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Seeds of greatness

Brad Stanton —  January 23, 2014 — 5 Comments

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Many years ago a young man in Ghana West Africa saw poverty in his village so he wanted very badly to bring about change and help his people. So at 16 years of age he decided to leave home determined to find some way to help his people. Seven years later he returned. His people saw him a long time before he reached the village as he walked down the road. They were very excited because they knew that since he had been gone a long time he must have something wonderful to share with them that would help them overcome their poverty and difficulties.

They ran out to meet him and shouted, “What did you bring?”

He silently put his hand in his pocket and pulled out three small seeds. Everyone was surprised, because they expected so much more.

“What are they?” they asked.

“They are cocoa seeds” he replied.

He planted the seeds and soon the three trees had multiplied to many. He had learned how to cultivate and take care of cocoa plants.

Now in Ghana cocoa is a major source of income for many people. Because one man planted seeds and knew how to take care of them, he changed his country forever and helped many people.

It sometimes takes a well-trained person to see seeds of greatness in other people. Maybe someone you know is not a good student and suffers because he just can’t make good grades. But maybe he can become a great writer, athlete, musician, model, actor or politician. Stephen J. Cannell failed the first grade, he also failed the fourth and tenth grades but he wrote many TV scripts for famous TV shows and eventually had over 2000 people working for him.

Charles Dickens failed many times to get his books published, but he kept trying and later changed the world by showing tens of thousands of people how difficult the lives orphans can be.

It usually takes a long time to achieve great things in life. Just like the cocoa plants took a long time to multiply to thousands of trees it may take a long time for the seeds of greatness to grow in you.

Don’t give up. Keep cultivating the seeds within you. If you don’t quit, someday you will accomplish the goals and dreams that God has placed in your heart. Remember Philippians 4:13 “I can do everything through Christ who gives me strength.”  Say that out loud five times a day and it will do wonders for you.


The Jewish, Muslim and Christian religion all speak of Moses, who led people out of slavery in Egypt.

“Believe and act as if it were impossible to fail.” Charles Kettering, inventor with over 140 patents

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More than three thousand years ago several million people were released from slavery and they traveled to a land that was promised to them. But because they had “grasshopper mentalities” (we are not tough enough or good enough,, we are like grasshoppers compared to them) they didn’t have the confidence to fight for the land God promisied them and instead wandered aimlessly in the desert, living a very austere life. Abundance and wealth was just beyond their grasp. They could have had it if they had faith enough to fight for it, as was proved forty years later when they fought for and won the land.

Most people believe they are not extraordinary and they will never do anything special with their life. They don’t want to get their hopes up because they have been disappointed so many times in the past. They don’t aim for any goals in life because they are afraid of failure. It has often been said “If you don’t aim for anything, you will probably get it.”

It has been said that if you ask a person in any store why they are there, they will have a good answer, they came to buy something or just came to look around. But if you ask a person why they are here in life and what their goals and dreams are, they will probably not be able to answer the question. In fact some say 8 out of 10 people don’t really have an answer to that question.

A young man was told by his parents and teachers that he wasn’t very smart. He didn’t do well in school and after leaving high school he applied for a job at a large company near his home. The company always gave IQ tests to everyone who applied and they found that he had an extremely high IQ. They put him in a position that required a lot of thinking and planning. He did extremely well, in fact he invented a couple of new things and was awarded patents. What was the difference? He suddenly had hope and faith that he could do well at his job. He was treated with respect and it caused him to respect himself.

However, it is certainly true that many people who don’t have much talent do incredible things in life. Many of the most successful businessmen, world leaders, inventors, athletes, rock stars, etc. do not have high IQ’s. It is not necessary for success in life, by any definition of success. But it seems that hope is necessary and so is faith, or confidence, whatever you want to call it.

A grasshopper mentality is the death of dreams and goals, and usually prevents people from having big dreams and plans for the future. The way to overcome it is to read/listen to positive instead of negative, every day.

“You are more than conquerors (winners) through him who loved us.” Romans 8:37


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Dr. Norman Vincent Peale was contacted by a man who felt that his life was going nowhere. He had gotten more and more discouraged about a number of things and felt that he had nothing to live for. His discouragement was draining the energy out of him to the point that he knew he had to do something about it in order to get the energy he needed.

He told Dr. Peale that everything was going wrong in his life and that he felt he had nothing to live for.

Peale took out a sheet of paper and drew a line down the middle of it. He said “Let’s list the good things in your life on the right hand side and the bad things on the left side. Ok, to start with, I’m sorry to hear you lost your wife.”

The man was taken back and said “I didn’t lose my wife, she is alive and healthy!”

“Oh really?” Peale said. He wrote “Wife healthy” on the right side.

“Well, I’m sorry you lost your job.”

“What are you talking about” the man exclaimed, “I have a fine job.”

Peale wrote “Has a fine job” on the right side, but asked “So you lost your house?”

“No, I have a nice house” the man said. “Why did you think I lost my house?”

“You told me that everything is going wrong in your life” Peale answered. He wrote “Has a nice house” on the right side of the paper.

Peale continued to ask the man question after question until he had listed twenty things in the right hand column and nothing in the “bad” column.

“It seems there is a lot going right in your life, my friend” Peale said. The man nodded. He had begun to see that he did in fact have a lot to be thankful for and his life was much better than he thought. He took this to heart and over the next few weeks, when he began to feel discouraged he mentally went through his list of blessings until he felt much better. His energy began to return to him and he became optimistic instead of pessimistic. He began to perform better at his job and got along better with his family.

This same procedure has worked for many people. I have heard many say that if they make a list of their blessings they begin to feel better and become more optimistic. That in turn causes them to make better decisions and have better relationships and perform better at their job. It works for everybody. It has always worked every time for me.

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You reap what you sow

Brad Stanton —  April 23, 2013 — 7 Comments

000Beggar“Good morning” said a woman as she walked up to the man sitting on ground. The man slowly looked up.

This was a woman clearly accustomed to the finer things of life. Her coat was new. She looked like she had never missed a meal in her life.

His first thought was that she wanted to make fun of him, like so many others had done before. “Leave me alone,” he growled….

To his amazement, the woman continued standing. She was smiling — her even white teeth displayed in dazzling rows. “Are you hungry?” she asked. “I’ll buy your lunch at the cafeteria across the street.”

She sat down at the table across from her amazed dinner guest. She stared at him intently. “Jack, do you remember me?”

Old Jack searched her face with his old, rheumy eyes. “I think so — I mean you do look familiar.”

“I’m a little older perhaps,” she said. “Maybe I’ve even filled out more than in my younger days when you worked here, and I came through that very door, cold and hungry.”

“I was just out of college,” the woman began. “I had come to the city looking for a job, but I couldn’t find anything. Finally I was down to my last few cents and had been kicked out of my apartment. I walked the streets for days. It was February and I was cold and nearly starving. I saw this place and walked in on the off chance that I could get something to eat.”

Jack lit up with a smile. “Now I remember,” he said. “I was behind the serving counter. You came up and asked me if you could work for something to eat. I said that it was against company policy.”

“I know,” the woman continued. “Then you made me the biggest roast beef sandwich that I had ever seen, gave me a cup of coffee, and told me to go over to a corner table and enjoy it. I was afraid that you would get into trouble… Then, when I looked over and saw you put the price of my food in the cash register, I knew then that everything would be all right.”

“So you started your own business?” Old Jack said. “I got a job that very afternoon. I worked my way up. Eventually I started my own business that, with the help of God, prospered.” She opened her purse and pulled out a business card. “When you are finished here, I want you to pay a visit to a Mr. Lyons…He’s the personnel director of my company. I’ll go talk to him now and I’m certain he’ll find something for you to do around the office.” She smiled. “I think he might even find the funds to give you a little advance so that you can buy some clothes and get a place to live until you get on your feet… If you ever need anything, my door is always opened to you.”

There were tears in the old man’s eyes. “How can I ever thank you?” he said. “Don’t thank me,” the woman answered. “Thank God, He led me to you.”

God is going to shift things around for you today and make things work in your favor.
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Dr. Norman Vincent Peale motivated millions of people to a better life. 313335_487472851307971_1932064598_n
Here are his ten steps to success:

1. Formulate and stamp indelibly on your mind a mental picture of yourself as succeeding. Hold this picture tenaciously. Never permit it to fade. Your mind will seek to develop this picture. Never think of yourself as failing; never doubt the reality of the mental image. That is most dangerous, for the mind always tries to complete what it pictures. So always picture “success” no matter how badly things seem to be going at the moment.

2. Whenever a negative thought concerning your personal powers comes to mind, deliberately voice a positive thought to cancel it out.

3. Do not built up obstacles in your imagination. Depreciate every so-called obstacle. Minimize them. Difficulties must be studied and efficiently dealt with to be eliminated, but they must be seen for only what they are. They must not be inflated by fear thoughts.

4. Do not be awestruck by other people and try to copy them. Nobody can be you as efficiently as YOU can. Remember also that most people, despite their confident appearance and demeanor, are often as scared as you are and as doubtful of themselves.

5. Ten times a day repeat these dynamic words, “If God be for us, who can be against us?” (Romans 8:31) (Stop reading and repeat them NOW slowly and confidently.)

6. Get a competent counselor to help you understand why you do what you do. Learn the origin of your inferiority and self-doubt feelings which often begin in childhood. Self-knowledge leads to a cure.

7. Ten times each day practice the following affirmation, repeating it out loud if possible. “I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.” (Philippians 4:13) Repeat those words NOW. That magic statement is the most powerful antidote on earth to inferiority thoughts.

8. Make a true estimate of your own ability, then raise it 10 percent. Do not become egotistical, but develop a wholesome self-respect. Believe in your own God-released powers.

9. Put yourself in God’s hands. To do that simply state, “I am in God’s hands.” Then believe you are NOW receiving all the power you need. “Feel” it flowing into you. Affirm that “the kingdom of God is within you” (Luke 17:21) in the form of adequate power to meet life’s demands.

10. Remind yourself that God is with you and nothing can defeat you. Believe that you now RECEIVE power from him.


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John Grisham, the famous writer, was turned down by 16 agents and a dozen publishers before he got his first book published. It is amazing that he was only turned down that many times because many great writers were turned down ten times more than that.

John was a lawyer working 60-80 hours a week in Southaven Mississippi. But he still found time to write. He would get up at 5 AM every morning to write for an hour. After three years he finished his first novel – A Time to Kill.

Actor Harrison Ford was told by the VP of Columbia that he just didn’t have what it takes to become an actor. Ford became a self-taught carpenter and made cabinets and other things for the rock band The Doors, Sally Kellerman and a recording studio for Sergio Mendes. He made cabinets in the home of Georg Lucas, who gave him a role in American Graffiti (1973). Lucas didn’t give Ford the part of Han Solo right away. It took a lot of work and persuasion by Ford, but that role made him extremely famous.

Steven Spielberg tried to go to filmmaking school but was not accepted. He visited Universal Studios and met Chuck Silvers, an executive there. Silvers invited him to come back. Spielberg did and hung around the whole summer, pretending to be an employee there, wearing a black suit and carrying his father’s briefcase with nothing inside it but his lunch.

10 years later Spielberg directed Jaws, which made more money than any other movie at that time.


1228Billionaire Steve Jobs was adopted into a working class family; grew up in apricot orchards that would later become Silicon Valley. Dropped out of Reed College because he couldn’t pay the tuition; co-founded Apple in his parents’ garage in 1976. Ousted from the iconic brand in 1985 after power struggle with chief John Scully. Returned to Apple in 1996, creating iPod sensation. In interim, started Pixar animation, creator of hits like Toy Story and Finding Nemo, that was later sold to Disney. Jobs was on Disney’s board and is its largest shareholder. –Forbes online

Phyllis Diller was an American actress and comedienne. She created a stage persona of a wild-haired and eccentrically dressed housewife who made self-deprecating jokes about her age and appearance, her terrible cooking, and a husband named “Fang”, while pretending to smoke from a long cigarette holder. ~ Wikipedia

Diller competed with many beautiful women for the top spot in humor and many say she took it. She took what she seemed to think was her liability and turned it into an asset—her appearance.

The movie Rocky, was written by Sylvester Stallone. Complications his mother suffered during labor forced her obstetricians to use two pairs of forceps during his birth; misuse of these accidentally severed a nerve and caused paralysis in parts of Stallone’s face. As a result, the lower left side of his face is paralyzed – including parts of his lip, tongue, and chin – an accident which has given Stallone his snarling look and slightly slurred speech. ~ Wikipedia

Many would feel that if he had a mouth that was crooked, acting was not for him, but Stallone didn’t let it deter him. Actually, many think his mouth adds character.

Billionaire Ralph Lauren was the son of Russian immigrants and was born and raised in the Bronx where he shared a bedroom with two of his brothers. By age 12, worked after school to help pay for his fancy taste in clothes. At one time worked in department stores. Eventually dropped out of City College to launch Polo Fashions with a $50,000 loan. ~Forbes online

Seeds of greatness

Brad Stanton —  March 15, 2013 — 1 Comment

163917_16 - CopyYou have seeds of greatness inside you that enable you to achieve the goals and dreams in your life. When you plant a seed, you probably water it often, weed it, and put fertilizer on it. The more you cultivate it, the better the harvest will be. In the same way, your seeds of greatness need cultivation to grow and cause you to be extraordinary.

Your goals may be a happier marriage, a promotion at work, to get out of debt, or better health. These are all possible goals and dreams.

Some ways to cultivate your seeds of greatness are to think positive thoughts instead of negative. Set goals and believe that you can achieve them. Be persistent, diligent and enjoy working for the dreams and goals in your life. The more you enjoy working toward the goals, the better you will work. You will end up working smarter instead of harder. Thomas Edison said he never worked a day in his life because he enjoyed it so much it was fun, not work.

Faith, belief, optimism are powerful forces that help you achieve the extraordinary. Most people don’t even think about becoming extraordinary. They don’t believe they can do it, so they don’t even try.

Affirmations are one way many people achieve success. The famous story of the Little Engine that Could is an example. The little engine was faced with a task that seemed impossible, but he repeated “I think I can, I think I can” over and over until he mustered the gumption to pull a heavy load. He accomplished the task and all the other engines cheered.

If you are a Christian, there are plenty of powerful affirmations you can use. One of them is “I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength.” Phil 4:10

The problem is, accomplishing big things takes lots of time, sometimes years. It is easy to get discouraged along the way and give up. But you have never failed until you quit. The old saying really is true: winners never quit and quitters never win.  http://bradstanton.com/2013/03/09/amazing-coincidences/


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Matthew 17:20

He replied, “Because you have so little faith. Truly I tell you, if you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can say to this mountain, ‘Move from here to there,’ and it will move. Nothing will be impossible for you.”
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It really is true, if you have faith, nothing is impossible for you, you can do anything! If you don’t believe this, then it is not for you. Only those who believe it have faith.
There are many things you can do to build stronger failth.
1. repeat affirmations (verses) on faith http://bradstanton.com/2012/08/15/faith-bible-verses
2. thank God for what you pray for, don’t beg for it, thank for it
3. imagine your prayer answered, this builds strong faith
4. hold on, it sometimes takes a long time
5. enjoy your life while you are waiting.
6. it took the apostles three years studyiing with Jesus full time, don’t expect powerful faith in just a month or two.

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A woman walked out to her front yard every day and said out loud “Thank you God for the new day.” Her next door neighbor didn’t believe in God and told her so often. He teased her for praying to an imaginary God.

One day she was very low on money so she went out and prayed “God, please send me food to eat.”

Her next door neighbor heard her say this, so he decided to play a trick on her. He went to the store and bought two bags of groceries and put them on her front porch before she came out to pray. When she came out she saw the groceries and shouted “Thank you God, for the food.”

Her neighbor said, “Ha, I was the one that put the groceries on your porch, God had nothing to do with it!”

She turned her face to the sky and shouted “Thanks for the food, God and thanks that you made the devil pay for it!”

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Well, that is a joke, but I have heard of people praying for food and getting it a number of times.

Once in Asia a woman was working on a new concept for water purification system. She perfected it for more than a year and patented it. She wanted to market it but she didn’t have the money.

She went to banks and asked for a loan. The economy was down, so the banks turned her down. She kept trying, and went to more banks. Finally she went to a bank and made her pitch to the banker. He really liked the idea but he was hesitant to loan her the money because of the bad economy. Finally, after she tried to persuade him, he said jokingly “OK, if the stock market goes up tomorrow I will give you the loan.”

The stock market had been down for over a year. But she went home and prayed that the stock market would go up.

The next day the stock market went up a lot. So the banker gave her the loan. She marketed the concept very well, and now she is one of the richest women in Asia. She gives large sums of money to help people and various ministries.

Was it a coincidence that the stock market went up the day after she prayed? I don’t know, but I do know that prayer makes amazing coincidences happen.

The problem is that most people don’t pray the way Jesus taught his disciples to pray, the way all the powerful prophets of the Old Testament. When the disciples saw a lame man they said “In Jesus name, get up and walk!” They did not say, “Oh God, if it is your will would you heal this man?”

Most people don’t get their prayers answered because they pray wimpy prayers. see more at a previous post http://wp.me/p2rHBL-WT


644049_505547829486539_1221714831_nThis idea I am writing totally changed my life for the better. I am much more optimistic and happier now that I understand faith. A couple of years ago I didn’t fully believe in prayer. I had prayed many prayers that didn’t get answered and I didn’t know why they didn’t, so I began to lose faith in prayer.

The Apostles spent 24 hours a day, 7 days a week with the best teacher ever, Jesus Christ. After three years they still didn’t understand prayer very well, and had several false starts trying to get answers to prayer. If it took them that long, don’t expect to have powerful prayer faith over night! It takes a lot of time to build your faith.

Then I wrote a book on prayer and spent several hours a day studying faith and prayer for a year and still study the idea of faith almost every day. It really changed my life for the better. Now i realize that most people don’t pray the way the Bible teaches us to pray. For example, In Exodus 14:15, Moses was trapped between the Egyptian army and the Red Sea, crying out to God for help. God told him to quit praying and take action:

15 Then the Lord said to Moses,“Why are you crying out to me? Tell the Israelites to move on. 16 Raise your staff and stretch out your hand over the sea to divide the water so that the Israelites can go through the sea on dry ground.” Exodus 14:15

God told him to stop praying and do something, because God had already given him the power he needed.

In Acts 3:6 we see that the apostles didn’t stand around praying for a lame man, they spoke to him, not to God, and said “In the name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth, walk.”

In Matthew 17:22 Jesus told his followers to actually speak to a mountain (mountain could mean problem), instead of praying. He said 20 “I tell you the truth, if you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can say to this mountain, ‘Move from here to there’ and it will move. Nothing will be impossible for you.” No need to waste time praying to God over and over again, I found I only needed to pray once, after that I needed to thank God for his answer to the prayer (Col 4:2; Phil 4:6), and speak to the problem. For example “In Jesus name, I am healthy!” That was to get healed. If you think about it, if you have faith, why would you keep asking for it? If I go to a restaurant and ask the waitress for water, I don’t ask her again for it unless I believe she is not going to bring it to me.

I found the reason many of my prayers did not get answered is because I was praying sissy prayers, I wasn’t speaking to the problem, I was talking to God about it and he had set a precedent way back in the time of Moses. No wonder all the great people of God used props the way Moses did when they performed miracles. Elisha used his jacket to strike water and it separated, he threw some flour in a pot of poison to make it safe.

In James 5 the Bible tells us that Elijah was a man just like us, he was not some superman that we can never be like, he was an ordinary human being that had faith, so that God used him. James 5 says that our prayers can be just as powerful as Elijah’s.

I find I have many more answers to prayers when I speak out to the problem like Jesus commanded us to do, and like the OT people did, and the NT people did also. The prayers taught to us in church are NOT Biblical prayers, they are taught to us by people who don’t know how to pray—no wonder we don’t get good results!

So I set about to increase my faith. I began to memorize Bible verses about faith. I said them every day. I read about modern day and Biblical Christians who had powerful prayers to find out how they had such faith and just to increase my faith. I used the FAITH steps http://bradstanton.com/2012/08/15/faith-bible-verses/  to have stronger faith. As time went on, I was amazed how many of my prayers were answered. I am not saying all my prayers are answered, I don’t have that kind of faith yet, but I am growing in faith every day.

Something that really amazed me was that many scientists proved scientifically that faith is powerful and truly changes things. A psychologist and pharmacist named Emil Coue used faith to cure his patients. He told them to believe they were getting better and they did get better! He told his patients to say “Every way and every day I’m getting better and better.”

Coue had results much better than other psychologists because he gave people hope and faith.

It is amazing to me how many scientists and business people understand faith and do amazing things because of it.

Matthew 7:7“Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. 8 For everyone who asks receives; the one who seeks finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened.

Matthew 8:13Then Jesus said to the centurion, “Go! Let it be done just as you believed it would.” And his servant was healed at that moment.

Matthew 9:22Jesus turned and saw her. “Take heart, daughter,” he said, “your faith has healed you.” And the woman was healed at that moment.

Matthew 9:29 Then he touched their eyes and said, “According to your faith let it be done to you”; 30 and their sight was restored.

Matthew 15:28 Then Jesus said to her, “Woman, you have great faith! Your request is granted.” And her daughter was healed at that moment.

Matthew 17:20 Truly I tell you, if you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can say to this mountain, ‘Move from here to there,’ and it will move. Nothing will be impossible for you.”


734538_424972How do you see yourself? If you see yourself as a winner, as capable and able, you tend to accomplish much more in life, do better at your job and relationships. I heard a PhD give a speech in which he said that bad self-image was the cause of almost all divorces. At first I did not believe it, but the more I ponder it, the more I believe it may be true. Leave a comment, what do you think about this? Have you seen instances in which a bad self-image caused problems?

There were areas in my life in which I used to feel incompetent. After I picked myself off and dusted off my poor attitude in those areas, I did much better and was much happier.

This is a pic of me taken with a distortion app. It’s a bad self image. I laughed out loud the first time I saw it.

 

Here are some quotes that have helped me a lot, hope they help you too:

Within you right now is the power to do things you never dreamed possible. Dr. Maxwell Maltz

A man’s life is dyed by the color of his imagination.~ Marcus Aurelius

Always do your best. What you plant now, you will harvest later. ~ Kiyoshaki

Vision is the art of seeing the invisible. ~Johnathon Swift

Visualizing your goal for 7 minutes a day is a huge step forward in achieving it. ~many people

Abundance is the natural state of being. ~Jack Canfield

Abundance is not something we aquire. It is something we tune into. ~Wayne Dyer

 

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People that consistently do more than the minimum at work, have a good attitude and keep gaining skills in their area and other areas are the kind of person companies want to promote.

Once a man was asked to do his work and also help another group. He resented this and complained to his boss, and finally talked his boss into letting him avoid the extra work. Later another employee did his own job and also helped the other group. It took extra time to learn how to do their job, but he did it. Then the time came for the boss to retire. The VP in charge was looking for someone who could do both jobs to promote to manager. Guess who he picked? You bet. He picked the man who was willing to go the extra mile.

Many years ago a very rich Jewish man was looking for a wife. He came from the wealthiest, most prominent family in the land. He was getting up in the years and still not married. But he wanted a very special wife. He wanted a woman who did more than the minimum, who went the extra mile.

A servant was sent in a caravan of camels to find a wife. The caravan traveled a long way and finally stopped at a well. A beautiful woman was there, getting water. The social customs of the day mandated that she offer the visitors something to drink. So she did. But she went far beyond the minimum. She looked at the camels, probably about ten of them, and asked if she could water them as well. She knew that a camel could easily drink 30 gallons of water after a long walk, and ten camels could drink 300 gallons. That is a lot of exhausting work, pulling a bucket out of a well over and over, possibly 300 times. But she did it.

The servant brought her back home to marry his master. The woman, Rebecca, married into one of the most famous and important families in the history of the world, her husband was Isaac, son of Abraham, the father of the Jewish race. If she had done the minimum, she would not have been chosen.

Zig Ziglar said that most people quit looking for work as soon as they find the job. I find it  true, most people don’t keep looking for work to do after they finish their tasks. But those that do learn important skills that make them more valuable. People who go the extra mile are rare, but like rare gems, they are extremely precious


Emile Coue was a French psychologist and pharmacist who is famous for introducing the idea of optimistic autosuggestion. In other words you can change your life for the better by believing and saying affirmations. Actually, the idea had been around for at least two thousand years, but Coue proved that faith, belief, confidence (whatever you want to call it) can do miraculous things for a person. He found amazing things happened if people repeat the affirmation “Every day, in every way, I’m getting better and better.” He was much more successful than other psychologists who didn’t use autosuggestion.

I have found that affirmations help a person lose weight. “Every day I’m getting slimmer and slimmer.” or “I weight (target weight). “I don’t enjoy overeating.”

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French pharmacist and psychologist Émile Coué (1857-1926) on a visit to the United States in January 1917. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Coue treated many patients in groups and free of charge.

Coue’s family had origins in French nobility, but was not wealthy. Coue was a brilliant student in school and graduated with a degree in pharmacology in 1876.

He wrote a book called Self Mastery Through Conscious Autosuggestion and it is available free here http://www.gutenberg.org/ebooks/27203

Coue says “Everyone has heard of sleepwalking; everyone knows that a sleepwalker gets up at night without waking, leaves his room after either dressing himself or not, goes downstairs, walks along corridors, and after having executed certain acts or accomplished certain work, returns to his room, goes to bed again, and shows next day the greatest astonishment at finding work finished which he had left unfinished the day before.”

He says that autosuggestion is “… an instrument that we possess at birth, and with which we play unconsciously all our life, as a baby plays with its rattle. It is however a dangerous instrument; it can wound or even kill you if you handle it imprudently and unconsciously. It can on the contrary save your life when you know how to employ it consciously.”

2000 years ago Jesus sometimes told people “Your faith has healed you.” Matthew 9:22, and other places in the Gospels. I used to wonder why he said it was faith that healed them, why didn’t he emphasize that God had healed them? It may sound strange, but I believe the reason Jesus said this is that it was their faith that healed them. Faith like that takes many months or years to develop, and repeating verses, affirmations every day can help develop strong faith. Picturing the answer to prayer in your mind helps a lot too.

Some who have amazing answers to prayer say you only need to pray once, then start thanking God for it. Thank God over and over for it, that builds faith. Begging God for it weakens your faith. Nancy Goodman overcame breast cancer by thanking God over and over many times a day and watching funny movies. The laughter helped her keep her faith and get rid of worry. Negative emotions poison the body, resisting the natural healing that can occur.

Medicine is good, but many take medicine and don’t get healed. Faith and medicine together are really powerful.


00000gty When I was a kid, my Mom liked to make breakfast food for dinner every now and then. I remember one night in particular when she had made breakfast after a long, hard day at work. On that evening so long ago, my Mom placed a plate of eggs, sausage and extremely burned biscuits in front of my dad. I remember waiting to see if anyone noticed!
All my dad did was reach for his biscuit, smile at my Mom and ask me how my day was at school. I don’t remember what I told him that night, but I do remember watching him smear butter and jelly on that ugly burned biscuit. He ate every bite of that thing…never made a face nor uttered a word about it!

When I got up from the table that evening, I remember hearing my Mom apologize to my dad for burning the biscuits. And I’ll never forget what he said, “Honey, I love burned biscuits every now and then.”

Later that night, I went to kiss Daddy good night and I asked him if he really liked his biscuits burned. He wrapped me in his arms and said, “Your Mom put in a hard day at work today and she’s real tired. And besides–a little burned biscuit never hurt anyone!”
As I’ve grown older, I’ve thought about that many times. Life is full of imperfect things and imperfect people.
I’m not the best at hardly anything, and I forget birthdays and anniversaries just like everyone else. But what I’ve learned over the years is that learning to accept each other’s faults and choosing to celebrate each other’s differences is one of the most important keys to creating a healthy, growing, and lasting relationship.

And that’s my prayer for you today…that you will learn to take the good, the bad, and the ugly parts of your life and lay them at the feet of God. Because in the end, He’s the only One who will be able to give you a relationship where a burnt biscuit isn’t a deal-breaker!

We could extend this to any relationship. In fact, understanding is the base of any relationship, be it a husband-wife or parent-child or friendship!

“Don’t put the key to your happiness in someone else’s pocket–keep it in your own.”
So, please pass me a biscuit, and yes, the burned one will do just fine.
And PLEASE pass this along to someone who has enriched your life–I just did!
Be kinder than necessary because everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle.
“Life without God is like an unsharpened pencil–it has no point”

From a Facebook friend S. Oswald


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More than three thousand years ago several million people were released from slavery and they traveled to a land that was promised to them. But because they had “grasshopper mentalities” (we are not tough enough or good enough,, we are like grasshoppers compared to them) they didn’t have the confidence to fight for the land and instead wandered aimlessly in the desert, living a very austere life. Abundance and wealth was just beyond their grasp, they could have had it if they had faith enough to fight for it, as was proved forty years later when they fought for and won the land.

Most people believe they are not extraordinary and they will never do anything special with their life. They don’t want to get their hopes up because they have been disappointed so many times in the past. They don’t aim for any goals in life because they are afraid of failure. It has often been said “If you don’t aim for anything, you will probably get it.”

It has been said that if you ask a person in any store why they are there, they will have a good answer, they came to buy something or just came to look around. But if you ask a person why they are here in life and what their goals and dreams are, they will probably not be able to answer the question. Some say 8 out of 10 people don’t really have an answer to that question.

A young man was told by his parents and teachers that he wasn’t very smart. He didn’t do well in school and after leaving high school he applied for a job at a large company near his home. The company always gave IQ tests to everyone who applied and they found that he had an extremely high IQ. They put him in a position that required a lot of thinking and planning. He did extremely well, in fact he invented a couple of new things and was awarded patents. What was the difference? He suddenly had hope and faith that he could do well at his job. He was treated with respect and it caused him to respect himself.

However, it is certainly true that many people who don’t have much talent do incredible things in life. Many of the most successful businessmen, world leaders, inventors, athletes, rock stars, etc. do not have high IQ’s. It is not necessary for success in life, by any definition of success. But it seems that hope is necessary and so is faith, or confidence, whatever you want to call it.

A grasshopper mentality is the death of dreams and goals, and usually prevents people from having big dreams and plans for the future. The way to overcome it is to read/listen to positive instead of negative, every day.

“You are more than conquerors through him who loved us.” Romans 8:37

Love is everything…

Brad Stanton —  February 21, 2013 — Leave a comment

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Sinatra is awarded the Presidential Medal of Freedom by President Ronald Reagan. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

After 53 years I finally figured it out. It’s all about love. Everything, I mean EVERYTHING. It’s all about love. The entire Bible can be summed up in one word—love. Every singer that was loved by many had one thing—love. They may have been stupid, low IQ. They may have been weak. They may have been ugly and addicted and bad. But if people loved them, it was because they loved. They loved.

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I used to judge Frank Sinatra. He was connected. Connected the wrong way—with the mafia. He must have been a very bad man, I thought. But he had one thing that many don’t have. He had love, and faith and hope.

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If a person has love, faith and hope in abundance, he/she will be loved by others. He will rise above the crowd. He will become popular, famous. It’s hard to believe, but it is true. Love is everything. Love is all there is.

. I once read that a person could tell by reading others writing whether or not he liked people. I wasn’t sure it was true at the time, but now I believe it. If a person loves, it will flow through his work, whether it is writing, song lyrics, poetry or music.

Sinatra song a song called Summer Wind, lyrics by John Herndon.

John Herndon “Johnny” Mercer (1909 –1976) was an American lyricist, songwriter and singer. Mercer was also a co-founder of Capitol Records.

He is best known as a lyricist, but he also composed music. He was also a popular singer who recorded his own songs as well as those written by others. From the mid-1930s through the mid-1950s, many of the songs Mercer wrote and performed were among the most popular hits of the time. He wrote the lyrics to more than fifteen hundred songs, including compositions for movies and Broadway shows. He received nineteen Academy Award nominations, and won four. ~Wikipedia


00000DaniJohnsonDani Johnson went from being homeless, living in her car, to millionaire in less than two years. She had flown to Hawaii and was working as a cocktail waitress, but she was $35,000 in debt and didn’t have enough money for a hotel. She had only a few dollars in change.

Dani got stoned on coke and woke up very confused the next morning. She had grown so despondent that she decided to end it all. She was on a beach and began walking out into the ocean and dove underneath a wave. Surprisingly enough, she didn’t die, in fact her life changed dramatically at that point. She said it was like a miracle.

“I heard a voice say, ‘Pick up your mat and walk.’’

She rolled up her beach mat, turned around and walked a mile to her car.

Dani had lived through terrible problems, she was sexually abused and said this about her life:

“I was stoned out of my mind for two months – sleeping with eight different guys. I got to eat only by dating all these people. I realized that I had become worse than the family I grew up in and that was devastating. My mom and dad were drug addicts and I had never seen my parents sober. My childhood was filled with threats and getting beaten daily; week in, week out. My whole life was filled with horror and terror and lies and I vowed that I would never be like my family. And there I was doing cocaine…”

“I drove 45 minutes to the beach where I was living. And the whole time I was driving, it was as if the left side of my mind was saying, ‘This is not what is intended for your life, you shouldn’t be drinking. There is more to life,’ and the right side was saying, ‘You’re a failure, you’re a loser, you’re filthy; worse than your parents. Drive this car into the ocean.’ This was like a war inside my mind with these voices and I was literally in a trance.” From Forbes Magazine online

She got in her car and suddenly realized she had a money making opportunity in the back seat. It was a weight loss product. She made a handmade flyer (this was before computers were popular) and put it up in the Post Office where everyone in town went.

She had bargained for a voice mail account and the next day she found 25 messages on it from the flyer. She ended the month with 40 checks from new customers for a total of $4000. She used a liquor store address as her own by talking the owner into it.

Dani made $250,000 the first year by selling the weight loss program. She was a millionaire by the second year and sold her business after starting 18 weight loss centers around the country. After selling her stores she was a multimillionaire. I will tell more about how she did it in my new book The Ten Keys to Success, which I will publish soon.


If I had one hour to save the world, I would spend 55 minutes defining the problem and onlyIMG_0639
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Once a Toyota executive asked a large group of employees how to increase their productivity they only gave him blank stares. He decided to change the question and asked them to tell him ways to make their job easier and got so many responses he couldn’t keep up with the number of suggestions.

That is a great way to increase your profit in business, but does it work for changing your husband (or anyone else)? You bet!

First sit down and spend time defining the problem. What is it that you really want to change about your husband or other loved one? Don’t just say you want him to love you more, take out the trash more or be more romantic, all women want this for their husband. Think of a more precise definition to the problem. The better you define the problem, the easier it will be to solve it!

“He has a right to criticize, who has a heart to help.” Abraham Lincoln

Criticizing only makes the problem worse unless it is done gently and in love. But remember, don’t be pushed by your problems, be led by your dreams.

Quotes from Miss H Nishah about problems:

To every girl who gossiped about me in corners of parties, to those who were my slap in the face, to the close minded or misunderstanding, to those boys that broke my heart, and to those friends who turned out to be back stabbers. You all challenged me to become the person I wanted to be. I am stronger because of all the stupid things you put me through. No matter how much you have done to me, you have unknowingly done so much more for me. So, thanks.

In desperate love, we always invent the characters of our partners, demanding they be what we need of them, and then feeling devastated when they refuse to perform the role we created in the first place.


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Are you facing a challenge in your relationships, career or in reaching your dreams in life? It is probably not as big a challenge as becoming the president of the USA. Cheer up, read on….

Where you finish in life isn’t determined so much by where you start as by whether you start. John Maxwell

75% of US presidents were in the lower half grades in school

65% of all US senators came from the bottom half of their school classes

More than 50% of millionaire entrepreneurs never finished college.

These statics are from the book Talent Is Never Enough by John Maxwell, writer and speaker. Maxwell has become a famous name in the area of leadership training and is a prolific writer. He has written over 60 books that have sold over 19 million copies.

You have probably read about people who started with nothing and accomplished great things in life. Brian Tracy (in photo) is an example of this; he was born into a poor family. He was not good in school and was not popular among his classmates. He failed a high school English class and didn’t show promise in any area.

He became a laborer, drifting from job to job. Eventually he got into commission sales, getting paid only if he made sales. He sometimes slept in barns, in his car or beside his car. Later he began renting a room and had to scramble to make enough sales to pay his food and rent.

He decided that he could become a better salesman if he learned about sales, so he began to read every book he could about it. Every month his sales increased until after a few years he became the top salesman in his company. He was promoted to sales manager and trained his salespeople the techniques that made him great at selling. After some time, the people working for him became better and better.

Now Brian Tracy is a multimillionaire, having started many companies.

“You are the architect of your own destiny; you are the master of your own fate; you are behind the steering wheel of your life. There are no limitations to what you can do, have, or be.” ~ Brian Tracy


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We all want to persuade people (our kids, boss, employees, spouse) to do certain things.

The Pygmalion effect (also called the Rosenthal effect) is a phenomenon that has been proven to work very well by scientists, including Dr. Robert Rosenthal of Harvard University and UC Riverside. It has been shown that when you have high expectations for your students, spouse, children, employees, etc. that they will perform better just because you have faith in them.

Also, it has been proven over and over that positive reinforcement (reward) works better to change people than negative reinforcement (punishment).

So when your child comes home with poor grades, it is best to say,

“Honey I know you can do better next time because you are smart” than to say “You are grounded for a week, dummy.”

Self-fulfilling prophecy is powerful. Listen to the way you talk to yourself in your mind. Do you call yourself stupid, lazy, ugly? If you do, you will start to become what you call yourself.

An MMA fighter named Tito Ortiz talked about this. He had grueling workouts to prepare for fights and tried to motivate himself by calling himself lazy if he quit a workout early. He called himself a loser and other names people should never call themselves or others. Ortiz was unpopular in the ring. He was often booed, and he could not understand why people didn’t like him.

Later Ortiz got a new coach who told him to be careful of his “self-talk.” Ortiz began to call himself a winner and a hard worker. To his surprise, the fans quit booing him and he dramatically improved his fighting ability. It became easier to finish his workouts.

Do you want to change someone? Wives I know you want to change your husband. The best way is to use positive statements. “Honey, I really admire you when you take out the trash” is better than getting angry and not talking. Silence only makes things worse, because us men are never smart enough to read your minds.

If you really believe in yourself and your people, great things will happen!

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“The number one problem that keeps people from winning is lack of belief in themselves.” Arthur Williams

Homeless to Harvard: The Liz Murray Story

Liz Murray is a bestselling writer and motivational speaker who started life with nothing. Through sheer determination, faith and hard work, she went from living on the streets to a very successful career. She often talks about the importance of faith, of believing that one can accomplish their goals and dreams in life.

“It amazing what people can do when they believe in themselves.” Sam Walton, founder of Walmart

“If you have faith, nothing is impossible for you.” Jesus Christ

Her book, Breaking Night: From Homeless to Harvard is the amazing account of her tenacity and faith. Breaking night means to stay up all night into the morning. Murray was born to a mother who had been a cokehead from the age of 13 and a father who was sometimes in jail for selling drugs. Both parents were sometimes so stoned they did anything for money, even inviting sexual molesters into  the house. Her mother was frequently institutionalized for drug-induced mental illness

Her mother died when she was 16. “(Death) jolts you and makes you reconsider what you are doing with your own life. I decided to live each day with a purpose.” Her father was in such bad shape that it was less miserable to move out and become homeless than stay at home. She was taunted for her dirty clothes and lice in her hair at school. She often slept in subways and did homework in the hallways to keep warm.

“Envision the future you desire. Create the life of your dreams. See it, feel it, believe it.”~ Jack Canfield

Liz had the help of a high school teacher who gave her confidence that she could succeed. While on the streets of New York she saw ladies carrying Gucci and Chanel bags in the same street corners as teenagers begging for change and it almost made her become bitter and angry, but she realized that was self destructive.

The death of her mother made her realize she had to make something of her life. She enrolled in an alternative high school and graduated in two years instead of the usual four. It was not easy studying in hallways, in the park or in the subways, so she used headphones to block out the distracting noises.

She won a scholarship for disadvantaged students to Harvard University and studied clinical psychology. She wrote a book and now travels around the country sharing her story at speaking engagements and hopes these appearances allow others to see the possibility of change in their own lives. “When suffering, I had to see that things could be different. I started to grasp the value of the lessons I learned living on the streets.”

Murray realized that holding a grudge against her parents was not healthy, so she forgave both of them. She now has a good relationship with her father who has been off drugs for six years.

Not only did she publish a bestselling book, but her story has also been made into a movie. She says she doesn’t want any story to minimize the faith and hard work it took to succeed.

“You are creating your future with every single thought.” Jack Canfield

“Everything is possible for one who believes.” Jesus Christ

“Release your faith. God is shifting things in your favor. He’s moving the wrong people out and the right people in.” Joel Osteen

How to keep winning

Brad Stanton —  January 21, 2013 — 17 Comments

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Robert Ringer, author of Million Dollar Habits, explains it well: “The world is saturated with intelligent, highly educated, extraordinarily skilled people who experience ongoing frustration because of their lack of success. Millions of others spend their lives working hard, long hours only to die broke.… Success is a matter of understanding and religiously practicing specific, simple habits that always lead to success.”

“The secret to your success can be found in your daily agenda.” ~John Maxwell, bestselling author and success leader. This article is a brief synopsis in my own words of an article Maxwell wrote on the Success magazine website (Success.com). Maxwell says that success is a habit that we cultivate every day.

1. Winners are passionate about their goals and dreams

People who have a winner mentality enjoy what they are doing, they enjoy the journey and enjoy the dream even before they reach the goal. What really motivates you in life? What would you really enjoy doing if you could do anything in life? When you find that, you will never work a day in your life, you will be playing instead of working.

2. Winners focus on their strong points, not their weak points.

Some people think that in order to be successful you must work on your weaknesses. But actually it is best to find out what your strengths are and work on those. If you think about it, it makes more sense to start with what you are good at and cultivate that.

3. Winners have the right attitude.

It really is true, your attitude determines your altitude in life, in other words it determines how high you will go in life. Dr. Charles Swindoll, the prolific writer and speaker said:

“The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life.

Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than failures, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company… a church… a home.

The remarkable thing is we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past… we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude… I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it.

And so it is with you… we are in charge of our attitudes.”

4. Winners don’t quit

If you quit, you are sure to lose, that is the only thing you can do to totally ensure failure. In many of my posts I write about people who failed many times but keep on trying, and then become fantastically successful. Even the best leaders get discouraged, but the difference between a winner and a loser is the winner finds a way to encourage himself. It might be reading stories of people who overcome great obstacles to gain victory, or it might be books about strategies to succeed in whatever they are doing.

“ We seem to love stories of overnight successes, but the truth is there aren’t any. If you want to be a consistent winner, you’ve got to work at it every day. Success comes from developing the habits of winning.” John Maxwell


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 I realize that when I make the most of what I have, God will multiply it and give me more.” ~Victoria Osteen

I will fill my thoughts with things I love and like, because that not only makes me stronger, more loveable it also makes me happier. Thinking about things I don’t love (worry, anger, lack of forgiveness, fear) only make me weaker and bring more bad things into my life.

I will live my life doing the very best I can today, because I know my thoughts and attitudes shape my actions and my actions determine my destiny.

I will spend time helping people around me, my friends, co-workers, loved ones, because I know a person always reaps what they sow, if they reap good things, they will sow good things.

I will do my best and do everything I can because I know that God will do what I can’t do.

I will focus on the good things I have and really enjoy them instead of thinking about what I don’t have.

I will constantly expect good things to happen and look beyond where I am now, believing that good things will always flow to me in life if I have faith. “Surely good things and mercy will come to me all the days of my life and I will live with God in paradise forever.” Psalm 23:6

I will always keep in mind that everything, whether good or bad, will turn out for good. “We know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him. “Romans 8:28