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English: Statue of Sam Walton and his dog outs...

English: Statue of Sam Walton and his dog outside of Wal-mart in Kingfisher, Oklahoma. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

If people believe in themselves, it’s amazing what they can accomplish. ~Sam Walton

Long ago Sam Walton (the founder of the huge Walmart chain of stores found in numerous countries around the world) worked at K-Mart. He worked and thought very hard and came up with a better way of buying things to sell at K-Mart. He carefully put together a pitch to sell it to upper management. They listened and chuckled and told him “Son, that’s not the way we do business here.”

Sam believed in himself and the idea so he took his idea out and started a business with it. Now K-Mart has a hard time keeping many of their stores open due to competition with Walmart.

Long ago an engineer realized that since crystals can be made to vibrate at a very constant rate when energized with a small electrical current, one could put a crystal in a watch and keep more accurate time than ever before in the history of the world. Swiss watches dominated the world market. So he carefully planned out a pitch to bring to the top leaders of the Swiss watch company for which he worked and told them about the benefits of crystals. . They listened and chuckled and told him “Son, that’s not the way we do business here.”

He believed in himself, so he brought his idea to Texas Instruments and Casio and the rest is history. Now it is hard to find watches for sell that don’t use crystals.

Alexander Graham Bell attempted to sell the patent for the telephone to the president of Western Union. The president sneered and asked what in the world he would do with a silly electrical contraption like that.

A few  years later, writes Julie M. Fenster in American Heritage, the president of Western Union “told colleagues that if he could get the patent for $25 million he’d consider it a bargain. By then it wasn’t for sale.”

You have probably heard of other similar stories. Belief, or positive thinking is so important. Jesus called it faith. People are usually not open to new things. Some of the ideas in this blog are new to some people and they think the ideas are crazy, but the ideas I blog about have changed my life for the better. I try to only choose powerful ideas to write about. Unfortunately my book The Amazing Power of Prayer gets put in the category of “silly ideas” quite a bit but finding the ideas and writing about them really changed my life for the better. http://getprayerpower.com/i

The Magic Words

Brad Stanton —  September 29, 2012 — 10 Comments

Gratitude Journal

Gratitude Journal (Photo credit: limevelyn)

Many people teach their children to say “please” and “thank you.” If a child says “I want more milk” the parent says “What are the magic words?” The child says “please” and after the milk is poured says thank you.

I don’t know who began calling them the magic words, but there is a lot more truth to that than we realize. Most people realize that when you start your day in a good mood, the whole day goes well. But if something goes wrong in the morning, like stubbing your toe as you walk half asleep to the bathroom, it can make the day go badly, unless you shake it off and think about things you are grateful for. Being grateful puts us on a higher plane, so to speak, and sets the tone for the entire day.

Some people say thank you as their feet hit the floor getting out of bed. They stop and think about how happy and grateful they are that they have a job to go to, or they have a bed to sleep in, food to eat for breakfast, a toothbrush, running water, and a myriad of other things.

Just one hundred years ago most people in the world did not have indoor plumbing, electricity, air-conditioning and many other things that we take for granted. In fact, even today hundreds of millions of people don’t have these things.

Today we have good transportation that can bring us a wide variety of fruits, vegetables, meats and other good things to eat. It was not that way one hundred years ago.

It is so easy to forget about the hundreds of blessings we have and think about the few problems we have. But when we say thank you for every blessing we can think of as we start the morning, it brings about good feelings and makes the day go better. When we are grateful we begin to see more things to be grateful for and it actually brings about good things because our brain can see opportunities that it would not have seen otherwise.

So, “thank you” and “please” really are magic words that have a lot of power.

Better relationships

Brad Stanton —  September 27, 2012 — 2 Comments

Surveys show there are at least seven important things that people want in relationships.

The Merchant's Wife by Boris Kustodiev, showca...

  • to be heard
  • to be physically safe
  • to be affirmed
  • to be praised
  • to be touched (depends on which kind of relationship)
  • to be passionately desired
  • to be included in your life

1. Your friend/child/spouse/employee wants to be heard. In some of the lessons which were used to train supervisors in a fortune 50 company they explained the importance of listening. One of their key ideas was to listen to people. Chances are, what they are saying is important. Remember to listen to your significant other and make sure she/he knows she is being heard. Not a good idea stare at the TV or computer while she is talking. She may be telling you things that are the most important things to her in her entire life. Most men don’t understand how important the ideas are that a wife expresses. If she says she is feeling overwhelmed, don’t just say OK and then go on with your work. Understand that there is trouble and it may be really big trouble. Also, your wife probably looks to you as the leader in the family in some ways, whether or not she admits it. Think about how you feel if your boss at work does not listen to you. Furthermore, how do you feel when your boss is harsh to you? Your wife probably feels the same way when you don’t listen to her or you are harsh to her. Listen to her, remember what she says, and realize it is important. Act on what she says. Women, your husband needs you to do the same.

Your wife or husband may have grown up in a family in which her/his emotions and feelings were not valued. There may have been a lot of loneliness in her life even though she was surrounded by sisters, brothers, mother and father. She needs to talk about how she feels. Never say that her feelings are not important. Don’t react to her in such a way that she feels you consider her feelings unimportant. This can cause enormous emotional distress, even mental illness in people if their emotions are not validated. Husbands, learn to talk about how you feel, your wife needs to hear it.

This is good for me??

Brad Stanton —  September 26, 2012 — 7 Comments

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If you ever had a strict Physical Education coach in high school, or you played high school or college sports you probably remember sometimes the coach seemed like he was torturing you. Maybe it was wind sprints, long distance running, swimming or whatever, but there was a time when you felt like if you kept going much longer you would die.

It was at those times that you felt the coach was a sadist, a person who gets pleasure inflicting pain on others. But in reality the coach was  preparing you for the stress of game day so that you would be a bit stronger than the other team.

Sometimes when things go wrong it is easy to get pessimistic and fail to see how difficulties strengthen us. I have gone through many difficult times in my life, probably more than most people, but it is amazing to look back at my life and see how each of those difficult seasons strengthened me.

It is difficult to see how much stronger we are made by hardships. When we lift weights or do other physical exercise, the best growth comes from the most painful burn. When lifting weights, I find the first few repetitions don’t burn, they don’t hurt. But as I keep lifting, the burn gets worse and worse, until I can barely lift the weight. That is when the muscles are made the strongest. It is the same with difficulties in life, if we don’t get bitter, we get better.

Some difficulties in my life made me pessimistic in the past. I find that is one of the most self-destructive attitudes a person can have. Pessimism always brought about worse problems.

Positive thinking always brings about good—good emotions and good situations in life. Sometimes it takes time for the good situations to come about, but the good, happy emotions can start immediately.


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Do you ever feel that God is up there judging you and criticizing you? No, that is Satan’s job. The word Satan means accuser, and that is what he does. See the book of Job, and Zechariah chapter 3. No, God is up there saying good things about you, doting on you and loving you with unconditional love. Unconditional means he loves you no matter what you do or don’t do, what you have done wrong in the past or what you will do wrong in the future.

Numbers 6:24
“‘“The Lord bless you and keep you;
25 the Lord make his face shine on you
and be gracious to you;
26 the Lord turn his face toward you
and give you peace. ”’

King David said about God in Psalm 8:3 When I consider your heavens, the work of your fingers, the moon and the stars, which you have set in place,4 what is man that you are mindful of him, the son of man that you care for him? 5 You made him a little lower than the heavenly beings and crowned him with glory and honor.
Verse 4 is saying that God dotes on us the way a mother dotes on her baby. God disciplines us to keep us out of trouble. All the rules in the Bible keep us out of trouble the way a road map keeps you from getting lost and in trouble.

I’m not saying that God never gets mad, of course he does. And if a person constantly throughout life rejects God’s invitation to live forever in paradise in close relationship to Him, then that person will not go to heaven.

 

The Ripple Effect

Brad Stanton —  September 23, 2012 — 3 Comments

Ripple effect on water.

If you teach something to two people this year and coach them to teach two people each next year, and each of them to teach two, it multiples to millions of people quickly. For example, if I spread some good news to two people this year and show them how to spread the same good stuff to two people the next year, and the trend continues, in less than twenty years more than one million people will have a better life. Or if you are selling something, you could potentially reach over a million people in 20 years. That doesn’t mean they would all buy your product or service, but they would at least hear about it.

 

Below is a table showing how fast this multiplies. Just think, for the really motivated, the years could be replaced with days. That would mean you could reach over one million people in just 20 days!

 

year no. of people
1                     2
2                     4
3                     8
4                   16
5                   32
6                   64
7                 128
8                 256
9                 512
10             1,024
11             2,048
12             4,096
13             8,192
14           16,384
15           32,768
16           65,536
17        131,072
18        262,144
19        524,288
20     1,048,576

Leaders are Readers

Brad Stanton —  September 21, 2012 — 20 Comments

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Hours of TV watched per week for the typical  American factory  worker (but I’m sure in general the trend is true for everyone):
Assembly line 30 hours per week
person in charge of assembly line 25 hours per week
Foreman (in charge of an area of a building/plant) 20 hours per week
Plant superintendent (in charge of a plant) 12-15 hours per week
President 8-12 hours per week
Chairman 4-8 hours and 50% of it is training videos

The more responsibility the person has, the less time they spend watching TV. One self-made millionaire said that he was encouraged to watch one hour less every day and read instead. He did and now he is rich and famous. Of course he did a lot more than just read, but that is what started it all.

If you are reading this it means that you read more than the average person. It really is true: leaders are readers. Many people read less than one book per year. If you buy a book on CD and listen to it on your drive to work and home, you will probably listen to 4 books per month, which can put you in the top percentage of people in the world. If you read/listen to books that teach you how to live your life better or do you job better, you will acquire knowledge that, if put into practice will dramatically change your life.

Statistics show that 27% of the people in the US did not read a book last year. The Washington Post says:

Who are the 27 percent of people the AP-Ipsos poll found hadn’t read a single book this year? Nearly a third of men and a quarter of women fit that category. They tend to be older, less educated, lower income … and less religious. http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2007/08/21/AR2007082101045.html

Interesting that people who read less make less money. I guess it is not surprising.

Another idea: 97% want better relationships with family but very few people spend time reading and planning how to improve those relationships.

Your words are powerful!

Brad Stanton —  September 19, 2012 — 6 Comments

teachers

teachers (Photo credit: Mouse)

I saw a study that said children are born with a good self-image, but due to all the scolding’s and criticisms they get throughout life, their self-image becomes poorer as the years go by. School can be very rough on many children’s self-image because it is almost impossible to do any task 100% correctly and get perfect marks on an assignment. It is easy for parents to tell the children what they do wrong without ever telling them what they do right.

Robert Rosenthal was the chairman of the psychology department at Harvard until he retired and began working at a university in California. He did a famous study in which he showed how powerful self-fulfilling prophecy is. This is also called the Pygmalion effect.

Rosenthal chose 3 teachers at random and told them that since they were outstanding teachers they would be given 90 outstanding students to teach and the goal was to improve the students academically. After time it was found that the students did, in fact improve dramatically. But then he told the teachers that the students were not outstanding at all, they had been chosen randomly. Probably the teachers felt proud about that, after all, they had been chosen because they were outstanding. But then Rosenthal went on to tell the teachers that they were not chosen because they were outstanding, they were chosen randomly also.

The results showed that if you really believe in others, they will perform better. Not only that, if you believe in yourself, you will perform better too.

Tell yourself often that you are outstanding and the prophecy will come true. People often criticize themselves, but this brings about negative results. You wouldn’t say those things to others would you?

Tell your loved ones/subordinates at work they are outstanding and they will become so.

I heard a radio talk show in which the speaker said we should complement our children five times for every time we tell them what they do wrong. Wow, that will keep me busy, but I know it is good advice.

Your words have power, use your words wisely!

In Joel chapter 3 God tells us “Let the weak say ‘I am strong!’” If a weak person calls himself strong often enough he will become strong.

Another mule joke

Brad Stanton —  September 18, 2012 — 8 Comments

a mule

An old farmer had an old mule. The mule was very old and very sick, in fact the veterinarian told the old farmer the best thing to do would be to put the poor animal down and said he could do it painlessly. But the old farmer just couldn’t bear to lose the old faithful mule.

A few days later when the pastor called the old farmer, he told the pastor all about the old mule. After hearing the story the pastor kindly asked if the old farmer would like him to shoot the mule to put it out of its misery.

“Yes, pastor, that would be mighty fine of you, I just can’t bring myself to do it.”

That day Billy Bob came to talk to the pastor. The pastor said “I’d love to chat with you but I have an errand that I need to attend to, want to come along with me?”

“Sure, I’ll come” said Billy Bob.

As they drove to the old farmers house the thought crossed the pastor’s mind that he could have a lot of fun with this. He decided to make up a fib and see if Billy Bob would believe it.

“Billy Bob, I’m so mad at that old farmer I just don’t know what to do. Every time I think of him I get madder. I’m to the point now that if I wasn’t a pastor, I’d be thinking about killing him. Maybe I’ll just kill his mule, instead.”

They arrived at the house and the pastor pulled out his rifle and strode angrily to the back of the barn where the old mule was. Billy Bob heard a shot and saw the pastor walking back to the truck with a smoking gun. Billy Bob’s eyes widened, but he didn’t say anything.

“I’m going right up to that old man’s house and tell him what I did” said the pastor.

He put the rifle back in the truck. After the pastor finished talking to the old farmer he walked back to the truck and was surprised to hear four gunshots. Suddenly Billy Bob came running around the corner with the rifle.

“I got him good, pastor, I just shot three of his chickens and one of his cows, let’s get out of here!”

The old mule — humour

Brad Stanton —  September 17, 2012 — 11 Comments

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Farmer Joe decided his injuries from his recent accident were serious enough to take the trucking company responsible for the accident to court. In court, the trucking company’s fancy lawyer was questioning farmer Joe.

“Didn’t you say, at the scene of the accident, that you were fine?”

”Well, I’ll tell you what happened. I had just loaded my favorite mule Bessie into the–” ”I didn’t ask for any details,” the lawyer interrupted. ”Just answer the question. Did you not say, at the scene of the accident, that you were fine?”

”Well I had just got Bessie into the trailer and was driving down the road–”

”Judge, I am trying to establish the fact that, at the scene of the accident, this man told the Highway Patrolman on the scene that he was just fine. Now several weeks after the accident he is trying to sue my client. I believe he is a fraud. Please tell him to simply answer the question.” By this time the Judge was fairly interested in Farmer Joe’s answer and told the lawyer so.

”Well,” said the farmer, “as I was saying, I had just loaded Bessie, my favorite mule, into the trailer and was driving her down the highway when this huge semi-truck and trailer ran the stop sign and smacked my truck right in the side. I was thrown into one ditch and Bessie was thrown into the other. I was hurting real bad and didn’t want to move. However, I could hear ol’ Bessie moaning and groaning. I knew she was in terrible shape just by her groans. Shortly after the accident a Highway Patrolman came on the scene. He could hear Bessie moaning and groaning so he went over to her. After he looked at her he took out his gun and shot her between the eyes. Then the Patrolman came across the road with his gun in his hand and looked at me. He said, ‘Your mule was in such bad shape I had to shoot her. How are you feeling?

That was just a joke, but most people would say they are feeling pretty good at that point, wouldn’t they? And when they thought about the alternative, they probably would be happy.


Albert Einstein during a lecture in Vienna in 1921

Albert Einstein during a lecture in Vienna in 1921 (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Every invention was hatched in the imagination. Every scientific discovery, every marriage, every book, every act of kindness or meanness was first conceived in the mind.

Today scientists tell us that they can hook up sophisticated electronic equipment to a person’s head and as he talks the equipment can sense where in the brain the electrical firing takes place. A noun fires in a different place in the brain than a verb. One language fires in a different place than another language, if a person is bilingual.

Every thought creates electrical impulses which send electromagnetic waves out from the brain. Some scientists believe that these waves can travel a long distance. All of us think constantly and send these waves out to mix with the waves of other people.

Carl Jung, a famous psychologist, said there is a Collective Unconscious and that all of us can tap into it. I learned that in college and I thought it sounded ridiculous. Later as I read chapter 17 of the book of John I notices Jesus said the same thing. He said that all Christians are united as one and that the fabric of the Holy Spirit is woven together with the fabric of our souls like two different colors of thread being woven together. Well, he used different words, but that is my take on it.

Isaac Newton, who many consider to be the greatest scientist that ever lived, and Albert Einstein both talked about the power of intuition.

“The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant.” - Albert Einstein

“All human knowledge thus begins with intuitions, proceeds thence to concepts, and ends with ideas.” - Immanuel Kant-Philosopher

“It is through science that we prove, but through intuition that we discover.” - Henri Poincare (A great mathematician, physicist and engineer)

“Trust your hunches. They’re usually based on facts filed away
just below the conscious level.” - Dr. Joyce Brothers

“Follow your instincts. That’s where true wisdom manifests itself.” - Oprah Winfrey

Many people say that daydreaming about their wedding day was actually more fun and exciting than actually living it. Some say the invisible world of love, hate, angels and demons is more real than the world that we can see and touch.

Two thousand years ago Jesus said that if you think about committing adultery with a person it is committing adultery. He didn’t say it was almost like, or similar to committing adultery. That was a radical new concept, because in the Jewish religion people believed that God looked at the actions, not the heart/mind.

Have you ever had dreams that seem more intense and real than the world you see every day? I sure have. Some say our spirit never sleeps and is active when our body is asleep. 2 Kings 5:26 says that Elisha could send his spirit out of his body to go snooping around other places. Wow!

Whatever you believe, I’m sure you would agree that our thoughts are incredibly powerful. What do you think? Leave a comment.

Love brings excellence

Brad Stanton —  September 15, 2012 — 49 Comments

Have you ever stopped to think that the more you enjoy something the better you will do at it? For example Michael Jordan loves basketball. He would have to love the game to be willing to put in the incredible number of practice hours that he did. And Einstein loved physics. He would have to really enjoy it to work as a patent clerk in the daytime and work on his Theory of Relativity in the evening and during his free hours at work.

A husband who really enjoys his wife and children will be a better husband and father. He will not only be more loved by them, but he will love them more and be happier with the results of their lives.

We can take a look at two hypothetical employees, Bill and Tom. Bill has learned to love his job and continues to learn to love his wife more and more. Tom hates his job and does not get along well with his wife. His boss would tell you he has a bad attitude and doesn’t get along well with others.

Bill comes in to work about fifteen or twenty minutes early almost every day. He has plenty of time to go to the coffee machine and buy a steaming cup of black coffee, just the way he likes it. He goes to his desk and organizes his day so that he can control events instead of events controlling him. He is relaxed and ready for a brand new day.

Tom often comes in ten minutes late. He is in a rush every day and it stresses him out. When he arrives at his desk a coworker is already waiting for him with a question about a project he is working on. Tom doesn’t have time to relax with a cup of coffee and his day is already set – stress and frustration.

Bill likes his job. He is grateful for it. That does not mean he never faces problems or difficulties. But he has a good attitude and that helps him cope with anything that goes wrong.

A couple of years ago I did some studying on what American companies are looking for when they hire employees. I found that attitude is considered very important by most companies. In fact many large companies say they prefer a person with a good attitude over a person with more experience and skill.

The Apostle Paul told us to be overflowing with thankfulness. A person who is really thankful for what he has will enjoy life more and be more excellent in his relationships and his job. When Bill drives home from work he begins to look forward to seeing his wife and children. He enjoys them. He takes time every now and then to think about the benefits of being married to his wife and the joy of each of his children.

When Tom is driving home from work he is thinking critical thoughts about his wife and children. Probably the dinner will be late and he is very hungry. The kids will be naughty and noisy and he won’t be able to rest. He will probably lose his temper with either his wife or one of his children and then everyone in the family will be unhappy for awhile. They will sit down and eat together, but it will be very quiet and rather tense.

If dinner is late for Bill he eats a snack or lies down for awhile until he is rested and refreshed enough to face this new challenge. He enjoys the noise the children make because he knows they are having fun, and he enjoys seeing (or hearing) them have fun. If the dinner is late, it doesn’t matter, he knows his wife has been busy with many different tasks around the house all day and she won’t finish work until all the kids are in bed.

Psychologists and business experts tell us that positive reinforcement is more effective than negative. That means if we want to change other people’s behavior it is better to tell them what they are doing right instead of what they are doing wrong. Getting angry and shouting at people may change them for awhile, but it usually brings about more harm than good in the long run.

Please leave a comment and let us know what you think. :)

If only

Brad Stanton —  September 14, 2012 — 22 Comments

“The mind can make a heaven out of hell or a hell out of heaven”-John Milton.

Without money

Without money (Photo credit: Toban Black)

Many people say they could be happy if only their family members were more loving to them. Others say they could be happy if only they had more money, if only they had a better job, if only they weren’t overweight.

The amazing thing is, if a person is not happy with what they have today, they probably won’t be happy after they get what they want. I often read about rich people who are bored and dissatisfied with life. Often people who appear to have great relationships are very unhappy with their loved ones. Most people find something they don’t like in life and allow that to be dominant in their thoughts, while forgetting about the multitudes of blessings they have.

If a person doesn’t have enough money today, they probably won’t have enough money after they win the lottery. Sounds impossible, doesn’t it? I have heard from more than one source that 85% of the people who win the lottery go bankrupt within 5 years of winning the money. They get rich, start getting friends who are even richer than them and feel they have to keep up with them. Now they have more and are not happy with what they have. Soon they squander the money away and end up broke.

I remember riding a bus in a faraway country. It was a very rough ride, apparently the bus had no shock absorbers and every time we hit a pot hole in the road (and there were many of them) I got jolted so hard that it began to feel like the bones in my bottom were going to punch through my skin. I sat there feeling sorry for myself because of the painful bus ride. Presently I looked at another passenger across the aisle. She was dressed in the poorest of clothes, probably from a very poor village in that country. She had a smile on her face. I was surprised because she looked like she was enjoying the bus ride. I began thinking about what her life of poverty must have been like. I suppose for her it was a privilege to ride a bus, she probably had to walk most places. The bus ride that was hell to me was heaven to her.

One thing many people taught me over the years is to count my blessings. It really is true that if you sit down and make a list of the good things in your life, they will be far greater in number than the bad. But I, like most people, sometimes allow the bad things to dominate my mind.

Want to be happier? Sit down every day a make a list of your blessings and spend time being grateful for each one. This will not only make you feel better, it will also bring more good into your life. I explained this concept more in several of my previous posts.

What do you think? Do you have any examples of this in your life? Leave a comment.


English: Robert Plutchik's Wheel of Emotions

English: Robert Plutchik’s Wheel of Emotions (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Think about and do what you love as long as it is not destructive to you or other people. All happiness comes from love and all unhappiness comes from a lack of love. The problem is many people spend a lot of time thinking about things they don’t love and that kind of thinking causes a lot of pain. For example, some people think about how badly another person hurt them. Others think about how distasteful their job is-how much they lack love for their job. Others think about their problems—things they don’t love instead of thinking about the things they love.

If you use the word “love” in the most general form you see that love holds everything in the universe together. Attraction is another word for love. Protons in the nucleus of an atom are held together by a strong attractive force, even though they are positively charged and therefore repel each other. Love or attraction holds families together. Love holds companies together—people come to work because they like getting a paycheck.

When we think about and talk about the things we love, it brings more of those things into our lives. When we think about things we don’t like, it brings more bad into our lives. A couple of years ago I heard this for the first time and wasn’t sure it was true so I thought about it often and tested it out. I found that it is 100% true.

Why do our lives work this way? Some call it psychology and explain what is happening in our subconscious mind. See my article posted 9/12/12 for more information. Others call it the Law of Attraction. Some say it is just common sense.

Have you ever worked with a complainer? There have been times when I was in a good mood, but someone started complaining. I joined in and soon I was feeling gloomy. The opposite is true also, if someone talks about how good the company they work for is, others begin to see good things and feel a little happier.

The more you think and talk about only things you like or love, the happier and more successful you will be. Others will be attracted to you and like you much more than if you were negative.

To get rid of unhappiness or boredom, add love to your life. If you want to get rid of the air in a glass, you don’t hook up a vacuum pump to it because it will never pull all the air out of it. All you have to do is pour water into the glass. John chapter 7 says that love flows down from God like water to us and through us. When we allow ourselves to be filled with love and let it flow to others, we are happier. The Dead Sea is dead because nothing flows out of it, it is the same with people, we aren’t fully alive unless we love people, places, things, pets, etc.

Add love by thinking about things you like or love. Maybe you love sunrises, think about them. If you love a certain TV show, watch it. If you love your family, spend time with them. Love your cat, your dog, your sofa, your bed, or sitting under a tree and relaxing.

When I get unhappy about my job (or anything else) I say “I love my job” a number of times until I begin to feel love/like for my job. Try it, you’ll like it.

What do you think about this? Leave a comment.


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Francois_I_recoit_les_derniers_soupirs_de_Leonard_de_Vinci (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

A writer who inspires me to write is Jack Canfield. His style is clear, simple and crisp. He is much more concerned about getting his ideas across than sounding flowery or lofty. When I read his books, I always feel inspired to write because his writing inspires me and makes me feel that I can accomplish my goals. This post is dedicated to him.

Someone might have a goal and dream of taking a fun vacation. They might state their goal as:

I want to take a vacation to a beautiful place.

But this is not specific enough to cause the subconscious mind to start working on the goal and seeing things that can be done to achieve the goal. A better goal would be:

I will take a cruise to the Bahamas from January 15th to 29th of 2013.

If you called a travel agent and said you wanted the first goal, they would have to ask you questions about when and where you wanted to go. They would need to know the specifics. Your brain needs specifics in order to start working on a goal and doing “magic” to get the goal accomplished.

In World War II soldiers were sent out to walk an area that was close to enemy territory on an island in the Pacific Ocean. They would be questioned after they came back to see if they had seen any clues that might show the enemy was planning a raid. It was found that if the soldiers were hypnotized they were able to recount much more information than when not under hypnosis. For example, under hypnosis a soldier might remember that he heard a noise that could have been an enemy soldier or he saw a broken shrub which could mean someone stepped on it.

This means that your subconscious deals with much more information than your conscious. So if you have a specific goal that you write down and think about twice a day every day, your subconscious will start to see ways to accomplish that goal that you never would have thought of otherwise.

Brain researchers estimate that your unconscious data base outweighs the conscious on an order exceeding ten million to one. This data base is the source of your hidden, natural genius. In other words, a part of you is much smarter than you are. The wise people regularly consult that smarter part. ~Michael J Gelb, Author of How to Think Like Leonardo da Vinci

Goal: I want to spread hope to lots of people.
Better goal: I will use my blog to spread hope to 10,000 people by December 25, 2012.

Goal: I will make a lot of money this year
Better goal: I will make $100,000 by New Year’s Eve this year.
Better still: I will make $100,000 by December 23 this year (that way you can rest for the holiday instead of working up until New Year’s Eve).

Make a $100,000 check and post it somewhere you see every day. Try different ways of accomplishing the goal. If the first five dozen things you try don’t work, try a few dozen more. The more specific steps you try, the more chance of finding methods that make money.

Your inner genius Part 1

Brad Stanton —  September 8, 2012 — 19 Comments

Nixon announces the release of edited transcri...

Nixon announces the release of edited transcripts of the Watergate tapes, April 29, 1974. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

My grandmother was very intuitive. She could watch a politician on TV and know all about them. For example, when I was a boy she saw President Nixon and said “that man is a crook.”

I said “No, he is the president, he can’t be a crook.” I suppose I was naïve. At that time no one had ever heard of the Watergate scandal. Later I found that my grandmother was correct.

In college I took a couple of psychology classes, which I loved. One thing a professor talked about was how law enforcement officers are trained to read body language when interrogating people. I was so fascinated I went out and bought a book called “How to Read a Person Like a Book” written by a PhD in psychology. It was fascinating, but I was amazed that my grandmother had learned to read people without studying it from books.

Brain researchers estimate that your unconscious data base outweighs the conscious on an order exceeding ten million to one. This data base is the source of your hidden, natural genius. In other words, a part of you is much smarter than you are. The wise people regularly consult that smarter part. ~Michael J Gelb, Author of How to Think Like Leonardo da Vinci

This means that your subconscious mind contains ten million more pieces of information than your conscious mind. The more you learn to tap into the genius of your subconscious, the more you can achieve in life.

Apparently my grandmother stored things in her subconscious and could draw them out when sizing a person up. She couldn’t explain how she did it, she just did.

Sometimes we connect well with our subconscious when we sleep. Some of the most useful discoveries were made while a person slept. The man who invented the sewing machine tried for days to figure out a way to make a needle sew clothes in a machine. Finally, he decided one night to forget the problem and go to sleep. He awoke later with the idea of how to do it in mind. It worked!

Researchers say the thing you think about the last 45 minutes before you sleep will stay in your mind and your subconscious will process it.

But often, a person doesn’t even need to sleep. There have been times at work when I was wrestling with a problem that I just couldn’t seem to solve. Finally I would realize I just needed to take my mind off of it for awhile and rest. I usually took a ten minute walk. Often after I came back to my desk the solution would come to me very quickly.

Many years ago I wrote an article about this subject for a writing class I was taking. Just thinking about it and spending the time to write an article about it helped me use my subconscious. I was able to solve more problems and come up with ideas that I never had been able to do before.

Please leave a comment, how do you use your subconscious? What do you think about this?

Puns and other humour/humor

Brad Stanton —  September 7, 2012 — 18 Comments

The short fortuneteller who escaped from prison was a small medium at large.
He often broke into song because he couldn’t find the key.
Local Area Network in Australia: the LAN down under
The man who fell into an upholstery machine is fully recovered
When a clock is hungry it goes back four seconds
The glasses maker who fell into his lens grinding machine made a spectacle of himself
A backwards poet writes inverse
A will is a dead giveaway
A bicycle can’t stand on its own because it is two-tired
The worst place to have a heart attack is during a game of charades. …Especially if the people you are playing with, are really bad guessers.
How many psychologists does it take to change a light bulb? Just one, but the bulb has to really want to change.
How do you make a group of lawyers smile for a photo? Just say Fees
What’s the difference between a lawyer and a mosquito? The lawyer has a briefcase.
Doctor! Doctor! I feel like a pack of cards! Sit down and I’ll deal with you later.
Doctor! Doctor! I feel like a bridge! What’s come over you?
Doctor! Doctor! I feel like a pair of curtains! Pull yourself together!
Why did Santa’s little helper feel depressed? He had low elf esteem
Why couldn’t Dracula’s wife get to sleep? Because of his coffin
What was the witches’ favorite subject in school? Spelling
Why didn’t the skeleton cross the road? He didn’t have the guts
Why is the book Women Who Love Too Much a disappointment for many men?No phone numbers
A man said his credit card was stolen but he decided not to report it. The thief was spending less than his wife did
Did you hear about the dyslexic lawyer? He studied all year for the bra exam
Why don’t cannibals eat clowns? They taste funny
What did Mr. Spock find in the toilet? The captain’s log
Did you hear about the dyslexic devil worshipper? He sold his soul to Santa
Did you hear about the dyslexic agnostic? He stayed awake all night wondering if there really is a dog
A brand new communist solder fought bravely but was beaten up by another soldier. He may have been a green red who was black and blue but he wasn’t yellow.
Leave a reply and leave a pun if you can, pleeeease

Below is a quote from one of my favorite books “The Power of Positive Thinking”

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Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy. But with self-confidence you can succeed. A sense of inadequacy interferes with the attainment of your hopes, but self-confidence leads to self-realization and achievement. Because of the importance of this mental attitude, this book will help you believe in yourself and release your inner powers.

An appalling number of people are made miserable by an inferiority complex. But you need not suffer from this trouble. You can develop faith in yourself.

After a convention, a man approached me and asked, “May I talk with you about a matter of desperate importance to me?” We went backstage and sat down.

“I’m in town to handle the most important business deal of my life,” he explained, “but I don’t believe I can put it over. I am discouraged and depressed. In fact,” he lamented, “I’m just about sunk. Why is it that all my life I have been tormented by inferiority feelings? I listened to your speech tonight about the power of positive thinking, and I want to ask how I can get some faith in myself.”

“There are two steps,” I replied. “First, it is important to discover why you have these feelings. That requires analysis and will take time, and may require treatment. But to pull you through this immediate problem I shall give you a formula. As you walk down the street tonight, repeat certain words I shall give you. Say them over several times before your important appointment. Do this with an attitude of faith and you will receive ability to deal with this problem.” Following is the affirmation I gave him: “I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me” (Philippians 4:13). “Now, follow that prescription, and things will come out all right.”

He pulled himself up, stood quietly for a moment, then said with considerable feeling,“Okay, Doctor. Okay.”

I watched him square his shoulders and walk out. He seemed a pathetic figure; yet the way he carried himself showed that faith was already at work in his mind. Subsequently he reported that this simple formula “did wonders” for him. He added, “It seems incredible that a few words from the Bible could do so much.”

http://www.guideposts.org/free-ebooks download a free ebook (shortened form of The Power of Positive Thinking by Dr. Norman Vincent Peale)

3 men 1 schoolgirl on airplane about to crash (humor) http://wp.me/p2rHBL-6g

We are all salespeople

Brad Stanton —  September 5, 2012 — 9 Comments

Have you ever gone with a really good salesperson while they make their sales calls? I did once and it was a great opportunity to learn some things. Everyone is a salesperson to some extent. In order to get a job we have to sell the company on our abilities. Later we have to sell the boss on giving us a raise. At any kind of job, most of us are salespeople even if we are not called that because we have to influence others to go along with our ideas.

At home we are all salespeople because we influence our family members to do their chores or eat their vegetables without a fight, go on that vacation we always wanted and a myriad of other things we don’t even realize are selling. One lady I know wonders why her children don’t obey her. She can’t persuade them to do what she tells them to do. I noticed that she tells her children to do something, but they know they can easily talk her out of doing it. She is not consistently firm with them. I found myself in the same situation, so for three weeks I made sure that if I told my children to do something, I made absolutely sure they did it. It took longer than three weeks, but luckily, they were young enough at the time to change quickly and now they obey me. If they had been older I’m sure it would have taken much longer.

W. Clement Stone was very poor as a child, his father died when he was very young and his mother worked at a low paying job. Stone began selling life insurance and did an incredibly good job at it. He became rich and trained others to sell for him. He sold so easily that it seemed like magic. Why do some people sell so well and others just don’t seem to get it? For many years I just didn’t get it. Now I finally do.

What is it that makes a person persuasive? When I went on calls with a good salesperson I watched carefully to see why he was so good. One thing I noticed was that he was very confident. I am told one trait a salesman must have is confidence—confidence in his product, confidence that his product will genuinely help the people who buy it and confidence in himself.

Some people have such a low opinion of themselves that they just can’t persuade other people to do anything because they are afraid the person might not like them for it. If the salesperson has an unshakable faith in himself, it makes him much more effective in persuading other people to do or buy.

There are things you can do to increase your faith in yourself, God and others. This will increase your prayer-faith also. I talk to some people who wonder why they don’t get many answers to prayer. Usually I find they have wrong attitudes about God and themselves that have developed over many years and are very hard to change. These are some of the things I have done that changed me from a person with very little prayer-faith to strong prayer-faith.

Say affirmations (I am happy, healthy, wealthy, wise and good looking )

Listen to lectures or sermons about faith (Joel Osteen is an outstanding teacher of faith)

Read books about faith by people like Dr. Norman Vincent Peale, Rhonda Byrne, Zig Zigglar, Wallace Wattles, etc.

Journal on your faith (publicly in a blog or privately—but when you teach others, it really strengthens your faith!)

Memorize and recite Bible verses on faith http://wp.me/p2rHBL-mO

Realize God is a good God, and always looks out for your good, his is not up there criticizing you, Satan does that. God only punishes his children to keep them out of trouble the way a gentle, loving father does.

What do you do to increase your persuasiveness or prayer-faith? What do you think about this? Leave a comment.

Brian Wilson

Brad Stanton —  September 3, 2012 — 13 Comments

Cover of "Smiley Smile"

Brian Wilson, who wrote most of the top hit songs for the Beach Boys was a very intense person. His extreme concentration and motivation propelled him to incredible heights of stardom. According to some sources (including imdb.com) he was one of the greatest, if not the greatest musical geniuses in the world.

His incredible drive caused him to become the football quarterback (probably the most key player) of his high school team. He was also on the cross-country and baseball team. He played the piano obsessively after school.

Maybe one of the reasons he was so motivated was that he had been physically and psychologically abused by his father, and music was his way of coping with a difficult life.

In his school, his music theory teacher gave him an “F” for a composition he called Surfin.’ To an extremely sensitive child like Brian, that must have been a terrible blow because music was so incredibly important to him. But he didn’t let that failure ruin him. The song later became a huge hit.

Brian put intense pressure on himself to write the very best music he could. He idolized the Beatles, not knowing that they were keeping an eye on all of his music and respected him greatly.  Within the first two years, Brian made himself the leader of the BeachBoys and was, uniquely, writer/producer/arranger/musician and lead vocalist of the band. It was clear from the very early years that Brian was the one destined to take The Beach Boys into the spotlight.”(IMDB.com)  But the pressure of singing, song writing and his other duties took its toll on Brian and in two years of recording for Capitol records, he succumbed to a nervous breakdown.

Friends said that he did drugs as passionately as he did everything else in life, including marijuana and LSD, to the point that he was known to become so high at parties that he couldn’t find the door to leave. This didn’t help his psychological state and he began hearing voices and acting very erratic.

While on an airplane with his band he had serious problems and decided not to travel with the band after that.

It seems that few understand people whose drive takes them far beyond their peers. His band mates didn’t give him support at the time he needed it, in fact they resented him being in charge and because he was different than other people. They didn’t seem to realize that, while Brian was hard to get along with during that period, if they could just learn to live with him they would not only be helping him, they would be helping themselves because his incredible drive gave him the potential to do what no one had ever done before in the music industry.

IMDB.com says After being inspired by The Beatles‘ “Rubber Soul”, Brian went on to create one of the greatest albums of all time, “Pet Sounds.” This album became a milestone in music and went on to influence many of the greatest artists of the next four decades. Brian’s next ambition was to top “Pet Sounds”. The album was to be called “Dumb Angel”, but he later changed it to “Smile”, an album made with the same amount of genius and ambition as that of The Beach Boys‘ greatest single, “Good Vibrations”. “Smile” was never completed and it has since been called the greatest album never released. After the destruction of “Smile”, Brian went into seclusion and spent most of his time in bed.”

Many wonder what would have happened if Brian Wilson had been able to continue his incredible output of music. How many people would have had the pleasure of hearing songs that went unwritten? So many lives would have been touched by his music, if only the people he worked with could have given him the support he needed. His troubled childhood left him without a foundation in life and he gave up for a long period of time.

I suppose we never hear of geniuses unless they have enormous drive and motivation. Too bad his was cut short.

What do you think? Leave a comment below.

The Magic of Believing

Brad Stanton —  September 2, 2012 — 7 Comments

hugQuotes from the first couple of pages of The Magic of Believing by Claude Bristol:

“Is there some force, or factor, or power, or science—call it what you will—which a few people understand and use to overcome their difficulties and achieve outstanding success? I firmly believe that there is, and it is my purpose in this book to try to explain it so that you can use it if you desire.”

Around 1933, the financial editor of a great Los Angeles newspaper attended Claude Bristol’s lectures and wrote: “You have caught from the ether something that has a mystical quality  – a something that explains the magic of coincidence, the mystery of what makes men lucky.”

Bristol goes on to say:

“Years ago, when I started to teach this science by means of lectures and brochures, I wasn’t sure that the concepts could be grasped by the ordinary individual. But since then, I have seen those who have used it to double and triple their incomes, build their own successful businesses, acquire homes of their dreams and create sizable fortunes. I am now convinced that any intelligent person who is sincere with themselves can reach any heights they truly and honestly desire.”

Bristol is talking about believing that you can do anything you set your mind to do. If a person really believes he can do something, and is enthusiastic about working for his or her dream, magic will happen. What is your idea of success? Does it mean success in relationships, career, helping others, leaving a legacy, wealth? W. Clement Stone said “Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve.” Jesus said the same thing: Matthew 21:22 “If you believe, you will receive whatever you ask for in prayer.” The problem is most people don’t want to wait for the answer to prayer and most people’s faith wavers if they don’t get what they want right away. See James 1:6,7 which says if your faith wavers you won’t get what you pray for. How do you build your faith every day so that you can get what you believe for? Well, that is what my book is about and it is much too long to discuss here. See my ebook for more information. http://www.amazon.com/dp/B008EOCODK

I often talk to people who don’t bother to build their faith at all, then wonder why they don’t get answers to prayers. Some even get mad at God. If you get mad at God, it almost always means you didn’t have prayer-faith to begin with.

Just about everyone agrees that you must take action to achieve your dreams. Here are some steps I posted a month ago:

  • Decide what you want in life (What would you do with your life if you knew you couldn’t fail )
  • Think about what you do well
  • Clarify your values
  • Set goals (don’t be afraid to set high goals)
  • Believe you can reach your goals
  • Find other people to work with
  • Be disciplined and persistent
  • Enjoy your work, work hard
  • Never, never, never give up

What do you think? Leave a comment.

Your enemies help you

Brad Stanton —  September 1, 2012 — 14 Comments

David Slaying Goliath

David Slaying Goliath (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Use your imagination for a moment. How would you feel if the leader of your country or a celebrity that you really admire called you and invited you to dinner? Not only that, but your enemies would be invited, along with your friends, but they would all have to pay for their meal. The celebrity would make a speech about what a wonderful person you are and put out a big spread of delicious food for you with steaks, fish, cakes, breads, fruits and plenty of other delicious things to drink.

All of your enemies would be sitting there thinking, wow, maybe this guy isn’t so bad after all. Or maybe they would be jealous of you. Certainly you would feel vindicated.

Psalm 23 is considered one of the most beautiful poems ever written. It is filled with incredibly powerful affirmations. Verse 5 says “You prepare a feast for me right in front of my enemies.” NIRV

If you are ever troubled about people who have hurt you, maybe hurt you very badly, use this affirmation. Say it out loud ten times every time you need it and it will make you feel wonderful.

Romans 12:19(NIRV)  My friends, don’t try to get even. Leave room for God to show his anger. It is written, “I am the One who judges people. I will pay them back” says the Lord.

Goliath was the worst enemy in the world for the Jewish people. But a boy named David was promoted because of his enemy. Killing Goliath put David in a position to later become king. Who are the Goliaths in your life?

Recently I read an article trashing a politician. But it just so happened that the things they didn’t like about that person were the things I did like. So by trying to cause him trouble, they were actually promoting him in many people’s eyes.

Joseph was promoted to one of the top positions in Egypt and stood before his brothers. His brothers sold him into slavery long before that, meaning it for bad, but it turned out that God used it for good.

God is in control. No one can ultimately harm you because God will use every bad situation and turn it into something good if you love God. Romans 8:28 We know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him.