Archives For February 2013


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He may go shopping with you when you are dating, but don’t expect him to do it after you are married. He might, but then again, he probably won’t. If you want to get along well with your husband, your best bet is to marry a homosexual. Yes, I am saying this tongue-in-cheek.

I remember being in a department store on a Saturday and overhearing a male customer talking with the sales clerk who was female. The man said “I had to work 20 hours of overtime this week and now I have to spend my day off shopping!” The sadness in his voice was similar to someone talking about the loss of a loved one.

I recently talked to a single lady, on the other hand, that said the most fun she had recently was going shopping for clothes with two other ladies.

A man told me that he didn’t realize that his wife was so opposite him until he got married. She was totally opposite. She was a woman and he was a man!

Women tend to be indirect and men are more direct. For example, a married couple are driving down the highway and have been driving for several hours when they pass a fast food restaurant. A man will be focused on the goal, getting there. The wife might say, “Honey are you thirsty?” Without even thinking the man might answer “Nope.” He keeps driving.

She feels hurt because she wanted him to ask her if she is thirsty so they can stop for something to drink. Ladies, expecting your man to understand your indirect questions is like expecting your two year old to understand calculus. It ain’t gonna happen. What happens next is the lady feels angry because he should have known what she wanted.

I recently heard that 4 out of five divorces occur because the wife is mad as hell and is not going to take it any more. I’m pretty sure that 5 out of 5 women would say men are hard to get along with. The problem is that statistics show that about 75% of the time the next man is even harder to get along with.

Certainly us men need to learn to communicate better.

A really bad day–humor

Brad Stanton —  February 26, 2013 — 5 Comments

There was this guy at a bar, just looking at his drink. He stays like that for half of an hour.

Truck Drivers only!

Then, this big trouble-making truck driver steps next to him, takes the drink from the guy, and just drinks it all down. The poor man starts crying. The truck driver says, “Come on man, I was just joking. Here, I’ll buy you another drink. I just can’t stand to see a man cry.”

“No, it’s not that. This day is the worst of my life. First, I fall asleep, and I go late to my office. My boss, outrageous, fires me. When I leave the building, to my car, I found out it was stolen. The police said that they can do nothing. I get a cab to return home, and when I leave it, I remember I left my wallet and credit cards there. The cab driver just drives away.”

“I go home, and when I get there, I find my wife in bed with the gardener. I leave home, and come to this bar. And just when I was thinking about putting an end to my life, you show up and drink my poison.”

Picture on the side of a truck, not really a man on a hammock.

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00000gty When I was a kid, my Mom liked to make breakfast food for dinner every now and then. I remember one night in particular when she had made breakfast after a long, hard day at work. On that evening so long ago, my Mom placed a plate of eggs, sausage and extremely burned biscuits in front of my dad. I remember waiting to see if anyone noticed!
All my dad did was reach for his biscuit, smile at my Mom and ask me how my day was at school. I don’t remember what I told him that night, but I do remember watching him smear butter and jelly on that ugly burned biscuit. He ate every bite of that thing…never made a face nor uttered a word about it!

When I got up from the table that evening, I remember hearing my Mom apologize to my dad for burning the biscuits. And I’ll never forget what he said, “Honey, I love burned biscuits every now and then.”

Later that night, I went to kiss Daddy good night and I asked him if he really liked his biscuits burned. He wrapped me in his arms and said, “Your Mom put in a hard day at work today and she’s real tired. And besides–a little burned biscuit never hurt anyone!”
As I’ve grown older, I’ve thought about that many times. Life is full of imperfect things and imperfect people.
I’m not the best at hardly anything, and I forget birthdays and anniversaries just like everyone else. But what I’ve learned over the years is that learning to accept each other’s faults and choosing to celebrate each other’s differences is one of the most important keys to creating a healthy, growing, and lasting relationship.

And that’s my prayer for you today…that you will learn to take the good, the bad, and the ugly parts of your life and lay them at the feet of God. Because in the end, He’s the only One who will be able to give you a relationship where a burnt biscuit isn’t a deal-breaker!

We could extend this to any relationship. In fact, understanding is the base of any relationship, be it a husband-wife or parent-child or friendship!

“Don’t put the key to your happiness in someone else’s pocket–keep it in your own.”
So, please pass me a biscuit, and yes, the burned one will do just fine.
And PLEASE pass this along to someone who has enriched your life–I just did!
Be kinder than necessary because everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle.
“Life without God is like an unsharpened pencil–it has no point”

From a Facebook friend S. Oswald


English: A grasshopper face to face, on a leaf...

More than three thousand years ago several million people were released from slavery and they traveled to a land that was promised to them. But because they had “grasshopper mentalities” (we are not tough enough or good enough,, we are like grasshoppers compared to them) they didn’t have the confidence to fight for the land and instead wandered aimlessly in the desert, living a very austere life. Abundance and wealth was just beyond their grasp, they could have had it if they had faith enough to fight for it, as was proved forty years later when they fought for and won the land.

Most people believe they are not extraordinary and they will never do anything special with their life. They don’t want to get their hopes up because they have been disappointed so many times in the past. They don’t aim for any goals in life because they are afraid of failure. It has often been said “If you don’t aim for anything, you will probably get it.”

It has been said that if you ask a person in any store why they are there, they will have a good answer, they came to buy something or just came to look around. But if you ask a person why they are here in life and what their goals and dreams are, they will probably not be able to answer the question. Some say 8 out of 10 people don’t really have an answer to that question.

A young man was told by his parents and teachers that he wasn’t very smart. He didn’t do well in school and after leaving high school he applied for a job at a large company near his home. The company always gave IQ tests to everyone who applied and they found that he had an extremely high IQ. They put him in a position that required a lot of thinking and planning. He did extremely well, in fact he invented a couple of new things and was awarded patents. What was the difference? He suddenly had hope and faith that he could do well at his job. He was treated with respect and it caused him to respect himself.

However, it is certainly true that many people who don’t have much talent do incredible things in life. Many of the most successful businessmen, world leaders, inventors, athletes, rock stars, etc. do not have high IQ’s. It is not necessary for success in life, by any definition of success. But it seems that hope is necessary and so is faith, or confidence, whatever you want to call it.

A grasshopper mentality is the death of dreams and goals, and usually prevents people from having big dreams and plans for the future. The way to overcome it is to read/listen to positive instead of negative, every day.

“You are more than conquerors through him who loved us.” Romans 8:37

Love is everything…

Brad Stanton —  February 21, 2013 — Leave a comment

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Sinatra is awarded the Presidential Medal of Freedom by President Ronald Reagan. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

After 53 years I finally figured it out. It’s all about love. Everything, I mean EVERYTHING. It’s all about love. The entire Bible can be summed up in one word—love. Every singer that was loved by many had one thing—love. They may have been stupid, low IQ. They may have been weak. They may have been ugly and addicted and bad. But if people loved them, it was because they loved. They loved.

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I used to judge Frank Sinatra. He was connected. Connected the wrong way—with the mafia. He must have been a very bad man, I thought. But he had one thing that many don’t have. He had love, and faith and hope.

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If a person has love, faith and hope in abundance, he/she will be loved by others. He will rise above the crowd. He will become popular, famous. It’s hard to believe, but it is true. Love is everything. Love is all there is.

. I once read that a person could tell by reading others writing whether or not he liked people. I wasn’t sure it was true at the time, but now I believe it. If a person loves, it will flow through his work, whether it is writing, song lyrics, poetry or music.

Sinatra song a song called Summer Wind, lyrics by John Herndon.

John Herndon “Johnny” Mercer (1909 –1976) was an American lyricist, songwriter and singer. Mercer was also a co-founder of Capitol Records.

He is best known as a lyricist, but he also composed music. He was also a popular singer who recorded his own songs as well as those written by others. From the mid-1930s through the mid-1950s, many of the songs Mercer wrote and performed were among the most popular hits of the time. He wrote the lyrics to more than fifteen hundred songs, including compositions for movies and Broadway shows. He received nineteen Academy Award nominations, and won four. ~Wikipedia


00000DaniJohnsonDani Johnson went from being homeless, living in her car, to millionaire in less than two years. She had flown to Hawaii and was working as a cocktail waitress, but she was $35,000 in debt and didn’t have enough money for a hotel. She had only a few dollars in change.

Dani got stoned on coke and woke up very confused the next morning. She had grown so despondent that she decided to end it all. She was on a beach and began walking out into the ocean and dove underneath a wave. Surprisingly enough, she didn’t die, in fact her life changed dramatically at that point. She said it was like a miracle.

“I heard a voice say, ‘Pick up your mat and walk.’’

She rolled up her beach mat, turned around and walked a mile to her car.

Dani had lived through terrible problems, she was sexually abused and said this about her life:

“I was stoned out of my mind for two months – sleeping with eight different guys. I got to eat only by dating all these people. I realized that I had become worse than the family I grew up in and that was devastating. My mom and dad were drug addicts and I had never seen my parents sober. My childhood was filled with threats and getting beaten daily; week in, week out. My whole life was filled with horror and terror and lies and I vowed that I would never be like my family. And there I was doing cocaine…”

“I drove 45 minutes to the beach where I was living. And the whole time I was driving, it was as if the left side of my mind was saying, ‘This is not what is intended for your life, you shouldn’t be drinking. There is more to life,’ and the right side was saying, ‘You’re a failure, you’re a loser, you’re filthy; worse than your parents. Drive this car into the ocean.’ This was like a war inside my mind with these voices and I was literally in a trance.” From Forbes Magazine online

She got in her car and suddenly realized she had a money making opportunity in the back seat. It was a weight loss product. She made a handmade flyer (this was before computers were popular) and put it up in the Post Office where everyone in town went.

She had bargained for a voice mail account and the next day she found 25 messages on it from the flyer. She ended the month with 40 checks from new customers for a total of $4000. She used a liquor store address as her own by talking the owner into it.

Dani made $250,000 the first year by selling the weight loss program. She was a millionaire by the second year and sold her business after starting 18 weight loss centers around the country. After selling her stores she was a multimillionaire. I will tell more about how she did it in my new book The Ten Keys to Success, which I will publish soon.


If I had one hour to save the world, I would spend 55 minutes defining the problem and onlyIMG_0639
five minutes finding the solution
. –Einstein, Albert

Once a Toyota executive asked a large group of employees how to increase their productivity they only gave him blank stares. He decided to change the question and asked them to tell him ways to make their job easier and got so many responses he couldn’t keep up with the number of suggestions.

That is a great way to increase your profit in business, but does it work for changing your husband (or anyone else)? You bet!

First sit down and spend time defining the problem. What is it that you really want to change about your husband or other loved one? Don’t just say you want him to love you more, take out the trash more or be more romantic, all women want this for their husband. Think of a more precise definition to the problem. The better you define the problem, the easier it will be to solve it!

“He has a right to criticize, who has a heart to help.” Abraham Lincoln

Criticizing only makes the problem worse unless it is done gently and in love. But remember, don’t be pushed by your problems, be led by your dreams.

Quotes from Miss H Nishah about problems:

To every girl who gossiped about me in corners of parties, to those who were my slap in the face, to the close minded or misunderstanding, to those boys that broke my heart, and to those friends who turned out to be back stabbers. You all challenged me to become the person I wanted to be. I am stronger because of all the stupid things you put me through. No matter how much you have done to me, you have unknowingly done so much more for me. So, thanks.

In desperate love, we always invent the characters of our partners, demanding they be what we need of them, and then feeling devastated when they refuse to perform the role we created in the first place.


Joe Spinell at BFSB

Faithless people lost a good chance

Years ago a man named Joe Wright told me that he had a gasoline card that he prepaid and could go to the petrol gas station and fill up his car with gas. The card was going to expire at the end of the year and after he filled his tank there was still almost a hundred dollars left on the card. Since it was the last day of the year, he knew he couldn’t use the money so he walked over to a woman who just pulled into the gas station and asked her if she wanted to use the card. She looked startled and asked him what the catch was. Joe explained to her why he was giving her gas, but she refused. Apparently she didn’t believe she could get something for nothing.

Later a man drove in and Joe motioned for him to roll down his window. The man opened it a crack and Joe asked him if he wanted to use the card for free gasoline. The man said no.

Joe didn’t give up and asked one more man who gladly accepted the offer and thanked Joe profusely. There was still money left on the card, so Joe waited and asked other people. Most didn’t believe they would get something for nothing. A few who had faith got rewarded for their faith.

Do you have faith?

If a rich person came to you and said he would give you a million dollars to write a song, would you do it? I certainly would, but it probably wouldn’t be a very good song. Yet hundreds of people write songs and make millions of dollars off their music. They had to start with the belief that they could write a song that many people would like, they had to have faith. Most people don’t try to write music or books because they don’t think they can do it well.

My blog posts are all about how to be successful in anything. But it all starts with faith. Jesus said everything is possible for one who believes (Mark 9:23). Jesus spoke of the power of faith about 40 times in the Gospels.  Buddha said similar things, so do virtually all the success coaches and many psychologists. .

The problem is that it is very difficult to maintain faith in your ability to reach your goals and dreams. Here are some things that help:

Say affirmations every day.

An affirmation is simply a short phrase that says you have achieved your dreams. Jack Canfield, the writer, used this affirmation daily: “God is my infinite supply and large sums of money come to me quickly and easily under the grace of God for the highest good of all concerned. I am happily and easily earning, saving and investing $100,000 a year.”

Jack went from a very low salary to becoming a multimillionaire with this affirmation and a lot of hard work.

Change happens

Your life can change for the better at any time. Suddenly a goal you have been working on can come to fruition. Stay optimistic, you really can reach your goals and dreams in life!

More on affirmations. http://wp.me/p2rHBL-lb Or scroll down the right hand column to “Posts by category” and click affirmations.


English: Michael S. Hyatt, Thomas Nelson, Inc.

Michael S. Hyatt (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Have you ever worked hard for a family member or boss or coworkers and then when you presented your work they were dissatisfied? It doesn’t feel good, does it? It doesn’t make you want to keep working hard for that person or people.

Michael Hyatt has a very successful blog and he travels the States speaking on leadership. In his latest blog post he talks about when he was a top leader in a publishing company and his team had worked very hard for a writer. They flew up to show him what they had accomplished to promote his book, but he didn’t seem happy with their efforts at all. He told them they were not selling enough of his books and scolded them. On the way home, they all felt unmotivated to help the writer in the future. If he had acknowledged their hard work before making some helpful suggestions, the whole situation would have gone much better.

I remember once I agreed to take on more housework chores, but instead of being thanked for it, someone angrily said I didn’t do enough housework. I felt as if I already did more than my share, so it demotivated me completely. I didn’t want to take on the additional task at all after that.

Michael Hyatt gives the following five pointers:

  1. Assume others are smart and working hard.
  2. Listen intently and ask thoughtful questions.
  3. Acknowledge the sacrifices others have made on your behalf.
  4. Express gratitude for their effort and their results.
  5. Remind them why their work is so important and the difference they are making.

http://michaelhyatt.com/5-ways-to-energize-your-team.html

By the way, Michael started a blog about eight years ago. His progress was slow at first, but now he gets hundreds of thousands of visitors to his blog. Others have done the same thing, and some have reached the point where they can make over $10,000 a month on advertising, selling items, etc. from their blog.

Daily Prompt: all about me

Brad Stanton —  February 12, 2013 — 4 Comments

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Explain why you chose your blog’s title and what it means to you.

Simple, I read a book called Platform that said my blog should have my name. Why I say “Give me 5 minutes a day and I’ll give you a happier, more successful life” is that I believe the ideas I post really will help you and me be more successful and happier. They really have worked for me and as I continue to write about them, they continue to make me happy and more successful than I would otherwise be.

It is interesting that when I do my best to give others what they want, I get what I want.


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It is said that some of the top leaders of England were at a party with Oliver Cromwell, trying their best to make friends with him in order to win favors. One man apparently had a habit of talking before thinking and saw a homely young lady enter the party with a man.

“Who is that unsightly creature with Lord Smith?” the man asked Cromwell.

Cromwell winced and said “That sir, is my daughter.”

Trying hastily to overcome his mistake the man said “No, no I mean that shocking monster on the other side of him.”

“That, sir, is my wife.”

I don’t know if that story is true or just a joke, but the following is true and I thought it was very interesting because it is the account of a man who rose from obscurity to a very high position.

Oliver Cromwell (1599 – 1658) was an English military and political leader and later Lord Protector of the Commonwealth of England, Scotland and Ireland. Born into the middle gentry, he was relatively obscure for the first 40 years of his life. After undergoing a religious conversion in the 1630s, Cromwell became an intensely religious man and he fervently believed that God was guiding his victories.

He was elected Member of Parliament and later entered the English Civil War. Nicknamed “Old Ironsides”, he was quickly promoted from leading a single cavalry troop to become one of the principal commanders of the New Model Army. (From Wikipedia)

He later became head of state of England, Scotland and Ireland and changed the course of history. It just goes to show you that your luck can change at any time, and you may be propelled into a wonderful life.

THE VALUES OF TEAMWORK:

Brad Stanton —  February 6, 2013 — 1 Comment

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Working Together Teamwork Puzzle Concept (Photo credit: lumaxart)

1.) Teamwork is at the heart of great achievement. The question isn’t whether teams have value. The question is whether we acknowledge that fact and become better team players. It says, “Behind an able man there are always other able man.” There are no problems we cannot solve together, and very few that we can solve by ourselves. ~ US President Lyndon Johnson
2.) Teams involve more people, thus affording more resources, ideas, and energy than would an individual.
3.) Teams maximize a leader’s potential and minimize his/her weaknesses. Strengths and weaknesses are more exposed in individuals.
4.) Teams provide multiple perspectives on how to meet a need or reach a goal, thus devising several alternatives for each situation. Individual insight is seldom as broad & deep as a group’s when it takes on a problem.
5.) Teams keep leaders accountable for the goal. Individuals connected to no one can change the goal without accountability.
6.) Teams can simply do more than an individual.
7.) Individuals play the game, but teams win championship.
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Are you facing a challenge in your relationships, career or in reaching your dreams in life? It is probably not as big a challenge as becoming the president of the USA. Cheer up, read on….

Where you finish in life isn’t determined so much by where you start as by whether you start. John Maxwell

75% of US presidents were in the lower half grades in school

65% of all US senators came from the bottom half of their school classes

More than 50% of millionaire entrepreneurs never finished college.

These statics are from the book Talent Is Never Enough by John Maxwell, writer and speaker. Maxwell has become a famous name in the area of leadership training and is a prolific writer. He has written over 60 books that have sold over 19 million copies.

You have probably read about people who started with nothing and accomplished great things in life. Brian Tracy (in photo) is an example of this; he was born into a poor family. He was not good in school and was not popular among his classmates. He failed a high school English class and didn’t show promise in any area.

He became a laborer, drifting from job to job. Eventually he got into commission sales, getting paid only if he made sales. He sometimes slept in barns, in his car or beside his car. Later he began renting a room and had to scramble to make enough sales to pay his food and rent.

He decided that he could become a better salesman if he learned about sales, so he began to read every book he could about it. Every month his sales increased until after a few years he became the top salesman in his company. He was promoted to sales manager and trained his salespeople the techniques that made him great at selling. After some time, the people working for him became better and better.

Now Brian Tracy is a multimillionaire, having started many companies.

“You are the architect of your own destiny; you are the master of your own fate; you are behind the steering wheel of your life. There are no limitations to what you can do, have, or be.” ~ Brian Tracy


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We all want to persuade people (our kids, boss, employees, spouse) to do certain things.

The Pygmalion effect (also called the Rosenthal effect) is a phenomenon that has been proven to work very well by scientists, including Dr. Robert Rosenthal of Harvard University and UC Riverside. It has been shown that when you have high expectations for your students, spouse, children, employees, etc. that they will perform better just because you have faith in them.

Also, it has been proven over and over that positive reinforcement (reward) works better to change people than negative reinforcement (punishment).

So when your child comes home with poor grades, it is best to say,

“Honey I know you can do better next time because you are smart” than to say “You are grounded for a week, dummy.”

Self-fulfilling prophecy is powerful. Listen to the way you talk to yourself in your mind. Do you call yourself stupid, lazy, ugly? If you do, you will start to become what you call yourself.

An MMA fighter named Tito Ortiz talked about this. He had grueling workouts to prepare for fights and tried to motivate himself by calling himself lazy if he quit a workout early. He called himself a loser and other names people should never call themselves or others. Ortiz was unpopular in the ring. He was often booed, and he could not understand why people didn’t like him.

Later Ortiz got a new coach who told him to be careful of his “self-talk.” Ortiz began to call himself a winner and a hard worker. To his surprise, the fans quit booing him and he dramatically improved his fighting ability. It became easier to finish his workouts.

Do you want to change someone? Wives I know you want to change your husband. The best way is to use positive statements. “Honey, I really admire you when you take out the trash” is better than getting angry and not talking. Silence only makes things worse, because us men are never smart enough to read your minds.

If you really believe in yourself and your people, great things will happen!

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