Archives For September 2012

English: Statue of Sam Walton and his dog outs...

English: Statue of Sam Walton and his dog outside of Wal-mart in Kingfisher, Oklahoma. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

If people believe in themselves, it’s amazing what they can accomplish. ~Sam Walton

Long ago Sam Walton (the founder of the huge Walmart chain of stores found in numerous countries around the world) worked at K-Mart. He worked and thought very hard and came up with a better way of buying things to sell at K-Mart. He carefully put together a pitch to sell it to upper management. They listened and chuckled and told him “Son, that’s not the way we do business here.”

Sam believed in himself and the idea so he took his idea out and started a business with it. Now K-Mart has a hard time keeping many of their stores open due to competition with Walmart.

Long ago an engineer realized that since crystals can be made to vibrate at a very constant rate when energized with a small electrical current, one could put a crystal in a watch and keep more accurate time than ever before in the history of the world. Swiss watches dominated the world market. So he carefully planned out a pitch to bring to the top leaders of the Swiss watch company for which he worked and told them about the benefits of crystals. . They listened and chuckled and told him “Son, that’s not the way we do business here.”

He believed in himself, so he brought his idea to Texas Instruments and Casio and the rest is history. Now it is hard to find watches for sell that don’t use crystals.

Alexander Graham Bell attempted to sell the patent for the telephone to the president of Western Union. The president sneered and asked what in the world he would do with a silly electrical contraption like that.

A few  years later, writes Julie M. Fenster in American Heritage, the president of Western Union “told colleagues that if he could get the patent for $25 million he’d consider it a bargain. By then it wasn’t for sale.”

You have probably heard of other similar stories. Belief, or positive thinking is so important. Jesus called it faith. People are usually not open to new things. Some of the ideas in this blog are new to some people and they think the ideas are crazy, but the ideas I blog about have changed my life for the better. I try to only choose powerful ideas to write about. Unfortunately my book The Amazing Power of Prayer gets put in the category of “silly ideas” quite a bit but finding the ideas and writing about them really changed my life for the better.

The Magic Words

Brad Stanton —  September 29, 2012 — 10 Comments

Gratitude Journal

Gratitude Journal (Photo credit: limevelyn)

Many people teach their children to say “please” and “thank you.” If a child says “I want more milk” the parent says “What are the magic words?” The child says “please” and after the milk is poured says thank you.

I don’t know who began calling them the magic words, but there is a lot more truth to that than we realize. Most people realize that when you start your day in a good mood, the whole day goes well. But if something goes wrong in the morning, like stubbing your toe as you walk half asleep to the bathroom, it can make the day go badly, unless you shake it off and think about things you are grateful for. Being grateful puts us on a higher plane, so to speak, and sets the tone for the entire day.

Some people say thank you as their feet hit the floor getting out of bed. They stop and think about how happy and grateful they are that they have a job to go to, or they have a bed to sleep in, food to eat for breakfast, a toothbrush, running water, and a myriad of other things.

Just one hundred years ago most people in the world did not have indoor plumbing, electricity, air-conditioning and many other things that we take for granted. In fact, even today hundreds of millions of people don’t have these things.

Today we have good transportation that can bring us a wide variety of fruits, vegetables, meats and other good things to eat. It was not that way one hundred years ago.

It is so easy to forget about the hundreds of blessings we have and think about the few problems we have. But when we say thank you for every blessing we can think of as we start the morning, it brings about good feelings and makes the day go better. When we are grateful we begin to see more things to be grateful for and it actually brings about good things because our brain can see opportunities that it would not have seen otherwise.

So, “thank you” and “please” really are magic words that have a lot of power.

Better relationships

Brad Stanton —  September 27, 2012 — 2 Comments

Surveys show there are at least seven important things that people want in relationships.

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  • to be heard
  • to be physically safe
  • to be affirmed
  • to be praised
  • to be touched (depends on which kind of relationship)
  • to be passionately desired
  • to be included in your life

1. Your friend/child/spouse/employee wants to be heard. In some of the lessons which were used to train supervisors in a fortune 50 company they explained the importance of listening. One of their key ideas was to listen to people. Chances are, what they are saying is important. Remember to listen to your significant other and make sure she/he knows she is being heard. Not a good idea stare at the TV or computer while she is talking. She may be telling you things that are the most important things to her in her entire life. Most men don’t understand how important the ideas are that a wife expresses. If she says she is feeling overwhelmed, don’t just say OK and then go on with your work. Understand that there is trouble and it may be really big trouble. Also, your wife probably looks to you as the leader in the family in some ways, whether or not she admits it. Think about how you feel if your boss at work does not listen to you. Furthermore, how do you feel when your boss is harsh to you? Your wife probably feels the same way when you don’t listen to her or you are harsh to her. Listen to her, remember what she says, and realize it is important. Act on what she says. Women, your husband needs you to do the same.

Your wife or husband may have grown up in a family in which her/his emotions and feelings were not valued. There may have been a lot of loneliness in her life even though she was surrounded by sisters, brothers, mother and father. She needs to talk about how she feels. Never say that her feelings are not important. Don’t react to her in such a way that she feels you consider her feelings unimportant. This can cause enormous emotional distress, even mental illness in people if their emotions are not validated. Husbands, learn to talk about how you feel, your wife needs to hear it.

This is good for me??

Brad Stanton —  September 26, 2012 — 7 Comments

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If you ever had a strict Physical Education coach in high school, or you played high school or college sports you probably remember sometimes the coach seemed like he was torturing you. Maybe it was wind sprints, long distance running, swimming or whatever, but there was a time when you felt like if you kept going much longer you would die.

It was at those times that you felt the coach was a sadist, a person who gets pleasure inflicting pain on others. But in reality the coach was  preparing you for the stress of game day so that you would be a bit stronger than the other team.

Sometimes when things go wrong it is easy to get pessimistic and fail to see how difficulties strengthen us. I have gone through many difficult times in my life, probably more than most people, but it is amazing to look back at my life and see how each of those difficult seasons strengthened me.

It is difficult to see how much stronger we are made by hardships. When we lift weights or do other physical exercise, the best growth comes from the most painful burn. When lifting weights, I find the first few repetitions don’t burn, they don’t hurt. But as I keep lifting, the burn gets worse and worse, until I can barely lift the weight. That is when the muscles are made the strongest. It is the same with difficulties in life, if we don’t get bitter, we get better.

Some difficulties in my life made me pessimistic in the past. I find that is one of the most self-destructive attitudes a person can have. Pessimism always brought about worse problems.

Positive thinking always brings about good—good emotions and good situations in life. Sometimes it takes time for the good situations to come about, but the good, happy emotions can start immediately.

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Do you ever feel that God is up there judging you and criticizing you? No, that is Satan’s job. The word Satan means accuser, and that is what he does. See the book of Job, and Zechariah chapter 3. No, God is up there saying good things about you, doting on you and loving you with unconditional love. Unconditional means he loves you no matter what you do or don’t do, what you have done wrong in the past or what you will do wrong in the future.

Numbers 6:24
“‘“The Lord bless you and keep you;
25 the Lord make his face shine on you
and be gracious to you;
26 the Lord turn his face toward you
and give you peace. ”’

King David said about God in Psalm 8:3 When I consider your heavens, the work of your fingers, the moon and the stars, which you have set in place,4 what is man that you are mindful of him, the son of man that you care for him? 5 You made him a little lower than the heavenly beings and crowned him with glory and honor.
Verse 4 is saying that God dotes on us the way a mother dotes on her baby. God disciplines us to keep us out of trouble. All the rules in the Bible keep us out of trouble the way a road map keeps you from getting lost and in trouble.

I’m not saying that God never gets mad, of course he does. And if a person constantly throughout life rejects God’s invitation to live forever in paradise in close relationship to Him, then that person will not go to heaven.