton —  September 19, 2014 — Leave a comment

HolySpiritPowerfulIn U“Acknowledging the good that you already have in your life is the foundation for all abundance.”- Eckhart Tolle

You can have a happier, more successful, more powerful life starting today. Do you believe it? Jesus said “Everything is possible for one who believes.” Mark 9:23

If you say affirmations out loud every day, you will feel much better. Try saying these every day, or many times a day.

I am blessed. I am loved. I’m equipped and anointed.

The king of the universe loves me and has a fantastic plan for my life.

I’m a conqueror and victorious. Romans 8:37

I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength. Philippians 4:13

I’m a champion, a winner.

Go 24 hours without complaining or criticizing. Be especially careful not to allow your self-talk to criticize yourself. Why is it that many people realize they shouldn’t bully other people, but they bully themselves?

One thing that has made me a lot happier is to thank God for blessings in the morning as I get out of bed and get ready to go to work. Then on the drive to work I continue. It makes me happy and sets the direction for the day.

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